Uteva Monique Wilson: Officer Involved Domestic Homicide

He was calm when he made the call to his police department less then 24 hours ago, "I won't be here when you get here" in the same sentence, and asked for a supervisor and paramedics to come to the home.

The veteran Birmingham, Alabama detective had already used his service revolver to murder his wife, Uteva Monique Wilson, 23, and mother of 2 small children who were in another room. After he ended the call with his unit, the detective ended his own life.

There is not much in the way of information about Uteva Monique Wilson, instead the news coverage is using photos of Rodney Jerome Wilson in his uniform. Included in some of the coverage about him and his work on the job, are comments about how he was a nice mannered person. It does not discuss the fact that Uteva had no place in which to seek assistance, he was threatening and violent, because Uteva was the wife of a law enforcement officer.

The kids were unharmed. Thank God he had the common sense to make a call so the kids could be taken out of the apartment.

What makes this, and every case of intimate partner homicide, difficult is they had a choice. Rodney Jerome Wilson took the coward's way out when he murdered his wife. What likely is not going to come out in this case is how on the job as a law enforcement officer, there were signs of trouble which no one acknowledged. Does it go towards lack of training? The stress on the streets and job? Or anger over the ending of the relationship?

As the daughter of a Chicago Violence Crimes detective, who is no stranger to officer related murder-suicide, trained in officer involved partner violence, the potential homicide is often disarmed when a department has been given training. The events that lead up to the crime are evident, weeks and months before the tragic incident. Fellow officers often do not know how to respond without appearing as if they are meddling, especially if it involves a seasoned or high ranking law enforcement officer.

Yes, intimate partner homicide is a tragedy that has reached epidemic proportions. My question to the law enforcement community and the Department of Justice is, when are you going to mandate a program both at the academy and within departments that will go a long way towards preventing innocent lives from being taken by trained, commissioned law enforcement officers?

The children of Uteva Monique Wilson will grow up without their mother, someday when they are old enough to ask the question, we owe it to them to have the answer. It is the least we can do for allowing their mother's life to be taken by an individual sworn to serve and protect!

If you are in a relationship that has a history of violence, simply mustering up the courage to confront the person and say it is over, without the proper tools, can cost you, your life!The book "Time's Up A Guide on How To Survive and Abusive and Stalking Relationship" is the prescription that every person must obtain before they announce they are leaving. Below is an example from Chapter 4, one of many unique tools provided in the book. It is available onAmazon.com, or you can purchase via e-book or on a CD. If you have questions, the email address is: timesupforjustice@gmail.com

This book doesn't merely discuss when you should leave or why you should leave, it tells you HOW you should leave. The book has step-by-step instructions how to covertly make a plan, set-up a safe escape, deal with financial issues, and the paperwork. Susan even takes you line-by-line through the process, the forms, the legal issues...she takes you by the hand, and, believe me, when you are being terrorized and you are an basket case, you don't need vague ideas, you need specific instructions. TIME'S UPcan save your life and your sanity. If you need to get out, get this book before you make a mistake that could be fatal. It is money well spent.

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Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is a specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies and high risk cases and available for personal consultations through the Institute. She is also part of the team at Management Resources Limited of New York.

Susan is the author of "Time's Up: A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships,"Moving out, Moving on, and Defending Out Lives. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host on Crime Wire.

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Missing or Murdered? Where is Emillie Hoyt?

By Susan Murphy-Milano

Like most of the unexplained vanishing or missing cases, there are usually facts associated with a case, often missed by law enforcement.

Emiliee Hoyt, pictured about is no different. Prior to her vanishig she had ended an abusive relationship. No surprise, Emillie wanted nothing to do with her former boyfriend.

She was last seen in Ft. Lauderdale early in January of 2006. She had her problems like most young women her age, but she was moving forward. And that did not sit very well with her former boyfriend, who leave's a questionable path in a prior relationship himself. His former girlfriend, is dead. Death_Certificate_Brenda_Matthews.pdf, Emillie_Beach.jpg, Emillie_Police_Report.pdf

Was Emillie Hoyt Murdered?

