Memo To The Chicago Police Department and City of Chicago Mayor's Office

The father of a missing son is making a plea for Lieutenant Kevin Dillion with the Chicago Police Department to reinstate his son, Jesse Ross' information back into the NCIC data base.  For months Lt. Dillion has promised the family he'd take care of it, but, he hasn't done much of anything but offer lip service.  The family has contacted both the Chicago Police Department and the Mayor's Office for assistance.

This inaction translates into carelessness.  National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC) stated they are waiting on Lt. Kevin Dillion to re-submit the information to NCIC before Jesse's information can be reinstated on their site and in their database.  Think about how long the family has been waiting for answers, nearly 5 1/2 years.  He vanished without a trace while attending a convention in Chicago and likely met with foul play.

I am hoping to appeal to someone's conscience in my hometown. When Bill Kurtis reported on this case on CBS Chicago, he said it's baffled police.  Wonder if any new leads have come in on this case, and if they have, are they being followed up!?

In addition, perhaps the Illinois State Police can also assist the family. If you have any information concerning missing persons from Illinois, contact the Illinois State Police Clearinghouse for Missing Persons at 1-800-U HELP ME (1-800-843-5763) or email missing@isp.state.il.us. Please be sure to include the missing person's name in your email message. Your name and information will be kept confidential.

Jesse Ross: Details of Disappearance

At 2:30 am, November 21, 2006 19 year old Jesse Ross walked out the door of a meeting room in a Chicago hotel and vanished into thin air. The clock stands still for his parents, friends and family who have spend the last five years wondering, “Where’s Opie?”

Jesse Ross was in Chicago with fellow students from the University of Missouri, Kansas City taking part in a Model UN Convention. Jesse, affectionately known as “Opie” (Jesse’s character name on a local radio station which was Opie Cunningham, taken from two popular Ron Howard characters, Opie Taylor and Richie Cunningham) was a communications major and an intern at a local radio station at the time of the trip to Chicago.

For the last five years Jesse’s friends and community have sponsored “Opiefest” to assist the Ross’ efforts to find Jesse. Five years has been spent handing out flyers, scouring the internet, submitting information to every missing persons organization and news outlet they could, yet the Ross’ are no closer to finding Jesse.Donald Ross, Jesse’s father, has just released the book, Where’s Opie: Vanished in Chicago, which is dedicated to disseminating information about Jesse, as well as all the missing and unidentified and the families who wait and hope for their return. Available on Amazon.

WEBSITE WITH MORE DETAILS:  FINDJESSEROSS.COM  

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Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases.

 A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals, victim advocates and the faith based community and author.. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing prevention and solutions within the community to the workplace. Host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show,"Time'sUp!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host onCrime Wire. Online contributions: Forbes : Crime, She Writes providing commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up! a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crime Susan is also the daughter of a Chicago Violent Crimes detective who murdered her mother before committing suicide. 

The Susan Murphy Milano Show, “Time’s Up!” The Unsolved Case Nique' Leili-Thursdays at 2pm ET

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In July, 2011, there was trouble in the Leili home with calls to the police, arguments and insinuation of past violence in the marriage of Matthew and Nique’ Leili.   Nique’ went missing on July 8, leaving behind her purse, keys, credit cards, and, most importantly, her children, her husband says there was an argument and she walked out of the house.

A week later, in the hot Georgia summer, her decomposing remains were found on July 16 less than a mile from her home, completely naked, face down in a shallow grave covered by leaves.  Her clothes have never been found.  Interestingly, her husband, Matthew Leili had already filed for divorce citing abandonment. How did he know she wasn’t coming back? Could it be because he had spy gadgets everywhere, including surveillance cameras, tape recordings of all phone conversations, keyloggers on all computers, and trackers on all cell phones? Seems he would have a pretty good idea where his wife was headed considering the lengths taken to keep track of her.

