Justice Interrupts the Life of Christie Thorne

Crime Wire featured the case of Christie Thorne. Two weeks before her divorce was finalized she was found dead.

Christie Thorne was a victim of domestic violence and stalking according to numerous police reports . Because the divorce was not finalized her parents had no say in how her remains were handled. It is disturbing that evidence was destroyed, and no autopsy was performed; no medical examiner or coroner in charge of the crime scene, instead a rush to judgement by a justice of the peace, in the town of Longview, located in the State of Texas, ruling her death a suicide.

Immediately, the husband, who still maintained legal rights because they were technically still married, was able to authorize the body cremated. The evidence was destroyed.

This is why when a person begins a divorce action, separates or ends a relationship, having the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit and video prepared and copies given to trusted friends and relatives removes the burden by surviving families members to have cases of intimate partner homicide investigated and those responsible arrested.

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.

Christie was found dead of a gunshot wound to the head on the bedroom floor of her home in Longview, Texas on June 21, 2007. After an inadequate investigation and no autopsy, a 19-minute inquest by a Justice of the Peace resulted in the determination that the then 35-year-old had taken her own life. Over the objections of Christie's family, her body was released to her estranged husband and cremated.

Jeanie Cummings, Christie's mother, doesn't believe her daughter killed herself. She is convinced that Bob Thorne, Christie's husband, murdered Christie. She cites a history of domestic violence and contends that the investigators, including the Justice of the Peace, botched the investigation due to incompetence or corruption.

Steps taken by the family:

1. Have sucessfully been able to show and with Judge Fort's own Informal 19 minute InquestRuling of how incompetent he was when he ruled that my daughter died from a self-inflicted gunshot wound to her left temple. MY DAUGHTER WAS RIGHT-HANDED!!

2. Have successfully been able to show a conflict between Judge Fort's ruling and the police reports. The judge incompetently ruled that my daughter's fatal gunshot wound came from her left while the police were indicating incompetently that the gunshot came from her right side....POINT OF FACT IS...( they all BOTCHED my daughter's suspicious death )..( MURDER )... and without ever considering even ONCE that an autospy needed to be performed while they never apparently thought much either to go over everything thoroughly BETWEEN themselves before they all decided negligently that their incompetent ruling of suicide just might have been a homicide instead that needed investigating to get a murderer off the streets. My daughter's death was a violent death in Texas and her suspicious death should have NEVER been ruled a suicide so quickly by either the police or byJudge Fort.

3. We hired a Private Investigator, Mr. Akin's, who is a crime scene expert out of Austin, Texas who looked over my daughter's crime scene pictures in April of this year and in his analysis he wrote that it appeared that my daughter's fatal wound was to her left temple..( just like Judge Fort ruled )..and he wrote that it appeared that her hair had been violently pulled to the left. Also, there was NO BLOOD on either one of her hands. NOTE: The police did not bother to do a GUNSHOT RESIDUE TEST and did not bother to run fingerprints on the gun. MY DAUGHTER DID NOT FIRE THAT GUN THAT KILLED HER. SHE WAS OVER-TAKEN BY SOMEONE AND THEY MURDERED HER.

4. We have reached out to 2 medical examiners sending them both my daughter's crime scene pictures, etc...(. one is from Texas, he's a chief medical examiner, a Dr. Frost ,out of San Antonio, Texas who is trying to change for the better all death investigations in Texas, and then there is Dr. Bonnell, a medical examiner for Parents Of Murdered Children, Inc. who wrote us his opinion about how incompetent Judge Fort and the police were in having no forensic training but who ruled my daughter's death a suicide with no autospy being performed. Dr. Bonnell's most recent letter that he wrote to us after seeing Judge Fort's incompetent ruling this year after I sent the judge's ruling to him shortly after we received it ourselves, states in his letter pertaining to how Judge Fort handled so incompentently my daughter's suspicious murder, in quoting that this is.. THE TWILIGHT ZONE. THIS IS WORSE THAN THE TWILIGHT ZONE TO US> THIS IS THE ULTIMATE NIGHTMARE THAT ANY PARENT ON THE FACE OF THE EARTH COULD GO THROUGH.

COVER-UP

We aren't sure that there was a cover-up but it does appear to us that the judge and the police have gone WAY out of their way since Day 1 of our losing Christie that there was NOT going to be a death investigation at all much less a murder investigation either which does make us all suspicious of them in always wondering WHY and HOW could they have over-looked so many many suspicious circumstances that led up to her death. We will always wonder why they didn't seem to even care enough to make sure that their own reports matched one another in something that is so serious to do everything it takes to be completely sure in how someone dies. They never considered once that there should have been an autospy performed first before they ruled anything. It is beyond us and everyone we've talked too in wondering how could Judge Fort be so careless like this in ruling a violent suspicious death to be a suicide without ever considering an autospy to be performed of a young mother who had just lost her life very suddenly and very mysteriously.

