This woman given long of nothing,but a chance to give of herself, but still they beat and asked for more.As always she accepted with a facethat never broke.In the struggle to find the hidden way to love, herself, she lost! But she found a way through kind and good to give to every other and only asked to see the start of a smile.And I who blossomed strong and late have worked and spoke and prayed so long to make her proud. Now in the memories of her far but still not absent ways, I chose to simply ease her thoughts in anytime of anxious painin the moving moments of a gift of rhyme. And I shall offer her my always love, although I know and hate and fear,
that my forever words are not enough.
And with new words I offer love so late
but still so dear.
Mama, you on this day shall always keep,
this giving praising moment of each thought
and gift,
though to all other moments when they forgot
when you were only always there.
On this day although a great tragedy,
you are being bestowed the greatest honor
one can obtain.
that is of love, family and friends.
You fought long and hard all of your adult life,
we understand that this is God's way of making
the rest of your days that of peace, joy and
harmony that you never demanded
but rightfully deserved.
She paid the price of victory with her life.
Maybe it was for all those who remain silent and
suffered unheard.
I pray we will better understand our tragic loss
and forgive those who turned away,
rest assured Mama,
we will continue to fight
and you will not be among
the silent but victorious!
In memory of my mother Roberta Murphy 1942-1989
Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases.
A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals,
victim advocates and the faith based community and author.. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing
contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host onCrime Wire. Online contributions: Forbes :
Crime, She Writesproviding commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up!
a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crimeSusan is also the daughter of a Chicago Violent Crimes detective who murdered her mother before turning the gun on himself and committing suicide.
The 7th Annual National Round Table Conference
March 24th thru 27th of 2011
Holiday Inn Hotel Conference Center 5032 Market Street, Wilmington, NC 28405 (910) 392-1101
Everyone is invited to attend our upcoming national conference for missing persons and all who work in the arena from advocating, volunterism, investigation, search and rescue and identification process of those who are lost. This event is open to all who support the mission of finding a resolution for families who have suffered a missing loved one.
Please share this information to anyone in this line of work and or a family of a missing person or homicide victim. To learn more about CUE Center for Missing Persons please visit us at our web sitewww.ncmissingpersons.org or email us cuecenter@aol.com
HIGHLIGHTS OF THE 2010 NATIONAL CONFERENCE (BELOW)
Information for the 2011 instructors, guest speakers, and exciting events will be posted as confirmations are made, please keep check back, thank you….
TRAINING SESSION, Certificate Classes
“Illuminations”, Surviving Victimization and Suicide, Allison West
“Intimate Partner Violence”, My Loved One is Missing”, Susan Murphy Milano
“Psyhics & Missing Perons – Help or Hindrance?, Kelly Jolkowki and Robert Cooke
GUEST SPEAKERS AND PRESENTATIONS
Pat Brown, Investigate Criminal Profiler
Curtis Barnhill, Project Life Saver, New Hanover County Sheriff Office
Jane Bradley, Author of “YOU Believers”
Victims Hours, Friday
National Candle Light Service – HonoreesMarch 26, 2011 @ Riverfront Park, Downtown Wilmington Waterfront – 7:30 pm, the public is welcome
MC -
Guest Speaker - Susan Murphy Milano “Moving Forward”
Reading of the Poem – Sheree Justus
Vocal Tribute - Mallory Malter
National Prayer – Angie Davis
Unveiling of the Wall
Service Dedication (see posters)
Wilmington | The annual conference by a local group focused on missing persons is expected to bring together various roles in the search and rescue field ranging from Federal Bureau of Investigation representatives to families of people who have gone missing.
[Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visithttp://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold.
Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/ and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr. Laurie Roth http://www.therothshow.com/ ]
On Monday, a seasoned high ranking law enforcement officer with the New York City Police department, stabbed his wife , then took his service revolver from his holster, shot her and then himself, all before the couple's 18-year old daughter.
The daughter who was in the home at the time of the shooting, will recount and live this tragedy over and over, for the rest of her life. This is a club, no longer a private matter, whose membership is growing among law enforcement families. And it is a crime, that in my opinion can be prevented in some situations when a department learns the officer is divorcing or ending a relationship.
Police departments must begin creating and implementing basic services for their officers. These services must also include the safety of spouses in police-perpetrated domestic violence.
I have said this before, you train a police officer to protect the streets. They are issued a gun and a badge. The spouses are ignorned, left all alone with trained officers ,when an arugement or a relationship is ending. A spouse is helpless to seek any type of assistance or direction to protect she and the children. A spouse is unable to contact anyone in the department where the officer is stationed and ask for assistance. A spouse cannot file charges against her officer husband after an explosive episode, as she risks losing her life.
As an author, safety strategist and lecturer in the area of family violence within an officers family, I know first-hand, the life threatening issues associated within an officers home when violence erupts.
The time has come to put an end to the bloodshed, one and for all.
Drew Peterson is resurfacing, this time he and he legal marshmallow roaster will appear on the CBS Early Show to discuss an upcomming book by a self-published Canadian businessman to be released later this week.
The front cover of the book has 2 photo's one of Peterson hooked up to a polygraph machine and the other is a family portrait with Stacy, Drew and all four children taken a couple years ago.
Will County is no closer to charging and arresting Drew Peterson on either Stacy Peterson or Kathleen Savio. And as an important side note to this circus lets not forget Lisa Stebic.
In this game of catch me if you can, with the one anniversary of Stacy's vanishing act at the end of October one wonders if James Glascow's Prosecutors have presented enough of a case for a grand jury to even indict Peterson?
Too many questions and not enough answers in domestic violence,vanishing, murder, stalking, and felony cases not only in Illinois but across the Country.
When the news story first came out it stated Tera Chavez had committed suicide. What those who were involved in this cover-up did not know, Tera had been in contact with State of Arizona Invetigators.
In a bold move, Tera's death was ruled a homicide. Lawwyers for the family hired attorney Brad Hall and filed a lawsuit against the police department for tampering with a crime scene, destroying evidence and interfering with another departments investigation out of their jurisdiction.
Police Officer Adam Vazquez Police Officer Leslie Holiday
Today, in a Baltimore courtroom, Former Police Eugene Victor Perry was sentenced to life in prison for the murders of his former girlfriend and a co-worker.
The life sentence goes deeper than discussion or words in a courtroom. It really applies to the loved ones left behind, forced to carry on their lives without their beloved family members.
Officer Leslie Holiday had three children, who have been orphaned by a man filled with rage and hate. No sentence on the earth is going to compare with how these children have been forced to live their lives from the moment they received the news, that Mom, was never returning home, again.
Officer Adam Vazquez's family will also be forced to live in the same imprisionment without, their family member.
Every holiday, birthday and anniversay that passes is also a prision sentence for each of these families.