New Technology for Domestic Violence and Stalking Crimes

Technology is about to change the way victims of domestic violence and stalking will be able to document and video the abuse and potential threats against their lives. It is also a unique way, once the technology is used across the country, for abusers to think twice about making their spouse or girlfriend vanish without a trace. In her absence, if the victim has completed the process, called the "Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit"it will bring an arrest and a solid case for prosecutors.

This comes at time when the city of Topeka, Kansas just repealed the domestic violence law in the city. Their excuse is not having the money to prosecute crimes that can and are leading to murder of victims and their children. I expect other cities to follow cost saving methods, hopefully not as drastic as Topeka, which could include writing a simple ticket rather then making an arrest.

In many of the cases resulting in murder, where the victim and or children are killed, but the former husband or boyfriend remains alive and is awaiting trial, the victims fears and testimony in these cases is important for law enforcement and prosecution. The victims words are admitted into testimony at the trial as "last will and testament" rather then as in current cases "hearsay." Another important aspect is a victims words about the offender. Who they are and how the threats against life and limb were real while the victim was still alive. Removing the offenders right as per the sixth amendment to face the person who is accusing them (because they are no longer alive) this is groundbreaking.

The technology will also be a voice for those silenced during post decree issues. As the world witnessed last week, an angry ex-husband stormed into a busy beauty salon in California killing 8 people, including his ex-wife who claimed while alive he threatened to kill her. Now, his actions and mental health will be in trial, the threats and abuse she suffered will be considered "hearsay" because she did not have the opportunity to prepare the document and video.

THE GOAL OF THE TECHNOLOGY:

To significantly reduce the number of homicides and missing persons per year by

providing cutting edge technology and vital knowledge that will first give potential

victims a fighting chance, a strong voice, provide valuable non‐reputable evidence that

will aid in any investigations, eventual conviction, overruling “hearsay” laws, in the

worst case scenarios and provide a powerful deterrent against would‐be attackers.

 To significantly reduce the costs incurred by law enforcement, the justice system and health

care services, including insurance claims, each costing taxpayers annually.

If my mama could see me now, wow! In her death, my work and this new technology is a reality. Years ago after she was murdered by my police officer father, my goal was to keep others alive, always striving to find an effective solution. I realize the importance of following your dreams, believing you can change the world!

About the Conference

Nationally recognized Intimate Partner Specialist, Susan Murphy Milano, and Chet Hosmer of

WetStone Technologies, a wholly owned subsidiary of Allen Corporation of America are

partnering to bring a newly created technology that will revolutionize the way cases of intimate partner violence are handled at every level. The technology will be unveiled nationally October 31 at the Techno‐Forensic Conference in Myrtle Beach, SC. http://www.techno‐forensics.com/ - If you are interested in covering the event or writing a story please contact

Delilah@imagine publicity.com or for more information call 843.808.0859

http://www.techno-forensics.com/session/intimate-partner-violence-growing-epidemic-how-technology-can-aid-law-enforcement-and-prosec

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Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is a specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies and high risk cases and available for personal consultations through the Institute. She is also part of the team at Management Resources Limited of New York.

Susan is the author of "Time's Up: A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships,"Moving out, Moving on, and Defending Out Lives. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host on Crime Wire.

If you would like to schedule Susan Murphy Milano for training and interviews, please contact:ImaginePublicity PO BOX 14946 Surfside Beach, SC 29587 Phone: 843.808.0859 email- contact@imaginepublicity.com

Tiffany Hartley: A Call To Action: Part 2

by Susan Murphy Milano and Peter Hyatt


On part one here yesterday, we challenged the media to ask some important questions including treating this woman, Tiffany Young-Hartley as at the very least a person of interest.

We have been encouraged by the responses to a call to action thus far, and encourage any journalist who treasures the word "investigative" with their title, to respond.