We have been lied to from da 1 by Homicide Detective Hewitt saying to us right after we lost her that she had been shot in her mouth but later saying that he thought her ex-husband killed her. We wonder WHY and HOW could a homicide detective lie like this to a family who had just lost their loved one. We didn't find out till later after receiving the police reports that she didn't die like we were told at first by this detective. Since Detecftive Hewitt for some reason told me before we received the police reports that he thought her ex-husband killed her, I asked him was he going to investigate my daughter's death by investigating her ex-husband and this is where he told me that HIS HANDS WERE TIED. WE WONDER WHAT OR WHO TIED HIS HANDS?Getting back to day 2 of my daughter's suspicious death, Detective Hewitt didn't even know which apartment my daughter lived in stating to me on Day 2 of our losing Christie that her apartment was on the top section of the apt. complex when I knew that her apt. was on the ground floor. These were the first RED FLAGS that something was very very wrong beyond our losing her and as time went on it all got worse in our realizing that something was WRONG with how this detective and JUDGE FORT was handling my daughter's death there. Is this a COVER-UP? WE DO WONDER!!

I don't know for sure if there was a life insurance policy on my daughter or not but I'm pretty sure that there was one on her because her husband at the time of her death had just taken out a policy a few months before this happened to her on himself for $400,000 leaving my daughter the beneficiary. The police had... ( THEIR HANDS NOT BEEN TIED )... should have looked into this along with looking into ALOT of suspicious circumstances surrounding my daughter's murder but they didn't seem to care much about anything even telling us that everything was up to my daughter's husband who should have been made a suspect along with his 18 year old son a suspect also considering that they were both the last ones to see my daughter alive.

Thank you so much for your time and thank you for offering to do a story about this. God Bless You. Sincerely, Jeanie..( Christie's Mom )

God please let there be "JUSTICE FOR HER"!!

Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visithttp://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and SurviveAbusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talkhttp://www.herewomentalk.com/and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr. Laurie Rothhttp://www.therothshow.com/

Ronald David Ratliff: Manhunt Found

Update: Late Tuesday January 25, 2010 commits suicide

Just a few days after Ronald David Ratliff is released from the Charleston County Detention center for domestic violence charges against his estranged wife, on Saturday evening he kills his former mother-in-law, then flees.

There are warrants out for his capture and he is considered armed and dangerous.

The sheriff's office has obtained warrants for Ratliff for murder charges in connection with the incident.

Ratliff was last seen driving a white 2000 model Ford Van with South Carolina tag EPP-250. The van may have Dallas Cowboys stickers on the windows and a vanity Cowboys license plate.

Ratliff stands 5'10" weighs 210 pounds. He has scars on his neck and tattoos on his back, shoulders and upper right arm. Deputies say he is armed with a small caliber handgun that he used in the shooting. He also has a history of assault and drugs, according to authorities.

Deputies believe Ratliff may be heading to Pensacola, FL where they say he has family. Police urge caution since Ratliff is considered armed and dangerous.

Please contact Crime Stoppers at 554-1111 with any information on the whereabouts of Ronald David Ratliff.

Other areas he could have gone: Alabama, Virginia, North Carolina, Georgia, Florida. Important to note a person who commits these crimes usually heads to places they are familiar and can easily blend in the area. He has likely changed his appearance, possibly shaved his beard and could have changed his hair color or shaved his head all together.

Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visithttp://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and SurviveAbusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talkhttp://www.herewomentalk.com/and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr. Laurie Rothhttp://www.therothshow.com/

Intimate Partner Homicide Investigation: Join Hosts Sheryl McCollum, Holly Hughes, Susan Murphy Milano :Monday 9:00 PM EST

By Sheryl McCollum, Holly Hughes, Susan Murphy Milano

Tonight IPHI and Websleuths.com features the cold case Peggy Dianovsky

Peggy Dianovsky disappeared on September 12, 1982. Early reports suggest she left after an argument with her estranged husband, taking only a few things in a plastic bag and walked out on her 3 sons, her home, and her job. She was about to divorce Robert Dianovsky, stood to get approximately $20,000 from the sale of their home, and according to a quote from her brother, Gus Gollias, “She was about to get everything she wanted.” Her elderly father in law was also stated as being puzzled as to why she would leave everything.

Peggy Dianovsky has never been found, foul play is suspected in her disappearance.

Your hosts Holly Hughes former Atlanta Prosecutor turned defense attorney, Sheryl McCollum, Director of Cold Case Investigative Research Institute and Susan Murphy-Milano, Violence Expert and Author of the new book "Time's Up" have joined forces to bring new eyes to cases of intimate partner homicide. Intimate Partner Homicide Investigation gives these cases a front and center seat instead of a back door crime occurring behind closed doors.

The show is sponsored by the interactive crime and news site Websleuths.com

To listen to the show live for Monday August 23, 2010, and participate in the chat room, the direct link for the show is HERE

We will take your calls live. The number to call in with questions or comments is:

The number is 347-326-9337

Sheila Deviney Case and The Garvin County Prosecutor Greg Mashburn

Sheila Deviney, 30, died on Jan. 6, 2004 when her trailer house, located about one mile east and one mile south of Maysville, Oklahoma, burned to the ground. She was murdered. It should be no surprise that Sheila was married to an abusive controlling man. They had a court date scheduled the next day. According to eye witnesses, her ex-husband was at the trailer, although divorced, and by law not allowed on the premises, he and another friend destroyed evidence and took items from the home.

