That Badge..That Gun..No Place to Run..

Yesterday in Roanoke, Virgina, as Jennifer Agee, 30 pulled into a convenience store parking lot with a child sitting in the car seat, she was gunned down in cold blood by her former husband, Franklin County Sheriff, Johnathan Agee. Immediately after shooting her, he burned rubber in the parking lot and took off.

A few minutes later he fired at other officers, wounding one, before he was stopped by returning fire. Agee was airlifted and is in critical condition. If Agee survives he will be charged with murder The other officer is recovering from a shot to the leg. Jennifer Agee died a short time later at the hospital. It is difficult for any law enforcement community when these tragedies occur, but what could have been done to prevent the murder of Jennifer Agee? Did fellow officers see signs? Were comments made prior to the shooting or around the time the couple divorced that he was going to "take care" of the problem? Was it apparent he was angry over the ending of the marriage? Besides training in the community as it relates to stalking and intimate partner violence, what are fellow officers in the law enforcement community taught when it is one of their own? The answer is nothing. It is not part of training either at the police academy or in continuing education.

How about programs for wives and girlfriends former or otherwise? What measures are in place for their safety? The answer is nothing. They have no shield, no place to run, no training as it relates to possibly diffusing the situation. In this tragic case, Jennifer Agee was stalked prior to her being killed.

In a newspaper remark it said "It was not clear what made the 32-year-old deputy snap." In my opinion, he did not just snap! This was brewing over time. No one wakes up one morning out of the clear blue and decides to kill. It does not happen that way.

If the Franklin County Sheriff Ewell A. Hunt wants to investigate this tragedy, I suggest he begin by interviewing her friends, family and his. Talk with those they both knew and worked with on a daily basis. Obtain the cell phone, text and computer emails, records from each of them. What about where she lived? Did she call police because he was following her? Was a report written or dismissed because he was in law enforcement?

This is and should not be treated as an isolated incident. As I write this you have partners married or in a relationship with law enforcement whom are now living in greater fear for their lives. While you should always be there for your officers, consider going that extra mile as it pertains to spouses and girlfriends as they also require special attention during this time.

In memory of Jennifer Agee, it is the very least you can do, before someone else is killed.

If you are in a violent relationship the first time you are threatened, hit, stalked, questioned in a controlling way, a second chance to save your life, is no longer an option.

“If you are reading this and find yourself in a similar situation, know that there are measures you must take before announcing the end of your relationship. These safety precautions can be found in the book, "Time's Up: A Guide on How to Leave an Abusive and Stalking Relationship" by Susan Murphy Milano. Don't take things into your own hands without expert guidance.” (Mothers Are Vanishing)

I cannot stress enough, if you are in a relationship that has a history of violence, simply mustering up the courage to confront the person and say it is over, without the proper tools, can cost you, your life!

One of the major reasons women stay in abusive relationships is fear. They are afraid of what will happen to them and their children if they leave. Sadly, their fears are often justified; statistics show that a woman is at the greatest risk for injury when sheannounces her plans or leaves an abusive relationship.

The book "Time's Up A Guide on How To Survive and Abusive and Stalking Relationship" is the prescription, if you will, that every person must obtain before they announce they are leaving. Below is an example from Chapter 4, one of many unique tools provided in the book. It is available onAmazon.com, or you can purchase via e-book or on a cd. If you have questions, the email address is: timesupforjustice@gmail.com

Before you decide that you have had enough and are ending the relationship create for yourself the "Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" and video (shown below).

If you do nothing else, please take one important step that if something does happen to you, if you do vanish like Stacy Peterson, Vensus Stewart, Rachel Anderson, Susan Powell, Lisa Stebic, or arefound murdered like Monica Beresford-Redmond, Franki Jacobson, Renee Pagel, Summer Inman,Kelly Rothwell and others where the person responsible has gotten away with murder that your voice and record of the abuse will be captured and recorded. Do it for you friends, family and loved ones. Do it for your children. Do it for you!

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.

Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visithttp://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is also in partnership with Pamela Chapman and iAscend Programs. http://pamelachapmanl.biz

Susan is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/ and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr Laurie Roth. Susan is a survivor- the daughter of a police officer family intimate partner homicide by her father who murdered her mother before committing suicide.

Elizabeth New Jersey Violates Federal Law

"On October 29, 2010 I wrote a post titled "Murder in Progress: Elizabeth New Jersey." About a police officers wife whom found the courage after 13 years of abuse and threats on her life and that of her children's lives to press criminal charges against him. He is a commissioned police officer."

For the wife of any police officer whether they live in New Jersey, Chicago, Washington, Iowa, Florida or Kentucky, they all face a greater threat to their lives when they speak out as they end the relationship. On the post I wrote earlier I withheld the name of the victim. Tomorrow is the court date for this case. And the life of this officers wife and her 2 daughters is in grave danger.

