In the world of intimate partner violence, the person responsible or those labeled as “persons of interest” or “prime suspects” hope the person with whom they were in a relationship or married to, are never found. This speaks volumes to the mindset of these killers. They look at the relationship as their property, similar to the assets acquired during the marriage. In their mindset it is easier to dispose of the person so they can begin again with a clean slate.
The controlling and angry person is often enraged by the loss of power and control, not interested in what I term "sharing the dolls and dishes" accumulated during the marriage. They formulate a plan and change the marriage certificate into a pending death certificate to be filled out and completed like a deadly bill of sale for discarded property.
Intimate partner violence is not gender specific. The way the crimes are reported or not investigated is another matter. If we look at men who are sexual predators, society is enraged by these dangerous individuals. But, when we hear about a teacher or a woman committing sexual acts or murder with a student or child, the media reaction and public outcry is very different. The treatment within the criminal justice system for male predators versus female predators is miles apart as it relates to sentencing.
In cases of intimate partner homicides, often law enforcement will not pursue a criminal investigation against a woman. As an example, Michael Tapley of Arizona, has been missing since February of 2008. The last person to see him alive was his wife, Gina Tapley. In my opinion, based on information and various facts surrounding his vanishing act, his wife played a role in his disappearance. She told some wild west story and authorities believed it. Arizona police are refusing to open an investigation, because, in my opinion, she is a woman. The case is only classified as missing persons and is basically closed unless someone comes forward or I get a break with the attorney general’s office, or a newly elected sheriff, and they listen and review the facts.
Another example is Mathew Houbrick of Illinois. Television producer, Matthew Houbrick, was found dead at the Drake Hotel in Chicago on November 14, 2005. He was in Chicago working on the FOX TV series Prison Break. His death made world-wide headlines, but the truth of what really happened; how he died, why Chicago Police failed to properly investigate, was swept under the carpet. Facts in this case, in my opinion, point to his former girlfriend. Now, 5 years later there is movement on the case and information is finally being reviewed. Because of how the murder was set up designed to look like a suicide, which it was not, the case was closed. In my opinion, he was murdered and the person responsible covered her tracks.
Wife charged: Michael Severance survived five tours of duty with the Air Force in the war torn Middle East. But he could not survive five months of marriage to this woman; Wendi Davidson was a young veterinarian in the isolated city of San Angelo, Texas. She decided the solution to her problem was to give her husband a lethal injection in January of 2005. She was convicted of his murder and is now serving a 25 year sentence in a Texas prison.
Women who kill are also psychopaths (just as their men counterparts) and the pattern of conduct resulting in the outcome of murder is the same. In my opinion, as I and others are now working, a similar case in the news is beyond disturbing and the criminal pattern is no different. Yet, authorities and the media have intentionally decided the new darling of media and border issues should not be investigated and we need to stop "picking on her."
Psychopathy Characteristics (defined)
- glib and superficial charm
- grandiose (exaggeratedly high) estimation of self
- need for stimulation
- pathological lying
- cunning and manipulativeness
- lack of guilt or remorse
- shallow affect (superficial emotional responsiveness)
- callousness and lack of empathy
- sexual promiscuity
- impulsivity
- irresponsibility
The case of missing person David Hartley follows a similar pattern as the aforementioned cases. Technically, since his body has not been recovered, he is considered a missing person. So why, as in all such cases, has David Hartely not been registered with NamUs http://www.namus.gov/ or other missing person's data bases? If, and when, his remains are recovered, DNA testing needs to be done, but without properly registering him in the system, it will not happen, when and if, his body is located, perhaps on foreign or U.S. soil. FACT: he is a missing person because there is no body. So we take the word of a single person with whom he was married and then what, case closed? It is on to border patrol issues? Foreign policy perhaps? I do not think so!
Where is an investigative journalist when you need one? Does such a person exist? In my opinion, the days of the investigative reporting is over, and this case proves my point. Instead, experts like Dr. Lillian Glass in the area of body language, Peter Hyatt, expert in statement analysis and his blog, (http://www.seamusoriley.blogspot.com/) on statement analysis is on target, along with others who are asking important questions and doing the tasks that once were accomplished by investigative journalists.
The last entry on Tiffany's Facebook is interesting it is 4 days before David Harley vanished:
Tiffany Young- Hartley Had a great vacation in Key West, FL. Thanks to my husband who works so hard so we can get away from life for awhile. Great pick Babe!!!! Saw a couple sharks while diving, got to pet a Manatee by the Harbor walk. Just a few of the highlights of our trip. September 26 at 7:49pm ·
The next Facebook entry from Tiffany is Tiffany Young- Hartley Thank you everyone for your prayers!!! October 2 at 11:32pm
There are brief other entries, communication from her saying thanks to folks for prayers.
Twenty Nine days after the love of this woman's life has vanished you begin to see the border issue postings. Tiffany Young- Hartley This website is VERY grafic, David would look at now and again but I never really did due to the grafics. So if you can't handle the pictures just skip over them but read the articles. This will give you an eye opener to what is happening on the border. You will see why I'm speaking out and wanting all of you and America to realize what is happening and that we can't continue to be blind. It isn't your fault our own government and media is not reporting any of this. They don't want us know they just want to keep it quite, But not anymore, if they don't get it out I will. October 29 at 1:43am ·
I apologize if I am repeating myself, but none of this makes any sense what so ever. And I will not treat the vanishing/murder of David Hartley differently than I do missing women, Stacy Peterson or Susan Powell.
