"Justice Prevailed"

Rebecca McEvoy was raped and sodomized by her Step- father, Police Officer Bob Ingel. Rebecca McEvoy age 11, lost her life in a fatal car accident on the way to testify for the 3rd time as to the rape, and sexual assault she suffered at this predators hands.

Over a two year period the trial started and stopped like a car without any gas because Rebecca was unable to face her accuser in court. The defense lawyers were citing the "Crawford" case out of Ohio. That says “you have the constitutional right to cross examine your accuser” and because the girl was dead and unable to testify, there was a chance the Judge could throw out the case. But Assistant District Attorney, Steven Giardini was determined to make Rebecca’s case the exception because she had already been before a grand jury on two separate occasions and given her testimony.

It took great courage for this child to come forward and disclose the brutal sexual assaults committed by a person whom was not only living in her home, but, he was a cop with a badge and a gun.

On Tuesday, the trial resumed, the courtroom was packed with friends and family who for months had been ordered by the court to remain silent. Family members were prohibited by the courts from speaking to the media or releasing information and new developments on the case via the Internet or on blogs.

An hour or so before the trial began, Bob Ingle, who faced life in prison if convicted, turned down a plea deal, by the prosecutors. In my opinion, this dangerous and abusive sexual predator believed from day one he would never see the inside of a prison cell and walk free.

Late Wednesday both the defense and the state rested their case. The jury deliberated only a couple of hours before they returned the verdict of guilty!

While on earth Rebecca McEvoy suffered a “hell” no child should have to endure. But, this brave little girl did just that from the moment she came forward and told the world, enough.

From the heaven’s the angels sounded their horns and for Rebecca McEvoy, justice prevailed!

"Breathe Again- Surviving Rape" Today on the Susan Murphy Milano Show

It was a hot July night in 1985, and the Texas sixth-grader Lavina Masters had been sexually assaulted by an unknown suspect. This process -- collecting evidence for a rape kit -- lasted several hours was "devastating." But just as difficult, says Masters, was the 20-year wait for that evidence to yield results.

Lavina discussed in a recent interview with CNN how her rape kit sat idle until 2005, when the Dallas Police Department re-opened her case, as part of a new initiative to solve old crimes.

Please join us for a very special hour with Author and national safety prevention expert Lavinia Masters. And Lisa Fiorese Michels a board member with Project Meridian.org and a noted speaker on "Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome" and educating those whom often feel shame and embarrassment when the crime of rape is committed against them.

DATE: January 27, 2010

TIME: 3:00 PM Central Standard Time

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"Teacher My Mommy is Dead"

The seven year old boy announced to his teacher “my Mommy won’t be picking me up from school, ever again.” The next sentence out of the youngster “my Mom is dead.”

On October 24, 2005 police made a gruesome discovery, the mother of 4 small children Erika Fuentes-De-Espinal had been shot to death by the children’s father Mark Donaldson.



Afterwards, this piece of garbage not fit to breath wrapped the body in blankets leaving it to decompose in the bedroom of the home where the children were living. The body was in that apartment for five entire days with the kids!

The night Donaldson was brought in for questioning he told police his relationship with Fuentes-De-Espinal had become increasingly violent since the birth of the twins. At one point, he told police, she beat him physically to the point of unconsciousness. But we know now that this was not true. Many offenders who commit murder often make up stories because the person is no longer around to dispute anything.

He said the two got into a fight and he became angry. The next night, Fuentes-De-Espinal came home late and he believed she was having an affair. He was still angry about their fight the day before, the arrest report says. As Erika was changing one of the babies’ diapers, Donaldson retrieved his gun from a closet and shot her in the head, according to the report.

In November of 2009, Donaldson pleaded guilty to first-degree murder as well as two counts of child abuse and neglect with substantial mental harm for keeping the children in the house with their dead mother.

Yesterday Donaldson, 30, was sentenced to life in prison for his crimes. He made a pitiful excuse as to why he murdered Erika telling police and the prosecutor he was addicted to methamphetamine when he killed her and was “sorry for what happened.” He claims all he ever wanted was to “be a good father to his children.” As if to tell the children’s mother on the record he was somehow not responsible at the time for his actions.

The Prosecutor remarked “there is no forgiveness. It doesn’t matter what state of mind the individual was in, nothing is going to bring this girl back,” he said, adding that the family felt that a sentence of 20 years to life wasn’t justice.

As I have often said, we need an isolated island to ship these men when they kill those with whom they are either living with or are married too. Why should we waste millions of tax payer dollars just so they can continue to exhaust a legal system that is obviously broken. All because we refuse, as a society to educate and deal with domestic violence within the home as a crime!

