"YOU DON'T OWN ME"

Over 46 years ago Leslie Gore released the smash hit "You Don't Own Me." Back then I am not sure if the young artist understand that her words would have such a profound meaning in 2010, but they do! The song was recorded again for the movie the first wives club released in 1996. The lyrics are important " Don't tell me what to do and don't tell me what to say" and more importanly "you don't own me." For young women dating this is the message that needs to be placed in their heads, sent in emails, and in daily text messaging formats and instant twitter communications: "you don't own me."

Maybe we might save a few in the future from headlines of their own on the news because they were killed by an abusive husband or boyfriend. See, they never got the message. Or they listened and believed the lyrics in a song by a girl your daughters age, idolized by millions, whom came close herself in February of 09 to being carried off in a designer body bag.

Today, your teenagers many are without your knowledge in harmful dating relationships listening to songs like the one Rihanna recently recorded with famed abuser and rap artist eminem the song titled "Love The Way You Lie." They (your teenagers) believe that violence is accceptable, maybe even enjoyable because a woman by the name of Rihanna a victim herself, beaten and bloodied by singer Chris Brown for all the world see, is basically saying come on its not so bad to live in fear or be beaten. What is the worst that can happen? Hey like in their video you will be burned to death by a man who claims he loves you. That is the message the song is sending to your kids. Go ahead, try it. You have nothing to lose but your life.

The lyrics in the song are deadly ..."just gonna stand there and watch me burn- stand there and hear me cry that’s alright because I love the way you lie” then the rap artist abuser chimes in and sings "I love you too much to walk away I apolioze if she every tries to f...cking leave again I am going to tie her to the bed and watch her burn." Their video you will just have to go to youtube and watch, I refuse to put a link to it.

(Susan Murphy Milano, is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Psychopathy Education for more information visit http://www.saferelationships.com/ and is the author of the new book "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and where ever books are sold.)

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.

Teenagers and Dating Violence: On The Susan Murphy Milano Show: 4:00 PM EST- Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Singer Rihanna was a victim of intimate partner abuse. Last year her face plastered on every newspaper, radio and Internet site after the beating she suffered at the hands of then boyfriend, Chris Brown. Females ages 16-24 are more vulnerable to intimate partner violence than any other age group – at a rate almost triple the national average. (U.S. Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics, Special Report: Intimate Partner Violence and Age of Victim, 1993-99 (Oct.2001, rev. 11/28/01).

Today's guest is Susie Kroll, an expert in teen dating violence, will discuss healthy teen dating relationships and how they translate into strong and healthy adult relationships.

And why parents don't think to have discussions with their dating teenagers about potential threats that can arise and what to do to protect themselves.

Date: Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Time: 4:00 PM EST and 3:00 PM CST

You can listen to the show live, and participate in the chat room, the direct link for the show is HERE

We will take your calls live. The number to call in with questions or comments is 347-326-9337
(Susan Murphy Milano, is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Psychopathy Education for more information visit http://www.saferelationships.com/ and is the author of the new book "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and where ever books are sold.)

Intimate Partner Homicide Investigation: Monday September 27, 2010 at 9:00 PM

Lisa Shuttleworth has been missing since September 4, 2003 from Beech Island, SC.
The mother of two was supposed to pick up her son, Ryan, at the bus stop after school that afternoon, but in her stead an older family friend was there to meet him. Returning Ryan to his home, they found it locked and no sign of Lisa, although her car, along with a car she had borrowed, were still in her driveway. After Lisa's parents were called they all entered the house and found no signs of struggle, and the only thing missing was her purse. It looked as if Lisa planned to return shortly, even a pot of tea was on the stove, her jewelry on the kitchen counter.

Lisa was a single mother, an excellent mother according to family sources, her two children knew they were loved, well taken care of, and that she would never leave them of her own free will. So what happened to Lisa?

And on May 10, 2010 Wendy Stevens cautiously went about her day. After work, she picked up her kids and at 6:45 p.m. was at a drive-thru ATM, with her four children in the car, when five rounds of gunfire blasted into the SUV, killing the 36 year old mother 36-year-old mother from Mobile, Alabama. Immediately after the shooting, an all-points bulletin was issued for the now-armed and dangerous Berry. He was apprehended and charged the following day with Wendy's murder and held on $500,000 bond.
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You can listen to the show live, and participate in the chat room, the direct link for the show is HERE

We will take your calls live. The number to call in with questions or comments is
347-326-9337

Join the Intimate Partner Homicide Investigation” team of Sheryl McCollum, Director of the cold case Investigative Research Institute in Atlanta, Holy Hughes, Former Prosecutor turned Defense Attorney, and Violence Expert Susan Murphy Milano.