Join us on Justice Interrupted Investigates: September 16, 2008

Justice Interrupted Radio Investigates: September 16, 2008

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Also on the Show- A Police Officers Wife and the Fight

Special Guest: Intuitive and Psychic:Successfully, Jillian Maas-Backman works those individuals, friends and family involved or affected by violent crimes. As an Intuitive Life and Safety Professional guiding you through life changing events to achieve a peaceful way of life.Jillian Maas-Backman

Links for missing woman Emillie Hoyt, Florida:http://www.nampn.org/cases/hoyt_emillie.html

http://www.flickr.com/groups/786046@N24/

http://www.new.facebook.com/group.php/?gid=12221886604

http://www.myspace.com/helpfindemilliehoyt

Join hosts: Robin Sax, Stacy Dittrich and Susan Murphy-Milano

Officer Friendly in a Not So Friendly Way

During the first half of June Officers listed below have been arrested for crimes related to their own personal family violence. Over at http://www.behindthebluewall.blogspot the site brings awareness to an issue that remains behind closed doors. For a police officers family, wives and children, they have no place to turn for assistance from a system that slaps the offender on hand who also happens to be in law enforcement, these are just a handful of the thousands across the country that are swept under the rug and never get reported.


RI] Sgt Ciresi, accused of wife assault, sent to prison on other crimes ...he allegedly slapped his former wife, Lisa Ciresi, at her parent's house at 36 Spicer St. during an altercation over the impending sale of their house on South Locust Avenue..____________________________

[CT] Judge Strackbein doesn't protect Officer Knight's son & assures cop this can be resolved ...Knight claimed he only restrained his son to avoid an accident while driving home and "wrapped his son up" at the house in self-defense... Knight told police he was disciplining his son - "acting in a parental intervention role." Judge Hillary Strackbein told Knight that after meeting with family relations officials and avoiding any further incidents, "things should work out"...
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[PA] Officer McCarthy's wife: "I thought he was going to kill me" ...McCarthy, the woman testified, reminded her he was a police officer and that he could kill her. "I thought he was going to kill me..."
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[NH] Chief Brougham's wife: I and my children need to be protected ...THE COURT PAPERS QUOTED THE WIFE AS SAYING, BROUGHAM CALLED AND DEMANDED TO SPEAK WITH THE CHILDREN BEFORE INFORMING HER THAT HE HAD A CAN OF GAS AND WAS PLANNING TO BURN THEIR HOME DOWN AROUND HIM...
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[CA] Update on Chief Gunderson's wife-rape charges & guns, guns, guns ...His attorney, Russell Clanton, contends that seeds of trouble were planted by the chief's former wife, now a Humboldt County sheriff's office dispatcher, who he says has plotted to poison Gundersen's relationship with his current spouse...
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[PA] Officer Turkos shakes off felony family assault charge since wife's bone didn't snap - A Dupont police officer faces charges for assaulting and threatening to kill his wife and stepson... She suffered a broken right arm and bruises on her legs. The 11-year-old complained of pain in his abdomen and neck... "I am the boss." He allegedly told his wife "I will cut you off at the knees" and "I'll kill him (stepson) and I'll kill you"... Turkos is expected to surrender on the charges in the next few days. "We know where he is; it's not like he's on the run"...
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[CA] Officer "Maes told her in Spanish not to tell them anything" ...Anthony Carl Maes, 51, Whittier, is expected to be arraigned Tuesday morning on one misdemeanor count of domestic battery with corporal injury and one misdemeanor count of dissuading a witness from reporting a crime...
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[OH] Nicole Ballenger pleads guilty in the killing her police officer husband Cedric ...POLICE WERE CALLED TO 725 BURLEIGH AVE. ABOUT 7:45 A.M. AND FOUND CEDRIC BALLENGER, 37, DEAD IN AN UPSTAIRS BEDROOM OF THE HOME HE SHARED WITH HIS EX-WIFE AND HIS CHILDREN - SHOT MULTIPLE TIMES... SHE TOLD A 911 DISPATCHER THAT SHE SHOT HER EX-HUSBAND AFTER HE RAPED HER... BALLENGER WAS EXAMINED AT A HOSPITAL BECAUSE OF THE RAPE CLAIM, POLICE SAID, BUT DECLINED TO REVEAL WHAT, IF ANY, EVIDENCE WAS FOUND...
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[CT] Stalking Detective Bruneau working on erasing his charges ...Bruneau is charged with 2 counts each of 2nd-degree stalking and 2nd-degree harassment... If Bruneau finishes the programs the charges would be wiped away... One message read, "I know where you live and I know where he lives... Tell the flavor of the month with you I took a good look. He ain't no match. Have a nice date"...
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[CA] To charge or not charge Ex-Sgt. Rodrigues who defiantly kept his guns? ...The former 25-year San Benito County sheriff's deputy was indicted by a grand jury in December 2007 with three counts of forcible rape, two counts of unlawful sexual penetration and one count each of spousal rape, attempted rape and domestic violence.
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[PA] Fire Battalion Chief Washabaugh's bloody girlfriend, arrest, and the new police dv policy ...Officers and paramedics found [CD] crying and distraught with a swollen nose, red marks on her throat and blood on her feet, chest and legs... She said Washabaugh held her face against a vent and pulled her arm behind her back as he repeatedly threatened to kill her... City officials in December signed a "zero-tolerance" policy on domestic violence involving police officers and vowed to expand those rules to all city employees. The expansion of the policy has not been done yet, but Huss said Washabaugh will be treated "in a manner consistent" with the city police policy...