Levi Page is one such journalist who has committed himself to justice; though not always in step with popular media hosts, he has refused to turn a deaf ear to the obvious and join in calling Tiffany Hartley "courageous" or a "voice" for America. He will continue to cover the case, also seeking justice for David Hartley and his family, on The Levi Page Show on BlogTalk Radio.

Journalists, with dogged determination, can dig and dig until the truth, no matter what it is, is uncovered.

But what of law enforcement?
If a man drove up on a jet ski and called 911 to report that his wife had been gunned down by Mexican "pirates", and he told a tale where he portrayed himself as a hero, even in the face of an onslaught of bullets hailing all around him, but finally, reluctantly, and with the voice of God, was forced to abandon his wife, would a sheriff have simply taken his word for it?

Had he said, "don't bother to search, my wife's on the Mexican side", would law enforcement simply said, "ok, case closed"?

Would Sheriff Gonzalez take one look at him, untouched by bullets (and without a single nick on his jet ski) and said, "I can tell he is an honest man. No need for a polygraph."?

What if he said that ruthless drug cartels "decided" after killing his wife, to just let him go? Would that not raise an eyebrow or two?

How about afterwards: let's say this same man, a day or two later, contacted media and went from talk show to talk show: Would his words matter to you?

What if he announced that his wife was the love of his life, but it was time to move on?

What if he said he knew his wife would have wanted him to see the world, do some serious Black Friday shopping, and "live the life" a month after her murder?

Sheriff Gonzalez, would you feel a bit queasy on this one?What if the same man declined any call for justice for his slain wife, but only wanted her body back.

Would you still be able to retain the respect of your deputies even after ignoring this blaring red flag and all the others?

Sheriff Gonzalez, it is time to think about your actions.

What did Gonzalez have to gain by taking Tiffany's word that her husband's body is on the "Mexico" side; even though they were racing as fast as the jet ski could take them (60mph?) towards home? Was there a sort of marker in the water in which Tiffany could see the demarcation? Would any law enforcement personnel in the country just take a person's word for it, without verification?


For law enforcement here is what must be investigated.


There is an insurance policy within the company David Hartley was employed.

Law enforcement 101: check with human resource people within CalFrac Well Services to see if she inquired as to what they need for a pay-out. Go back 6 months and ask some questions.

And it might also include a double indemnity clause as an insurance benefit provision or addendum. Tiffany Hartley likely is the sole beneficiary. This information is not public record and must be obtained from the company in which he was employed. It is easy enough to get: investigative subpoena will do the trick. Separately check also with the policy holder directly for any communication prior to David Hartley vanishing.


Cell phone records: both those of David and Tiffany Hartley. She also likely used his phone at different times. Also check on the computer activity used from the cell phone and go back as far as 9 months of activity. It is likely you will not see much activity 30 days before David vanished; but go back a bit further. This was not random, but showed planning and alibi building at least a month earlier,likely many months.

Next: Cell phone usage after David vanished.

If his cell phone was in the truck that day and it was a company phone was it returned to the company was it used? Cell tower activity on all phones especially 4 weeks prior to the date she left the area. Current cell phone activity should be investigated.

We still haven't left Investigation 101.

Journalists, are you listening?

Ever hear of the Freedom of Information Act?

Do you want to hear the complete 911 call? Did Tiffany have you at "hello", even though you have read the FBI's own litmus test for guilty homicide callers? Do you still wish to refer to her as "cute"?

Obtain computer activity from David’s computer and Tiffany’s computer. Subpoena email activity records from the Internet carrier. Search for records must include google map activity and skype connect calls (that is often missed in intimate partner crimes.)

Tiffany was employed, but where? Check her computer activity at her place of employment. Also if there is a library where the couple lived or Internet access at a local cafe it should be checked.
David Ramsey- Tiffany sought the assistant of radio and financial expert Dave Ramsey and she met him in person. Also Tiffany thanked Dave Ramsey for his advice. The couple was obviously lived past their means if they went to Dave Ramsey. I would investigate if the jet skis were owned free and clear or did they owe money on them. In an interview, ask Tiffany to explain what "the life" means to her?