Information on cases that you suspect or have yet to be solved as they relate to Intimate Partner crime investigation and homicide, and you would like us to profile the case on the show which airs every Monday evening at 9:00 PM Eastern time, is welcomed for consideration for a future show by email to us with news articles, copies of police reports and other documentation to the Websleuths.com site or directly to us at IPHInvestigation@gmail.com

Theresa Parker: Can Finally Go Home

Theresa Parker, a 911 dispatcher with the Walker County Sheriff’s office in Atlanta, vanished without a trace in March of 2007. She was going through a divorce with her estranged husband Sgt. Sam Parker, a Police Officer in Lafayette.

Sam claimed as so many whom commit intimate partner homicide,” he had nothing to do with her disappearance.” And they she “ran away to start a new life.”

In September 2009, a jury found Sam Parker guilty of malice murder after a three week trial, even though Theresa's body had never been found. Judge Jon "Bo" Wood sentenced him to serve the rest of his life in prison.

Today, at news conference officials announced the remains of Theresa Parker were found off Fullerton Road in Lyerly -- southwest of Summerville in rural Chattooga County. Ironically, this is the area Sam knew very well.

In cases of Intimate Homicide when a victim’s suddenly vanishes, often when remains are finally discovered, the killer almost always goes to a place that is familiar specifically to them. In this case it was near Sam Parker’s childhood home, an area he knew better than anyone.

Today, from behind the blue wall Theresa Parker's voice, although silenced is finally going home with her family where she belongs. The discovery of her remains elimates the possibility for Parker to file an appeal (because he can no longer claim there is not a body) and ask the higher courts for a new trial.

Surviving Abuse, Trauma and Mental Illiness: The Susan Murphy Milano Show- Wednesday September 22, 2010 at 3:00 PM

Tayna Brown's life would forever change on June 12, 1994, when her sister Nicole Brown Simpson was found murdered Co-founder of The Nicole Brown Foundation established in 1995 to educate communities on Relationship Violence Prevention.

A a certified life coach for nearly a decade, Tayna Brown has provided education and resources to survivors of domestic violence and those suffering from mental illness, across the county.

Date: Wednesday, September 22, 2010

Time: 4:00 PM EST and 3:00 PM CST

You can listen to the show live, and participate in the chat room, the direct link for the show is HERE

We will take your calls live. The number to call in with questions or comments is
347-326-9337

(Susan Murphy Milano, is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Psychopathy Education for more information visit http://www.saferelationships.com/ and is the author of the new book "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and where ever books are sold.)

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.

Crime Wire Investigates: Tonight 9:00 PM EST

Tonight on Crime Wire:
Gang violence allegedly claimed the life of an innocent victim in Modesto, California at about 1 a.m. on August 24, 2003. Lacy Ferguson, a 25-year-old single mother, was in the wrong place at the wrong time.

According to local authorities, Lacy and her boyfriend, John Ritchie, were in a convenience store parking lot located in an area that has experienced gang activity in the past. Suddenly shots rang out, catching them by surprise. The shooters were in a dark colored vehicle that cruised slowly through the parking lot. The police believe there were at least two Hispanic males in the car, and that their target was a gang-banger named Adrian Vega. Neither Lacy nor John knew Vega; they just happened to be passing by his parked car. John and Lacy were struck by bullets. Fortunately for John, his wounds were not life-threatening. But Lacy’s were fatal. Although there were several witnesses to the incident, no arrests were made and the case remains unsolved.

However, Lacy's mother, Boni Driskill, has not given up on getting justice for Lacy. She has worked tirelessly to keep the story alive and in the public eye. Boni is president of Wings of Protection, a victim’s advocacy group that she co-founded with Susan Levy, the mother of Chandra Levy, the intern murdered in Washington, DC in 2001, and Donna Raley, step-mother of Dena Raley McClusky, who went missing in October 1999. Dena’s body was found eight years later.

Brian Sullivan disappeared early in the morning of July 8, 2007. According to reports, the a 19-year-old Churchville-Chili High graduate had spent the previous evening watching a movie at a friend’s house, then bought breakfast at the drive-through of a Chili Avenue Burger King. Investigators found a receipt for the food stamped with the time of 5:38 a.m. in Brian’s car. The red 1995 Pontiac Sunfire was found in front of a 100-acre wooded area on nearby Lettington Avenue.

The story made all the local news outlets, and family members passed out or hung posters bearing Brian’s smiling picture and asking for help in the search. When the search didn’t turn up useful leads, the Sheriff’s Office turned to the New York Branch of the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children for additional help.

Joining us is Brian’s mother Barbara Sullivan and Monica Caison founder of the non-profit CUE Center for Missing Persons, which is focused on finding the missing, advocating for their causes, and supporting their families.

Offering a wide range of free services, CUE has since helped more than 8,700 families in what is often the most confusing and desperate times of their lives. In addition to providing services for the missing and their families, CUE offers college internships and youth mentoring programs.

Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Time: 9:00 PM EST and 8:00 PM CST
Show Link: www.blogtalkradio.com/crimewire

You may call in with questions or comments please call:
(646) 478-0982

Join co-hosts Denny Griffin retired Police Investigator and Author, Susan Murphy-Milano Violence Expert and Author and Vito Colucci Jr.Private Eve and Author. Along with the Crime Wire noted experts and attorney's Mickey Sherman, Fox News Analyst Lis Wiehl, Al Dressler, Peter Hyatt, Donna Pendergast, Gene Cervantes, Patrica Caristo and Shery McCollum each

Intimate Partner Homicide Investigates: Monday September 20, 2010 at 9:00 PM EST

It's been reported that Shon Pernice of Kansas City, MO. is not only being questioned about his role in the disappearance of his wife, Renee Pernice (right), but now he is linked to another missing mother, Star Boomer (left). Star Boomer has been missing since 1999, 10 years, and she left behind a son and a family that deserve some real, truthful answers.

Shon Pernice was the last person known to see both women. In may 2010 he was arrested for the murder of Renee Pernice.

On Intimate Partner Homicide Investigation will be joined by the family of Star Boomer. And David Lohr, crime journalist will be with us discussing both cases. David Lohr has written about and interviewed many of the most notorious criminals in the world during a more than 10-year career. Previously, he was senior investigative crime writer for the former CourtTV’s “Crime Library and a feature writer/producer for Discovery Channel's Investigation Discovery network, where he gave readers a daily dose of the latest and most probing investigations.

Currently, Lohr works as a journalist for AOL News and a contributor at Erie Life Magazine.

You can listen to the show live, and participate in the chat room, the direct link for the show is HERE

We will take your calls live. The number to call in with questions or comments is
347-326-9337

Join the Intimate Partner Homicide Investigation” team of Sheryl McCollum, Director of the cold case Investigative Research Institute in Atlanta, Holy Hughes, Former Prosecutor turned Defense Attorney, and Violence Expert Susan Murphy Milano.

Information on cases that you suspect or have yet to be solved as they relate to Intimate Partner crime investigation and homicide, and you would like us to profile the case on the show,which airs every Monday evening at 9:00 PM Eastern time, is welcomed for consideration for a future show by email to us with news articles, copies of police reports and other documentation to the Websleuths.com site or directly to us at IPHInvestigation@gmail.com.

Family Courts "Splattered in Blood"

Sunday morning, three children ages 7,12 and 14 took their last breaths,as their father, during a court ordered visitation, Muhammed Goher, 47 of Houston, Texas opened fire. The school bags, neatly at the foot of the beds where the children were shot, splattered in their blood. Beanie Babies along the wall of the 7-year olds bed, soaked in her blood.

On Friday, Norma Goher, the children's mother dropped off the kids to their father, the couple was divorced, and he was to return them back to her on Sunday. The family court knew Muhammed was not stable and yet the judge went ahead and signed the order for visitation anyway. A hearing on visitation issues and removal of overnight visits with the father was scheduled for September 27th. In my opinion, one more time of court mandated "daddy time", cost the kids their lives.

There is an automatic presumption that it is in the best interest of a child “regardless of court orders”, prior violence or threats, to maintain visitation with both parents. Victims of domestic violence face a double edged sword. Either expose their children to imminent danger, or defy the court system refusing to allow visitation. Like so many others before her, Norma atttempted to deal with a violent relationship in a dysfunctional family court environment.

In family court the two parties are presumed to be on a level playing field--law abiding individuals who have a disagreement over a private family matter. A core assumption of family law is that family disputes are not criminal disputes. As such, there are few safeguards built into the family court system to protect against the criminal dynamics that dominate family disputes in cases of family violence. In addition, the accusations the victim makes in family court, no matter how serious, carry no more authority than one person's say so. One of the most serious consequences is that when a family violence victim opens a case in family court against her abuser, the abuser is given equal opportunity to fight back against the victim's accusations, often because the abusers past is not an issue. Unless, of course, he is brought in from county or state prison sporting an orange jump suit and leg shackles.

There are lawyers and men’s groups who argue using domestic violence with a broad brush is not a reason to deny fathers visitation with their children. Accusing mothers of lying or making up stories to keep fathers’ from their children.

Under the current laws, a parent without custody is entitled "reasonable visitation." There is a high burden of proof as evidenced in this case when a court refuses to take into account dangerous abusers pose to their children.

Until we place the issue of labeling these cases as a "private matter" or an isolated incident, expect the death toll among children to rise. Expect the courts to continue to ignore obvious danger signs when a victim of violence is or has ended the relationship.

After killing his children, he shot himself in the head, but remains alive and is expected to survive the attempted suicide.

(Susan Murphy Milano, is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Psychopathy Education for more information visit http://www.saferelationships.com/ and is the author of the new book "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and where ever books are sold.)

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.