Her name is Clara Colon. And, with good reason, she is in fear for her life. Earlier today Clara spoke with the prosecutor. She was informed that a plea deal has been reached and at 1:00 pm eastern time, on Friday January 14, 2011, Stafford Municipal Court in Judge Damin Murray's courtroom this case will not be tried. The officer will be charged with disorderly misconduct, pay a $500 court fine and go to anger management classes.

Clara Colon was allegedly told by the prosecutor that she was just a vindictive woman who is going through a divorce and you will not get anything and its all her fault.Then she asked Clara why she waited so long. Obviously, the prosecutor has little understanding, training or experience of the dangers involved as it relates to intimate partner violence and the legal system when your relationship involves a law enforcement officer.

The system in this case re-victimized and punished Clara Colon for pressing charges and asking the law to protect her. Suddenly a police report of facts has been replaced with a neat and tidy typed up report by fellow officers who are clearly not going to go up against the brotherhood of the badge. The assault and threats against her life with a weapon have been omitted from the "pretty report". In its place the word minor bruise on elbow. "He assaulted me, tried to kill me, but the brotherhood saved him."

There is still the investigation with the Internal Affairs Division in Elizabeth New Jersey but Clara said " what good is that, they are all his friends. And once he completes his "anger" classes if not before, his guns will be returned. "Hooray to the blue and the hell to the victim, your pain and suffering means nothing to the justice system. He will hunt me down and my daughters and murder us just like he has been threatening for over a decade."

No one changes overnight. "I want everyone to know, this man is a dangerous individual, that is being protected like the golden child by his supervisor/ brother who is a Lieutenant and others on the Elizabeth Police Department."

In real time we are seeing a dangerous pattern of conduct few officers wives survive. For women like my mother murdered by my police detective father she also echoed the exact same words. No one believed her while she was alive. They divorced after some 28 years of marriage. A few short months later, my father as do most abusive officers, made good on his promise.

So now what? Measures have been put in place for her safety since October and through the holidays, but it will not stop the bullet already marked with her name on it. There is no assistance for Clara or other women in her situation, we just wait and watch and ask why only after the tragedy.

But here is a question. Is Stafford Township in violation of a federal law? The Lautenberg Act says if you are convicted of a misdemeanor or a felony, you lose your job. Clara Colon's husband will plead guilty to a misdemeanor in court and yet he will retain his position as a sworn servant commissioned to serve and protect?

The Lautenberg Act:

In September of 1996, a federal law was passed which prohibits individuals -- including

police officers -- from owning or using a firearm if they have been convicted of a misdemeanor domestic violence offense (18 U.S.C. § 925). This bill, widely referred to as the Lautenberg Act, was passed as an amendment to the Omnibus Consolidated Appropriations Act of 1996. By modifying the Gun Control Act of 1968, the Lautenberg Act expanded existing federal law that only barred gun ownership from those convicted of a felony offense to include those convicted of a qualifying misdemeanor domestic violence offense. The offense does not need to be designated as domestic violence within state law, but is covered under the Lautenberg Act if it involves the use or attempted use of physical force or threat with a deadly weapon and is committed against:

• a current or former spouse,

• a past or present cohabiting partner,

• a person with whom the perpetrator has a child in common

• a person with whom the officer has or has had a dating relationship

(Individuals with a felony or misdemeanor conviction for domestic violence are ineligible

to own firearms or ammunition even if the offense occurred before the law was enacted.)

When is the justice system going to stop punishing victims of intimate violence? Where are her rights? An officer takes an oath to serve and protect, but their families are immune from receiving protection from the system when their lives are endanger.

Unfortunately, we will have to wait until after tomorrow's hearing to begin plan "B" in this case.

All anyone is asking is for the justice system to stop kicking the lives and safety of women and children whose abusers are in law enforcement, to the curb like trash on garbage day!

Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visithttp://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and SurviveAbusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talkhttp://www.herewomentalk.com/and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr. Laurie Rothhttp://www.therothshow.com/

Theresa Parker: Can Finally Go Home

Theresa Parker, a 911 dispatcher with the Walker County Sheriff’s office in Atlanta, vanished without a trace in March of 2007. She was going through a divorce with her estranged husband Sgt. Sam Parker, a Police Officer in Lafayette.

Sam claimed as so many whom commit intimate partner homicide,” he had nothing to do with her disappearance.” And they she “ran away to start a new life.”

In September 2009, a jury found Sam Parker guilty of malice murder after a three week trial, even though Theresa's body had never been found. Judge Jon "Bo" Wood sentenced him to serve the rest of his life in prison.