Franki Jacobson: " Behind The Gates"

Franki Jacobson a wife, mother and author wrote under the name Frankaleana Beana. She co-author the children’s book released in December of 2000 titled “Green Bean’s Birthday Party” a book to help parents of children with autism. From what I read on-line she was a pioneer on a mission to bring awareness to children with autism. As a mother of two 7 year- old twin boys Eric and Joshua. She had written articles from "do you know the signs of autism" to "what parents can do for their children once they are diagnosed."

Over the weekend in a wealthy Palm Beach Florida gated community the author and her two boys were murdered by their loving father and husband.

Regardless of the financial difficulty this man was having it is a poor excuse to commit murder.

The issue of intimate homicide reaches every segment of our society. From the homeless to the middle class, the Harvard educated and the wealthy. There are those likely in the gated community of Florida who will dismiss the fact that Neal Jacobson was depressed and excuse the triple homicide murders committed by someone who was not properly diagnosed and treated for his mental illness, and “oh what a shame.” But in the world I live in that is not reality, as far as I am concerned.

When you deal with these cases on a daily basis be it drinking, drugs, depression that is often the convenient excuse an abuser uses giving themselves permission to commit the cold blooded crimes.They actually think about a plan of action long before it is finally carried out. Sometimes an offender learns of a possible infidelity or simply they are jealous over the other person’s relationship with the children and the community in which they live. An abuser often builds up circumstances or events in their mind that may never materialize but they believe them to be true. So over time the thought becomes an unexplained rage in their reality.

Unfortunately, in this tragedy it will not be difficult for a good defense attorney to build a case of insanity on behalf of his client. There were enough remarks and comments from the community who will likely testify that Neal Jacobson was mentally ill.

The problem is that from the grave Franki Jacobson will not be able to testify on her behalf as to the real truth of what went on in the marriage like all women who are murdered behind closed doors.

Former White House Staff Dismisses Dangers of Domestic Violence & Attempted Murder

Fred Fielding, Farren's former boss in the White House counsel office, said, "This report is sad and stunning, and completely out of character to anyone who knows or has worked with Mike."]

The remarks by Fred Fielding regarding the character of Former White House Counsel is a common theme among co-workers and buddies of an abuser. Fielding's Public Relations staff have totally disregarded the safety and welfare of Mary Farren [pictured to the left]and her children. Notice that there is not one word mentioned as to the safety of Mary Farren. That shows true ignorance. It clearly indicates the unwillingness to see that Mike Farren committed a felony, a serious criminal act. Just because a person "thinks" they know someone only deepens the wounds for victim's of abuse across the country. Maybe Fred Fielding can't read or thought that beating one's wife "severely" is acceptable because "it's a private matter."

This was also kept fairly quiet until the cowardly abuser appeared before a judge on Thursday. And if Michael Farren was not the "one time power boy on the hill" serving under two administrations this would never have reached sites like poltico.com and the huffington post.

Mary Farren did not have a safety plan prior to serving her husband with divorce papers. In my expert opinion, that was her first mistake. She likely thought in showing the abuser she was taking control of her life and leaving the "explosive environment" he wouldn't dare harm a hair on her head. But, Mike Farren became enraged like all abusers do when they have lost control and within 48 hours Farren tried to kill his wife by beating her with a flashlight and choking her. Mary Farren, was beaten so severely in her home that she was knocked unconscious and lost vision, according to authorities. Mary was luckier than most women in her situation she managed to sound an alarm and flee the house with her two children.

Another insensitive comment :"We are saddened to hear the news," said David Sherzer, spokesman for George W. Bush. "This is a personal matter and we will not be commenting on it."


How about taking a firm stance that domestic violence and attempted murder on ones' wife or girlfriend is a crime? Or he deserves to be prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law? I have an idea perhaps they would like to introduce my books and materials and provide them in every county across the country when a victim of violence has a court order of protection and or divorce papers served. That could have prohibited the police being callled and a "buddies wife" being choked and beaten within an inch of their life.


Sadly, all the money on the planet will not keep a victim of violence safe without a comprehensive plan prior to leaving. Alerting an abuser you are leaving while still living in the home is like handing an explosive violent offender a loaded gun!

"Arresting Developments"

In North Carolina Prosecutors announced they will be seeking the death penalty for the murder of Kelly Currin Morris, 28, the mother who vanished without a trace from her home in September of 2008.

In November of 2009, police recovered Kelly's remains and her husband was immediately arrested and charged with first-degree murder.

Meanwhile the remains of Bolingbrook, IL, mom Stacy Peterson who would have turned 26 years old yesterday has yet to be found. Friends and family continue to look for the mother and wife of former police Sgt. Drew Peterson. Today court continues while a Will County Judge is holding hearings and decides whether or not the hearsay evidence will be allowed in the trial for the murder of wife #3 Kathleen Savio for which Peterson was arrested and charged last May.