You may be surprised at just how much she reveals.

Obtain the registration of both jet skis and put out an alert for the missing skis.

How about a reward?

Investigate which jet skis Tiffany actually has, hers or David’s. Place a stolen warrant in the system for the missing jet skis it is likely it could turn up. Place the warrant for the skis in both Mexico and the United States. The one Tiffany returned to tell her story was indeed registered to David M. Hartley (this information was obtained from the police stop earlier on the video dash cam as it showed the back of the trailer where they were transporting skis.)

Investigate friends of Tiffany Hartley at her work and David’s in the area or other wives whose husbands worked for CalFrac Well Services. I would check both English and non English employees spouses. If she spoke Spanish fluently Tiffany may have kept that quiet.

Investigate any Western Union activity within 60 days of David vanishing. Unusual charges to credit cards both she and David Hartley’s. Federal express records of ingoing and outgoing packages need to be reviewed through the time she left, especially in Mexico.

This is not complicated. It is long, boring arduous work.

It is also something that investigators love.

Why?

Because it is often the tiny, overlooked detail that brings out the truth.

Had a man emerged from Falcon Lake sans wife claiming to have been in a hail of bullets with not a single one of them hitting him or his jet ski, yet scoring a perfect head shot on his wife,

would law enforcement and media turned a deaf ear, and a blind eye, to justice for the missing? 

It is time.

In part 3, if more journalists will not step up and law enforcement will continue to shrug their collective shoulders, then it shall be time for the public to take some action.


Peter Hyatt is an Investigator and an expert on Statement analysis, also called "statement validity assessment", "content analysis", "investigative discourse analysis", and "scientific content analysis" is a technique that can be used to detect concealed information, missing information, and whether the information that person has provided is true or false. Peter Hyatt's blog is http://www.seamusoriley.blogspot.com


[Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/  She is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold.  Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/ and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr. Laurie Roth  http://www.therothshow.com/) ]

"Time's Up" Stop Being a Victim

There are no more excuses to stay in a relationship where your safety continues to be hanging by a thread. Waking up day after day without a plan of how to leave the relationship can be deadly. The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction (http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/) offers exit planning strategies to prevent you from becoming an abuse statistic or the victim of Intimate Partner Homicide. If the Institute can help you strategize to get ready for disconnection, please let us. Most of all, be safe.


Before you announce your thoughts about how unhappy you are or that the relationship simply is not working for you any longer, have a solid plan in place. Women often fail to plan ahead in leaving, underestimating what the abuser can and actually ends up doing.

Susan Powell Example

Susan Powell, a married stockbroker and is a devoted mother to two young sons. Over time, Susan’s husband Josh became more and more controlling. Their marriage deteriorated. At this point in a relationship, many abusers begin to formulate a plan born of anger and desperation.

This plan remains in the abuser’s mind until they notice subtle signs of movement. Perhaps Josh walked into the room as Susan whispered into the phone. When she realized he was in the room, she quickly changed her tone or ended the phone call. Perhaps he learned Susan set up a bank account, and decided she was hiding money so she and the kids could leave.

The signs of movement spark Josh, or any potential abuser, to think of the next level. They think to themselves, “OK, she is going to leave me. I will not let that happen”. He acts as though nothing is wrong. When she goes to sleep, however, Josh leaps into action. He may:

•rummage through her car looking for evidence of her plan–a bank receipt or an unusual transaction or charge
•check her cell phone for any unusual numbers he does not recognize
•search her computer, checking to see which websites she visited

He finds something. Inwardly his anger skyrockets and his heart races. Outwardly, he remains calm and says nothing to Susan. A smile comes to his face. He “caught her,” and he figures in the future, she will pay one way or another.

Susan begins to email a trusted circle of friends about Josh’s abuse and threats. Maybe she keeps a detailed log containing dates and times of the incidents.