Today, at news conference officials announced the remains of Theresa Parker were found off Fullerton Road in Lyerly -- southwest of Summerville in rural Chattooga County. Ironically, this is the area Sam knew very well.

In cases of Intimate Homicide when a victim’s suddenly vanishes, often when remains are finally discovered, the killer almost always goes to a place that is familiar specifically to them. In this case it was near Sam Parker’s childhood home, an area he knew better than anyone.

Today, from behind the blue wall Theresa Parker's voice, although silenced is finally going home with her family where she belongs. The discovery of her remains elimates the possibility for Parker to file an appeal (because he can no longer claim there is not a body) and ask the higher courts for a new trial.

Gloria Allred: Hit or Miss?

I was disturbed by the recent publicity stunt of famed attorney Gloria Allred and her client, porn star Joslyn James[photo left], over a company selling golfs balls called "Tail of the Tiger".

The balls were produced by a company called Creative Classics out of Canada and are sold with the names and pictures of the 12 alleged ladies with whom Tiger Woods sought sexual pleasure outside his marriage.

Now, let me be clear, I have no issue with Ms. Allred, I do however take it as a personal slap in the face when anyone claims that using these specific balls condones violence against women. That is absurd!

During the press conference Gloria Allred used a large graphic to demonstrate that swinging a club and hitting these balls furthers violence. I could see if a company produced ammunition or pocket knives with pictures of women, but golf balls?

Joslyn James then spoke and said she is is angry that a Canadian company has put her portrait on a golf ball it is selling as part of its "Mistress Collection," "I feel that it is wrong for a golf ball to have my picture on it because golfers hit their golf balls with a lot of force," she said.


Then I nearly fell out of my chair as I heard the porn star Joslyn James say:

"As a victim of violence myself, it bothered me to think that someone would be standing with a dangerous club in their hands hitting a ball with my photo on it."



Golf is a game played on a course that involves hitting balls into holes and unless a club is used to threaten a person similar to a baseball bat there is no danger. And yet, instead of simply holding a press conference saying a class action lawsuit would be filed or they were upset with this company for producing golf balls, these two women are using a life and death epidemic and swinging it around as if to imply it is dangerous to women.

In my opinion Pornography, those who work, sell and produce these graphic images is by far more dangerous for women and young girls.


Joslyn James and Gloria Allred should each publicly apologize for this hair brain stunt!

"God Bless you, Susan McFarland"

Gone Forever is a story of violence and murder behind closed doors. The book written by author Diane Fanning shows us human behavior at its worst and why people stay in violent marriages that often lead to murder. Even when the acts by a spouse are unacceptable, people look the other way or assume that the person is just "odd." Friends and close relatives are naive and often believe that there will be a magical change in an abuser which as we all know never happens in the real world of family violence.

Recently, Diane Fanning wrote a guest blog on Time's Up regarding this case.

"When my readers pick up one of my books, I want them to see the victim as a real person—as someone who deserved to live their life to the fullest. Only family and friends can supply me with the anecdotes and the information about personality that enable me to shape a portrait of their deceased loved one and thus, allow my readers to understand the magnitude of the loss suffered by this crime."

"I have found through the years that the people who shared their memories and thoughts with me are grateful that they did. I’ve received many notes and emails thanking me for remembering their loved one in my book. Some of these people continue to maintain contact, years after publication.

The more in-depth information I can gather, the better job I do. When I wrote GONE FOREVER, I had an amazing treasure chest of information about Susan McFarland—access to her personal journal, a sibling’s perspective on her childhood and the memories of friends throughout her life. I felt a strong emotional connection to her. I wrote about this feeling in the Afterword of the book:

One morning while driving up Interstate Highway 35 to Austin, Susan McFarland became so real to me that I thought about how much more I would enjoy the ride if she were sitting beside me sharing stories and passing the time together. Then the realization struck—I would never be able to meet her. I would never bump into her in Central market. I would never laugh with her over lunch. I would never hear the sound of her voice or see the sunny glow of her smile.

At that moment, I was hit by a sense of loss so visceral; it took my breath away and formed pools of water in my eyes. The light of a life-enriching personality was snuffed out, never to brighten anyone’s day again. Gone forever—all because of the violent selfishness of one man.

To this day, I think of Susan when I enter the dark recesses of a crime—talking to killers, looking at crime scene photos, reading autopsy reports. She is my bridge to surviving family and friends, one that allows me to glimpse the inner strength and determination that many of them possess. She reminds me that her story has the potential to save the lives of other women. I owe her a debt of gratitude that I can never repay. God bless you, Susan McFarland."

Writing a book is a long process that is why I write blogs on victims so we can learn from their lives in hopes of saving others. But a published book is different it records the history and the details of persons life before during and after an event. For Susan McFarland and the other victims Diane Fanning writes about in her books, she also enshrines their lives in the Library of Congress for at least one hundred years, if for nothing else but to say their lives mattered before they were abruptly removed by another individual's rage.