It seems my favorite legal marshmallow roaster was outside of the Illinois courthouse doing a public relations stunt by handing out pens with his name emblazoned on them.

What’s next, boxes of free chicken wings printed with the name and address of the law firm?

For up to date happenings on the Peterson case head on over HERE to the Justice Cafe' Site.

Help Find The Missing Act: Needs Our Attention

Have you heard about H.R. 3695, the "Help Find the Missing Act (Billy's Law)," introduced by Representatives Chris Murphy (D-CT) and Ted Poe(R-TX)? An amazing woman, mother, advocate for missing and unsolved murders, Janice Smolinski is the creator of this ground breaking legislation. Her son Billy has been missing since 2004.

This legislation will aid in filling the gaps in the nation's missing persons system and would help bring closure to the loved ones of the missing. It is no longer a rare occasion in which one may become a missing statistic. Every year tens of thousands of Americans go missing, never to be seen by their loved ones again. Additionally, there are also an estimated 40,000 sets of unidentified human remains that are being held or disposed of across the country. Sadly, because of gaps in the nation's missing persons systems, missing persons and unidentified remains are rarely matched. The Help Find the Missing Act (Billy's Law) is an effort to fix these gaps. We want to help families to have the resources so that we can lessen the burden on the system as well as bringing loved ones home for a proper burial.

Your help is important in the passage of this law. Please consider passing it around in your communities, at your place of worship, on grocery bulletin boards, doctors office, at your place of work, commuter train stations, blogs, facebook, websites and where you think someone will read and take action by signing the petition and creating a national movement for change.

We want to have the gaps closed that will enable families of missing to have one source to be able to search for their missing loved ones. Presently, there are no federal mandates in place to have one system in place. This complicates searches when the Government has a database and the FBI has a separate database. This leaves many cracks that those missing, or unidentified, can fall through.

Presently, there are many missing that may be left unattended in a morgue, unidentified. Fact is, 200 unidentified bodies are in Florida, right now from the 60's and 70's.
In Los Angeles, there are 4815 unclaimed. We want to help families to have the resources so that we can lessen the burden on the system as well as bringing loved ones home for a proper burial.
H.R. 3695 is a bill in which we are striving towards federal legislation, not state-to-state.
Please review the below and help by supporting H.R. 3695

This legislation is named after Billy Smolinski of Waterbury, Connecticut who went missing on August 24, 2004 at the age of 31. Billy's family knows all-too-well the systemic challenges in trying to find the missing. They quickly learned that while federal law mandates law enforcement report missing children, there are no such requirements for adults – or unidentified bodies. Compounding this problem is the fact that local law enforcement agencies, medical examiners, and coroners, often don't have the resources or training to voluntarily report these cases. Finally, even when missing adults and remains are reported, the wide-range of unconnected federal, state, local, and non-profit databases to help match the missing with unidentified bodies, makes finding a match an often insurmountable challenge.

Billy's Law builds upon recent efforts to address these issues by:
Authorizing, and therefore helping to ensure funding for, the National Missing Persons and Unidentified Persons System (NamUs), which was created in July 2007 by the Department of Justice (DOJ) to provide a missing persons/unidentified database that the public could access and contribute;
Connecting NamUs with the FBI's National Crime Information Center (NCIC) in order to create more comprehensive missing persons and unidentified remains databases and streamlining the reporting process for local law enforcement;
Creating an incentive grants program to help states, local law enforcement and medical examiners/coroners report missing persons and unidentified remains to NCIC, NamUs, and the National DNA Index System (NDIS);
Calling on the DOJ to issue guidelines and best practices on handling missing persons and unidentified remains cases in order to empower law enforcement, medical examiners and coroners to help find the missing.

Should you have any questions or needs, please contact Representative Chris Murphy (D-CT) or Ted Poe (R-TX).
Please click here to see the PDF of this very important bill. Afterwards, click here to sign and support this bill.

Endorsed By: National Center for Missing & Exploited Children, Fraternal Order of Police, National Associations of Police Organizations (NAPO), Connecticut Department of Public Safety, National Forensic Science Technology Center, National Center for Forensic Science, Destiny Search Services, Doe Missing Persons Network, Families of Homicide Victims and Missing Persons, Inc., Peace4TheMissing, Please Help Find The Missing Group, Project EDAN, LostNMissing Inc., Center for Hope David Lohr.

