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Tuesday, November 2, 2010

It's Not Over Till It's Over!


November 1 marks the end of the national Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Does that mean the end to education and awareness about intimate partner violence? Not by a long shot.

Now, three years have passed since Stacy Peterson went missing, wife of serial offender, Bolingbrook Police Sgt. Drew Peterson , accused of murdering his other victim, Kathleen Savio. These predators have a "catch me if you can" personality. What about Susan Powell who vanished and is likely never going too see the light of day, joining the rank and file of others, Lisa Stebic, Vensus Stewart, Renee Pernice, Sandra Travis, Star Boomer;  a list that goes on and on.

I’ve always had a problem designating certain months to bring awareness to an issue that is as commonplace as Cheerios for breakfast. Why do I feel that way? Because so much time and funding goes into special events, talk shows, and news reports at a time when expenses are cut to the bone for anyone advocating in this field. Not only is the dollar at the bottom line, but the fact that most people feel if they participate in an event, a walk , a candlelight vigil, that they’ve done their part and forget about the next day; at a time when volunteers are stretched to the max.


Intimate Partner Violence is round the clock and round the calendar and we should all be sensitive to the great need across the country for change. It’s no longer enough to pin on a purple ribbon and light a candle. In the time it took to pin on the ribbon and light the candle, lives have been lost because someone wasn’t vigilant and let the ball down.

Now, more than ever, as intimate partner murder rates are rising, it’s time pull out the stops and get the job done. No longer is it enough for those who are drawing paychecks within the domestic violence “industry” to write memos, blog posts and press releases. It’s time to push the limits and go beyond your job description and start thinking outside of the box. We can no longer afford to clock out at five and think that all will be well until we clock back in the next morning.

What more can you do, you might ask? Stand up for changes in the way victims are handled, whether it be in your agency, police department, court room , hospital or lawyer’s office. If we do what we’ve always done, we will get the same results, and that means more violence gone unaided, more victims of homicides, and more children left without mothers or fathers.

The Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit is one such new tool which has been proven to empower victims and save lives. It’s been proven to change an attitude of a victim and give them hope that they may move forward and away from the violent situation knowing that their wishes will be carried out should the unthinkable happen. It’s been proven that the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit will stand up in court against Crawford vs Washington rulings, allowing a victim’s testimony to heard and seen, just like a will, should they be silenced.
Take it upon yourself today to get this information into the hands of everyone who comes in contact with a victim. Go the extra mile; it could be that one time you gave extra care and extra time beyond what’s expected that will matter to someone, and save their life. Our fight to end intimate partner violence isn't over till it's dealt with in a manner that's effective.






(Susan Murphy Milano, is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Psychopathy Education for more information visit http://www.saferelationships.com/ and is the author of the new book "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and where ever books are sold. 


She is the host of Time's Up on http://www.herewomentalk.com/ and she is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated show with Dr. Laurie Roth on http://www.therothshow.com/)

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Kathleen Savio and Intimate Partner Police Officer Homicide



Kathleen Savio was a wife, mother, and a victim of "Intimate Partner Homicide" by a law enforcement officer. Her ex-husband, Drew Peterson, stands trial for her murder next month.
From the moment her body was discovered in a "dry bathtub" an impossibility, in my opinion, her death has been trumped in the media by a serial offender whom if Stacy Peterson had not gone missing, the murder of this woman would have remained an accidental death.
A powerful hour was broadcast yesterday on this case with special guests Sheryl McCullom of the Cold Case Institute and Al Dressler of Colucci Investigations.
If you missed it all you need to do is turn up the volume on your computer and it will automatically play. Or you can always download the program by going to podcast list on this site or at www.blogtalkradio.com/susanmurphymilano

As the trial approaches we all need to lend our support and voice to a woman and mother murdered in my opinion by one man's rage who practiced on Kathleen Savio and perfected his crime on Stacy Peterson.

If you have a moment please head over to the Time's Up Blog and read Today's article about "My Cry For Help" I hope you will lend your support for victims and their families of violence and spread the message of the only "presciption" on the market available now that is changing and saving lives.

Tuesday, June 8, 2010

Crime Wire Team Live: Tune in Tuesday June 8, 2010 at 9:00 PM EST and 8:00 PM CST







An elite team of veteran investigation experts, along with noted crime consultants, television legal analysts and attorneys often featured on the popular news programs, join together for families of violent crime to find answers and seek justice. The Crime Wire team, Vito Colucci Jr., Private Eye and author, Denny Griffin, retired Investigator and Author, and, Susan Murphy Milano, Violence Expert and Author. are there-- on top of the crime -- at the top of their game.