Initially her death was ruled accidental. It was only because of her parents, Susan and David Deviney, that the ruling was changed several months later to arson and homicide after a state investigation into cloth and carpet samples near Deviney’s body showed traces of ignitable liquid.

This is a tragic case where the Prosecutors office, the medical examiner and the sheriff doing their “good old boy routine dance” covering up for a murderer. The ex-husband is a former Oklahoma college football star who is now raising the children.


Sheila Deviney, in my opinion, was killed by her former husband.

Just last week Oklahoma County District Attorney Greg Mashburn. Maybe, as the current Prosecutor, Mashburn could blow off the dust on the Shiela Deviney unsolved murder case and do his job. Now there is a concept!

Greg Mashburn took an oath when he was elected into office by the people...... it included justice.

For Shiela Deviney justice is a word that has little meaning to a family that has fought a blind and deaf criminal justice system within the State of Oklahoma.

An Order of Protection is a Worthless Piece of Paper With Ink!

The events on December 27, 2009 in Stark County, Ohio, that lead up to the murders of Derrick Busto and Brandy Scheinder are chilling, yet a common theme we are witnessing as families ask questions after intimate partner homicide.

In this case Matthew Schneider the former husband of Brandy was on probation for a sexual assault against a minor child. When the former husband plead guilty the prrosecutors office decided to put on their "big girl panties" and slap a 12 day jail sentence on this man. Along with a 3 year probation and a requirement that he register as a sex offender every four months for the next 25 years.

During this time Brandy Schneider filed for divorce. After years of abuse and terror she as most victims left the marital residence with her son and try to move on with her life.

Brandy Schneider also secured and order of protection from the courts. Matthew Schneider was dangerous and on several ocassions threatened to take her life. Between May of 2009 and near the time of the murders Matthew Schneider was stalking his soon to be ex-wife. Not once but numerous sitings, following, harassing threatning and doing damage to property all while wearing an electronic monitoring braclet. This should have been an immediate termination of Matthew Schneider's parole. The offense was felony stalking.

Rather than police arresting Matthew Schneider and held until a hearing for violating parole and felony stalking Brandy Schneider like so many victims we read about after the fact was murdered for negligence by a system sworn to protect victims of intimate partner violence under the very laws created because of bloodshed.

Maybe the US Attorneys Office or Lynn Rosenthal in Washington can investigate the oversight into human life lost due to shear ignorance as it pertains to rebuilding a new system from the ground up. One that includes an understanding of the landscape as it relates to intimate parter violence and homicide.

Today, on the Susan Murphy Milano show Brandy's mother Cheri Reed was on for the hour. It is important to note that Ms. Reed's discussing her daughters murder so soon after was to help other families and victims caught in the crossfire of tragedy.

Later in the show Derrick Busto's mother also came on and talked about her son and how "the system failed" these two women's children. "What good is an order of protection? she asked. If it means nothing more than a piece of paper with ink in it."

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The Cop Doc Takes On Domestic Violence and Homicide

There is a common theme among the intimate partner homicide cases that cold case Director Sheryl McCullom and I continue to cover and highlight on our new Monday night show on blog talk radio. All the victims who have either gone missing or have been killed lived in total fear of their husband or boyfriend.

On yesterday's "Intimate Partner Homicide Investigates" show we discussed the case of missing Utah wife and mother Susan Powell who vanished on December 7, 2009 it was obvious she feared her husband Josh Powell. A strong woman of faith and a desire to remain in a marriage with an underlying belief that he would somehow change. As she made plans to end the marriage in my opinion, Josh Powell ended her life. As her family prays and waiting for her remains to be found there are thousands of other such women like Susan Powell, still alive, who need our help before they end up on the missing person's list. Or murdered in their own bed like Renee Pagel on August 5, 2006. She too was going through a divorce and the only person responsible in my opinion Michael Pagel has yet to be arrested. For nearly four years prosecutors and law enforcement continue to ignore the facts in this case. We will continue to press forward and demand accountability and justice. But it goes beyond those who have already lost their lives.

Victims who find themselves in violent relationships do not have to end up like Renee Pagel or Susan Powell.

On Tuesday, July 20, 2010 at 10:00 PM eastern time, domestic violence and homicide is the topic for the hour on The Cop Doc Radio show. The show will explore the perils of domestic violence at its worst in our society. Sheryl McCollum and Susan Murphy Milano are well-known for their vital work in this cancer upon our society. These tireless victims' advocates have created a avenue for victims of DV to have a voice. Also joining our panel is well-respected police trainer and retired police sergeant Betsy Brantner Smith. They'll give some perspective on the scope and depth of the problem and what you can do about it if you are in or know someone who is in that kind of situation.

"Multiplying Evil"

The body of missing Orgeon mother Heather Mallory was found last week in a forest. She had not been seen since her husband Brian Cole claimed she simply vanished.