Next, Josh does what I label the “smell change.” Susan acts strangely. Josh, like most abusers, literally senses, or “smells” when his environment has shifted. Perhaps Susan verbalizes her unhappiness more often. Maybe she stands up for herself during a fight, where months before she would have backed down and gone to her room without incident.

Most abused women have difficulty hiding that “spark of empowerment” from a clever abuser. The abuser smells the spark, like a fox scents prey as he enters a coop full of chickens.

On December 7, 2009, Susan Powell of Utah disappeared. Law enforcement personnel consider her husband Josh a person of interest.

Susan Powell’s case appears no different from millions of cases of intimate partner violence we never hear about, until women disappear and someone finds their bodies. Often no “official documentation” of the abuse exists because the terrified women did not contact police or obtain a court order of protection. Why? Better than anyone, the victims know the court order of protection would not help. The court order of protection would only escalate the level of danger.

Part 1of the article Here- http://saferelationshipsmagazine.com/caution-relationship-lane-changes-part-1



[Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/  She is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold.  Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/ and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr. Laurie Roth  http://www.therothshow.com/) ]

Tiffany Hartley: International Widow no Time for Justice?

In the world of intimate partner violence, the person responsible or those labeled as “persons of interest” or “prime suspects” hope the person with whom they were in a relationship or married to, are never found. This speaks volumes to the mindset of these killers. They look at the relationship as their property, similar to the assets acquired during the marriage. In their mindset it is easier to dispose of the person so they can begin again with a clean slate.

The controlling and angry person is often enraged by the loss of power and control, not interested in what I term "sharing the dolls and dishes" accumulated during the marriage. They formulate a plan and change the marriage certificate into a pending death certificate to be filled out and completed like a deadly bill of sale for discarded property.

Intimate partner violence is not gender specific. The way the crimes are reported or not investigated is another matter. If we look at men who are sexual predators, society is enraged by these dangerous individuals. But, when we hear about a teacher or a woman committing sexual acts or murder with a student or child, the media reaction and public outcry is very different. The treatment within the criminal justice system for male predators versus female predators is miles apart as it relates to sentencing.

In cases of intimate partner homicides, often law enforcement will not pursue a criminal investigation against a woman. As an example, Michael Tapley of Arizona, has been missing since February of 2008. The last person to see him alive was his wife, Gina Tapley. In my opinion, based on information and various facts surrounding his vanishing act, his wife played a role in his disappearance. She told some wild west story and authorities believed it. Arizona police are refusing to open an investigation, because, in my opinion, she is a woman. The case is only classified as missing persons and is basically closed unless someone comes forward or I get a break with the attorney general’s office, or a newly elected sheriff, and they listen and review the facts.

Another example is Mathew Houbrick of Illinois. Television producer, Matthew Houbrick, was found dead at the Drake Hotel in Chicago on November 14, 2005. He was in Chicago working on the FOX TV series Prison Break. His death made world-wide headlines, but the truth of what really happened; how he died, why Chicago Police failed to properly investigate, was swept under the carpet. Facts in this case, in my opinion, point to his former girlfriend. Now, 5 years later there is movement on the case and information is finally being reviewed. Because of how the murder was set up designed to look like a suicide, which it was not, the case was closed. In my opinion, he was murdered and the person responsible covered her tracks.

Wife charged: Michael Severance survived five tours of duty with the Air Force in the war torn Middle East. But he could not survive five months of marriage to this woman; Wendi Davidson was a young veterinarian in the isolated city of San Angelo, Texas. She decided the solution to her problem was to give her husband a lethal injection in January of 2005.  She was convicted of his murder and is now serving a 25 year sentence in a Texas prison.

Women who kill are also psychopaths (just as their men counterparts) and the pattern of conduct resulting in the outcome of murder is the same.  In my opinion, as I and others are now working, a similar case in the news is beyond disturbing and the criminal pattern is no different. Yet, authorities and the media have intentionally decided the new darling of media and border issues should not be investigated and we need to stop "picking on her." 