Named a suspect in the murder of Nique’, Matthew has not been arrested and no charges have been filed. He has since taken two of the couple’s young children and moved them out of state, isolating them from Nique’s family.

We will examine the pattern of conduct of Matthew Leili and other evidence collected by the family.

Joining the show for the hour to examine some of the known details of the case of murdered Nique’ Leili is her grown daughter, Alex Page, and sister, Amy Elk.

Listen Live go to www.herewomen.com

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Tara Johnson and Daughter Allison and the Million Dollar Question

On Tuesday, mother and daughter were found dead in Oklahoma.  And by Wednesday,at a hotel room in Las Vegas, the husband and father was found, he'd committed suicide.

Tara Johnson, 29 and her 16 month -old daughter Allison were murdered.  The couple "appeared loving and happy."   There were no financial issues and no signs of any trouble or abuse in the couple's marriage.  Yet, David Johnson murdered his family.

In cases of intimate partner violence leading to homicide, the silence of not telling their shameful secret to friends and family can be common.  In many relationships, a victim is embarrassed, refraining from disclosing to anyone, even their closet friends they're being abused. A victim can falsely believe they can handle the abuse.  The victim loves the person so much she has a false sense of safety, thinking the situation will never escalate to the point the person will actually kill them, or their own child.

We see this pattern in cases of intimate partner homicide over and over.  There is no making sense of these cases, especially when a father who participates in the upbringing of their own daughter, takes her innocent life.

Everyone who knew the couple will always wonder and then ask my least favorite question in cases of intimate partner homicide; what drove David Johnson to commit murder?

Prayers to the family and friends.

Document The Abuse for anyone involved in an abusive relationship, it contains vital information on how the "EAA"can support each case of abuse from the perspective of the first responder's and advocates, to an appearance in court.  It explains the legal benefits to the abuse victim, whether they are able to testify or not, how their words are forever documented and hold up in court, much like a Living Will.

Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases.

 A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals, victim advocates and the faith based community and author.. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing prevention and solutions within the community to the workplace. Host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show,"Time'sUp!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host onCrime Wire. Online contributions: Forbes : Crime, She Writes providing commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up! a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crime.

ABC's Show "Private Practice" Sends Dangerous Message to Victims of Intimate Partner Violence

A long running television show on the ABC network "Private Practice" aired what I considered a dangerous episode for victims of intimate partner violence and homicide.  A woman married to a dangerous offender sustains serious injuries after being beaten by her husband.  In the hospital the victim talks about killing him.   One of the main characters in the show who plays a doctor brings the patient home with her because she has safety concerns for the woman.  The doctor in conversation with the victim tells her she has the power to leave basically without using violence.

The husband learns his wife is at the doctors home, storms in the front door, assaults the doctor knocking her out cold.  When the doctor comes too you see the victim over the husband, covered in blood, stabbing him repeatedly.

I realize it's "only" a television show, but clearly it sends the wrong message. The scene's of the abuse were incredibly scripted and played out as if they were actually happening.  The delivery was powerful.

I did not agree with the message "Private Practice" conveyed to viewers that it is okay to take matters into your own hands when you are married to a violent and dangerous psychopath.

Earlier today on the Show Time's Up, Tracey Murphy's real life was no different than the woman portraying the abuse victim on ABC's"Private Practice".  Her life was a living hell sustaining injuries that included broken bones, surgery and threats to her life if she ever left.  Ending the abuse was not easy, it took work, but Tracey got out, without committing murder.

Maybe if the shows writer and producers had consulted me I would have directed them to the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit and video found on the site Document The Abuse.com  or the book Time's Up.

Below is the podcast from today's Time's Up show.  I encourage anyone involved in a rocky and potentially lethal relationship to take a few minutes, download and listen when you have time.  Before you say out loud to anyone you relationship is over, you better have a plan.

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Document The Abuse contains vital information on how the EAA can support each case of abuse from the perspective of the first responders and advocates, to an appearance in court.  It explains the legal benefits to the abuse victim, whether they are able to testify or not, how their words are forever documented and hold up in court, much like a Living Will.

Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases.

 A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals, victim advocates and the faith based community and author.. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing prevention and solutions within the community to the workplace. Host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show,"Time'sUp!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host onCrime Wire. Online contributions: Forbes : Crime, She Writes providing commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up! a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crime.

Stacy Peterson's Tragedy: Saving the Lives of Others

October 28th marks the 4-year anniversary of when a loving wife and mother seemingly vanished off the face of the earth.

About two months before the disappearance of Stacy Peterson, wife of former Bolingrook, Illinois, Police Sergeant, Drew Peterson, Stacy met with Pastor Neil Schori and had a conversation that likely will play out for the world when Pastor Schori testifies at Kathleen Savio’s murder trial sometime next year. Kathleen Savio, Drew’s third wife, as you remember, was found dead in a dry bathtub and probably would never have been heard from again had Stacy not gone missing.Drew Peterson is now on trial for her murder.

What is interesting is not so much the meeting in August 2007 with Pastor Schori, but when Stacy left to go home, Pastor Schori’s private line rang and on the other end was Drew Peterson. He called just to say hello and said he would call back to meet with the pastor at a later date in the near future. What Drew Peterson was really doing was saying, “Look, buddy, I know you just met with my wife, and I want you to know that I know,” therefore placing the pastor on notice that he, too, was being watched.

It was then, when Stacy Peterson returned home, that she was likely questioned by Drew as to why she met with him and what was said. Stacy likely did not flinch when he interrogated her, and although she sensed an impending danger, a smell change, as I call it, temporarily she disarmed him. She begins formulating a plan to end the marriage, feeling secure enough that her officer husband would not harm one hair on her head as it would sound the alarm connecting him to Kathleen’s murder should anything happen to her.

From the time the call was placed by Peterson to the pastor, he begins to show us his pattern of conduct leading up to, in my opinion, the murder of Stacy Peterson. The only way he would know for certain if Stacy was at the church that day is because he was stalking her. In the circus-like atmosphere the moment Stacy Peterson was reported missing, the focus was on finding her. No one ever remotely considered or looked at Drew Peterson’s pattern of conduct prior to October 28, 2007.

The documented patterns of his behavior go as far back to when he was married to Kathleen Savio, found dead in the former marital home in March 2004, and earlier, as letters and police reports written during their marriage document abuse toward her.

Peterson’s pattern of conduct is then served on a golden platter by the national media. His words during interviews are from a man who believes he has gotten away with murder, a second time. He tells us all, at the early stages of his new found celebrity in the fall of 2007, “she is where she wants to be.” No, what Peterson is telling us is that Stacy knew better and yet defied him anyway. For that he made her pay with her life. He is telling the world this was her choice.

Peterson’s actions reach back to the crime scene in 2004 of Kathleen Savio. He was familiar with his former wife’s schedule and comfortable enough with the layout of his former home to carry out a murder. In my opinion, it was the perfect crime to stage in the upstairs bathroom on a weekend when he had visitation with the kids; they were not in the house. Stacy, and who else was there? Did his oldest son, Steven, on Saturday, February 28, happen to stop by that weekend to enjoy a warm, fuzzy family night of pizza and movie? Did he have an alibi for that night?

Once fellow officers responded to the 911 call to the home of Kathleen Savio, did any of them wonder why Peterson didn’t just radio the station? He was still on duty and in uniform. How many of the officers responding to the call answered to Peterson because he was their supervisor? Drew Peterson’s pattern of conduct is important during the murder investigation. The crime scene is his stage at which he shines in being the master at manipulation and deception among those he works with everyday, fighting crime. Peterson gets away with the crime and moves forward with his life.

We don’t know Peterson’s pattern of conduct in the days leading up to Stacy’s disappearance and alleged murder. We do know that Stacy had confided in a neighbor about Drew moving out of the home. She set up an appointment with Harry Smith for a divorce consultation. She made a statement to her sister, considered hearsay, “if something happens to me it’s no accident;” the words Kathleen would write when she petitioned the court for an order of protection.

