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This Wednesday from 7-8pm ET, Susan Murphy Milano and Dr. Laurie Roth welcome journalist and author, Joe Hosey.

Joseph Hosey has been on the cusp of every major development in the Drew Peterson case. He is the only member of the media to cover Kathleen Savio’s inquest, having broken the stories of her death and, later, the disappearance of Stacy Peterson.

Fatal Vows: The Tragic Wives of Sergeant Drew Peterson

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Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visithttp://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is also in partnership with Pamela Chapman and iAscend Programs.http://pamelachapmanl.biz

Susan is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talkhttp://www.herewomentalk.com/and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr Laurie Roth. Susan is a survivor- the daughter of a police officer family intimate partner homicide by her father who murdered her mother before committing suicide.

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"Police Officer Involved Family Violence"

Guests:

Wives of police officeers, Bernadette Avila, Clara Colon and the family of Nancy Rojo, who as a witnesses watched, Sheriff Alexander Rojo pulled out a handgun and, without saying a word, shot his wife three times, stood over her and fired five more bullets, according to police. He then sat down on the street curb and shot himself.

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Clara Colon:"On October 29, 2010 I wrote a post titled"Murder in Progress: Elizabeth New Jersey." About a police officer's wife who found the courage, after 13 years of abuse and threats on her life and that of her children's lives, to press criminal charges against him. He is acommissioned police officer."

Bernadette Avila and Nancy Rojo story: http://murphymilanojournal.blogspot.com/search?q=bernadette

Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visithttp://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is also in partnership with Pamela Chapman and iAscend Programs.http://pamelachapmanl.biz

Susan is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and SurviveAbusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr Laurie Roth. Susan is a survivor- the daughter of a police officer family intimate partner homicide by her Chicago detective father who murdered her mother before committing suicide.

Supreme Court Grants New Trial to Former Police Chief

“Former County Prosecutor Jennifer Lowrie (smiling below) was the first person to arrive at the scene of the shooting which occurred at the Huber household Oct. 28, 2007. She admitted to law enforcement that night that she and the then Police Chief Ken Huber had been having an affair. She also said Pam Huber knew about the relationship.”

Accidents with a firearm are common among cowards with badge's whom murder their wives in cold blood. Former Chief of Police Ken Huber, also a weapons expert and instructor at the time "his gun discharged" won the right to a new trial. Last week, the South Dakota Supreme Court ruled that during the murder trial of Pam Huber, the circuit court judge did not allow experts to testify Huber's gun "could have discharged by accident while he was attempting to secure a lock on the weapon." He claims it went off and struck his wife Pam Huber in the head.

The 2007, criminal complaint against Ken Huber showed that after dialing 911, he called the then County Prosecutor Jennifer Lowrie, whom admitted in the complaint to having had a sexual affair with Ken Huber. She arrived at the scene before law enforcement or EMS personnel, walked through the crime scene and was handed the phone to talk to the 911 operator, per the court documents.

Pam Huber (pictured above) died from her injuries on Friday November 2, 2007. She does not have the opportunity to file and appeal for a new trial. After the shooting a protection order alleged that former Miller and Highmore Police Chief Ken Huber walked into a bedroom where his wife and 11 year-old daughter were laying in bed and shot Pam Huber in the head.

Family attorney Matt Theophilus says, "He approached her in bed and shot her one time through the forehead, daughter unfortunately awoke to the sound of the gun shot and saw her mother terribly injured and bleeding and saw her father leaving the room with a gun in his hand."

In 2007, Matt Theophilus was the attorney representing the Huber's 11 and 12 year old daughters, and Pam Huber's son. The three filed a protection order against Ken Huber because he has not been arrested immediately following the shooting of their mother. Theophilus says, "Their concern is what will he do in the future." That concern comes because of what they say Ken Huber has done in the past. The protection order says Huber has physically and emotionally abused Pam Huber for at least 10 years, but she never reported it. Theophilus says, "She has never felt able to report this for fear of reprecussions given his positions as chief of police."

If Pam Huber had the opportunity, prior to her murder, to prepare a "Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" and video as prescribed in the book "Time's Up," there would be no opportunity for the supreme court to grant a new trial. Pam's words and testimony, from her grave, would have been sufficient.

It is up to you and I to sound the sirens for justice to those married to law enforcement officers whom fight to the end, silenced by a system where the brotherhood of the badge continues to send innocent women to their graves.