Psychopathy Characteristics (defined)

• glib and superficial charm
• grandiose (exaggeratedly high) estimation of self
• need for stimulation
• pathological lying
• cunning and manipulativeness
• lack of guilt or remorse
• shallow affect (superficial emotional responsiveness)
• callousness and lack of empathy
• sexual promiscuity
• impulsivity
• irresponsibility

The case of missing person David Hartley follows a similar pattern as the aforementioned cases.  Technically, since his body has not been recovered, he is considered a missing person.  So why, as in all such cases, has David Hartely not been registered with NamUs  http://www.namus.gov/ or other missing person's data bases?  If, and when, his remains are recovered, DNA testing needs to be done, but without properly registering him in the system, it will not happen, when and if, his body is located, perhaps on foreign or U.S. soil.   FACT: he is a missing person because there is no body. So we take the word of a single person with whom he was married and then what, case closed?  It is on to border patrol issues? Foreign policy perhaps? I do not think so!

Where is an investigative journalist when you need one?  Does such a person exist?  In my opinion, the days of the investigative reporting is over, and this case proves my point.  Instead, experts like Dr. Lillian Glass in the area of body language, Peter Hyatt, expert in statement analysis and his blog, (http://www.seamusoriley.blogspot.com/) on statement analysis is on target, along with others who are asking important questions and doing the tasks that once were accomplished by investigative journalists.

The last entry on Tiffany's Facebook is interesting it is 4 days before David Harley vanished:

Tiffany Young- Hartley Had a great vacation in Key West, FL. Thanks to my husband who works so hard so we can get away from life for awhile. Great pick Babe!!!! Saw a couple sharks while diving, got to pet a Manatee by the Harbor walk. Just a few of the highlights of our trip. September 26 at 7:49pm · 

The next Facebook entry from Tiffany is Tiffany Young- Hartley Thank you everyone for your prayers!!! October 2 at 11:32pm 

There are brief other entries, communication from her saying thanks to folks for prayers.

Twenty Nine days  after the love of this woman's life has vanished you begin to see the border issue postings.  Tiffany Young- Hartley This website is VERY grafic, David would look at now and again but I never really did due to the grafics. So if you can't handle the pictures just skip over them but read the articles. This will give you an eye opener to what is happening on the border. You will see why I'm speaking out and wanting all of you and America to realize what is happening and that we can't continue to be blind. It isn't your fault our own government and media is not reporting any of this. They don't want us know they just want to keep it quite, But not anymore, if they don't get it out I will.  October 29 at 1:43am ·


I apologize if I am repeating myself, but none of this makes any sense what so ever. And I will not treat the vanishing/murder of David Hartley differently than I do missing women,  Stacy Peterson or Susan Powell.

I do not see a grieving widow doing anything about a search and recovery mission for her husband.  Recently, in the same area that David Hartley vanished, a reporter chartered those same waters.  He reported it was isolated, no ships, pirates or anything other than wildlife in the area Tiffany claims David was shot.  Publicly, given all the attention to this tragedy, Tiffiany Hartley had the ability to have search and rescue crews at her disposal.  But, she never asked or made a public plea.  Her account(s) to the events of September 30, 2010, are, in my opinion, not true.  In her own words, during a recent interview, she said, "I will never return to Mexico." And why not? What about David and seeking justice?  Then 2 weeks later she posts another entry, again, no mention of David, her horrific so called encounter with pirates or drug cartel, because it did not happen!  You can't talk about something that did not take place. So you disarm by changing the subject and never really answering any one's questions.  This, in my opinion is a classic pattern of conduct for those involved in intimate partner crimes.