I do not see a grieving widow doing anything about a search and recovery mission for her husband. Recently, in the same area that David Hartley vanished, a reporter chartered those same waters. He reported it was isolated, no ships, pirates or anything other than wildlife in the area Tiffany claims David was shot. Publicly, given all the attention to this tragedy, Tiffiany Hartley had the ability to have search and rescue crews at her disposal. But, she never asked or made a public plea. Her account(s) to the events of September 30, 2010, are, in my opinion, not true. In her own words, during a recent interview, she said, "I will never return to Mexico." And why not? What about David and seeking justice? Then 2 weeks later she posts another entry, again, no mention of David, her horrific so called encounter with pirates or drug cartel, because it did not happen! You can't talk about something that did not take place. So you disarm by changing the subject and never really answering any one's questions. This, in my opinion is a classic pattern of conduct for those involved in intimate partner crimes.
Tiffany Young- Hartley “BORDER INSECURITY, GANGS, AND DRUG TRAFFICKING” is one of the most intensive trainings in the nation on the issues of the United States and Mexico Border, Drug Trafficking, and the infiltration of the cartels in the United States! Training all day and evening, Friday, Nov. 12, from 8 AM to 9 PM, and Saturday, Nov. 13..., from 8 AM to 5 PM at the Aurora Mental Health Center, Aurora, CO. November 9 at 2:11pm-
Tiffany Young- Hartley Encourage everyone that you can to attend the viewing of Drug Wars on Thursday, Nov. 11, at 7:00 PM, at the Elvis Theatre in Tamarac Shopping Center, Denver. followed by a panel discussion with the producer of Drug Wars and other experts. The tickets are $5.00 and to get tickets call (i removed contacts name) at November 9 at 2:05pm
How about asking and "encouraging everyone" who knows anything to come forward? I have yet to see a reward offered for information on the case or a designated tip line number that could lead to the recovery of David Hartley. I know maybe the mainstream media can go to Mexico and offer a reward for information via one of their bureau offices located near the area where David Hartley vanished.
David Hartley was employed since 2003 as a district manager for CalFracWell Services, a multi-billion dollar company. Perhaps they should be asked to assist with the recovery of David Hartley. Maybe they can help with placing information in Spanish at various communities, on Internet sites, and offer a reward in this case. I know Tiffany Hartley is rather busy at the moment, so I am asking for assistance from CalFrac Well Services, the same as I would ask for any victim who has vanished or been reported as murdered. My email address is murphymilano@gmail.com.
(Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/ and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr. Laurie Roth http://www.therothshow.com/)
3 comments:
Good Morning, Susan.
Thank you for continuing to keep the tragedy of David Hartley alive. It’s encouraging and exciting to see you partner with Peter Hyatt, his wife, Heather, and your team, keeping Tiffany’s “ridiculous” and “silly” story (stories) under a microscope.
It seems that as investigative reporting has fallen to the wayside those who use the web to work and communicate are taking up where they have dropped the ball. In this case it has been appalling to watch as this young, semi-literate, and probable psychopathic woman has slipped under the radar of media and US. law enforcement agencies. Given "a pass," it seems. WHY?
Looked at in another way though, this may be the turning point, where the impassioned public, who SEE Tiffany, and those of you working within varied professional fields, can push for justice here in the U.S., and also work with those in Mexico, since Tiffany insists the crime occurred on the “Mexico” side and the Attorney General's office has stated that they are investigating.
I’d like to believe that there is a least one person in law enforcement here in the U.S. who is communicating with the Mexican authorities regarding this case. Have you been able to find news stories out of Taumaulipas, Mexico and/or their Attorney General’s Office? I keep thinking I'm just not using the correct search terms or browser.
Your take on Tiffany; her behavior, her actions, and her lack of authentic emotion, now being highlighted in her postings on facebook and the “bringdavidhome” website are right on. What rubbish, what callous disregard for decency and David’s family. She gives away a lot, though, even in her recent post at “bringdavidhome,” which highlights her shallow materialism in the face of a husband murdered.
Susan, I’m thrilled to have discovered such a wonderful human being as yourself, a woman who understands the nature and the horror of domestic violence and the many faces of it. I, for one, am grateful that you are in the fight, giving voice to those who, at the most critical, frightening, and numbing times in their lives, need a voice and need direction and need to escape.
Good Morning, Susan.
Thank you for continuing to keep the tragedy of David Hartley alive. It’s encouraging and exciting to see you partner with Peter Hyatt, his wife, Heather, and your team, keeping Tiffany’s “ridiculous” and “silly” story (stories) under a microscope.
It seems that as investigative reporting has fallen to the wayside those who use the web to work and communicate are taking up where they have dropped the ball. In this case it has been appalling to watch as this young, semi-literate, and probable psychopathic woman has slipped under the radar of media and US. law enforcement agencies. Given "a pass," it seems. WHY?
Looked at in another way though, this may be the turning point, where the impassioned public, who SEE Tiffany, and those of you working within varied professional fields, can push for justice here in the U.S., and also work with those in Mexico, since Tiffany insists the crime occurred on the “Mexico” side and the Attorney General's office has stated that they are investigating.
I’d like to believe that there is a least one person in law enforcement here in the U.S. who is communicating with the Mexican authorities regarding this case. Have you been able to find news stories out of Taumaulipas, Mexico and/or their Attorney General’s Office? I keep thinking I'm just not using the correct search terms or browser.
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Your take on Tiffany; her behavior, her actions, and her lack of authentic emotion, now being highlighted in her postings on facebook and the “bringdavidhome” website are right on. What rubbish, what callous disregard for decency and David’s family. She gives away a lot, though, even in her recent post at “bringdavidhome,” which highlights her shallow materialism in the face of a husband murdered.
Susan, I’m thrilled to have discovered such a wonderful human being as yourself, a woman who understands the nature and the horror of domestic violence and the many faces of it. I, for one, am grateful that you are in the fight, giving voice to those who, at the most critical, frightening, and numbing times in their lives, need a voice and need direction and need to escape.
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