Television producer, Matthew Houbrick , was found dead at the Drake Hotel in Chicago on November 14, 2005. He was in Chicago working on the FOX TV series Prison Break. His death made world-wide headlines, but the truth of what really happened; how he died, why Chicago Police failed to properly investigate, has been silenced. Joining us on the show to discuss the facts in the case, as he knows them, is Michael Houbrick, identical twin brother of the deceased.

 Lacey Gaines was found dead in her home on December 7, 2009, and no one has been named a suspect or a person of interest in her brutal murder. National advocate and family member, Cherry Simpson, will provide information and a time-line leading up to her neice's homicide.

Crime Wire Team Consultants Peter Hyatt and Al Dressler will also join us and weigh in on the cases.





Date: June 8, 2010

Time: 9:00 PM EST 8:00 PM CST 6:00 PM PST

The number to call in with questions or comments is 1-646-478-0982

We profile a variety of cases each week, including cold cases, suspicious deaths and current solved and unsolved murders.

If you are interested in having your case brought to the attention of the Crime Wire Team you can email us with cases, suggestions and comments at our email: thecrimewire@gmail.com

Link to Listen to the show Live http://www.blogtalkradio.com/crimewire

Our goal is to bring attention to those cases in which justice may not have been served and the families of the victims don’t have the resources to pursue the investigations on their own. Together we can make a difference.

Thursday, May 27, 2010

Surviving Domestic Violence and Stalking with Susan Murphy Milano on AWN Radio Thursday May 27, 2010 at 9:00 PM EST/ 8:00 PM CST




Surviving domestic abuse & stalking means strategic planning & playing it smart. When faced with daily survival tasks & overwhelming fears a victim is too often left with no time to properly construct safety plans & an escape guide. If you toss into the mix the unique sensory differences faced by individuals on the autism spectrum, then you will understand why Susan Murphy Milano's new book "Time's Up" is proving to be a vital asset.

All people react in a highly sensitized manner when processing stress surrounding violence & ongoing abuse. For individuals on the autism spectrum, most experience unique sensory challenges pertaining to Executive Function & will be faced with processing an even more exaggerated sensory reaction when enduring acts of violence, stalking, and/or ongoing abuse.

Some of these noticeable neuro-differences for individuals on the spectrum are:

•Making arbitrary choices
•Breaking down large tasks into smaller steps
•Recognizing possible options in their situation
•Deciphering how they feel about various options
•Implementing information and/or their skills necessary to complete tasks
•"Beginning" (actually start moving in response to thought)
In Time's Up, Susan has already done your thinking for you as she guides you through the necessary strategies, and life saving tools. Law enforcement agencies, social workers, psychologists, and attorneys are looking to it as a valuable resource when assisting clients.

Radio Show Link: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/autism-womens-network/2010/05/28/serving-it-up-susan-murphy-milano-style

To call on with questions and comments: 917-889-3527



Thursday May 27, 2010.


Show Times are: 6PM PDT, 7PM MDT, 8PM CDT, 9PM EDT. If outside the USA, you can determine when our show broadcasts live in your area by using the Meeting Planner.

The show is being dedicated to the memory of Franki Jacobson murdered in January of 2010. She was a wife, mother and author wrote under the name Frankaleana Beana. She co-author the children’s book released in December of 2009 titled “Green Bean’s Birthday Party” a book to help parents of children with autism. She was a pioneer on a mission to bring awareness to children with autism. As a mother of two 7 year- old twin boys Eric and Joshua. She had written articles from "do you know the signs of autism" to "what parents can do for their children once they are diagnosed."

In a wealthy Palm Beach Florida gated community the author and her two boys were murdered by their loving father and husband.

Thursday, May 13, 2010

NFL Attitudes Must Change




Current NFL policies focus on punishment and discipline, not prevention nor education. If you think about it, a lot of abusers are mandated to take anger management or similar classes to avoid prosecution or "punishment." What we need to do is start somewhere else. Instead of punishment for a deed already done, we need to start bringing awareness to our professional athletes and educating them on prevention measures so that just maybe they will learn that their status as an athlete does not give them special privilege when it comes to "using" women.


Although professional athletes are not the only ones exhibiting this behavior, they are looked upon as heroes by many in our country, especially our children. When they put themselves in a position to be accused, such as Ben Roethlisberger and Lawrence Taylor, if there is no serious action taken, what type of message does this send to our households who each week sit and watch them play a game?