The legislation is Sponsored by Representatives Chris Murphy (D-CT) and Ted Poe (R-TX)
Current Cosponsors: Walt Minnick (ID-I), Ed Whitfield (R-KY)
We are appreciative of the endorsement for H.R. 3695 from the National Associations of Police Organizations. (NAPO). Please click here to read their endorsement letter.

Investigation 101: Keeping An Unsolved Case Warm: On The Susan Murphy Milano Show

On The Susan Murphy Milano Show our special guest is Attorney Tad Dibiase noted "No Body Prosecutor. He will discuss what families of murdered and missing loved ones can do once a case has gone cold. And tips on how to keep the investigation going.

Most of us have heard of the real famous murders that have gone unsolved. Those stories of the Black Dahlia, Jimmy Hoffa, Jon Benet Ramsey and even Jack the Ripper.

But how about the Axeman murders of New Orleans? Or Renee Pagel of Michigan, Stacy Peterson of Illinois, Michael Tapley in Arizona, 7 -year old Somer Thompson in Florida, Billy Smolinski, Jr. in CT and others that we may not have heard about and have yet to be solved.


DATE: January 20, 2010

TIME: 3:00 PM Central Standard Time

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Ashley Ann Sullivan: Another Tragedy

Ashley obtained a court order of protection because her former boyfriend was violent from a Michigan court in December. Four days before Christmas Shaun Eric Haugen who had a no-contact order prohibiting any contact with Ashley from the court was re-arrested for violating the very judge's order that was 'suppose" to protect her on January 5, 2010.

On January 14, 2010, Haugen was released from jail, again. All authorties could do was warn Ashley this human trash was being released onto the streets. Just hours before the slaughter Shaun wrote one final entry on his face book page " Hey I need to say goodbye..hurt is too much to bear. " Within an hour after that final entry on Sunday morning, January 17, 2010, he broke into a home where Ashley Sullivan was living. He killed her and her step-father before turning the gun on himself.

Ashley Sullivan did everything in her power to keep this violent criminal away from her by filing police reports, having him arrested and obtaining a court order of protection.

How are women like Ashley suppose to be safe when another persons rage and control cannot be bound by a piece of worthless paper? Yes, in my opinion an order of protection will not prevent murder. And in many cases it will only enrage the abuser to beat, rape, hold hostage, torture and murder the person with whom has ended the relationship.
How did this man have access to weapons? Why didn't police obtain a search warrant and look for weapons in his home? Did he have a foid card for the weapon he used? Did others know he had guns? Did anyone think to place a GPS monitoring device on this bozo the first time he violated the court order?

We will likely never know because those who could speak have been forever silenced.

Family and friends have created a tribute to Ashley Ann Sullivan, age 25, on HERE on face book.

The “Mammone Monster:” A Killing Machine

Sporting a style fashioned from the movie “No Country For Old Men’s” savage killer, James Mammone III has been found guilty of three murders and several other charges. Not just any run of the mill murder of a stranger for money, not a murder for sex, and not a murder of passion, but a cold blooded, calculated and premeditated act of a killing machine carrying out a spree of violence against his own children and family.

In June of 2008 Marcia Eakin (Mammone) filed for an order of protection and James was arrested on a charge of domestic violence, and according to the court records he made threats to kill her. This order was still in force on June 8, 2009 when James Mammone decided it was time to carry out his murder plan that had been in the works for a year. His motive was to "inflict emotional pain" upon his ex-wife, and how better to do that than to kill the very beings that were her life, her children, her mother, the man she was dating, and ultimately Marcia herself.

Question for the judges and attorneys who may be reading this: "Should a person who is under an order of protection, has made threats to kill, and has been arrested for violence, be granted unsupervised visitations with their children? How did someone convicted of domestic violence have access to weapons?"

The marriage between James and his wife, Marcia, was over. Marcia had to file for divorce in secret, keeping all knowledge and documentation away from James and their home. James discovered her plans and, according to her trial testimony, he said to the children, "It was time for mommy to go to her grave" as well as telling Marcia "If you leave me, I will kill you and the children." Marcia was granted the divorce and moved to a location that was undisclosed to James for her safety per the divorce agreement. The visitation exchanges of the children, 3 and 5, were ordered to be made at the home of Margaret Eakin, Marcia's mother.

The day of June 8, Marcia and James met at her mother's, exchanged the children and she played tennis with her friend, Harold Benjamin Carter. She started receiving text messages from James in rapid succession, asking her to meet him and the children for ice cream, then escalating to a level that seriously concerned Marcia and her friend. Marcia called 911 when he told her he "was ready to die for my love tonight." The final text message from James read, "Last chance."

While Marcia and her friend, along with police and other personal friends were scouring the area searching for his car, James Mammone, according to his plan, took his two children, strapped in their car seats, to the parking lot of the Westminster Community Church and brutally stabbed each one of them in their necks. But he was not finished with this night of terror.