Tiffany Young- Hartley “BORDER INSECURITY, GANGS, AND DRUG TRAFFICKING” is one of the most intensive trainings in the nation on the issues of the United States and Mexico Border, Drug Trafficking, and the infiltration of the cartels in the United States! Training all day and evening, Friday, Nov. 12, from 8 AM to 9 PM, and Saturday, Nov. 13..., from 8 AM to 5 PM at the Aurora Mental Health Center, Aurora, CO. November 9 at 2:11pm-

Tiffany Young- Hartley Encourage everyone that you can to attend the viewing of Drug Wars on Thursday, Nov. 11, at 7:00 PM, at the Elvis Theatre in Tamarac Shopping Center, Denver. followed by a panel discussion with the producer of Drug Wars and other experts. The tickets are $5.00 and to get tickets call  (i removed contacts name) at November 9 at 2:05pm

How about asking and "encouraging everyone" who knows anything to come forward?  I have yet to see a reward offered for information on the case or a designated tip line number that could lead to the recovery of David Hartley.  I know maybe the mainstream media can go to Mexico and offer a reward for information via one of their bureau offices located near the area where David Hartley vanished. 

David Hartley was employed since 2003 as a district manager for CalFracWell Services, a multi-billion dollar company.  Perhaps they should be asked to assist with the recovery of David Hartley.  Maybe they can help with placing information in Spanish at various communities, on Internet sites, and offer a reward in this case.   I know Tiffany Hartley is rather busy at the moment, so I am asking for assistance from CalFrac Well Services, the same as I would ask for any victim who has vanished or been reported as murdered.  My email address is murphymilano@gmail.com.

(Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/  She is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold.  Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/ and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr. Laurie Roth  http://www.therothshow.com/)

Tiffany Hartley: Murder & Mexican Borders in Real Time

Everyone from CNN to NBC's Todays Show has interviewed Tiffany Hartley, 29, the young woman  now widowed after she and her husband jet skied on the waters of Mexico along the border just 6 weeks ago. She has been tagged "courageous" and a "hero" by the media for her actions in saving her life and being able to talk about it afterwards.  Killer's are always the masters at painting the canvas. 

David Hartley's body, jet ski, life vest and camera vanished the day this woman returned to tell the world her story.  For me, this tragedy is no different than others who are involved, or ultimately arrested in intimate partner homicide, or who are suspects and persons of interest.  In my opinion, working for over 20 years on these cases, the real tragedy is the truth and how the media is presenting this story all because the person responsible is a woman.

I know what you are thinking; this beautiful girl nextdoor  is not capable of killing anyone.   Afterall, she and David were high school sweethearts who married and traveled the world together as if they were joined at the hip.  That is the perception, but, it is not reality. It is what Tiffany Hartley wants the world to believe.

First, Tiffany Hartley returned unscathed.  Under the circumstances, as she told her story (they are 2 or 3 versions ) she would have never escaped alive.  Tiffany herself would have been taken by the so called pirates or drug cartel, then held hostage, and when they were finished sharing her among the other men she would have been sold to the sex slave trade in another country.  That is a fact.

Another fact is the "pirate" or drug boats can out run a jet ski.  Tiffany looked fairly calm, no blood anywhere on her own vest, hair or face.  As a matter of fact, she was in pretty good condition as she gave her live on air interviews.  She said she jumped in the water to save her husband; that is not possible.  Tiffany had nothing under her feet on the water for balance to even do this and she weighs 100 lbs against a man that is double that weight, now dead weight, not possible to be turned over. David was outfitted with a life vest and he wouldn't dare get in the water with bad equipment so how could he have been face down in the water?  Maybe he was never in the water in the first place?  No one saw the couple together, it is possible, all we have is her account.

Then we have the person who called the 911 operater after Tiffany ran up to him. The person called into CNN to give their account again.  Wow, amazing it does not add up.  If the caller is in so much fear why does he bother calling to give an interview?  Does the caller even have television service or reception?  Is the caller a faithful follower of CNN to know to even call into the show?