The book "Time's Up A Guide on How To Survive and Abusive and Stalking Relationship" is the prescription if you will, that every person must obtain before they announce they are leaving. Below is an example from Chapter 4, one of many unique tools provided in the book. It is available on Amazon.com, we can send it to you via e-book or on a cd. If you have questions, the email address is timesupforjustice@gmail.com

“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”

—Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.

Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is also in partnership with Pamela Chapman and iAscend Programs. http://pamelachapmanl.biz Susan is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and SurviveAbusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talkhttp://www.herewomentalk.com/and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr Laurie Roth. She is a survivor- the daughter of a police officer family intimate partner homicide by her father who murdered her mother before committing suicide.

Bernadette Avila Wife of a Chicago Police Officer is in Danger!

Bernadette Avila [pictured above] is the wife of a veteran Chicago Police Officer. Currently he is a patrol officer assigned to the 8th district.

On February 17, 2011, according to the police report: INCIDENT:Aggravated Assault Handgun.

The officer is charged, finger printed and is given an eye bond.

On February 18, 2011, at 555 W. Harrison, Bernadette Avila spends most of the day at the courthouse and is finally granted by a judge an "EMERGENCY" order of protection. The judge asks about weapons and where they are kept in the residence so that all weapons are removed when the officer is served with the court order of protection. Afterwards the information that the officer was properly served is entered in the L.E.A.D.S computer system. And if there are further problems of stalking, harassment, abuse etc Bernadette could then file police reports for violating the order of protection.

On February 19, 2011, Bernadette Avila completes the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit and video further describing other weapons, abuse and fear for her safety. In addition, she follows the other procedures that will continue to keep her safe. She mails me an original set notarized and signed of the "EAA" and video with a copy of the protection order, police report, and a photo of her officer husband.

On Saturday, February 26, 2011, she receives six text messages from her estranged officer husband cell phone. Per the order, it states:

1. With respect to all protected persons, Respondent (that means the officer) is prohibited from committing the following: Physical Abuse; Harassment; Interference with personal liberty; Stalking;

The texts are a clear violation of the order of protection. She returns Monday morning 2/28/2011, to 555 W. Harrison and waits to meet with the Assistant State's Attorney for violation of the order of protection. I inform Bernadette to call me from court if she has any problem. Although I am not a lawyer, I did work extensively on the stalking and domestic violence laws in Illinois and was responsible for the implementation and passage. I believed that after the murder of my own mother, the wife of a Chicago Police detective, gunned down because she ended the relationship with my father, there was hope for others. I wanted to believe the law would change the landscape of how these cases were handled. I have been wrong since 1989.

At 2:30 PM , a distraught, barely audible Bernadette calls me. "The State's Attorney laughed at me, the protection had never been entered in the L.E.A.D.S computer system. And he wasn't going to help me no way, no how anyway, he didn't have time for this nonsense because you can't prove he, himself, sent the text messages." Bernadette wanted to know why she even bothered and "no one cares, I'm gonna die, I'm not protected. My husband told me this would happen, he can get away with it and he is, what am I suppose to do?" I called Sheriff Tom Dart's office to see if the court order had been served and in the system. Within a few minutes a Cook County Lieutenant informed me that he was served but, it was not entered into the system. It was being entered as we spoke on the phone.

Bernadette Avila has been beaten, threatened, stalked and controlled by her abusive, controlling and dangerous officer husband, in my opinion. If her estranged husband loses his job after over 20 plus years on the force, he may feel as though he has nothing to lose. In my opinion, she will be killed. She knows it. Wives of officer related violence know firsthand their life hangs by a thread when they do anything to cause embarrassment to their husband or boyfriend.

Bernadette's close friend Nancy Rojo, the wife of Cook County Sheriff, also attempted to get help from a system that turned a deaf ear. On September 15, 2010, court records show that Nancy Rojo filed for an order of protection against her husband. She accused Alexander of attacking her, holding a gun to her head, and threatening to kill her. Six days later, she filed for divorce; after the filing, the two agreed not to see each other, and had their orders of protection dismissed. The only reason Nancy dropped the order was because she was threatened by him. She believed if she complied that her estranged husband would finally leave her alone and be able to keep his job as a Sheriff.