Bring Them Home

If you were to ask a dozen strangers on what they want for Christmas the response for each person would be different.

But, if you ask a family devastated by the murder of a loved one where a case has gone cold and the family continues searching for the remains of their loved one, you would receive identical responses. PLEASE help us locate the remains of our loved one so we can give them a proper burial. That is all these 2 families are asking for Christmas.


For the former police officers wives like Theresa Parker, who disappeared in Georgia on 3/25/2007, the family would reply "bring Theresa home".


For the family of Stacy Peterson, loving mother, who disappeared on 10/28/2007, and the wife of Former Police officer Drew Peterson, her family and children only ask "to bring Stacy Peterson home'.


The lights in both families homes are burning brightly, twenty-four hours a day in hopes that their Christmas Prayers are answered and these two women are finally found.

White House Press Release Won't Stop The Slaughter

At the begining of October President Obama issued a Proclaimation as it relates to this being National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. With great admiration for our President, without a strategic plan of action words in a press release do nothing to stop the slaughter of Americans' and their children suffering from an epidemic where bodily harm and murder are taking the lives of innocent victims due partially to lack of funding and services for its' victims.

Perhaps the President and his administration would consider creating a campaign asking prominent sports figures (that don't have a history of violence themselves) to participate in public service announcements during televised games sending a message that violence is not acceptable behavior, it is a criminal offense and just like drunk driving you will be arrested and prosecuted.

Another suggestion is to create a brief message for school students delivered by President Obama himself to classrooms benefiting those whose voices are silenced because they believe violence is a way of life in their own homes.

The current admistration has the power to change the plight for victims of violence in our nation. It requires a heck of a lot more than issuing a proclaimation that most will never read because they have already lost their lives!

President Obama's proclamation:

THE WHITE HOUSEOffice of the Press SecretaryFor Immediate Release October 1, 2009 NATIONAL DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS MONTH, 2009- - - - - - -BY THE PRESIDENT OF THE UNITED STATES OF AMERICAA PROCLAMATION

Domestic violence touches the lives of Americans of allages, leaving a devastating impact on women, men, and children of every background and circumstance. A family's home becomesa place of fear, hopelessness, and desperation when a woman isbattered by her partner, a child witnesses the abuse of a lovedone, or a senior is victimized by family members. Since the 1994passage of the landmark Violence Against Women Act, championed by then Senator Joe Biden, our Nation has strengthened its responseto this crime and increased services for victims. Still, far toomany women and families in this country and around the world areaffected by domestic violence. During National Domestic ViolenceAwareness Month, we recommit ourselves to ending violence withinour homes, our communities, and our country.

To effectively respond to domestic violence, we must provideassistance and support that meets the immediate needs of victims.Facing social isolation, victims can find it difficult to protectthemselves and their children. They require safe shelter andhousing, medical care, access to justice, culturally specificservices, and economic opportunity. The Family ViolencePrevention and Services Act supports emergency shelters, crisisintervention programs, and community education about domesticviolence.

In the best of economic times, victims worry about finding ajob and housing, and providing for their children; these problemsonly intensify during periods of financial stress. That is whythe American Recovery and Reinvestment Act provides $325 millionfor the Violence Against Women Act (VAWA) and the Victims ofCrime Act (VOCA). This funding will supplement the Federal VAWAand VOCA dollars that flow to communities every year, and enableStates, local governments, tribes, and victim service providersto retain and hire personnel that can serve victims and holdoffenders accountable. These funds will also bring relief tovictims seeking a safe place to live for themselves and their children.

Victims of violence often suffer in silence, not knowingwhere to turn, with little or no guidance and support. Sadly,this tragedy does not just affect adults. Even when childrenare not directly injured by violence, exposure to violence inthe home can contribute to behavioral, social, and emotionalproblems. High school students who report having experiencedphysical violence in a dating relationship are more likely touse drugs and alcohol, are at greater risk of suicide, and maycarry patterns of abuse into future relationships. Our effortsto address domestic violence must include these young victims.

During this month, we rededicate ourselves to breaking thecycle of violence. By providing young people with educationabout healthy relationships, and by changing attitudes thatsupport violence, we recognize that domestic violence can beprevented. We must build the capacity of our Nation's victimservice providers to reach and serve those in need. We urgecommunity leaders to raise awareness and bring attention tothis quiet crisis. And across America, we encourage victims andtheir families to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at1-800-799-SAFE. Together, we must ensure that, in America, novictim of domestic violence ever struggles alone.