Peterson’s pattern of conduct and actions are important as it relates to Stacy Peterson. She can be placed in the marital home the morning she disappeared, so we know she and Peterson were in that house. From Sunday morning until the following day, there is a window of opportunity for Peterson, and when the coast is clear, in my opinion, he takes her out of the house. How far is he really going to drive? Does he go to one of two camp grounds with which he is familiar within an hour’s drive of the house? Does he go to a more obvious and public location, perhaps in plain site and one that is familiar to him? We do not know because Stacy Peterson's is still out there someplace waiting to be found.

Similar to thousands of other victims across the country no different then Stacy telling a close friend or family member about the abuse is not enough to make an arrest or prosecute in a court of law.

Now there is new technology that if Stacy Peterson had completed called the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit, Drew Peterson would have been arrested and charged with her murder. Because in a victims own words she would have been able to describe incidents of abuse and other important information. After completing the document it is witnessed and notarized prior to being read on a recorded video. This removes "Hearsay" and provides a solid case for prosecution because it is in her own words, similar to a will.

Pastor Neil Schori at the time would be an important role in the early development of the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit. The case of Stacy Peterson was how the process was started. Because pf the Pastor and the support of the Naperville Christian church lives are being saved Now Pastor Schori is taking this new procedure from behind the pulpit and across the county.

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On October 31, 2001--Technology is about to change the way victims of domestic violence andstalking will be able to document and video the abuse and potential threats against their lives. It is also a unique way, once the technology is used across the country, for abusers to think twice about making their spouse or girlfriend vanish without a trace. In her absence, if the victim has completed the process, called the "Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" it will bring an arrest and a solid case for prosecutors.

THE GOAL OF THE TECHNOLOGY:

To significantly reduce the number of homicides and missing persons per year by
providing cutting edge technology and vital knowledge that will first give potential
victims a fighting chance, a strong voice, provide valuable non‐reputable evidence that
will aid in any investigations, eventual conviction, overruling “hearsay” laws, in the
worst case scenarios and provide a powerful deterrent against would‐be attackers.

To significantly reduce the costs incurred by law enforcement, the justice system and health
care services, including insurance claims, each costing taxpayers annually.

About the Conference

Nationally recognized Intimate Partner Specialist, Susan Murphy Milano, and Chet Hosmer of
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partnering to bring a newly created technology that will revolutionize the way cases of intimate partner violence are handled at every level. The technology will be unveiled nationally October 31 at the Techno‐Forensic Conference in Myrtle Beach, SC. http://www.techno‐forensics.com/ - If you are interested in covering the event or writing a story please contact Delilah@imagine publicity.com or for more information call 843.808.0859


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If you are in a relationship that has a history of violence, simply mustering up the courage to confront the person and say it is over, without the proper tools, can cost you, your life!

One of the major reasons women stay in abusive relationships is fear. They are afraid of what will happen to them and their children if they leave. Sadly, their fears are often justified; statistics show that a woman is at the greatest risk for injury when she announces her plans or leaves an abusiverelationship. The book "Time's Up A Guide on How To Survive and Abusive and Stalking Relationship"is the prescription, if you will, that every person must obtain before they announce they are leaving. Below is an example from Chapter 4, one of many unique tools provided in the book. It is available on Amazon.com, or you can purchase via e-book or on a cd. If you have questions, the email address is murphymilano@gmail.com

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Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is a specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies and high risk cases and available for personal consultations through the Institute. She is also part of the team at Management Resources Limited of New York.

Susan is a contributor to Forbes : Crime, She Writes a powerhouse lineup of female true crime professionals, experts and authors providing commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective.

Susan is the author of "Time's Up: A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships,"Moving out, Moving on, and Defending Out Lives. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host on Crime Wire.

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