Another angry controlling abusive husband decided when Heather announced the marriage was over and she was seeking a divorce he would in my opinion, take her very life.

On Friday July 3, 2010, Portland, OR., police said that 37-year-old Brian Cole was arrested for her murder in Sagle, Idaho, and is awaiting extradition.

At the time Heather vanished the husband told authorities "his wife drove away angry and never returned." How often have we read that wives and mothers in abusive marriages or relationships somehow just picked up and left? This case reeked as do most we read about when a victim of abuse decides to move on with their lives minus the abuser.

Notice how the abuser begins weaving their web of lies. If you recall Josh Powell ( wife Susan Powell)of Utah; Craig Stebic (wife Lisa Stebic) of Illinois; Drew Peterson (Stacy Peterson) of Illinois; Shon Pernice (wife Renee Pernice) Kansas City or George Parker (wife Theresa Parker)Atlanta, GA, all have the same similar stories about what happend to their wives.

With the exception of Theresa Parker the women missing all had kids. And do not believe for a minute they would ever leave their children behind. These missing women and mothers were each married to contolling abusive husbands.

I realize that when Martin Luther King spoke or wrote about violence he did not intend to apply his words of wisdom to victims who have lost their lives to controlling, angry men hell bend on their own justice. The abuser who preys and kills their loved ones is summarized below in words written over 45 years ago.

"The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. Instead of diminishing evil, it multiplies it. Through violence you may murder the liar, but you cannot murder the lie, nor establish the truth. Through violence you may murder the hater, but you do not murder hate. In fact, violence merely increases hate. So it goes. ... Returning hate for hate multiplies hate, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that."

"Shattered"

In January of 1999, Belinda Temple, 8 months pregnant, was found in the bedroom of her home, in her closet, dead of a gunshot wound. The case would remain unsolved until David Temple was arrested for her murder in 2004. On November 15, 2007 he was found guilty by a Texas jury for murdering his wife.

It comes as no surprise that Temple was having an affair with another woman during his marriage to Belinda; he married his mistress a few years after Belinda’s death and began a new life.

Many of the men whom are suspected in the murder of their wives often live several lives of lies. The identical playbook of lies and deception was used by Scott Peterson, Drew Peterson, and Bruce Beresford-Redman. To the world they present themselves as loving, concerned fathers and husbands, pillars in the community who would never swat a fly. Each of these men lived and breathed lies outside the home, each had a mistress. Although I don’t count Drew Peterson’s wife Stacy as a mistress, she was just a kid, a teenager lured by a serial predator dangling towards her a world beyond her reality, a child all of 15 years old when he met her. Two of these men, both with the last name of Peterson, never once participated in the search of their wives.

If I had the opportunity to meet and speak with Christina Raines (Drew Peterson); Heather Scott (David Temple); Joy Pierce (Bruce Beresford-Redman); I would ask them, "why they continued or began a relationship with these murderers knowing they completely erased the women with whom they were married to at the time?" They are dangerous, clever individuals capable of killing, even them, if they could no longer be controlled or wanted out of the relationship. I would ask, "was their life so meaningless that they were willing to risk it all in the name of love?"

Kathryn Casey’s new book, available for pre-order on Amazon.com and set for release on June 29, 2010, is titled “Shattered,” based on the David Temple case. It will no doubt provide a chilling account of a woman by the name of Belinda Temple, who deserved more than being erased from earth because her husband met and fell in love with another woman. The book is not just another true crime story. It is not a "story," in my opinion, because stories are not real. Kathryn Casey’s book is written about a woman who was a domestic violence victim, a woman who married a man with strong ties in the community. Family and friends refused to believe their “David” capable of such a gruesome act of violence.

"Shattered" is not just another crime book. It captures the true essence of a woman’s life torn apart by a man’s savage and inhumane rage. David Temple was a predator, planning and calculating, like others we watch or read about in the news, until the final hour of the kill. Kathryn Casey’s book is a must for cold case detectives, law enforcement, medical examiners, lawyers, social workers and victims of violence living in fear.


•November 5, 2007: Twin Sister Testifies In Murder Trial
•October 31, 2007: Neighbors Testify About Day Belinda Temple Died
•October 30, 2007: Shotgun Becomes Focus Of Murder Trial
•October 25, 2007: Current Wife Of Man Accused Of Killing Pregnant Wife Testifies
•October 25, 2007: Coach Testifies Against Husband Accused Of Killing Wife
•October 18, 2007: Scene Photos Shown In Trial Of Man Accused Of Killing Wife
•October 16, 2007: Prosecutor: Husband's Affair Motive For Pregnant Wife's Killing
•October 15, 2007: Trial Begins For Man Accused Of Killing Pregnant Wife
•October 11, 2007: 9 Years Later, Husband Stands Trial For Wife's Murder

Crime Wire Live Tuesday June 15, 2010 at 9:00 PM EST and 8:00 PM Central

The Crime Wire team, Vito Colucci Jr., Private Eye and author, Denny Griffin, retired Investigator and Author, and Susan Murphy Milano, Violence Expert and Author are there-- On top of the crime -- at the top of their game.