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[MD] Senator Brinkley- No arrest. No charges. Sallie used his hands to hit herself? ...she attempted to grab his hands and hit herself in the face with them... Brinkley opted not to take a lethality screening, which law enforcement officers use to determine if someone is in lethal danger of domestic violence. Many political officials are referring to it as a private matter... The incident resulted in no criminal charges...
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[FL] Deputy Harris cleared as Tara recants and is arrested. ..."HE ATTEMPTED TO GUIDE HER OUT OF THE ROOM BY BUMPING HER CHEST TO CHEST, BUT SHE TRIPPED AND FELL IN THE HALLWAY, AN ARREST REPORT STATES."... WHO CAN THE VICTIMS OF OFFICER INVOLVED DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IN HERNANDO COUNTY CALL? NOT THE POLICE - SO WHO?
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NYPD Officer Chaudhry spots his ex - Car chase & armed confrontation - A jealous off-duty city cop burst past the security booth of a Long Island college Friday and confronted his ex-girlfriend and her new beau at gunpoint, police said. "I am a cop. Don't f--- with me. I'll shoot you"...
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[CA] Firefighter Zawacki dv arrest: His department has no specific policy ...An Orange County Fire Authority firefighter is back on the job just two days after being booked in county jail on suspicion of attacking his girlfriend... The OCFA does not have a specific policy regarding relieving employees from their duties following an arrest for domestic violence...
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[CT] Will Officer Orbegozo get away with this armed domestic attack too? - HE HAD JUST BEEN ARRESTED FOR ATTACKING A WOMAN - MAYBE THE SAME VICTIM AS THIS TIME (A FEMALE POLICE OFFICER) - 2 WEEKS EARLIER, BUT THE PROSECUTOR DECIDED TO NOT PROSECUTE HIM. NOW THE STILL-EMPLOYED COP FORCES A FEMALE POLICE OFFICER OUT INTO THE WOODS AND PISTOL WHIPS HER - AND NOW WHAT??? - NOW THEY ARE TRYING TO DECIDE IF THEY SHOULD SUSPEND HIM OR TAKE AWAY HIS WEAPON? THOSE ARE THE BEST OPTIONS THEY COULD COME UP WITH - AND IT TAKES TIME TO FIGURE THOSE OUT?
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[FL] Deputy Francis lost his job but what about being accountable for the actual CRIMES? ...The unlawful conduct case stemmed from a dropped domestic battery complaint. The conduct unbecoming case stemmed from the discovery of illegal firearm attachments... In November 2007, Francis and his live-in girlfriend argued and he pushed her down a flight of stairs, knocking her unconscious for several hours. Francis was arrested for domestic battery...
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[OH] The police lt. who had his wife Vickie Barton killed can't have a new trial - "IN THE PARLANCE OF CRIMINAL INVESTIGATIONS, VICKIE BARTON HAD BECOME A "COLD CASE." NOT A FRIEND, NOT A HEALER, NOT A DAUGHTER. A COLD CASE... THE TERM SOUNDS IMPERSONAL, NOTHING LIKE THE WOMAN WITH THE "WARM BROWN EYES" AND EVER-PRESENT SMILE REMEMBERED BY FORMER COLLEAGUES..."
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[UT] Ex-wife of "resigned" Sgt. Spencer: "What helps is he has a new victim..." ..."What helps is he has a new victim. He's done with me"... She called police on four occasions and police officers stood outside with her husband, laughing and joking, while she packed a bag to leave. She also tried to call 911 three other times, but her husband ripped the phone away and threatened a murder/ suicide while holding a gun to her head... Armando L. Gutierrez, Sr., who is Spencer's father-in-law, was outraged... "This was not justice — it was 'protect your own,"... Gutierrez's wife, Delsie, said she also feared that Spencer will hunt her daughter down and murder her once he is out...
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[FL] Deputy Sheila Grandison stabbed repeatedly by her husband ...The couple's eldest child told officers he heard his mother screaming, "Help me," then saw his father on top of his mother, stabbing her in the neck and back with a kitchen knife... "The child attempted to save his mother by attacking his father, who reportedly stated that he would cut him if he did not stop...
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[GA] Deputy Yancey says he killed the man who killed his officer wife Linda - I'm not going to say anything here about what I am thinking. What I think doesn't matter. I'll just let the law enforcement officers do their job, and I believe they are on this one, determined to find the answers to the questions. Condolences to all who love the people involved. Prayers are lifted for the Yancey children, Derrick and Linda's families, for the family of the man yet to be identified, and for truth and justice.
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[SC] Janie Johnson's police leiutenant husband "resigned" (for his dv offenses) before he killed them both ...Ms. Johnson told deputies she was struck in the nose and the gun was pointed at her and Mr. Delfino, according to the report. Both victims said Mr. Johnson threatened to kill them. Officers also noted Ms. Johnson was outside in the cold with no jacket or shoes and was visibly frightened...
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[ME] Officer Regan finally fired May 12th. Pleading not guilty to discharging a gun in the house? ...Brian Regan, 39, was indicted in May on charges of reckless conduct with a weapon and criminal threatening with a weapon, both Class C crimes, as well as criminal threatening, assault and two counts of domestic violence assault...
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[CA] Deputy Gonzalez - spousal battery & false imprisonment charges ...The deputy, identified as 27-year-old Joel Gonzalez, was booked into the county jail on suspicion of spousal battery and false imprisonment...
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[GA] Fired Police Sgt. Parker finally indicted for murdering wife, dispatcher Theresa ...The couple was going through a divorce at the time. There have been widespread searches to find the body. Parker has denied involvement in the murder of his estranged wife...
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[GA] Chief Bolton on murder of deputy's wife, Officer Linda Yancey - Dekalb's police chief [Terell Bolton] is talking about double homicide that's left two boys without a mother and a Stone Mountain community in mourning. 44-year-old Linda Yancey was killed Monday...
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[OH] While checking on the well-being of Prison Officer Hatfield's wife police found... - Middletown police found seven vials of anabolic steroid and 16 packs of anabolic steroid tablets Jan. 25 while conducting a welfare check on Hatfield's spouse...