Drew Peterson: Part 4 Profiling a Psychopath

When Stacy Cales began dating psychopath Drew Peterson, the teenager was easily swept off her feet. While they were dating Stacy received the news she was going to be a mother. Like the character Tarzan, Peterson beat on his chest shouting like an ape jumping through the forest of life , proud he had once again sired another child.
Within approximately a 30 year time frame he would show the world just how good his plumbing worked, fathering a total of 6 children.
Stacy Cales, now under the "dangerous love spell" did not to pay much attention to the drama in Peterson's life once he proposed marriage. She was too busy preparing for her own Cinderalla journey. Although not yet divorced from Kathleen Savio, Drew Peterson plowed through the dysfunctional forest in his old life to create a new palace for his future bride and unborn child. Stacy had no way to see the danger signs of being in a pathological love relationship with a psychopath. Peterson was clever and manipulative enough with Stacy to cover his scent of danger and replace it with things like a home, a nice car, clothes and jewelry. And remember she was a mere teenager, now under the spell of a psychopath.
In author Sandra Brown, M.A.; book "Women Who Love Psychopaths" she provides a checlist for Tarzan. (oops I meant Drew Peterson)
Psychopathy Charactertistics (defined)
glib and superficial charm
grandiose (exaggeratedly high) estimation of self
need for stimulation
pathological lying
cunning and manipulativeness
lack of guilt or remorse
shallow affect (superficial emotional responsiveness)
callousness and lack of empathy
sexual promiscuity
impulsivity
irresponsibility

This list applies to Drew Peterson, but it also applies to those currently involved with dangerous men as outlined in Sandra Brown, M.A., other book "How To Spot a Dangerous Man." So Peterson is an example and joins over 6 million others just like him who swing daily from the dysfunctional forest of behaviors that have already cost too, many unsuspecting women their lives.
For more information on relationships of invevitable harm visit www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com

[Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/  She is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold.  Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/ and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr. Laurie Roth  http://www.therothshow.com/) ]

"Relationship Safety"- From The Experts: Today at 11:00 AM EST on the Zeus Radio Network

On The Here Women Talk Radio Network, Sandra Brown, M.A., Author of "How To Spot A Dangerous Man" and Women Who Love Psychopaths, and Susan Murphy Milano Author of "Time's Up" and Moving Out Moving On," will be guests today at 11:00 AM EST, on the Vicki Childs-P.I. Answers show.

Susan Murphy Milano recently joined Sandra Brown, M.A. and the Institiute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as their Strategist for High Conflict Divorce & Custody Cases and Intimate Partner Violence Expert. After the show please visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ where you can sign up for the newsletter and read the latest news and important resources for your life offered by Institite. Both Susan and Sandra are also regular contributors to the "Times Up Blog " for survivors of violent crime.

Direct Link to the Show (Click here)
Date: Thursday, September 16, 2010

Time: 11:00 A.M. EST and 10:00 A.M. CST

Chat-in or Call (646) 652-2071

(Susan Murphy Milano, is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Psychopathy Education for more information visit http://www.saferelationships.com/ and is the author of the new book "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and where ever books are sold.)

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.

"He Loves me, He Love Me Not" - The Susan Murphy Milano Show: Wednesday, September 15, 2010 at 4:00 PM EST

Often victims of intimate partner violence struggle with their emotions like a roller caster when faced with living in fear. Fear of what will happen if they leave or end the relationship. Fear of what could happen if they remain. Join us for an informative hour on "He loves me, He Loves me not."

Todays Guest's: Cathy Scott is a true crime author, award-winning journalist, public speaker, and presenter of writers' workshops. cathy Scott's books have been reprinted in the U.K. and in Poland. Scott's work has taken her to Somalia, Saudi Arabia and Panama, as well as all over the U.S. Her last major assignment was to the Gulf region to cover Hurricane Katrina and the largest animal rescue in history for Best Friends Animal Society's magazine and web site. And she is a contributor at the site Women and Crime Ink.

Danielle Pierre is the creator of DP Motivation. a service which guides and assists its clients in creating and experiencing such things as better health, more energy, meaningful relationships, financial breakthroughs, abundance, joy and inner peace. We want you to live a life you love waking up to! Our SOUL purpose is to help you live your best life! As a Motivational Author & Empowerment Coach, it is Danielle Pierre's life mission to give those who seek to improve their lives the tools to not only improve, but to far exceed those expectations; to go after their dream life, and get it.

Date: Wednesday, September 15, 2010

Time: 4:00 PM Eastern & 3:00 PM Central

You can listen to the show live, and participate in the chat room, the direct link for the show is HERE

We will take your calls live. The number to call in with questions or comments is
347-326-9337

$50,000 Reward for The Murder of Sheila Deviney

Once again, the family of Sheila Deviney continues to fight to have her "murder" case opened and investigated in Garvin County, Oklahoma.

This evening on Intimate Partner Homicide Investigation with Sheryl McCollum, Holly Hughes and Susan Murphy Milano we learned the Deviney family is being charged by the state to preserve blood and tissue samples; important evidence in a murder case that according to Shannon Kile spokesperson for The Eleventh Commandment has never been submitted to OSBI by Acting Sheriff Steve Brooks because "he doesn't want to make it political, but he will do what he can after the November 2nd election."

Has anyone bothered to inform the Acting Sheriff that it has been 7 years and its plain unexcepatable! Perhaps the current "acting sheriff" should consider getting off their behind (in my opinion) and open up the damn case. The person or group of individuals responsible for the murder of Sheila Deviney is still roaming free among those that Acting Sheriff Brooks took an oath to serve and protect. That in an of it self is a crime!