He then drove to the home of his children's grandmother, found her in a bedroom and shot her, then beat her with a metal lamp. Her husband, Marcia's father, escaped being killed by minutes, according to Mammone himself.

As all of this horror is playing out, Marcia had no idea what was transpiring. She and her friend return to her home. At around 5:30 am, James Mammone is found pouring gasoline all over the truck belonging to Harold Benjamin Carter and trying to set it on fire. Marcia once again alerts 911, saying that he also was trying to get into the house. You can hear the call HERE. Mammone fails at setting the truck on fire, and leaves the area with his two dead children still strapped in their car seats.

Police finally caught up with James Mammone entering his own driveway. He was cooperative at the time of his arrest and confessed to the killings because he wanted to "inflict deep emotional pain upon his ex-wife."

James Mammone lost his power and control over his wife and children, but in the final, desperate act of exerting his "manhood" he willfully became a killing machine, the "Mammone Monster," in the same way Matthew Schneider did when he murdered his ex-wife, Brandy Schneider in the same Stark County, Ohio area just weeks ago. Brandy also lost her life to a system which doesn't take "protection" seriously and allows women and children to die needlessly at the hands of a proven abuser.

There are many steps along the process of escaping a violent relationship that victims should be given clear and concise instruction on how to keep themselves and their children safe. It should be the standard when anyone has applied for an order of protection, has been hospitalized for injuries inflicted, or even when police are called to a home. Women (men) and children do not need to die at the hands of a manipulative, controlling abuser.

Murder-For-Hire Escapes Police Custody

"A man being transported to Waukesha to face a murder-for-hire charges in the murder of an Oconomowoc woman made a daring escape in Arkansas early Wednesday, and a manhunt is under way for him. "

Justin P. Welch, 26, [pictured above] escaped while being transported. He is armed and extremely dangerous . Yesterday he stabbed a guard, took his weapon and fired at a second guard at a rest area on I-40 in Van Buren, Arkansas. He then hijacked the prisoner transport van and fled east on the interstate.

It is a white Dodge van with Mississippi license plates and "North Atlantic Extradition Services" on its side. I-40 goes through North Little Rock. It's possible that Welch is trying to flee to Mexico, according to authorities.

He was arrested and charged with the murder for hire stabbing death of Kimberly Smith on Oct. 1,2009 in her Oconomowoc Wisconsin home.

According to the criminal complaint, 3 men Justin Welch, Darren M. Wold, 41, of Lubbock, Texas, and Jack E. Johnson, 65, of Mexico and formerly of Waukesha, WI, conspired to kill Kimberly Smith, who was in a bitter custody dispute with Wold over their 4-year-old son.

Wold and Johnson are charged with first-degree intentional homicide, party to a crime.

Kimberly Smith's body was found Oct. 1, 2009 in the living room of her Oconomowoc home, according to criminal complaints filed against the three men. Her hands were bound with ribbon, and she had been stabbed eight times, court records state.

Her son was in the house at the time of the slaying but did not witness it, according to police.

The complaint against Wold details how he funneled at least $900 through Johnson, a longtime friend, to pay for Welch to fly to Milwaukee in late September under an alias to kill Smith.

The plot followed increasingly vocal complaints by Wold to co-workers about his ongoing contested child custody issues with Smith, at one point telling a co-worker "I wish I could find someone to hire to kill my ex," the complaint says.

Police found a knife and a pair of medical-style gloves in a storm drain near Smith's home. The knife, missing from a set of cutlery in Smith's home, and gloves were used in the slaying, authorities say. DNA evidence found inside the gloves and a fingerprint connected the gloves to Welch, of California.

Police said a warrant for Welch's arrest has been issued in Arkansas on charges of attempted capital murder; first degree escape; aggravated robbery, theft, second-degree battery and kidnapping.

"Killing me in the Courtroom" on The Susan Murphy Milano Show

When a woman makes the painful decision to exit a violent marriage and does not have the opportunity to plan a course of action the outcome can be devastating. The strength required to end the nightmare of abuse can break not only bones but, mind and spirit. And for many in violent relationships like Stacy Peterson, Susan Powell, Renee Pernice, Rachel Conger, Lisa Stebic and others once they announced the decision to leave they were never heard or seen from, again.

On The Susan Murphy Milano Show today is Claudine Dombrowski a noted expert on Mothers Without Custody and Katie Parks a mother from Ohio currently in divorce court and in my opinion, with a manipulative and abusive estranged husband.