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[NY] Fired, reinstated, arrested Officer Lewis arrested a 2nd time in 2 months ...Lewis is accused of grabbing and pushing his wife after she apparently tried to prevent him from leaving the home with their 1-year-old son... He allegedly grabbed her around the neck during a later encounter in his vehicle... In 1998, Lewis was fired by then-Mayor Albert Jurczynski on the recommendation of a hearing officer who said Lewis had a history of disciplinary problems... A state arbitrator reversed the hearing officer's decision...
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[WA] Officer Galusha allowed to resign before disciplined on attacking his officer-wife ...He is charged in Benton County District Court with two counts of assault, one with a domestic violence allegation... Witnesses told officers that Galusha dragged his 24-year-old wife after grabbing her hair and putting her in a headlock... He then "slammed her up against the wall twice"...
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[MD] 1/2 a mil bail for "former officer" Breeding's "various crimes ...Bond of a half-million dollars set on a former police officer [?] arrested Sunday night following a domestic assault was apparently determined out of concern for his personal safety and the safety of victims in cases pending against him... Officers noticed injuries to the victim consistent with the allegation... Various pending criminal cases [?] apparently also factored in the high bond continued by Price...
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[NC] Sheriff Holland stands by his firing Deputy Hoover before a conviction - "...AS SHERIFF, I AM OFTEN FORCED TO MAKE DIFFICULT DECISIONS WHICH CAN BE LIFE ALTERING. MY PERSONAL FEELINGS, FRIENDSHIPS, AND RELATIONSHIPS CAN NOT INFLUENCE THOSE DECISIONS... TO TERMINATE DEPUTY HOOVER'S EMPLOYMENT PRIOR TO A CONVICTION OR AN ACQUITTAL WAS BASED UPON THE NATURE AND EXTENT OF THE INFORMATION OBTAINED DURING THE CRIMINAL INVESTIGATION. I TAKE FULL RESPONSIBILITY FOR THAT DECISION AND IS ONE I STAND FIRMLY BEHIND"...
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[OH] Officer Gearhart charged with [armed] menacing - A Columbus police officer faces criminal charges after he became involved in a family fight last week in Circleville...
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[GA] Linda Ann (Thomas) Yancey - "I will never forget that beautiful smile of hers" - The wife of a DeKalb County sheriff's deputy was laid to rest Saturday. Linda Yancey was shot and killed in her Stone Mountain home Monday... The Thompson sisters said no one at Saturday's funeral was focused on the police investigation. Their focus was strictly on Yancey's life and memory. "She's a good person and I know she's in a better place now...
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Mother of Officer Maselli's murder-suicide victim, Shirley Fontanez, is suing - The mother of a teenager fatally shot by a Manhattan cop last year says she was repeatedly harassed after telling top cops that one of their own was dating her underage daughter, a lawsuit claims...