Our guests for a power packed hour will be:

Tricia Griffith, owner of Websleuths, the Internet site that brings crime cases in the news and public eye long after the media has forgotten they need to be solved!

Famed Defense Attorney Mickey Sherman will be on the hot seat tonight discussing what else; defending the thugs, rapists and cold blooded killers.

This case involves one of those rather rare instances in which murder charges were brought and convictions attained when the victim’s remains had not been found. It is also somewhat unique in that the victim was a powerful organized crime figure. William “Wild Bill” Cutolo was the underboss of New York City’s Colombo crime family. His disappearance and presumed murder in 1999 caused his son to turn from a life of crime to become a cooperating government witness, whose work with law enforcement helped to bring about the arrests and convictions of his father’s killers in 2007

Janice Smolinski will discuss The Help Find the Missing Act (Billy’s Law) for families because it is one of the most important national pieces of legislation that will benefit the families of missing persons. With a grass roots effort started by the mother of missing Billy Smolinski, Janice Smolinski lives the nightmare shared with thousands across the country and millions worldwide. She has worked non-stop through the process of our government to bring this change for all.

President of Imagine Publicity, “Delilah,” creator of the crime suvivors and victim's rights blog "Time'sUp",she stands, supports and spreads important awareness on many issues, including missing persons, domestic violence, mothers without custody, human trafficking, self-defense, and victim’s rights.

Al Dressler Technology Expert and Crime Wire consultant will also weigh in on the rapid pace of technology in criminal cases.

Time: 9:00 PM EST 8:00 PM CST 6:00 PM PST

The number to call in with questions or comments is 1-646-478-0982

We profile a variety of cases each week, including cold cases, suspicious deaths, and current solved and unsolved murders.

If you are interested in having your case brought to the attention of the Crime Wire Team you can email us with cases, suggestions and comments at our email: thecrimewire@gmail.com

Link to Listen to the show Live http://www.blogtalkradio.com/crimewire

Our goal is to bring attention to those cases in which justice may not have been served and the families of the victims don’t have the resources to pursue the investigations on their own. Together we can make a difference.

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"Special Report" The Kathleen Savio Murder Case" On The Susan Murphy Milano Show Monday June 14, 2010 at 9:00 PM EST and 8:00PM CST

Tonights Guests Sheryl McCollum of the Cold Case Institute, Peter Hyatt Investigator, State of Maine Statement Analysis Labratory for Scientific Interrogation.

During this special hour we will discuss and investigate what really happened to Kathleen Savio former wife of former Bolingbrook police Sgt. Drew Peterson. What can we do to prevent these tragedies that we read about in the headlines from happening in the future?


Drew Peterson is currently in jail awaiting trial for the murder of his third wife Kathleen Savio.

For the lastest on the case visit http://www.petersonstory.wordpress.com/

The number to call in with questions or comments is 1-347-326-9337

DATE: Wednesday, June 15, 2010


TIME: 9: 00 PM Eastern Time and 8:00 PM Central Time

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"Abracadabra"

"Abracadabra" is commonly used as an incantation by stage magicians and their imitators. If you stop and think about it controlling and violent abusers do the same thing when their wives and girlfriends with whom they have lost control, suddenly vanish.

An abuser is similar to a magician, only their stage is behind closed doors. There are far too many imitators to list but they each appear to follow the same pattern. It varies from case to case, but in the end the magic act is identical. The women always vanish and usually without a trace.

More often than not, the abuser magician does not report the mother of his children or soon to be ex-wife missing. That responsible usually falls on a concerned family member. When Illinois mother and wife Lisa Stebic simply vanished did Craig Stebic contact police or was it her family? How about when Stacy Peterson disappeared? Who made out the police report? When Susan Powell of Utah went missing (more like erased from the planet) wasn’t it her family that contacted authorities? How about Tabitha Franklin, Rachel Conger, Rachel Anderson, Renee Pernice, Star Boomer, Jana Morton, Carrie Ann Monroe, Theresa Parker, Vensus Stewart, Liza Murphy or Pamela Knight. There is not enough space to list the thousands of victims of violence labeled in some detective's desk drawer or filing cabinet across the country, as the person responsible, in my opinion, plays a clever game of catch me if you can. “ I didn’t do it”. “I have no idea where they could be, we are doing everything to help police find her. But really, does anyone ever see these abusers go out on searches and look for their wives or girlfriends?

My favorite response to these “abuser magicians” who, in my opinion, commit murder, is when they retain an attorney. All you hear their legal representative say is, “my client is innocent” or “the police are only speculating at this point” or “no comment.” With the exception of one defense lawyer, who likely has his bald head shined and polished for the cameras at least once a day, if not twice, depending on how much spin he can make out of his famous dick less wonder of a serial abuser client whom is about to stand trial for murder; then you can expect a real magical act to appear in full costume in the courtroom and before the cameras.