NOW, THEREFORE, I, BARACK OBAMA, President of theUnited States of America, by virtue of the authority vestedin me by the Constitution and the laws of the United States,do hereby proclaim October 2009, as National Domestic ViolenceAwareness Month. I ask all Americans to do their part to end domestic violence in this country by supporting their communities' efforts to assist victims in finding the helpand healing they need.

IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I have hereunto set my hand thisfirst day of October, in the year of our Lord two thousand nine,and of the Independence of the United States of America thetwo hundred and thirty-fourth.

BARACK OBAMA

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Detective of A&E's "First 48" Murders Wife

He called her hoping to reconcile asking her to come over to the library and talk to her and they met in the library parking lot,” according to police. “She went to talk to him and that’s when the shooting started.”

Within minutes of meeting, shots rang out in the parking lot of the Canton Public Library as an off-duty Detroit Police homicide investigator shot and killed his wife, also a Detroit Police officer, who committed suicide.

Members of the Detroit Police department knew the marriage between their “buddy in blue” Detroit homicide detective and his police officer wife was increasingly violent.
Over the weekend, Officer Patricia Williams went to the Canton police station to report that her husband had assaulted her.

"But she decided not to press charges and she did not cooperate with the officers when they asked for more information” according to law enforcement.” I will wager because the officer was a television star on A&E’s the “First 48” Patricia Williams was discouraged from swearing out a formal complaint that would tarnish the violent cowardly tin badge reputation of not only the detective but, the department’s revenue from the A& E reality show.

In one episode, cold case Detective Williams said that he didn't understand why people commit murder."When you have a situation, and it was that brutal, you look at it and you're like 'what type of individual would do something like this?' It amazes me that people are willing to just end someone else's life. If I was here for 25 years I would never be able to make sense out of it," Williams said.

The cold hard facts to this senseless tragedy are it could have been prevented. It is easier to say “she refused to press charges” because who is going to dispute the police departments claims now? She is dead! There was no “department protocol” in place to assist Officer Patricia Williams or anyone else in this Country who are married to violent offenders.

This Detroit department looked the other way when on the morning of Patricia’s “preventable” murder they stood in silence right beside Detective Edward Williams as he aimed and fired.

This only adds to fuel to the alarming epidemic of "Blue Defending Blue" if you are in a relationship with an abuser in law enforcement as a victim can you can expect the truth to be swept among the leaves that will eventually cover your final resting place!

Coward With A Badge is Finally Captured

[former police office Derrick Yancey]

Special agents from the U.S. Department of State's Diplomatic Security Service (DSS) located Derrick Yancey in Punta Gorda, Belize. Yancey is wanted in Georgia for double murder of his wife Linda Yancey and a day laborer. Yancey on the run since April was arrested by Belize law enforcement and is awaiting return to the United States.

Yancey was a deputy with the DeKalb County, Georgia Sheriff's Department. In August of 2008, DeKalb County Sheriff's Office charged Yancey with two counts of murder. He was released on $150,000 bond awaiting trial under the condition that he be confined to house arrest. On April 4, 2009, Yancey violated the conditions of his bond and escaped house arrest. In June of 2009 America's Most Wanted featured the fomer officer on their show. Since then, he has been on the run, even eliciting the attention of television's "Americas Most Wanted."

On September 17, 2009, DSS agents in the Regional Security Office in Belmopan, Belize received an investigative lead from the U.S. Marshals Service and the Dekalb County Sheriff's Office on the possible whereabouts of Yancey. Within sixty hours of that tip, DSS agents in Belize were able to confirm Yancey's presence in Punta Gorda and locate his residence.On September 19, 2009, after extensive coordination between officers of the Belize Police Department and personnel in Diplomatic Security's Regional Security Office in Belmopan, both U.S. and Belizean law enforcement awaited Yancey's return to his neighborhood.

Upon arrival at a local bar, at 6:05 PM local time, a DSS agent tapped on Yancey's shoulder and told him "It is time to go." Belize authorities then arrested Yancey.

According to DSS agents, Yancey stated that he was surprised and shocked upon capture. Yancey also revealed he was relieved that he was finally caught and prepared to go home. DSS agents in Washington, DC and Belize will coordinate with The U.S. Marshals Service to arrange for Yancey's return in the near future.

"Diplomatic Security's regional security office in Belmopan maintains an excellent working relationship with local law enforcement personnel, thus enabling Yancey's capture," said, Edgar Moreno, The Bureau of Diplomatic Security's Assistant Director for Domestic Operations. "It's this type of close, worldwide law enforcement liaison capability that gives Diplomatic Security unparalleled ability to locate, pursue, and apprehend fugitives."

Counting Yancey's detention, Diplomatic Security has coordinated the capture of five of America's Most Wanted fugitives in 2009 alone, including previous captures made this year by authorities in Brazil, Nicaragua, Israel, and the Philippines.