Police Chief Brougham's Department Requires Intervention

In Mont Vernon, New Hampshire, the Chief of Police Alexander Brougham was arrested for violating a civil order of protection issued by a judge in family court during a divorce hearing.

The Chief's wife Fedora filed for divorce. The couple has three children.

What is disturbing about this case are not only the public statements made by the Chief's Police Department and town officials, but comments linked to the story by folks, friends or otherwise who have no clue as it relates to domestic violence and related safety issues in any police officers home.

The most dangerous time for a law enforcement wife or girlfriend is when they end the relationship or file for divorce. The judge in this case was correct to issue an order of protection based on sworn testimony provided by Fedora. Who by the way for all of you close personal associates and friends is divorcing Chief Brougham because he is violent and dangerous. I realize none of you who personally know the Chief has never witnessed any behavior that would cause alarm bells or whistles. That is because an abuser acts out behind closed doors. Especially, those in law enforcement. They want you to only see their good side. They set up situations or conversations with others that display exemplary behavior at all times.

Common dialogue among abusive law enforcement officers before, during and after they can no longer control their environment goes something like this:

"You will never walk out of here alive"
"Who the hell is going to believe anything you say"
"I will burn the house down while you and the kids sleep"
"No one will listen to you, everyone knows you are crazy"
"If you leave, the kids will be orphans"
"You do this and I'll kill us all"
"Don't push me, you know what I will do"

Although the above dialogue is from spouses and girlfriends who have already been murdered by their law enforcement partners, it is the warning before the explosion. And Fedora Brougham is fortunate to still be alive. Most family violence victims in the law enforcement community, do not make it this far in the courts without losing their lives. Tragedies of a few lives lost, who are no longer among the living to dicuss their abusive law enforcement home life:

Lori DeKleine, MI
Judt Hammond, TX
Julie Essad, MI
Barbara Vanaman, NJ
Jessica Barber, OH
Jennifer Jacobs, AL
Carli Dennis, TX
Kathleen Savio, IL
Anna Rodriguez, MI

Theresa Parker, GA

A few comments from those who think they know the chief.........
I have known Rick for about 4 years now. He is a good man and great chief. I have had the honor to work with him, and before everyone passes judsgement...understand that these ex-parte orders are given out like candy. They DESTROY men's lives. You are treated like a felon with NO proof or evidence. The word of one female and or attorney...BAMM you are now treated like a criminal. He is a good man and good cop. I work EMS, so this is not coming from another police officer. Just a man who has been tortured by the system for no reason and a person who has worked with him. Wish you the best Rick.- Dave Shaughnessy, Amherst

Dani needs to read the laws again. The order wasn't issued under the domestic violence statutes, it was issued under the divorce statutes and can carry different provisions which don't necessarily include the surrender of firearms.- Leo, Bedford NH
All domestic protective orders (and any incident involving a spouse, family member, former spouse, etc IS domestic under NH Law so this is a domestic case) are first granted on an ex parte, temporary/emergency basis to the alleged victim. The defendant is served. There is a subsequent hearing about whether that order becomes final. Yes, anyone issued even an ex parte temp order must surrender all firearms. Federal law, Nh law aside, does not exempt law enforcement officers from possessing weapons in this situation. I've met and worked with the Chief. He is a wonderful man and I have a great deal of respect for him. But he should be treated no differently (for better or worse) than any other citizen arrested and charged with a criminal offense. Unfortunately, that includes the prying of the media and a verdict in the court of public opinion. I wish commenters here and the public (I'm not excluding myself though I usually play devil's advocate) would always respect the privacy of people dealing with difficult family and legal matters in the courts rather than jumping to conclusions of their guilt. But that seems unrealistic. Everyone deserves the presumption of innocence. Everyone.- Dani, Manchester