These cases have, for the most part, turned into a tragic magical circus act with innocent lives hijacked, set briefly on a world stage, until the following day when another magician tries their hand at successfully making the mother of their children, and or wife, vanish without a trace.

If you or a loved one are preparing to leave an abusive relationship or are being stalked, please consider the importance pf creating the “Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" and video. It is a sworn statement detailing the facts of an individual’s victimization, preserving the specifics so they are not lost, even if the victim is. It's difficult to think about speaking from the grave, but no different than any life insurance policy or living will obtained in consideration for those left behind in cases of domestic violence and stalking related crimes. [Below is the example for you to follow to create the document in the event you suddenly vanish or go missing]





Been there, done that…” Susan Murphy- Milano has turned a tired phrase into demonstrable realism through the gift of her newly published book, "TIME'S UP: A GUIDE ON HOW TO LEAVE AND SURVIVE ABUSIVE AND STALKING RELATIONSHIPS

"Silent Mary Jo'"

While there are many intimate partner, stalking and domestic abuse murders to highlight and unsolved cases sitting idle as if they were stacked up in rush hour traffic waiting as investigators inch forward from low gear in the case to finally making an arrest, my attention today is for those who are alive. Living in abusive relationships right now.

I was taken by surprise earlier today when someone whom I consider a close friend and a colleague was seriously injured by her husband. As the day unfolded so did the details of what happened. Every case and situation of abuse bothers me, but this one hit home.

It could be anyone- you, someone you work with, the mom you sat next to at the P.T.A. meeting or even the server at starbucks coffee for that matter.

In an effort to save what I term as the "silent Mary Jo's" of the world those living in war zones across the United States, Canada and Europe, the battle field is their own home I will use a gerneral overview based on the facts a life threatening situation just hours ago.

Mary Jo graduated with a masters degree in business. This highly energetic and attractive young woman landed a job at a chemical company in Washington, D.C. With no shortage of men asking her out she was careful to not get serious with anyone. Her career was a priority. Within a year Mary Jo locked eyes with Peter who had been transfered by the company to the D.C., office. Peter's rugged looks and his charming personality won the heart of Mary Jo. Two years later they married. The following year she gave birth to twin boys. Anxious to continue working Mary Jo started a chemical product company from her garage shipping orders across the country from the family garage until the business required a larger space.

The couple talked and Peter quit his job to oversee the business. Mary Jo maintained majority ownership and control making it one of a handful of female owned minority companies in the country with revenue after 6 years close to $35 million in sales. As the company prospered their marriage began to erode. Important decisions in the company were suddenly usurped by Peter. The hands on management and control she had no longer existed. Mary Jo threw herself into the boys activities and school. And she created a platform for which to speak out against various forms of abuse. That is how we met. At a violence conference in SanDiego where we struck up an immediate friendship. On and off we worked together on various and cases of intimate partner violence. And over the past couple of years we grew closer like girlfriends getting together happend when either us were in the others neck of the woods. But like most victims of abuse Mary Jo was very careful to keep her secret.

When Mary Jo started speaking up and disagreeing with Peter he barked at her as though she were his child. "You don't question me" he would snap back. The conversations -one way of course quickly turned into "ugly" in your face confrontations. When Mary Jo didn't back off enough Peter would slap her across the face with his open hand to physical beatings. Over time Peter was taking control of the household expenses and keeping close tabs on Mary Jo.

Fifteen years later and of few trips to many visits to the doctor, dentist or hospital because of so called "clumsy accidents" Mary Jo had enough. Several months ago she confided in me that she was making plans to end the marriage. In response I told her as a precaution to prepare the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit, "just in case", I said.

Today, I learned that Mary Jo's loving husband Peter has been tracking and stalking her every move. From reading her personal emails on the computer to tracking her movement by the GPS tracking system he activated on the company cell phone he gave her. Peter has been accusing Mary Jo of having an affair. Mary Jo during arguments was now standing up to Peter and this morning she was nearly killed. A neighbor heard her screams and called 911. As the sirens approached the house at 10:20 A.M. EST, Peter bent down and whispered in his bleeding wives ear "think about what cemetary you would like to be buried at my darling."

I haven't been able to speak with Mary Jo. But I can speak to you. Before you decide that you have had enough and are ending the relationship create for yourself the "Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" and video (shown below).

If you do nothing else, please take one important step that if something does happen to you, if you do vanish like Stacy Peterson, Vensus Stewart, Rachel Anderson, Susan Powell, Lisa Stebic, or are found murdered like Monica Beresford-Redmond, Franki Jacobson, Renee Pagel and others where the person responsible has gotten away with murder that your voice and record of the abuse will be captured and recorded. Do it for you friends, family and loved ones. Do it for your children. Do it for you! If you have an opportunity take a moment and download a podcast from a radio show I did earlier on the AWN Radio Network Linked HERE.

How you can escape a violent relationship and get out with your life. ALSO NOW AVAILABLE ON KINDLE
It is better to be a safe and alive "Mary Jo" than "a dead Jane Doe.