CNN CALLER:
It was my second weekly round. I usually make one. And I was just checking out the property, making sure my plants get enough water and what have you, when I noticed there was this boat behind a jet ski. I was, like I said, watering the plants when I see this jet ski start coming towards me. I noticed the boat behind it turned around and left the area. And as that boat gets closer, I can see the lady in distress looking back over her shoulders, and she looked frantic, sobbing. And she asked me -- the first words out of her mouth were like, "Can you speak English?"


And I nodded while I said, "Yes." And she right away asked me to call 911.

BALDWIN: Did she explain what had happened to her husband?

UNIDENTIFIED MALE: That's when she said, "My husband's been shot," been shot in the head. And it sent chills down my spine. It changed my mood. I was scared. I went ahead right away and started dialing 911 as she got off the jet ski. She kept explaining to me that all they were doing was taking pictures. They weren't doing anything wrong out there, just taking pictures when. 

Here all the caller is doing is recounting what Tiffany Hartley has told him so he repeated it to the 911 operater.  This is a staged killers dream to have a performance believed by others.  Abusers are masters at manipulating the truth. 


BALDWIN: These three boats come upon them.

UNIDENTIFIED MALE: And they went ahead and surrounded them, started waving guns, from what she was telling me. As they started to take off, because they got scared themselves, the bullets start coming in.


Again, a statement from what Tiffany was telling him.  So this is no different than Drew Peterson saying "my wife Stacy ran off with another man," or Josh Powell saying "Susan Powell  just took off and you will have to believe me until you can prove otherwise."  Tiffany Hartley is in my opinion far more elborate and creative then the men we see who committ these crimes.

Stay with me and return for Part 2- Saturday, November 20, 2010

(Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Pathology  Education.  For more information visit http://www.saferelationships.com/  She is the author of  "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold.  Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on http://www.herewomentalk.com/ and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr. Laurie Roth on http://www.therothshow.com/)

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.

Time's Up: "Free Sara Kruzan"

Yesterday on my radio show, "Time's Up!," I talked to Dawn Schiller about how her life circumstances led her to a relationship with porn star, John Holmes.  It was frank, and it was important for listeners to know the truth about how this grooming process and control happens to teens.  Dawn and I discussed the case of Sara Kruzan, and concluded that it could very well be Dawn, or any number of throwaway teens in this same position.  Sara Kruzan may be guilty of killing another human being, but this human being (and I use that term lightly) took away much more of Sara's life.  What's fair and just?

Sixteen-year-old human trafficking victim Sara Kruzan was sentenced to life in prison without parole when, in a desperate act to escape captivity, she shot her pimp. When Sara met G.G., the 31-year-old man who would become her pimp, she was only 11. G.G. groomed Sara two years before he raped her. By then, his control was complete and he forced her into prostitution. Sara and the other girls who G.G. exploited were out on the streets from 6pm to 6am, every night. Twelve hours a night, seven days a week, for three years, Sara was raped by strangers so G.G. could profit. After three years, she snapped, and she killed him.

Now 32, Sara has spent half her life in prison as a model prisoner, and has asked Gov. Schwarzenegger for clemency. Sara was arrested and tried in 1994, before anyone was using the term "human trafficking" and when the country was still struggling to understand issues like domestic violence and pimp control that give one person coercive control over another. So there was no expert witness at Sara's trial to explain how her years of repeated rape, trauma, and abuse had affected her actions. There was no expert to tell the jury that with counseling, support, and care, Sara could heal from her traumatic past and grow to be a strong and moral woman.


Sara's clemency plea has been submitted to Gov. Schwarzenegger, and the decision of whether or not to release her with time served rests solely with him. Sara Kruzan deserves hope. She deserves hope that she didn't survive being raped and sold for three years for nothing. She deserves hope that the darkest chapter of her life has passed, and a horizon lies ahead. She deserves hope that she can change, grow, and flourish as a woman. But in life without parole, there is no hope.