If this were your loved one, wouldn't you demand justice? Why have the elected officials in Garvin County been allowed to sweep this under the rug? Well actually there is no more rug it went up on flames and chemicals used the day Sheila Deviney was murdered. Yes folks, she was murdered. A fire was set in various locations throughout the home that morning. The photo's of the crime scene tell the truth which is more than I can say about those in the position of power.

Sadly this case is all too common. Victims of intimate partner violence who seek custody of their children and have taken steps to end a relationship before, during or as in Sheila Deviney's case after a divorce are silenced by their abusers.

There is a $50,000 reward being offered to anyone who comes forward with information that will put the killer(s) behind bars. But first, the good people of Garvin County need to start demanding answering because as of now there is no case being investigated. The county has an "acting sheriff" whom in my expert opinion has exhibited zero pride and intergrity for service. If this were his child, heads would like roll. But it is not. How does anyone ask to be voted into an office where justice is defined by being a "career politician."

David and Susan Deviney are long standing members in Garvin County. They only ask, as you would if this were your child, for justice. Join them along with The Eleventh Commandment to make sure Sheila Deviney's voice is heard and her case re-opened now, not 7 weeks from today with more empty promises from career politicians. Politicians whom in my opinion are allowing a killer to live among you and get away with murder.

Sheriff Steve Brooks is invited to be a guest on Intimate Partner Homicide Investigation, Monday, September 27, 2010 at 9:00 PM Eastern/ 8:00 PM Central we will continue with yet another case, the murder of Tom Horton. He can email us to confirm at IPHInvestigation@gmail.com or simply call into the show at 347-326-9337.

Intimate Partner Homicide Investigation: The Sheila Deviney Murder Case- Monday at 9:00 PM EST

By Sheryl McCollum, Holly Hughes and Susan Murphy Milano

Sheila Deviney (right), 30, died on January 6, 2004, when her mobile home, located about one mile east and one mile south of Maysville, Oklahoma, burned to the ground. She was murdered. It should be no surprise that Sheila had been married to an abusive, controlling man. They had a court date over past-due child support scheduled the next day. According to eye witnesses, her ex-husband was at the home, although by law not allowed on the premises. He and another friend destroyed evidence and took items from the home.
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In Garvin County, Oklahoma, what the heck are they trying to do now on the Sheila Deviney murder case? Escalated, threats and cover-up has heated when Intimate Partner Homicide Investigation first featured this case in August. Now, the State is trying to destroy crucial evidence in the case.

On Intimate Partner Homicide Investigation will be the family of Sheila Deviney and Shannon Kile with The Eleventh Commandment, Monday, September 13, 2010 at 9:00 PM EST

You can listen to the show live, and participate in the chat room, the direct link for the show is HERE

We will take your calls live. The number to call in with questions or comments is
347-326-9337

Join the Intimate Partner Homicide Investigation” team of Sheryl McCollum, Director of the cold case Investigative Research Institute in Atlanta, Holy Hughes, Former Prosecutor turned Defense Attorney, and Violence Expert Susan Murphy Milano.

Information on cases that you suspect or have yet to be solved as they relate to Intimate Partner crime investigation and homicide, and you would like us to profile the case on the show,which airs every Monday evening at 9:00 PM Eastern time, is welcomed for consideration for a future show by email to us with news articles, copies of police reports and other documentation to the Websleuths.com site or directly to us at IPHInvestigation@gmail.com.

Drew Peterson: Part 3 Profiling a Psychopath

[“Being married to a psychopath with a badge and gun was no different than living in a house without a door to exist. Drew Peterson had carefully set the stage not just with Kathleen, but those with whom he worked.”]

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The book authored by Sandra Brown, M.A. is available at Amazon.com

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When Drew Peterson started up again with his womanizing outside the marriage, while still with Kathleen Savio, he carefully constructed his “game plan.” Drew Peterson started dating a child. A woman barely 16 years old with whom he could shape from clay and mold into what he wanted. Stacy Peterson would be his newest “catch.”

It was fairly easy for him to snare her in his destructive psychopath net.

Stacy Peterson: It is important to point out when Stacy met Drew she was only 15 or 16 years of age, a mere child with no real life experience. And for someone with Peterson's defined psychopath (as discussed in the book "Women Who Love Psychpath's") and hypnotic approach all he needed to do was dangle the carrots of a secure life in front of her and off she went.

Peterson's lavish gifts and attention to Stacy Cales in the early stages of the relationship and the promise of a family, home and permanent lifetime security was an easy sell. In reality it was Peterson's psychpaths cage in disguise.

This was criminal hijacking by a man whom preyed on a teenager to feed his immediate sexual gratification because he was not capable of maintaining a mature and healthy relationship with an adult. He was no longer seeking someone who would not listen to him when he said jump. Stacy Cales did not know enough to argue or talk back, she was having too much fun with Peterson who treated Stacy like a fairy princess, like you read out of storybook.