DATE: January 13, 2010

TIME: 3:00 PM Central Standard Time

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Lacey Gaines: Fighting Beyond the Grave For Justice

Lacey Gaines was barely 20 years of age when her body was discovered on the kitchen floor of her apartment. The year before she gave birth to a healthy baby boy.

Chances are Lacey left the baby with a relative that day because she felt something in her "gut" was wrong. At 7 p.m. the evening of December 7, 2009 Lacey was pronounced dead at a local hospital.

In early 2009, she sought direction and support from various family members because she was a victim of domestic violence. Like many women, Lacey worked two jobs to support she and her child. She was an excellent mother.

On March 18, 2009, in a Cook County, Illinois court, a petition to establish parentage was filed by the baby's father, SANCHEZ REGELIO [Sanchez has used several alias in the past and I am not sure what legal name he is currently using]. The case link is HERE.  Everyone called him "Daniel" including Lacey. Sanchez took the paternity test and was proven to be the baby's father sometime in May of 2009.

Briefly in 2009, I spoke with Lacey on the phone and she was terrified of Daniel, the child's father. At that time, Lacey indicated she needed more time to think about the best plan of action for her safety, which is very common for any woman being abused, and I did not hear back from her.

A huge red flag, at least in my opinion, is the fact that Sanchez allowed the paternity case to go off the court call on September 25, 2009. Indicating to me that he was up to no good.

Lacey had begun a new life for herself by moving to a new residence and beginning a relationship with a man who did not abuse her. He was good for she and her son. Lacey hoped one day in the near future, after the couple married, he could adopt the child as his own.


Sanchez, according to sources, grew increasingly violent over the new relationship, abused Lacey each time he saw her or picked up the child during visitation, fitting the profile of "if I can't have her no one can." Remember Lacey ended the relationship and Sanchez was enraged over her decision to go on with her life minus this coward. Most abuser's cannot handle rejection, this includes Sanchez.

Now, a month after Lacey Gaines murder, police in the town of Justice, Illinois still do no have a person in custody. Why does it take so long for justice in cases of intimate family homicide?

Lacey Gaines did not deserve to die. In my opinion she stood up to the abuser and for that her life was taken away. Her son will never know the courage and warmth of this amazing woman.


I am asking that you take a moment to sign a petition for Justice for Lacey [pictured on there left] at:
http://www.thepetitionsite.com/1/laceygainesmurder

Police are asking for the public's assistance. All tips are anonymous.

Please, if you have information about this murder please call: 

Justice Police Department
Website: http://villageofjustice.org
Thomas C Bockmann, Deputy Chief of Police
7800 S Archer Rd, Justice, IL 60458
Ph: 708 458-2191

Rejection Ends in Murder?

After ending her marriage three years ago to what sources indicate was a violent and abusive relationship Melissa Bridgewater moved on with her life.

Over this past Christmas Melissa received a present from her ex-husband. He was offering a peace gesture in hopes the couple would get back together.

When she would not accept the gift, it only added fuel to his rage. Like so many of these "cowardly lions" who feel as though a dagger has been thrown at their non-existent feelings Jerry Hudson was going to get back at his ex-wife once and for all.

After a night of celebration of ringing in the New Year at the Doubletree Hotel in Oakbrook, IL, her cell phone rang and allegedly it was Jerry Hudson on the other end interrogating Melissa demanding to know who was there with her. Hudson then "lured her out to the parking lot on a ruse that he was actually at her home in Bolingbrook" and destroying her property, according to the State's Attorney's Office.

As she tried to leave the hotel parking lot Melissa struck by another car and boxed in and greeted with a blaze of gunfire. She was shot a total of 5 times. Police say Jerry Hudson was in a rented car and his image was captured in a photo as he went through a toll booth shortly after the shooting.

Police obtained a search warrant for Hudson's residence. They located a note.


"She used me for 20 years I don't need to suffer anymore"

The note police found alleged Hudson planned to kill her and then commit suicide:


"She Has Taken My Manhood."

On Tuesday, with his attorney, Hudson turned himself into police. In a statement made by his lawyer he said "the note doesn't mean Hudson killed his former wife." And goes on to say he cared for her deeply and that a note doesn't prove anything."

A violent abuser will stop at nothing to have control one last time. Melissa Bridgewater was reacting because Hudson said he was calling from inside her home and destroying it. Her immediate response got her killed.

In my opinion, Melissa should have contacted police and asked that a car be sent to the home and had a police report filed on the incident. Then she should have remained in the hotel room until she was absolutely certain of her ex-husbands location. But, like so many victims whom fall prey to these cowards words, she had the sense of feeling safe and secure. Like my mother often remarked, "I am free from him and I don't have to be afraid anymore." My mother's new residence is the same as Melissa Bridgewater's, the cemetary!