If you live and are a resident in the United States please click below and sign the petition for Sara:
http://criminaljustice.change.org/petitions/view/support_freedom_of_trafficking_victim_sara_kruzan_2

Tell Gov. Schwarzenegger that human trafficking victims deserve support and care, not prison. Ask him to release Sara with time served.

(Susan Murphy Milano, is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Psychopathy Education for more information visit http://www.saferelationships.com/ and is the author of the new book "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and where ever books are sold. And she is the host of Time's Up on http://www.herewomentalk.com/ and she is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated show with Dr. Laurie Roth on http://www.therothshow.com/)

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.

Susan Powell: Part 3 "She knows she will be chewed up like hamburger?"

Time's Up: How to Escape Abusive and Stalking Relationships Guide(Part 3 of 3 on missing mother Susan Powell who vanished from her home on December 6, 2009)
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Josh Powell told police a crazy story when he arrived from his famous below zero trip saying he took his two boys, ages 2 and 4, camping in the early morning hours of Dec. 6 and returned later in the evening to find his wife missing. Susan was reported missing on Dec. 7 when she failed to show up for work.

On the eleventh month anniversary of her murder in my opinion, Josh Powell breaks his silence giving a "devoted deadly daddy dearest" interview with the Salt Trubune.
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There are many remarks in the interview that scream deliberate murder.  While Powell attempts to talk all he is doing is tiping his hand, showing the world, in my opinion in real time how the mind of a controlling abusive killer thinks. 

A loving and caring person does not place blame or make crude remarks of  person with whom they are in a relationship.  Not once do you see any concern for Susan Powell's well being. As a wonderful mother, good woman or devoted wife.  What we see by his non-actions and read is hate as if he is telling the world she didn't perform to my expections.  She did not do as she was told.  She had to be dealt with in a manner that required her to be punished.  Josh Powell's words  “She knows she will be chewed up like hamburger when she comes back,” this statement says what I believe he did.

Powell in that statement is telling us that she has already been chewed up.  He did not randomly select his words, instead he was telling folks what he did in this one very important sentence. In the area of Utah that they lived it is a known fact that deadly wild animals roam.  In my opinion, Powell covered her in something that an animal would chew up and make into hamburger.

Josh Powell said he allowed the Coxes (Susan's parents)  to see his sons periodically after Susan’s disappearance but that he told them not to discuss the children with reporters.  The Coxes did discuss the boys, though it was usually to say they wanted to see them more often. Josh Powell said he considered discussion of the issue to be a violation of his sons’ privacy and that he will not let the Coxes visit the children if they continue to discuss the children.

Now carefully read the words Powell uses in his interview:
“Whether or not they ever have contact with my sons is their choice based on their own behavior,” he said.  Here again notice the language- ever- contact- behavior.  Powell is punishing Susan's parents for keeping the case alive and speaking out by contuing to use and hold his own children hostage.  He is blaming them for all this mess that just won't go away.  Someone from the Department of Children and family services needs to get a handle on the boys well being before something happens. Powell is at a breaking point and there is no predicting now, what he will do next if boxed in a tighter corner.

At the conclusion of the article, the father-in-law chimes in with very disturbing words:
Steve Powell said he and his son expect to see Susan again. People wanting to find his daughter-in-law’s body to produce closure are “a bunch of morbid f------ assholes,” Steve Powell said.

“She absconded,” Steve Powell said. “We don’t believe she was abducted. We don’t believe she was murdered.”

Again, Steve Powell using interesting and telling words: body-closure-produce-morbid-, Only a person whom knows the truth, first hand of what really happen to Susan Powell would make such statements. 


[Susan Murphy Milano, is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Psychopathy Education for more information visit http://www.saferelationships.com/ and is the author of the new book "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and where ever books are sold. ]


She is the host of Time's Up on http://www.herewomentalk.com/ and she is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated show with Dr. Laurie Roth on http://www.therothshow.com/)