Peterson's need for social dominance was also an important piece in his life. Whose ego would not rise, (possibly when other things didn't) while out for and evening with a girl more than half his age?

So now he has a wife and a teen mistress. Peterson makes plans to divorce Kathleen so he can spend his life with Stacy.

The groundwork three years prior for Kathleen's "crazy behavior" has already been layed down by Drew with other law enforcement at the Bolingbrook police department. A clever psychopath always sprinkles their version of facts and events long before an erruption. Peterson knew no one would respond to Kathleen's cries for help because he made his fellow officers believe, (because they were told) she was an "angry crazy broad" who was out to get him for ending the marriage.

Drew Peterson was so good at setting the stage with fellow officers by the fact no one ever responded to her while she was alive, spilling over to her crime scene and incorrectly ruling her death an accident. Peterson's psychopath behavior was a huge victory for his already out of control and dangerous personality.

After the death of Kathleen Savio, Stacy Peterson's world would turn upside down and inside out.

Part 4: Friday, September 17, 2010

[Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/  She is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold.  Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/ and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr. Laurie Roth  http://www.therothshow.com/) ]

Drew Peterson: The Chicago Sun-Times "Blood on the Rocks"

Once again, without any regard for Kathleen Savio or Stacy Peterson’s family the Chicago Sun-Times has printed another letter from former Bolingbrook police Sergeant and Serial Psychopath Drew Peterson. No surprise, it was hand delivered likely over a scotch on the rocks with a splash of soda in the bar at the East Bank Club by Peterson’s head legal marshmallow roaster and chicken wing salesman.

The defense team is going to great lengths to paint Peterson as a loving caring father. The language used in this latest letter is authored by a coward whom used his powers as a law enforcement officer, in my opinion, to practice his criminal expertise on one wife, then perfected his craft on the other.

Peterson begins his opening script with :” It’s been almost three years since my wife Stacy went missing with the Illinois State Police and the Will County State’s Attorney’s Office launching probably the largest, most obsessive and expensive investigation in U.S. history.” Notice how he uses “my wife” in his sentence. What he is really saying to the world is “my property Stacy.” That is how in my opinion a classic intimate partner killer references their disposed of property. In Drew Peterson’s sick mind, Stacy was nothing more than someone he "controlled and owned" of which he, again in my expert opinion, removed from the family because she was too much of a liability. Yes, Stacy knew too much and when Peterson discovered she had met with Pastor Neil Schori in August of 2007, he panicked and began putting his plan of action into place. Peterson knew Stacy disclosed to the Pastor that Drew murdered Kathleen. Can someone at the newspaper explain how did Peterson know she met with the Pastor? Simple, Peterson was having her followed, otherwise why would he leave a message for the Pastor immediately after Stacy’s meeting? Was Stacy’s cell phone rigged by Drew to trace her every move? Was there a GPS tracking device on her vehicle?

If you do not remember or have not seen the interview, please take the time to watch the 6:22 minutes of questions and response’s Pastor Schori provided to Greta with Fox News. Maybe Michael Sneed and the editors can watch it too. Just click HERE.

In the next line of the letter Peterson says “the investigation has thus far turned up rumors, gossip, hearsay and outright lies.” Fact is that Kathleen Savio was murdered. And for a fact Stacy Peterson “my wife” is missing and he is the only suspect.

Peterson continues ranting by saying how his family has been threatened and harassed, well what about Kathleen and Stacy? These two women, in my opinion, were silenced to death!

In Peterson’s first letter published last month statement analysis expert and investigator Peter Hyatt takes us into the dynamics of former officer, perhaps the newspaper would consider publishing Hyatt’s analysis rather than more victim slapping from a psychopath.

One of the more disturbing lines to me in Peterson’s letter: “My little girl Lacy Ann just started Kindergarten with her daddy unable to be at her first day of school.” What about Stacy? Her little girl has been without her mommy for nearly 3 years. You do not read Peterson's words in reference to Lacy “say our child” or “Stacy’s and my little girl.” Peterson uses “my” just as he describes “my wife Stacy.”

Again, not once has Drew Peterson ever shown real emotion or concern for Stacy Peterson. Now he is using with assistance of the legal marshmallow roaster; his family as the "defense crutch strategy.”

The final blow was seeing the photo of 5 out of the 6 children submitted by a psychopath to steer the public away from the facts: Kathleen Savio the mother of 2 of the 5 children in the photo is dead. And Stacy Peterson, the mother of the two youngest, Lacy and Anthony was denied the opportunity to be there for either of her children’s first day of school, forever!

If you are outraged by the Chicago Sun Times and their disregard for the families of Kathleen Savio and Stacy Peterson by making headlines of Drew Peterson's jailhouse letters, do your part and let them know by calling, emailing or faxing. Nothing will change unless action is taken. The columnist, Micheal Sneed and her editor, should know that by making decisions based on headlines and readership instead of integrity and ethics is one of the reasons the public fuels people like Drew Peterson."