Nancy Rojo filed for divorce on Sept. 21 and six days later they had their protection orders dismissed and agreed to no contact. But according to sources co-workers knew Sheriff Rojo was obsessed with her. He placed tracking devices on her vehicle with the knowledge of 1 or 2 fellow co-workers, stalked and continued to threaten her life. Although dangerous, he was too well liked by those he worked with on a daily basis. Their marriage according to family members was violent. On Oct. 12, 2010, a witnesses watched as Sheriff Alexander Rojo pulled out a handgun and, without saying a word, shot his wife three times, stood over her and fired five more bullets, according to police. He then sat down on the street curb and shot himself.

Those married to law enforcement have no place to turn for help. When they do seek assistance they are ridiculed for claiming their church attending saint of a husband with a badge and a gun has threatened to kill them. Wives and girlfriends of police officers are not believed by the very system sworn to serve and protect our streets and community.

On March 11, 2011, at 9:00 a.m. Bernadette Avila has to return to the very courtroom where she was laughed at several hours ago by a Cook State's Attorney who is suppose to be representing her in this criminal and very serious matter.

Now, a plan of action must include various steps to keep Bernadette Avila, safe, no different than I have had to do for nearly 20 years.

One day the legal system will embrace the messenger utilizing proven strategies and implement the prescription for change that will enforce the laws while at the same reducing the number of murders without anyone's ego getting bruised. As always, and in confidence, I can be contacted via email at murphymilano@gmail.com

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.

Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visithttp://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is also in partnership with Pamela Chapman and iAscend Programs. http://pamelachapmanl.biz Susan is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and SurviveAbusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talkhttp://www.herewomentalk.com/and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr Laurie Roth

The Beat Stops Here: Officer Involved Family Violence

By Susan Murphy Milano

“Phil had a lot to drink,” he began, his red eyes showing the depths of his emotions. “This is difficult for me to discuss the details with you but your mother was found in the kitchen on the floor—she had been shot with a .44 Magnum. The bullet exited out her right eye and onto the kitchen table.” Tom took a deep breath. “After he shot her, your father took a towel and covered her face. He was found in the bedroom and had shot himself. Susan, when was the last time you spoke with him?” For reasons foreign to me, I felt enraged at the question.

“He murdered my mother! Your “superhero” partner murdered her and you want to know when I spoke to him last? You are just as cold and heartless as he was!” I stood up knowing I wanted no part of the conversation. “Susan, wait, calm down!" Tom also stood. “I know you’re upset but there’s no reason to speak to me that way!”

I spun around to face him, a man I’d known since childhood. My face, clearly showing the contempt I was feeling at that very moment, made my father's partner, Tom Flaherty stop in his tracks.

“Bullshit!” I shouted. “All you care about is your buddy and how you can cover up his mess one more time!”

Knowing he had no defense against the spew of accusations, Chicago Detective Tom Flaherty hung his head in shame and left the residence. I stood motionless, staring at the door, wondering if I should scream or cry—or both. I was in shock. My ultimate fears realized, I felt a sense of relief when the police Chaplin returned to speak with me.

“They are preparing to transport the bodies to the morgue,” he said in almost a whisper. “Someone from the police department will call you in the morning to assist you with the funeral arrangements. Susan, is there anything I can do for you?”

In 1989, officer involved homicide was covered up; considered a black mark against a police department. And any surviving family members who remotely speaks publicly is informed what will 'happen to them," if they do not listen. More then 20 years later, after the murder-suicide of my parents, Roberta and Phillip Murphy, nothing has changed. Police Departments release few details, if any, when a wife of a police officer calls 911 emergency assistance because her husband or significant other is abusing and threatening her very existance.

Once the media learn the person responsible for the crime was in law enforcement, the truth of how many calls a victim made for help, what supervior in the police unit she contacted, or how often officers responded to a call that ultimately lead up to the tragedy, is turned inside out by police departments like a badly stained pair of dirty underwear.

Instead of reporting the facts in these cases, we read stories of victim finger pointing or glorified obituaries on how a "veteran decorated officer" served their community with honor and courage.

The wives and girlfriends in a current or former relationship with a sworn law enforcement officer have had little to no services for assistance when attempting to end and safety leave their relationships, alive. That is until, now.

In 1989, I was scared to come forward to talk about my mother's murder. No one believed us as we attempted to seek help, until she was finally silenced at the age of 47, by my father. I realized that the there was nothing more to lose or fear, ignoring the threats to my own life if I continued speaking out and working with victims.