Been there, done that…” Susan Murphy- Milano has turned a tired phrase into demonstrable realism through the gift of her newly published book, "TIME'S UP: A GUIDE ON HOW TO LEAVE AND SURVIVE ABUSIVE AND STALKING RELATIONSHIPS

Surviving Domestic Violence and Stalking with Susan Murphy Milano on AWN Radio Thursday May 27, 2010 at 9:00 PM EST/ 8:00 PM CST

Surviving domestic abuse & stalking means strategic planning & playing it smart. When faced with daily survival tasks & overwhelming fears a victim is too often left with no time to properly construct safety plans & an escape guide. If you toss into the mix the unique sensory differences faced by individuals on the autism spectrum, then you will understand why Susan Murphy Milano's new book "Time's Up" is proving to be a vital asset.

All people react in a highly sensitized manner when processing stress surrounding violence & ongoing abuse. For individuals on the autism spectrum, most experience unique sensory challenges pertaining to Executive Function & will be faced with processing an even more exaggerated sensory reaction when enduring acts of violence, stalking, and/or ongoing abuse.

Some of these noticeable neuro-differences for individuals on the spectrum are:

•Making arbitrary choices
•Breaking down large tasks into smaller steps
•Recognizing possible options in their situation
•Deciphering how they feel about various options
•Implementing information and/or their skills necessary to complete tasks
•"Beginning" (actually start moving in response to thought)
In Time's Up, Susan has already done your thinking for you as she guides you through the necessary strategies, and life saving tools. Law enforcement agencies, social workers, psychologists, and attorneys are looking to it as a valuable resource when assisting clients.

Radio Show Link: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/autism-womens-network/2010/05/28/serving-it-up-susan-murphy-milano-style

To call on with questions and comments: 917-889-3527

Thursday May 27, 2010.

Show Times are: 6PM PDT, 7PM MDT, 8PM CDT, 9PM EDT. If outside the USA, you can determine when our show broadcasts live in your area by using the Meeting Planner.

The show is being dedicated to the memory of Franki Jacobson murdered in January of 2010. She was a wife, mother and author wrote under the name Frankaleana Beana. She co-author the children’s book released in December of 2009 titled “Green Bean’s Birthday Party” a book to help parents of children with autism. She was a pioneer on a mission to bring awareness to children with autism. As a mother of two 7 year- old twin boys Eric and Joshua. She had written articles from "do you know the signs of autism" to "what parents can do for their children once they are diagnosed."

In a wealthy Palm Beach Florida gated community the author and her two boys were murdered by their loving father and husband.

"Dead Eyes Tell the Story"

Remember the saying 'the devil made me do it?" It applies well to criminals of intimate partner violence and homicide as the evil side of an abuser releases an invisible stench. We as family, community and co-workers can not see the pure evil associated with an abuser because they are so clever at hiding it from everyone, with the exception of those they prey upon. Innocent women and their children are the abuser's easy targets.

Why? The abuser works behind the scenes where they are unable to be detected by anyone but those in their home, and with whom they are, or were, in an intimate relationship.

Earlier this week Shon Pernice was indicted for the murder of his wife Renee Pernice, 35, last seen on New Years day in 2009, another victim who vanished without a trace, no different than Stacy Peterson, Susan Powell, Lisa Stebic, Venus Stewart and many others who were mothers living in fear and would have never left without taking their children. And, yet, all 5 of the vanishing women's estranged husbands had come down with "abuser brain freeze." When your wife vanishes the brain locks up and the only response to why their wife and mother of the children is suddenly gone is, "I don't know but, we just want her to come home." In each case, if you review media interviews or read their direct quotes, they speak in the "catch me if you can." lingo.

Notice how their abuser body language is the same, how the corners of their mouths slightly turned up trying not to smile, their shoulders are slightly curved as they look into the camera. The eyes tell no lies.  Each man has "dead eyes," dialated and widened a bit more than usual, trying to look concerened for the cameras as they attempt to spin pure hatred to words of compassion.

The terror each woman suffered was literally at the hands of an evil monster, a.k.a their loving husbands.

Turning into the devil, these abusers with predator like characteristics, in my opinion, thought for months as to how they would get away with murder. I remember finding hand written journals my father had written prior to murdering my mother. On several legal pads, in his chicken scratch, was page upon page of dates and times where he was tracking her every move. Then my father layed out his plan of action.

An abuser, in my expert opinion, does not allow their victim to go quietly from their life without some type of pain and suffereing. I'll use my mothers case as an example because I believe it applies to the majority of victims killed by their partners.

My father lured my mother to my childhood home making her believe she had to sign a legal document. Once she entered the home he pulled a gun out, got her in a head lock, dragged her up the four steps to the kitchen and told her how she was going to die. He taunted her with his angry words. I can hear him say"Roberta, your going to die, your a bitch, I gave you everything, Its time to pay for leaving me" . Forget that this veteran law enforcement officer was the king of his domain or that he was loved by everyone who knew him.

My mothers eyes were no doubt filled with the worst human terror a person suffers hours, minutes or seconds before their life is taken. Still in a headlock for what must have seemed like hours, and more likely only several minutes, according to neighbors accounts and a time line of events I had created, without a doubt my mother pleaded for her life. But, in true to form abuser behavior, my father wanted his face to be the last my mother saw when he pulled the trigger. And then he took his own life.