Fax number to the Chicago Sun Times is 312-321-3084 312-321-3084

Michael Sneeds direct email address is : msneed@suntimes.com

Andrew Hermann, Managing Editor 312-321-3000 312-321-3000

Zach Finken, News Editor 312-321-3000 312-321-3000

[Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/  She is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold.  Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/ and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr. Laurie Roth  http://www.therothshow.com/) ]

Drew Peterson: Part 2 : Profiling a Psychopath

Psychopaths present themselves initially as intensely interested in a woman. And according to Sandra Brown, M.A., author of "Women Who Love Psychopaths," they have connected the dots to design the best approach to get her.

Kathleen Savio: In 1992, Kathleen Savio accountant in her late twenties when a mutual acquaintance who happened to be a police officer’s wife set up a blind date for her to meet Drew Peterson. What Kathleen did not know at the time was Drew was still married to his second wife Vicki Connelly. But, Drew charmed her telling Kathleen he was divorcing Vicki because she was a herion addict. And what would Drew have to gain by lying? A clever psychopath always pre-sets the stage for their prey. In addition, he sealed his love bond with Kathleen knowing damn well she would never make contact with Vicki, much less allow the woman anywhere near her.

Drew Peterson was indeed, the master of his own stage. Kathleen likely thought to herself his explaination about Vicki sounded logical. The relationship built quickly, sharing feelings, talking, and eye-gazing. All the phases Peterson created to form his false "love bond."

Within a few short months Peterson quickly moved through the stages of psychopath attraction (as detailed in the book) and bonding like "road runner on crack" asking Kathleen to marry him. With excitement in her voice she called members of her family to share the news of the couple’s engagement and impending marriage. Kathleen felt good about her decision knowing she was marrying a man who made her feel safe and secure. And in a blink of an eye, they were married.

The majority of those whom fall prey to men such as Drew Peterson have invested themselves totally in the relationship similar to an invisable toxic drug. Kathleen was no different. After her first child was born, the "love bond" shifted, Peterson became verbally abusive telling her she was "dog ugly" or fat after the birth of her son. She tried to please him and return to the place where the fire began in the relationship when they were dating. It was too late, Peterson had already worked at the core of her soul, over time isolating her from family and friends until she had no support system left. When his words were not enough to break her, he used his fists to drive his point home. Within two years another child was born to the marriage. But another child in the marriage only added to the madness.

Being married to a psychopath with a badge and gun was no different than living in a house without a door to exist. Drew Peterson had carefully set the stage not just with Kathleen, but those with whom he worked.

Part 3 of this series continues Saturday, September 11, 2010

[Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/  She is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold.  Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/ and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr. Laurie Roth  http://www.therothshow.com/) ]

Profiling A Psychopath Series Part 1: Drew Peterson

According to the Institute of Relational Harm and Public Psychopathy Education, there are approximately six million men in the United states with psychopathic traits. In my opinion, former Bolingbrook police Sergeant Drew Peterson, awaiting trial for the murder of his third wife Kathleen Savio and with the disappearance of his current wife Stacy Peterson (still missing), each met their fate at the hands of Peterson. With detail and precision luring Stacy and Kathleen into a relationship, the outcome, inevitable harm.

Sandra L. Brown, M.A., Author and CEO of the Institute, a psychotherpist has worked in psychopatholgy for over 20 years.

Within intimate partner violence and homicide we only see the aftermath of the offender's behavior or action; the outcome results in a crime or death, but no one ever really explains and identifies a violent offender within a relationship. Until now. In my opinion the work of Sandra Brown, M.A. and the Institute is the piece of the missing puzzle as it directly relates to psychopaths, sociopaths and narcissists.

"Psychopaths are highly pleasure motivated and excesssively seek out what they enjoy. This includes lots of high-status posessions, the need to be constantly entertained and distracted, hyper-sexual, wanting to be dominant with their social circles, and by all means requiring lots of power."

So why have I decided to disect and discuss only one man out of approximately six million in the weeks ahead? Because I am hoping it will assist first responders, prosecutors, social workers and clergy directing the more than six million victims to safety, when they understand to whom a victim of intimate partner violence is joined like super glue at the hip.

Victims of intimate partner violence have been at war for too, long, time's up!

[Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/  She is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold.  Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/ and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr. Laurie Roth  http://www.therothshow.com/) ]

Don't Wait Until It's Too Late!

Author Diane Fanning shares about a new resource she feels could make the difference between life or death. She notes that when professionals cross paths with women in distress they are given a small window of opportunity in which to pass along the right resources, like the one she is suggesting here, to empower these women to act in their own best interestWhen we need to make a change in our lives, we are often in a high period of stress. That condition makes it more difficult to think clearly. It’s hard to know what to do first. It is difficult to organize a logical plan of action.
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No one feels this sense of overwhelming hopelessness more than a woman who is a victim of domestic abuse. She is often overwrought with emotion, vibrating with anxiety and frozen in fear. Too often, women stay in a state of paralysis, wanting to leave but not knowing how to accomplish it.