Each day, when I want to give up and say is it all worth it? Battling a legal system that clearly needs a new pair of glasses and likely has sudden vision and memory loss when I call or enter a courtroom with a victim whose life hangs by a single thread. It is my mothers legacy that pushes me to the dawn of each new day. It is why I am so passionate about ensuring that those whom need assistance to safely end the abuse, do so with their life still in tact. My work and services are based on being in the field with victims and their families. The expertise, over 20 years of being in courtrooms across the country and keeping, wherever possible, victims alive. With special emphasis and expertise on law enforcement and military families as it relates to inmate partner violence.

The book "Time's Up A Guide on How To Survive and Abusive and Stalking Relationship" is the prescription if you will, that every person must obtain before they announce they are leaving. Below is an example from Chapter 4, one of many unique tools provided in the book. It is available on Amazon.com, we can send it to you via e-book or on a cd. If you have questions, the email address is timesupforjustice@gmail.com

“Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”

—Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.

Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visithttp://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and SurviveAbusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talkhttp://www.herewomentalk.com/and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr Laurie Roth

"DOA Equals DNA" New Show "Intimate Partner Homicide Investigation: Sponsored by Websleuth.com

By Susan Murphy Milano and Sheryl McCollum

Date: Monday July 12, 2010

Time: 9PM EST/ 8PM Central / 6PM PST

Intimate Partner Homicide Investigation Debut show: guests for the entire hour are:

Steph Watts television producer of the new show “Bloodwork”which examines how forensic science is used to solve crimes airing in the fall on the A& E Channel.

Steph Watts subpoenaed by the defense to testify during the private autopsy performed on Kathleen Savio's exhumed corpse. Watts investigative work with Mark Fuhrman for OTR at FOX News on the disappearance of Stacy Peterson was seminal. She was the fourth wife of Bolingbrook Police Officer Drew Peterson, and prime suspect in her disappearance. This work led to the reclassification of the death of Peterson’s third wife Kathleen Savio, from an accident to a homicide.

Joe Hosey attended Kathleen Savio's inquest in 2004 and has reported on the case from the begining. As a reporter with the Daily Herald and the Author of "Fatal Vows The Tragic Wives of Sgt. Drew Peterson" he has continued to keep this case and the disappearance of Stacy Peterson on the front pages.

Sheryl McCollum, Director of Cold Case Investigative Research Institute and Susan Murphy-Milano, Violence Expert and Author of the new book "Time's Up" have joined forces to bring new eyes to cases of intimate partner homicide. “DNA equals DOA (dead on arrival) with respect to intimate partner homicide crimes.” There is no voice or face, instead victim’s lives result in filling headstones and cemeteries; placed in the “unimportant” category box. Intimate Partner Homicide Investigation gives these cases a front and center seat instead of a back door crime occurring behind closed doors.

McCollum and Murphy-Milano are working proactively to reduce the number of deaths through several channels, saving not only lives, but taxpayer dollars, and utilizing unique procedures gleaned from their years of working on high risk and high profile cases. Combining their experience will help bring new possibilities and new clues to law enforcement agencies and prosecutors across the country.

The new show is being sponsored by the interactive crime and news site Websleuths.com

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The Children of Drew Peterson: "Holding On To Hope"

The Drew Peterson trial is scheduled to begin at the end of this week. My thoughts are with the teenagers of Kathleen Savio as their world is about to be turned yet again up-side down.

The kids Thomas now 17, and Kris now 15, no doubt will be praying that the only parent they have left on the planet, their loving father is acquitted by a jury and will be able to return home to them.

I have written with disgust on the Drew Peterson case often roasting the former sergeant’s life for his actions as a serial predator.

As a former police officer’s daughter who lived in a similar war zone I can relate to the kids and the secrets they buried after Kathleen’s death. Children growing up in these war zones see their home, the “battlefield” as normal. Every parent argues and fights at one time or another but threatening to kill ones' mother is not normal.