Lisa Michels and Lavina Masters are only one of handful who is fed up and are compelled standing up from the sidelines to take action. Who knows, maybe these two powerhouse advocates will be having lunch with commissioners and team owners soon to discuss some much needed changes in policy for players and team associates!


Please read her ideas, take the time to sign the petition, and move together to make changes!


Time after time we hear about an NFL player being accused of sexual assault or domestic violence.

HEADLINES:
*Lawrence Taylor rape arrest: Ex-Giant accused of raping, beating teen girl in NY hotel
*Ben Roethlisberger Accused of Sexual Assault AGAIN (second allegation in 365 days)
*Former NFL Player Michael Irvin, accused of rape (Cowboys)
*4 NFL Players Accused with Drugging, then Raping Woman - Dedric Ward, Charlie Batch, Ron Rice and Tyree Tolton
*O.J. Simpson Questioned on Domestic Abuse - (The Washington Post, January 26, 1996)

Need we say more? Enough is Enough. Now can we talk?

These players need to know that issues of violence affect everyone. Our children look up to and aspire to be like these players. Therefore, they should be expected to conduct themselves responsibly, promoting good and lawful values to be emulated.

Our goal is not to humiliate or hold a public trial. Our goal is to work with the NFL and the teams in order to educate them on the severity of their actions. Roger Goodell recently issued a memo in regards to the leagues personal conduct policy. It reads:

"The Policy makes clear that NFL and club personnel must do more than simply avoid criminal behavior. We must conduct ourselves in a way that 'is responsible, that promotes the values upon which the league is based, and is lawful.' This standard reflects the recognition that the conduct and behavior of our players and other league and team employees is critically important. Whether it involves your team or another, these incidents affect us all -- every investigation, arrest, or other allegation of improper conduct undermines the respect for our league by our fans, lessens the confidence of our business partners and threatens the continued success of our brand.

"As your club begins its offseason programs and approaches the Draft, I encourage you to be vigilant in reinforcing this message with your players and staff. It makes no difference whether an incident occurs during the season or in the off-season. At every opportunity, you should remind them of your standards and the public’s expectations, of the need to use good judgment, particularly when in a public place, and of the resources available to help us all in meeting these standards."

Obviously the commission understands the severity of the issues and that the number of recent complaints are alarming to us all. This shows that additional measures need to be instituted. It is not enough to merely state "this is wrong." They need to understand first hand how their actions affect victims and society. In order to accomplish this we believe that additional requirements need to be added to the league's current personal conduct policy.

1. Yearly required Sexual Assault Awareness Training for every player and employee.

- AND -

2. The training should include victims & survivors of sexual assault telling their stories of abuse, the affect it has on their lives and the lives of the people around them. (Examples of organizations: RAINN's Speakers Bureau, Elite Speakers Bureau.)

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3. The training should include Men from an organization similiar to "NOMAS" (National Organization for Men Against Sexism) or "Men Can Stop Rape." An organization that mobilizes men to use their strength for creating cultures free from violence against women.

- AND -

4. The policy should include financial penalties (preferably not less than 10% of their gross income) to be paid to the local rape crisis center.

Until policies that include education and financial penalties are instituted we see no end in sight. That's why your support for this petition is urgently needed. Tell the NFL Commission and the Team owners that you support educating and holding these players accountable by signing this petition today.

Created by Lavinia Masters and Lisa Michels, Sexual Assault Advocates United

Wednesday, April 14, 2010

"Meet the Author-Save a Life"

Wednesday, April 14, 4pm Eastern, 3pm Central!


Today we are turning the tables on Susan Murphy Milano! "Meet the Author" will be an interview of Susan discussing the release of her new book, "Time's Up: A Guide on How to Leave an Abusive and Stalking Relationship."


“Imagine if Stacy Peterson, Lisa Stebic, Renee Pagel, Mary Jane Zich, Kelly Currin Morris, Mary Badaracco, Peggy Dianovsky, Kelliesue Ackernecht,Sandra Travis, Rachel Conger,Theresa Parker, or Renee Pernice had the opportunity to complete the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit.....the offenders would be arrested and these cases would be resolved.”.


Please feel free to call in with questions, comments and best wishes for the success that this book so deserves. If used in abuse and stalking cases, it WILL save lives.


Sorry, to find out who will be the host for this entire hour of power you will just have to tune-in!


If you would like to email questions or comments, you may email to murphymilano@gmail.com


The direct link to the show is HERE

The call in number is:

(347) 326-9337




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