Doing nothing is not an acceptable option. The status quo is not viable in the long term. Too many women are lost in that place, becoming victims to the ultimate form of domestic violence—homicide.

Fear is the most powerful of emotions. Its most worthy adversary is a concrete step-by-step plan. But how can a woman conceive of a workable plan when not thinking clearly? Now, there is an answer, a guide, a recipe for survival—Time’s Up by Susan Murphy Milano. It is a handbook that can save a woman’s life.

I was stunned when I read through this book. It begins with a simple and clear explanation of abuse—a thorough and thought-provoking summary that left me shaking and in tears as I recognized the emotional trauma of one of my early relationships—trauma that I’d tried hard to deny.

Susan then goes through everything you need to do in preparation for departure, step by step. With her advice, a woman can turn a helter-skelter act of desperation into a well-planned and executed course of action that elevates her safety and reduces her risk.

It is vital to keep the safety factors clearly in view because the most dangerous window of time in any woman’s life is the moment she decides to leave a relationship up until two years after she acts upon it. Time’s Up is full of precautions, tips, forms and reassurances that will guide a woman every step of the way. Susan introduces the concept of an Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit, a written document and a taped interview, that documents injuries—both physical and emotional—and can serve as a woman’s best life insurance policy.

If a woman is in a controlling relationship since her teenager years and knows nothing about leading an independent life, Time’s Up, covers the tiniest detail including how to read a lease and sign up for utilities. If a woman is sophisticated, educated and aware, this handbook fills in many of the gaps and unforeseen complications that might catch her unawares and put her life at risk.

I wrote Gone Forever about a remarkable woman named Susan McFarland who lost her life at her husband’s hand. Susan was a planner. She attended to many details about her separation from her husband. But she overlooked some steps because she did not imagine a need for that extra level of caution. Susan Murphy Milano, both through her own personal experience and her work as a domestic violence advocate, can imagine them and help a woman navigate safely through dangerous straits. I am convinced that Susan McFarland might still be alive today if she had used Time’s Up to plan the end of her relationship.

This handbook should be available at every law enforcement agency, divorce attorney’s office, emergency room, library and battered women’s shelter. Doctors and pastors should hand it out to women in need of the advice it contains.

I also think that any woman who has a concern about domestic violence should have a copy of Time’s Up in her library. We won’t all need it for our own personal safety but one day, when we least expect it, a friend, a family member, a coworker, some woman in our orbit, will need it. Time’s Up can save a life—many times over.
By Diane Fanning

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Diane Fanning is a well known author of various true crime novels as well as fiction and other creative efforts. She has both researched wrongful convictions, the pathologies of murderers and wonders why people become victims, and criminals, and continues to tell their stories in an effort to better understand what those stories may offer us in the way. ( The story was reprinted from obviousanswers.presspublisher.com)

Who Murdered Irma Rodriquez?

“I am a family member and am extremely disappointed that the case has gone on deaf ears. I took Irma in the first time when husband tried to kill her and advised her to be strong and continue her life without him, but sometimes fear wins. Unfortunately, my dear niece is not here. Her keen spirit, those special memories, contagious smile and strength in God will live on in our hearts. I hope other women are reading this article and take seriously their current situation if there is any violence. Get out while there is time!”


In June of 2009, Irma Rodriguez, age 45,mother of three, was discovered in the trunk of her car. She had been shot dead. Just 3 days away from finalizing her divorce in Cook County, IL.

Norberto Rodriguez, is the "poster boy" of an dangerous and violent offender. During the couple's fifteen year marriage, orders of protection were filed, police were called to the home and Irma lived in fear for her life. In 1997, Norberto Rodriguez was charged with attempted first-degree murder after an argument in which he was accused of shooting Irma in the hand. Norberto was acquitted of the charges, but lost his job as a Chicago Police officer as a result. And in 2002, Norberto was arrested in connection with transprting heroin. He plead guilty and was sentenced to 52 months in federal prison and was released sometime in 2007.

As a victim of abuse Irma Rodriguez knew that if did not do as she was told by
Norberto, she would end up dead. Some people who knew her might question why she did not divorce him while in federal prison when she had the chance. It is not that easy. First she needed a plan and she was raising their children. Just because her husband was in jail did not necessarily equate to freedom. Even behind bars he controlled Irma with others on the outside. Norberto had strong ties to the street gangs and he made certain Irma knew her activities were always being monitored.

Since her murder, no one has been arrested. And according to sources authorities have no wtinesses to the crime. Perhaps if police released a photo of Norberto Rodriguez maybe someone would recognize him. Or if police decided, as they should, that Norberto Rodriquez is the only person with motive and he needs to be brought in for questioning. But to date the case is as dead as Irma Rodriguez was when her body was pulled out from the trunk of her car.

Maybe someone from the family can contact me to move this case from a cold metal file cabinet and into the light where it belongs, Irma's case could be solved. I can be reached at murphymilano@gmail.com