On Wednesday, January 13, 2010, at 3:00 PM CST we will discuss the importance of staying safe, before during and after a divorce on BlogTalkRadio.com

Charlie Sheen: New Poster Boy for Domestic Violence?

Hanes brands has ended their relationship and advertising campaign featuring Charlie Sheen because of domestic violence charges filed against the actor.

"The seriousness of the allegations against the 44-year-old actor made the decision necessary" the statement from Hanes goes now to say:

"It's a pretty standard, straightforward call when somebody who's in your commercials is arrested on suspicion of something of this magnitude."

Now there is a concept, understanding the seriousness of domestic violence and consequences for a person's actions.

Charlie Sheen been accused of abusing three women in a row, all of whom had their own financial resources. How many more does this bozo need to abuse before fans of his 2 ½ Men stop excusing this behavior?

The 911 call heard around the world released after the Christmas holidays provides even more fuel to the inferno of controversy surrounding Sheen’s marriage and what really happened on Christmas. Sheen’s representative's have tried attempted to downplay the incident and sources as reported by the Internet site RadarOnline.com they asked Sheen's wife Brooke Mueller to recant and that money had been discussed.

Fortunately the 911 call leaves little doubt that the couple’s relationship exploded and in one particularly dramatic moment Brooke Mueller, apparently crying, can be heard telling someone in the background, “No, he’s got me scared.”


The children for now will remain in the custody of their mother until prosecutor's decide how to proceed on this case.


Society still has a long way to go in treating domestic violence in the home as a serious criminal matter. Perhaps the state of Colorado would consider using Charles Sheen's image in a state-wide campaign" Domestic Violence is a Crime: if you threaten your girlfriend or wife, you will be prosecuted, regardless of how many zero's you have on your bank statement. "

A campaign would not only get the public's attention it will save lives of those women and children murdered by those whom profess to love them.

Michelle Phelan: Manipulation "101" By the Courts and a Police Officer

It is not easy these days to be married to an abuser that also happens to be a police officer. A 13-year marriage layered with a strategic game of power, control and manipulation.

At the start of the divorce Michelle became medically disabled, unable to attend the majority of court proceedings. She also lost two lawyers both of whom were unable to effectively deal with the abusive legal tactics allowed by the courts.

She contacted one attorney after another explaining her situation and that her husband was a police officer. Because of the ongoing abuse, custody, and the fact Michelle had no financial ability to hire and pay an attorney, she was told no one would take her case.

Each time she would contact the police department, [where her husband was also employed] after she was allegedly threatened or physically assaulted, fellow officers would arrive at the marital home often taunting her while ignoring Michelle's plea for help by writing a favorable police report on behalf of her husband indicating he was the victim and she was the abuser. He even went so far, in my opinion, as to falsely obtain a court order of protection against Michelle that was later dropped, a common theme often used by an alleged abuser.

Over the summer of 2009 her serious and near fatal medical needs were not being met. Her police officer husband had removed Michelle from his medical coverage and she had no money or transportation to seek proper medical assistance.

In June of 2009, with a written doctor’s note to be excused from the court proceedings, the judge refused to listen or take into consideration her condition ordering Michelle to appear in his courtroom. It was obvious Judge Robert J. Baron wanted the case over and off his court docket.

The couple also has a young child. Over the summer, although the court appointed child evaluator in the case wrote about abuse issues and manipulation by the father, custody was awarded to him because, according to the report, Michelle Phelan was unable at the time to take care of her son due to her illness and because she did not have ten cents to her name. That was the straw that nearly broke her, the removal of her son, by the courts. This is very common among women in abusive relationships.

In September of 2009, a miracle occurred when Michelle Phelan got an attorney to finally take her case just days before she would have been forced into an agreement that could have left her financially bone dry, without custody, and unable to have a relationship with her child.

Now Attorney Jennifer C. Weiss from Chicago is representing Michelle Phelan in her Will County divorce case. This also happens to be the second home and courthouse of Drew Peterson whom divorced his then wife Kathleen Savio, and you know where she tragically wound up--dead!


Beginning today, in courtroom 312, Judge Robert J. Baron will preside over the remaining few days of the divorce trial. Since the case was initially filed, in my opinion, the abusive legal maneuvers, threats and tactics used in this divorce case and against Michelle Phelan must cease.

Michelle is first and foremost a mother. That is something that no one can ever take away from her. Most of the women I assist would either no longer be standing, barely alive or killed.

When a police force is sworn to serve and protect and they refuse to enforce the law with one of their own, what does that say to the citizens of Lockport, Illinois? How many other abuse victims have been denied assistance?