Key Witness From The Grave

A key witness in the murder trial of Theresa Parker died this past weekend. But, thank God the Prosecutor was on the ball and there is now a videotaped deposition in this case.

You remember Sam Parker the former Atlanta Police Sergeant accused of killing his estranged wife, Theresa Parker, who disappeared in March 2007. He also faces three other felonies — computer invasion of privacy, obstructing justice and violation of his oath as a law officer.
Mrs. Cordell, a neighbor of Parker's, testified via deposition for Floyd County District Attorney Leigh Patterson in May.

No surprise that Sam Parker’s lawyer, David Dunn, argued that allowing a deposition would violate his client’s constitutional right to face his accusers. He said the prosecution should bring its witnesses to court as everyone else does. And if you recall Theresa'a body has never been found.

I can hear Crawford vs Washington being used to reverse the judge’s decision. And I expect this case will likely be argued based on the video testimony to go all the way to the Supreme Court.
The judge has allowed the videotaped deposition by the neighbor into the trial.

Article: Judge keeps Parker in jail
Article: Chattanooga: Judge denies separation of charges for Parker
PDF: Indictment against Sam Parker and motions from defense lawyers and prosecutors
Article: Georgia: Sam Parker talks about life in jail
Article: Investigators use robotic camera to search well, Blue Hole for clues or body of Theresa Parker
Judge denies bond for Sam Parker
Parker bond pending judge’s decision
Parker facing more charges

According to "Legal Roaster" Cops Held at Higher Standard?

Earlier this week a judge denied bond for the former Georgia Police Sgt.Sam Parker charged in the murder of his wife Theresa Parker whose body has not been found.

Theresa Parker vanished in March of 2007. And the couple were finalizing their divorce. So the former officer will remain in jail. A trial date has not been set.

And what about Georgia Sheriff Derrick Yancey from Atlanta who paid the $150,000 cash bond after being charged with the murders of his wife Linda Yancey also a police officer and a day laborer. They put him on a home monitoring device. Tweleve hours later it was discovered that he escaped and has been on the run for 7 weeks. Anyone with information on Derrick Yancey's whereabouts could go to the http://www.amw.com/fugitives/brief.cfm?id=64701 Web site, or call 1-800-CRIME-TV.

Then their is Drew Peterson charged with the murder of wife #3 Kathleen Savio who sits in a Will County jail awaiting another hearing on Thursday, May 21, 2009. Apparently my favorite legal marshmallow roaster made a comment on one of the talk shows claiming "cops are held to a tougher standard in domestic violence claims against them." What planet has he been practicing law? "Abusers R US?"

Fact is law enforcement officers are not held to any such standard as it relates to police perpetrated crimes in the home. For more on the subject go to part 2 of the Drew Peterson series with myself and Robin Sax over at Women In Crime Ink.

Where Do You Turn When Your Husband is A Cop? Join Us Today on The Susan Murphy Milano Show at 3:00PM CST

The Susan Murphy Milano Show airs every Wednesday @ 4 PM ET/ 3 CT / 2 MT/ 1 PT

It is difficult for those involved in domestic violence in a relationship or married to a law enforcement officer to seek safety and services outside the blue wall.

We will discuss the barriers for women in this situations face and provide solutions to a road for safety. We will examine the facts in the Kathleen Savio Murder, Linda Yancey, Lori DeKleine Murder and others on why police departments continue conducting business as usual when it comes to investigations within their rank and file.

Guests:

Under the name Cloud Writer the Site Behind The Blue Wall has ensured the voices of police officer wives and girlfriends on crime's perpetrated from behind the blue wall are heard across the country. Police Officer Involved Domestic Violence. Lighting a candle of remembrance for those who've lost their lives to domestic violence behind the blue wall, for strength and wisdom to those still here, and a non-ending prayer for those who thought they had escaped but can't stop being afraid.

Renee Harrington worked in law enforcement and the criminal justice fields, where she authored domestic violence/crime victim programs. As a survivor of officer-involved domestic violence [OIDV], she has dedicated her time to working with victims of OIDV; advocating; educating others/the public about OIDV; authored Michigan OIDV legislation and advocated for laws to protect victims of OIDV. With the help of OIDV Network, She has created Michigan Officer Involved Domestic Violence the first website dedicated to victims and survivors of Officer Involved Domestic Violence in Michigan. In 2008, Laura Spars founded & Jennifer Aukerman co-founded the Michigan Officer-Involved Domestic Violence Corp., and it is a great honor for me to be working side by side with Laura and Jennifer. Current projects I am working on with Michigan Officer Involved Domestic Violence Corp include creating/maintaining MIOIDV's websites and creating Pam's Place for victims of OIDV. Renee is working on a book about Michigan officer-involved domestic violence cases, and hope one day to write/publish a book about the personal stories of victims/survivors of OIDV, in their own words, in the hopes of giving victims/survivors their voices.