For Venus Stewart, who vanished while walking out to her mailbox on April 26, 2010, I think more than one person may have been involved. Her husband, in my opinion. likely enlisted the help of someone. She was caught by surprise. Once secured for transport and still alive, one person had her legs and feet the other her held the upper body and she was thrown into the car, driven to a different location where the abuser made certain his face was also the last his victim saw before she was killed.

When Renee Pernice vanished mysteriously, as her husband Shon would have the world believe, he, in my opinion, made certain the children were out of the home. In my opinion, his experience as a trained fire fighter came in handy when he, too, likely made ceratin Renee knew she was about to be killed. Pernice was angry. Renee was ending the marriage and he wanted her to pay. In "real time violent partner homicide" the abuser is easily excited, sickly arroused, as they speak to their victim and tell them they are about to die. Abusers get off on the power of final control over this persons life knowing their face, too, is the last she will ever see as they take a final breathe.


The bodies of all five women have yet to be found. In three out of the five cases I do believe they will never be recovered, and pray I am wrong.

Been there, done that…” Susan Murphy- Milano has turned a tired phrase into demonstrable realism through the gift of her newly published book, "TIME'S UP: A GUIDE ON HOW TO LEAVE AND SURVIVE ABUSIVE AND STALKING RELATIONSHIPS

W.T.F.

In case you missed this post over on the Time's Up Blog it is definately worth repeating. I hope you will consider spreading this important message on every social network on the Internet and other sites like facebook, blogs send it to the media and let those voices silenced, be finally heard. My mother who was a victim in this war of intimate partner homicide taught me prior to her murder at the hands of my father, "if you believe it, own it, if you own it, it will be so." Help me make it happen. Thank you!

As I sip my coffee with cream, pecking away on my computer, reading the bloodshed in the headlines, I am split between those whom you will never read about because they got out of their abusive and violent relationships, and those whose permanent residence is now in a cemetery, their violent lives marked by a single headstone tablet coldly displaying the name, date of birth through the date they died.

There are many mothers and their children who are living their lives without violence because they had a plan to get out of their toxic and abusive relationship. Some enlisted an army of friends, neighbors and relatives, others, by shear will and determination, got out, but you will not ever read about them, they are safe. Some packed their bags and made a new life for themselves across country, others did not stray very far from familiar territory and yet were still able to rebuild their lives.

So why are we seeing bloodshed at epidemic proportions? What are those victims who are being killed doing wrong? And what are those who remain alive doing correctly?

Are the women who are murdered along with their children assisted by a society of pure ignorance when it pertains to domestic violence and intimate partner homicide? Look around folks, you cannot pick up a paper or turn on the news without hearing how another woman was murdered by someone they new intimately. You can't help but read nasty comments on the internet, not from strangers, but, often by friends and realtives who knew both the victim and the abuser, trying to defend the actions of a cold blooded killer, and blaming a victim because she filed for divorce or took the children. Has anyone ever asked the question, "why?" Or is it easier to turn our backs and call victims liars or drama queens even after they or their innocent children are murdered? The phrase "shame on you" (I have a different phase more along the lines W.T.F. but I cannot use it here) to all Americans comes to mind especially when I know in 80% of these tragedies the victims did not have to die. They would still be alive if not for human ignorance. I do not have enough posts to list all those who are dead, but, if I did, it would surpass those killed in both the Vietnam and Iraq war combined.

American soldiers are properly trained and given weapons as they fight and go into battle for our country. Victims of violence during their battle are often given little more then lip service from the legal system and society.

For those who got out of the stalking and domestic violence relationships, do not think for one minute they have or had it easy. These victims swallowed their dose of being beaten and raped within an inch of their lives, not knowing from one moment to the next what their abuser or former partner was going to do to them or their children. Somehow they made it through to see a new sunrise the next morning, and many began, after the beatings and verbal threats against them, a plan to exist in their toxic environments with their lives. It was not easy as many of these women who came and tried before them did not make it and let's remember where those victims are, dead. But, many abuse victims who are now alive had help, be it a shelter for women, a church, an attorney who took favor on them representing them in their divorce or custody case for little or no charge. Or in some situations, they were able to get hold of advocates like me.

With all my heart and soul I would like to believe that someone is listening, maybe even Oprah Winfrey. Let us show the world thay someone cares about the number of murders wreaking havoc in America on the lives of innocent victims of violence, not always women, men too, and are ready to be part of a revolution demanding that the victims of this war be given a level playing field to fight and stay alive. I, for one, am tired of singing in a choir where the lives of victims murdered out weighs the millions of Americans' who are able to be a voice and sing loudly for effective change.


Been there, done that…” Susan Murphy- Milano has turned a tired phrase into demonstrable realism through the gift of her newly published book, "TIME'S UP: A GUIDE ON HOW TO LEAVE AND SURVIVE ABUSIVE AND STALKING RELATIONSHIPS