To all those concerned with the great unwashed masses poking our noses where they don't belong.Will you be advocating as vehemently for we"unaffiliated" "crazies" when our names are being draged through the mud,over "a simple phone call"?I really didn't think so.It seems Obama may be right when he says "there are two Americas".It just seems to me that some reside in the more privileged one.- Mike P., Manchester

And so begins the court of public opinion. As a neighbor of the Brougham family, I hope for the best for all of them and ask that the rest of you show some respect for their privacy. These are good people facing enough of a challenge in their personal lives without the howl of crazies.- JB, New Boston, NH
Story links: http://www.nashuatelegraph.com/ and http://www.behindthebluewall.blogspot.com/

The Bloody Endless Road of Police Officer Wives

If you wonder why women are murdered by husbands and boyfriends, the Drew Peterson case, is classic text book.

Family abuse victims have a hard enough time jumping through the legal maze when they are abused within their own homes. The current system is broken and ineffective in dealing with the ever mounting cases that enter the legal system across the country on a daily basis.

Consider for a moment, the daily plight police officers wives face. They have no place to turn. And yes, I believe from professional experience in advocating and investigating these cases, the Peterson tragedies should be the model in "fixing" and holding accountable the horror, many families endure who are married to those "tin badge cowards" hiding by day as they protect our streets. And at nightfall control, beat and threaten their wives and girlfriends.

The legal system failed Kathleen Savio and her two boys. It ignored important police and medical reports. It intimidated her into dropping valid criminal charges against her officer husband so he could "remain on the job". The victim (Kathleen Savio) was cleverly portrayed as "off her rocker" and plain nuts for accusing a police officer to whom she was married because he was not only beating her but making valid threats against her very life. Every place Kathleen turned for help including the State's Attorney's office she was met with disbelief.

As I write this, women just like Kathleen Savio are being victimized by the "Brotherhood" who refuse to carry out the law in their state and arrest their fellow officers for committing criminal acts of violence against their own families. These women tell the similar stories of horror in emails and phone calls I receive, daily. All are met with the exact silent, response.

The crime is also within the legal system that offers no protection to police officers wives and their children. It is easier to get a prescription for valium for a doctor than it is for a wife of a law enforcement officer receive a court order of protection from a judge. Or for a woman to safely leave the abuser and start their lives anew. For a police officers wife, the possibility of a life free from violence does not exist. An officer who thrives on power and control is likely to stalk, harass and continue victimizing their wife or girlfriend long after a divorce or relationship break-up.

A police officer has at their disposal on the job training as a skilled officer, tracking tools, information to shelters, relationships with other police departments and that all mighty tin badge and service revolver.

So you tell me, where are these woman suppose to go? There is a clear reluctance on the part of the responding officers to do their jobs in the homes of fellow officers. Again, look at the Peterson case. Those fellow officers who responded to the Savio/Peterson home over the years who hesitated to deal professional with a "fellow brother in blue",
were responsible for the disaster that in my opinion, lead to not one death, but two.

If you are involved or married to someone on law enforcement, please consider contacting me. All emails received remain confidential. Email address: contact@movingoutmovingon.com

To view a list of officers wives and girlfriends who have been murdered please visit http://www.behindthebluewall.blogspot.com

Casualities of Family War

This woman given long of nothing,
but a chance to give of herself,
but still they beat and asked for more.
As always she accepted with a face
that never broke.

In the struggle to find the hidden way to love,
herself, she lost!
But she found a way through kind and good
to give to every other
and only asked to see the start of a smile.

And I who blossomed strong and late have worked
and spoke and prayed so long to make her proud.
now in the memories of her far
but still not absent ways,
I chose to simply ease her thoughts in anytime
of anxious pain
in the moving moments of a gift of rhyme.

And I shall offer her my always love,
although I know and hate and fear,

that my forever words are not enough.

And with new words I offer love so late

but still so dear.

Mama, you on this day shall always keep,

this giving praising moment of each thought

and gift,

though to all other moments when they forgot

when you were only always there.

On this day although a great tragedy,

you are being bestowed the greatest honor

one can obtain.

that is of love, family and friends.

You fought long and hard all of your adult life,

we understand that this is God's way of making

the rest of your days that of peace, joy and

harmony that you never demanded

but rightfully deserved.

She paid the price of victory with her life.

Maybe it was for all those who remain silent and

suffered unheard.

I pray we will better understand our tragic loss

and forgive those who turned away,

rest assured Mama,

we will continue to fight

and you will not be among

the silent but victorious!

-susan murphy-milano

(Pictured Roberta and Philip Murphy)

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