The legal system was created to provide fair and impartial justice, but not for victims of violence who are being kicked back onto to the streets, their home and children stripped from them all because they refuse to play ball with an abuser. The deck for many battered women is already stacked against them before they ever begin.

We as a society wonder why, after reading the news story that another woman has died often asking ourselves what did "she" do wrong. Or what could have been done to prevent the tragedy?

It is time we elect into office judges and prosecutors who can be accountable to the victims of violence. If we do not demand changes within the courts we can expect the death toll to rise.

Just ask Amy Leichtenberg, she will tell you how and why her two boys Jack and Duncan were murdered.

"The Ripper Murders"

The old case file had been tucked away for over twenty years in the rafters of an attic. On the case file jacket in bold, handwritten letters was the name Robin Gecht. It was the original police file containing the names of twenty women connected with one of the most notorious gangs of serial killers in history.

The Chicago Rippers were a group of four hoodlums—Andrew Kokoraleis, Tommy Kokoraleis, Robin Gecht, and Edward Spreitzer (pictured below, left to right)—who practiced satanic worship. The men had journeyed into a trend of sorts that swept through the country in the late 1970's and into the early '80s, especially among teenagers: practicing satanic worship.


"The Ripper Crew," as they would come to be known, had taken their rituals much further than most who believed they could somehow make contact with evil from the dark side.

The case file revealed how the killers saved the flesh they had removed from their victims. According to the signed confession of Thomas Kokoraleis, he "cut up the breasts," and consumed them as a form of satanic communion in front of a makeshift altar.

Robin Gecht, the group's leader, had an altar in the attic of his Northwest Side home, where the young men gathered during the evening hours after Gecht's wife had left for work. Gecht had painted six twelve-inch red-and-black crosses on the walls and draped the altar with a red cloth.
Detectives from Chicago and the surrounding suburbs worked together to solve these horrific murders. Each case began as an abduction or a missing persons report. The first known case was Linda Sutton, 28, abducted from a Chicago suburb. Her severely mutilated body found with the left breast cut out from her chest was left naked in a field.

Each of the twenty victims were gang-raped and then forced to endure having their breasts sliced open and cut off using piano wire, ice picks, can openers, and hunting knives. The men would then use the cut body parts for a satanic sacrifice by eating the women's breasts. All but two of the victims died.

After several months, police hit a dead end. Nearly another year would pass before the next victim would be reported.

A break in the case finally came on October 7, 1982. A twenty-year-old woman by the name of Beverly Washington was discovered nude beside railroad tracks in Chicago. Barely alive and naked, with her left breast severed and the right badly mutilated, she survived the brutal attack.

Two Chicago Police Detectives from Area Four Violent Crimes were called into the case. They interviewed Beverly Washington from her hospital bed. She provided details of the van and a description of the four men who had abducted her.

A directive in the form of a memo from the Mayor's office stated this case was a priority. Specific case details of the victims' murders were withheld from the public. The detectives worked around the clock.

DNA testing had yet to be developed. The solving of the serial murders would be done using pure instinct and good old-fashioned police work.

On November 7, 1982, all four men were arrested. They were placed in separate interrogation rooms. Andrew Kokorakeis was the first to break, confessing to at least seven of eighteen known murders. The case notes included a hand-drawn map of a cemetery in a nearby suburb of Chicago. The badly decomposed body of a victim murderd five months earlier would be recovered by police based on the map.

The two detectives who would eventually solve the murders, Thomas Flynn and Phillip Murphy, had been partners for over twenty years. On January 6, 1984, during a ceremony at the police academy—with the Attorney General, Mayor, and Superintendent present—the detectives were honored and presented with a special plaque for solving the serial murders.

This would be their career case. One that the City of Chicago and this police detective's daughter would never forget.

In the strange twist of events that would follow, the detective, Philip Murphy, would no longer be known for solving the worst serial murder case in Chicago's history. Instead, five years later, his legacy would be for the murder of his wife, my mother, in 1989, before he took his own life.

My father was one hell of a detective, loved and revered by so many. He would be a man I never really knew. A man who brought terror and violence into our home on a regular basis.

And yet, a man who made the streets of Chicago a safer place to live. Much safer with the Ripper Crew off the streets. What became of them? Andrew Kokoralesis was executed in March of 1999; Thomas Kokoralesis is serving 470 years; Edward Sprietzer received a life sentence; and Robin Gecht is serving 120 years.

Susan Murphy-Milano is a nonfiction author and violence expert—a defender of victims' rights. Susan has appeared on Oprah, 20/20, American Justice, and CNN. As a nationally recognized women's advocate, she was intrumental in the passage of the Illinois Stalking Law and the Lautenberg Act. Susan's third Book "Time's Up will be available in stores and on-line through Amazon in March, 2010.