Go to http://www.blogtalkradio.com/susanmurphymilano and listen to the show live.

Lending Your Voice's

Shortly before Barbara Vanaman wife and mother of 2 boys was gunned down in her kitchen by then Sergeant Robert Vanaman the following was found on her computer:

"She wrote in that computer, 'I don't know all the future holds for me. And I'm scared of what will happen in the future'..."

On Monday, April 27, 2009, Robert Vanaman who plead guilty to his wife’s murder last month will be sentenced before a judge. Many are concerned the former cop will not receive much of a sentence based on the fact he and his family are well known in the community. But, you have an opportunity to make a difference and be heard. The family has requested letters to be sent to the judge.

We [the family] are asking that letters be addressed to: The Honorable Judge Martin Herman. Please let him know how you feel and what you think. You must sign the letter. There cannot be any anonymous letters. Please fax your letter to (856) 447-1169 by Monday morning. In advance, the family of Barbara would like to thank you for your help and cooperation.

Please consider lending your voice in hopes the judge does not give Robert Vanaman probation or a reduced sentenced.

Derrick Yancey Double Murderer Escapes From House Arrest & GPS Monitoring Device

A double murder suspect released on bond, placed on house arrest slipped out of his GPS device and escaped.

Eleven hours later the monitoring company alerted officials, Derrick Yancy, 49 years of age is missing. According to his attorney who says his client is innocent the poor soul had been depressed for several days. No telling where Yancey went, he is armed and dangerous.

The former DeKalb County, Georgia Sheriff, charged with the double murder of his wife Linda Yancy and day laborer Marocal Puluc was allowed to make bail and placed on house arrest in August of 2008.

Now, armed and dangerous Yancy is on the run. Why isn't he behind bars?

This case has had a foul odor from day one!

Anyone with information should call the DeKalb Sheriff's Fugitive Squad at 404-298-8200.

On Trial From the Grave

The trial doesn't begin until March 23, 2009 in the murder of Barbara Vanaman, a police officers wife shot twice in May of 2006.

It comes as no suprise from the grave this victims life will be placed on trial. Often, we do not think much about the lives of women caught in the cross fire of police perpetrated violence or homicide. Because they are rarely given the opportunity to speak. Often silenced in their tracks by a badge and a gun.

This case like so many thousands of others is no different. Barbara was moving on with her life. She was seeking a divorce. This is a dangerous time for any woman let alone the wife of a person in law enforcement.

This week a judge allowed Barbara Vanaman's private counseling records to be unsealed. You see while see is unable to defend herself from the grave, her husband's defense team will be picking apart line by line every word written by a private therapist.

I do not agree with the releasing of these mental health case files. Especially since former police Sgt. Robert Vanaman planned Barbara's murder. This was not a random act or an accident. Robert Vanaman was angry. He simply sought revenge.

Barbara Vanaman was sentenced to death. Silenced, for wanting out of her abusive marriage.

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Husband Pretends Wife is Alive

Becky Brosnan , 32 and mother of two children was found beaten to death last week.

Sadly, her estranged husband took her life. The couple was going through a divorce.

I cannot stress enough, to anyone going through a divorce, the importance of safety. Women are being slaughtered by their husbands all on the name of power and control. Often they let their guard down by agreeing to meet their estranged husbands alone to "talk things out."

And in many situations the woman talks about divorce prior to securing a proper strategy. A strategy includes not only custody, assets, legal representation, but safety.

Before you mention the word divorce in your home, especially if your partner is controlling or abusive:
You must have a safety plan.
You must notify someone each time you walk out the door.
Send out an email alert telling folks where you are going and with whom.
Take your cell phone and have it programed to 911 when in the presence of this person.
If possible have an additional back-up cell phone that you keep charged in case of emergencies.
If the situation gets heated have the phone programed to 911 and just press the button.
Keep your keys in your pocket. If you have an automatic door lock on your key ring, sound the alarm button on the device.
Never meet the person with whom you are ending your relationship with alone.
For additional information and important tasks you will need to complete pick up a copy of "Moving Out Moving On" when a relationship goes wrong. Or order on line HERE.

After he killed her, Uriah Brosnan dumped her boby near his workplace. He covered up his crime by posting on line and texting friends and relatives prentending to Becky. In an attempt to cover up the crime and buy himself time.

He sent electronic messages from Becky Brosnan’s personal accounts, including e-mail and MySpace.com, after he killed her during a fight in his office at a roofing business.

One of the posts he wrote said “I need to find me. I can’t trust anyone right now. Getting away for some me time.”