Witnessing as these boys did a heated argument that turns physical is also part of normal. Case in point using my own childhood as an example it was not normal when my parents did not argue or fight. Our environment was so toxic when I would go to another kid’s house to play I noticed there was no tension. People were genuinely happy and no one was yelling. And it made not want to go back home when it was time. I remember following a woman and her son each day after school instead of heading home. My mother was worried and furious because she would have to come and look for me. Without realizing it my internal clock told me that I had to be someplace safe until after 4:00’clock every afternoon. In my house it meant my father was on his way to work. And it was worth whatever punishment I would receive just so I would not witness my father’s physical or verbal assault on my mother. And I lost all hope after my mother was murdered.

But the Peterson boys have been well cared for in the only way they have ever known, by their father. They see and know a man under great adversity stand tall, chest out and chin up, brush off what people are saying while drawing them closer to him, holding their hands, even from behind bars, assuring the teenagers no matter what happens everything will be alright.

Their father’s freedom is in my opinion the last hold out for hope. This means everything to a child who grows up in a violent home.

My prayers are for the boys to have hope regardless of the outcome.

Domestic Violence by Police Officers: "Zero Tolerance"

I checked the definition of "Zero Tolerance" before I began this article and it means "any policy that allows no exception."

Private law enforcement Web sites around the country and the Fraternal Order of Police are in an uproar over Pittsburg Mayor Luke Ravenstahl's decision to enforce the zero tolerance policy for domestic violence by police officers.

The case is over the firing of Former Sgt. Eugene Hlavac an 18-year veteran of the police force who back in December of 2009 lost his job for assaulting the mother of his child and former girlfriend. According to court documents, the former officer was in his police uniform and, in my opinion, likely wearing his police issued weapon and oh, should I mention he practically dislocated her jaw during the incident.

Former Officer Hlavac, had been charged with simple assault for slapping his former girlfriend was found not guilty earlier this week by a judge, based largely on the testimony of a lone witness, who said that Mr. Hlavac appeared to strike his former girlfriend in self-defense after she "started to beat on the officer," the judge said. The lone witness who lives across the street from Mr. Hlavac and saw the confrontation from her car parked outside, testified that Ms. Maughan "was in a rage" and "attacked" him, Judge Flaherty said. Mr. Hlavac struck her in what the wtiness described as "an instantaneous push-away," according to the judge. "She said she didn't believe he intended to hurt her, it was in a defensive mode," he said. The witness does not know Mr. Hlavac, nor did she know he was a police officer, the judge said. "She just seemed very credible," Judge Flaherty said. "She did not strike me as the kind of person who did not tell the truth."



Because the officer was found not guilty earlier this week his lawyer will meet with the arbitration board for a hearing in hopes of restoring the officer's job with full back pay. But, this is where the case, in my opinion, gets a little sticky. You know what I mean, like gum stuck at the bottom of a good pair of shoes and you just can't get it off.

The police depatrtment fired former officer Hlavac, not because of the criminal case, but because he broke police policies or rather the "zero tolerance" as per the departments code and failure to follow the law enforcement code of ethics.. Unless, maybe at the hearing the former officer gets "grandfather" " privileges because the policy went into a affect after he was sworn in and given his police commission. Now there is a healthy arugment for his defense attorney "policy immunity."

I also should point out that the city's burden of proof in arbitration is lower than a prosecutor's burden in a criminal case.

According to the newspaper, the Mayor was quoted as saying,"the verdict doesn't mean no wrong was done or that there won't be consequences." I love that word consequences especially when it pertains to the accountability of a sworn officer who abuses their position of authority.

Before I get a lot of nasty private emails from my fan club of defense attorneys and law enforcement officers, let me make it very clear; yes, there are two sides to every story. Yes, the officer was acquitted of all charges. But, in my opinion, he should not be allowed back on the police force.

Again, my opinion is based on far too many of these officer related domestic violence cases that I am involved with on a daily basis (most involve a tragedy after the fact). Chances are this was not the first incident between the former officer and his girlfriend. It is however likely this was the first reported and documented incident of violence. Victims involved with officers rarely proceed and press charges. Most involved with officers who are abusive are in fear for their lives and we read about them after the fact because they are afraid of being killed so they suffer in silence. Women like Charoltte Grahn, Kathleen Savio, Theresa Parker, Sonia Garcia, Sandy Silcox, Lori DeKleine, Jessie Raponi, Tera Chavez, Carli Dennis, Barbara Vanaman, Crystal Brame and Stacy Peterson to name only few allegedly killed by their abusive officer husbands.

Who knows, perhaps if other law enforcement agencies adopted a zero tolerance policy maybe fewer officers wives and girlfriends would not end up being visited by loved ones bringing flowers to their grave sites.



"Been there, done that…” Susan Murphy- Milano has turned a tired phrase into demonstrable realism through the gift of her newly published book, "TIME'S UP: A GUIDE ON HOW TO LEAVE AND SURVIVE ABUSIVE AND STALKING RELATIONSHIPS"

Stalked By Cop..Where Does A Victim Turn?

For five years now, my now ex-husband and now retired law enforcement officer has stalked and terrorized me.

It is bad enough to be abused by a batterer without power and influence, but when an officer is involved, with a broad sphere of influence, the battles for survival become even more fierce.

Even worse yet, is when the officer decides to stalk unrelentingly and the system takes no action.Most police officers who are batterers use aspects of their position to gain undue advantage.

In the cases of Officer-Involved Domestic Violence (OIDV) it is apparent that whatever the officer's training, expertise, fascination and specialized equipment is, is what is used against his victim. With OIDV being estimated as high as 40% among law enforcement families, there is a huge number of women in our nation who need help because they have no safe place to even report the violence. The issues surrounding escaping, divorcing, and struggling to survive are unique, unlike other domestic violence.The police officer knows where the shelters are, he can easily have other officers follow his wife or girlfriend, and he knows the "boys in blue" will cover for him. Often the victim is blamed, evidence planted, coercion transpires, death threats are made, the victim is told to recant and the fear factor flies off the charts.

I know, because I have lived it. I believe my cop-stalker has used all his training, his power and influence and his city-issued police equipment to perpetrate crimes against me and to get away with all but murder!

To hear more, this courageous woman, Susan Rhoades will be on Justice Interrupted Crime Radio, October, 14, 2008

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Police Officer Ken Dekleine- Power-Control-Murder

Officer Ken DeKleine (before arrest)

Ken DeKleine at trial with his Lawyer
Mistress Richelle VanderWal
Murder Victim and Mother Lori DeKleine

"Think about the children" were the final words from Lori DeKleine's lips just before her estranged police officer husband, Ken DeKleine, murdered her on January 10, 2008.

The trial began on Tuesday in Grand Haven Michigan. The Prosecution ended their case today.
The defense presented no case, their client had confessed on video to Lori's Murder.

The tin badge coward of the law, well regarded by his fellow Holland Police Officers, staged the crime scene, in the basement of the home they once shared to make it appear Lori, had committed suicide.

This coward of a man, left the body in the basement for the couple's teenage son to discover. The young man will never recover from the smell of death and images of seeing his life less mothers body and the nylon strap tied around her neck. He will be haunted and reminded for the remainder of his life.

Like most abusers, Ken Dekleine was obsessed that his wife was romantically involved with another man. In this situation, her therapist. He was angry when she secured an order of protection against her police officer husband in January of 2007. Placing blame on the therapist for interferring and brain washing his wife.

It would be Ken DeKleine would would take a mistress sixteen months prior to the murder.

Richelle VanderWal was also married to a police officer at the time, and in the midst of a divorce when she met DeKleine.

Tomorrow, closing arguments begin.

This is not just another tragedy, of a controlling abusive police officer gone bad. Likely to receive
a life sentence.

It is the tip of the iceberg. A glimpse if you will, into reality of what law enforcement wives married to these cowardly tin badge abusers endure, daily.

Police Chief's and the National Fraternal Order of Police need to wake up to the reality their union paying members are committing crimes within their own famiies.

Support the officer and include the family. Yes, the family. You know the wife who has to be careful when her officer husband returns home after shift, because he is drunk. Angry over pressures on the job. Maybe he found a child sexually violated, murdered and left in a swallow grave. Perhaps he was called on a crime scene where an elderly couple was robbed and then murdered. How is a police officer suppose to cope and survive? Where is a police officers wife suppose to turn when the officer turns the gun on her? Where is she suppose to go when her life is in danger?

Provide programs for officers who see the worst of human tragedy, daily. Work with Prosecutors around the country, implementing healthy and safe program for the wives and children.

In ignoring this national epidemic within the law enforcement community, the "Blue Brotherhood" are just as guilty.

http://movingoutmovingon.bloghi.com/2008/01/12/pathetic-officer-ken-dekleine-murders-wife-lori-dekleine.html

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