The husband is in Spokane County Jail charged with first-degree murder. Brosnan’s bail is set at $1 million.

According the NewsTribune :”The Brosnans, married in 1997, were going through a divorce. Their children – a 10-year-old boy and 5-year-old girl – were a point of contention, family members and police say.“The more she fought for her children, the harder it was,” Becky Brosnan went to meet her husband to discuss the children on Jan. 28. Uriah Brosnan told police that he picked up a hammer and hit her in the head. When she continued to fight, he picked up a metal bar and hit her numerous times, Brosnan told police.“Before I knew it, she was dead,” he said.Uriah Brosnan then bound her hands and feet, wrapped her in black plastic secured with duct tape, and dragged her – “easily” – out of the building, according to the interview with police.He left the body behind a chain link fence among composite shingles and wood scraps, next to the business, police said. Brosnan then cleaned his office and threw away his bloody clothes, police said.

In the midst of the bloody event, Brosnan’s boss, Tom Wilson, stopped by the business and noticed a light on, police said. Brosnan refused to open his office door for his boss, claiming to be alone and doing paperwork.The next day, Jan. 29, when Becky Brosnan failed to show up for a family gathering, her stepmother called police to say the absence was extremely unusual.Meanwhile, Uriah Brosnan had hacked into his wife’s e-mail and MySpace page, and used her cell phone to send text messages, police said.Police tracked the IP address to determine who had made the post on her MySpace page and determined it came from Uriah Brosnan’s computer.

He accessed her MySpace page 38 times from Jan. 28 to Feb. 6, a forensic expert determined. On Feb. 2, a text was sent from Becky Brosnan’s cell phone to her stepmom saying, “I’m OK.”One text message was sent to Bascetta saying she was out of town and that her car was at her husband’s house.When Becky Brosnan had been missing for five days, the Spokane Major Crimes unit began investigating. Detectives interviewed Uriah Brosnan and his girlfriend, Crystle Sellers, on Thursday, and they grew suspicious when his “story” varied, said Spokane police Officer Jennifer DeRuwe.Brosnan was fired Friday, police said.Police searched Brosnan’s workplace Monday, where they found blood on an office chair and drag marks. A forensics team collecting evidence there early Tuesday discovered the body among the debris about 2:30 a.m., said Spokane police Sgt. Joe Peterson.Becky Brosnan’s boyfriend, Bascetta, said the family was worried about the struggles she was having with her divorce. “This happening was all in the back of our minds, but we never thought he was capable.”

Did an Argument Turn Deadly? Where is Heather Malloy?

Heather Mallory, 4 months pregnant from Portland, Oregon, went missing 11 months ago. The family has offered a $6,000 reward on this case.

Her husband and her 3-year-old son now live in Idaho. Her body was never found, but police think she is dead.

Heather Mallory stayed out all night partying on March 8th and came home to her southeast Portland apartment the next morning.

Her husband, Brian Cole, confronted her about her all-nighter.That was the last known time anyone saw Mallory alive.Cole says she left after the argument.

Police think she’s dead but have yet to find a body. Her car was found abandoned, and her cell phone has had zero activity. Neither has her credit card.Steve and Jeni Mallory—Heather’s parents—talk to police every week hoping something turns up.

While they still have hope, what her parents really want is closure. Cole took and failed a voluntary lie detector after Mallory went missing, but he is not listed as a suspect, only a ‘person of interest. For more information visit Help Find The Missing.

$25,000 Reward Offered For Information On Missouri Mom

The case of missing Missouri mother of three children, Renee Pernice is now officially a death investigation, she vanished Jan. 1, 2009

No surprise, Renee was last seen by her husband Shon Pernice.

"We believe foul play is involved," Clay County Prosecutor Daniel White said Thursday.

Existing evidence and the amount of time that has passed since the woman's disappearance led prosecutors to change the status from a missing persons case to a death investigation, White said. No one, or in my opinion, the only one who is responsible has yet to be arrested in his wife's murder.

Shon Pernice, a local firefighter and an Army medic who had recently returned from service in Iraq, has given different dates for when he last saw his wife, police have said.

He told relatives he last saw Renee Pernice on Jan. 1, but said it was Jan. 2 when questioned by detectives, according to court documents.Renee Pernice was in the process of divorcing her husband, who was planning to move out of the house at the end of January, relatives say.

The missing woman's family has offered a $25,000 reward for new information about her disappearance."We can't stress enough how we need someone's help out there someone who knows something," said Linda Lockwood, Renee's mother.

Last month, investigators collected carpet and blood samples from the couple's home. When they searched the house Jan. 8, they discovered latex gloves in a coat pocket, stains on a pants pocket, a reddish substance on the ceiling and a spot in the garage that turned out to be blood.

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