Showing posts with label Jacque Waller. Show all posts
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Thursday, June 14, 2012

Jacque Waller: Missing Mother and Hero




by Susan Murphy-Milano

In the early afternoon of June 1, 2011, Jacque Sue Waller, 39, met with her attorney to finalize the divorce from her estranged and abusive husband, Clay Waller, 40, in Cape Girardeau County, Missouri.  Clay Waller was a former police officer turned contractor and his wife, Jacque, was employed for several years with Blue Cross Blue Shield. According to family members, after years of abuse, she gained the courage to end the relationship with him, packed up her triplets and moved into her sister’s home the previous year.  

After the meeting with her attorney, Jacque drove to Clay Waller’s rental home to pick up the couple’s 5-year old son, Maddox. What she didn’t know was that her son wasn’t there, but was at the home of her soon to be ex-husband’s new girlfriend.  Jacque made a call to her sister at 4:00 pm and left a message to let her know she arrived safely at Clay Waller’s home and would return soon.  This was the last call she would make. 

Clay Waller lured her to his home for, what police now believe, was the sole purpose of killing her. When police interviewed Clay Waller, he claimed the couple got into a fight and Jacque stormed out of the house, on foot, around 4:00 pm. He told investigators that he left the home soon afterwards and when he returned, around 6:00 pm, Jacque’s car was gone from the driveway.  Jacque’s abandoned car was found the next day off I-55 (near Jackson/Fruitland, Missouri) disabled with a flat tire. According to law enforcement, the flat tire was staged and had been punctured with a sharp object.  Her laptop was still in the back seat and police subsequently took it into evidence, and later discovered Jacque’s journal on the computer containing dates and times of conversations and threats Clay Waller made against her life. 

On June 3, 2011, a judge signed the warrant to search Clay’s home and investigators uncovered important evidence.  Five days later, when they attempted to question Clay, he hired an attorney and refused to cooperate with the investigation. 

On July 29th, 2011, police charged Waller with stealing and harassment. Clay Waller had accepted payment as a contractor in the amount of $55,000 for work never completed.  A judge set bail at $65,000 cash bond. (Waller’s arrest has nothing to do with Jacque disappearance) At the end of August he’s able to make bail and is released. He is arrested again, this time for Internet  against Jacque’s sister, this time facing Federal charges.
Within the first month of Jacque Waller’s disappearance there was very little media coverage about the case, locally or nationally. I spoke with her parents, Stan and Ruby Rawson, and they, along with Monica Caison from CUE Center for Missing Persons, appeared on my weekly radio show, Time’s Up.  We also  booked appearances on The Roth Show and Crime Wire exposing to listeners the abuse Jacque endured during her marriage.  Soon afterwards national media outlets picked up the story and the spotlight was finally turned on the case. Major searches for Jacque were planned in the coming weeks afterwards. 

The family registered the case with CUE Center for Missing persons in North Carolina, and the Scott County Missouri Search and Rescue K-9 Team, both non-profit organizations aiding families of the missing. They began to map out areas and began searching for Jacque.  According to searchers on the ground, during one of the large scale searches, Clay Waller drove by the 150 volunteers, honked his car horn, blew them kisses and flipped them his middle finger.

In September, 2011, another break in the missing mother’s case occurred when Clay Waller’s father related to police hisson’s confession to him that he broke her neck during an argument. Waller’s father was ill and in a nursing home when the interview was conducted by law enforcement. Prosecutors were unable to obtain a video affidavit in time and Waller’s father died in the nursing home on December 20th, 2011, taking his information to the grave.
The first holiday without Jacque proved difficult for the family.  The triplets, now six years old and living with Jacque’s sister, know their mom is gone and made a special Christmas wish for Jacque to be found so they can visit her and place flowers on her gravesite.

On January 3, 2012, Clay Waller received a five year sentence in federal prison for threatening the legal guardian of his children, and his wife’s sister, online. 

During the last of week of April I was invited to Cape Girardeau by the Scott County Search and Rescue K-9 Team for a series of events to train law enforcement and lecture, bringing them awareness about intimate partner homicide and to highlight Jacque’s case. Just days before my arrival in Missouri, Clay Waller was charged with first-degree murder, as well as tampering charges included by the prosecutor. If convicted, he may spend the rest of his life in jail.  Clay Waller appeared on the murder charges in court today, with another hearing date set for the end of July..

                                             Jacque's Parents Stan and Ruby Rawson

Jacque Waller was, in my opinion, a very brave woman.  To endure the hell of abuse on a daily basis, and then figure out a way to leave with her three kids is remarkable, something many women aren’t able to do before they are murdered.  But, she did.  What Jacque Waller also does was set the tone for her kids, and no matter what happened to her she conveyed to them, by her actions, as only a mother can, that they will be safe. 

This should be a wake-up call for anyone involved in an abusive relationship.  Before you announce the marriage or relationship is over, have a solid game plan. Prepare the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit and video.  Follow the information in thebook Time’s Up, and never, under any circumstances, agree to meet with the abuser alone.





Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases. She is the creator of the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit.



Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Crime Wire: Surviving Abusive Relationships Live 9:00 PM Eastern Time


Crime Wire: Surviving Abusive Relationships

You can hear Crime Wire Investigates beginning at 9 p.m. Eastern.

Please visit our Crime Wire Website.

Together we can make a difference.

LISTEN LIVE:http://www.blogtalkradio.com/insidelenz

If you’re living in an abusive hell with a person who is emotionally and physically violent, this is a show you will want to make a point to listen.
BEFORE you announce to your abuser that it’s over, you are leaving, or you are filing for divorce, there are specific steps you must take to manage your safety. If you do not take precautions, you could end up on a missing persons report or worse yet, your name engraved on a cold cemetery headstone.
Joining the show for the hour are two women who are alive today because they planned ahead for safety from their abuse, Barbara Fiorucciand Tracey Murphy will discuss and share the importance of surviving violence in the relationship and by using the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit each of them is out of the abuse and into making plans for the future.
By listening to this show you will hear about, not only the violent relationships of these two brave women, but, how each of them did the work twice! Yes, that’s right, they each started doing the exercises included in the Time’s Up book by show co-host, Susan Murphy-Milano, but each of them stopped, went back into the relationship and learned the hard way that some things just do not change. Starting from step one, each of them then completed everything lined out in the book and escaped unharmed.
You will learn about the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit and Document the Abuse.Com and how you can become certified to assist victims to use the tools they need. Please visit the site for the information.
Crime Wire,ImaginePublicity
Each week Crime Wire Co-hosts, Dennis Griffin and Susan Murphy-Milano, bring listeners information, experts and cases to examine.  Tune in each week for something new and different!
www.imaginepublicity.com

Friday, April 27, 2012

Jacque Waller "Divorce Would Mean My Death"


Earlier in the week Clay Waller currently serving a five year federal sentence for threatening his former sister-in-law on line this past December, was finally charged with the murder of his estranged wife Jacque Waller.  She has been missing since June 1, 2011,  when she was lured to pick-up her son who was in another location, after she and Waller met with an attorney to finalize their divorce.

During the press conference the prosecutor Morley Swingle said they've charged Clay Waller with concealing his wife's body and concealment of a carpet from the hallway of his rental residence found about 100 miles away, with Jacque Waller's blood.  The prosecutor went forward and charged Waller even though her body still has not been found.  She remains a missing person.

In a laptop discovered inside her abandoned car by authorities one day later off I-55 , Jacque maintained a daily  journal.  In one of the entries she wrote. "He, told me that a divorce would mean my death." As in most cases of women who leave their dangerous and toxic environments they feel once gone, and away from the offender he can no longer harm her.  Over time while they become stronger they also gain a false sense safety.  I painfully watched my own mother do this dance once she'd finally moved out and divorced her police officer husband.  My mother was no different than Jacque Waller or the thousands who have been murdered or reported missing through the years. My father had lured my mother over to the former marital home with a bogus excuse that her signature was required on a document before the real estate agent to list the house.  That wasn't true.  But, like Jacque, she was going one last time. And it would be where she'd take her last breath. 

A victim is unable to fathom being told "love you one minute" to "I'll kill you, if you leave."  They just do not believe the person with whom they once loved will take it to the extreme and kill them. 

Prevention is the key for victims of domestic violence, abuse and stalking.  The Scott County K9, a 501C (3) charitable organization would like to bring awareness to the community in hopes of preventing mothers, sisters and victims of domestic violence from being reported missing.  
They are sponsoring events to bring awareness education and a prescription for change in the area of Intimate Partner Violence.  Law enforcement, hospital staff, social workers and those who respond to victims reaching out for service's are encouraged to attend the events listed below.
I hope to see an outpouring from the community in attendance at the events while I am in town.  I'm volunteering my time to train, teach and speak.  It's a  win-win for everyone.  The Scott County K-9 Unit receives all monies collected for tickets and books sold, the community has the opportunity to learn what they can do to prevent their own loved one or co-worker from being a victim and learning the signs and hopefully prevent someone else from being killed or reported missing.  
Help me help your Community to remove the Silence from Behind Closed Doors.
SEMO Search dogs is a non-profit, 501(c)3 organization created by the Scott Co Search and Rescue K9 Unit to help ease the financial burden incurred by search teams and personnel in the Southeast Missouri area. They depend on your donations to search and provide hope for missing loved ones families. 

Schedule of Events:

Saturday, April 28, at 5pm

Buckner's Banquet Room

132 N. Main
Cape Girardeau, MO
Tickets $30 or $250 to sponsor a table for 8, Event is open to the public
For complete details:   FLYERS SEMO SEARCH
Monday, April 30, 7pm

Miner Baptist Church

Miner, MO
FREE and open to the public
For complete details: Miner Baptist Church Event
Tuesday, May 1, 8am

Boothill Counseling

Sikeston, MO
A private presentation and training for counselors and advocates.
The million dollar question; where is Jacque Waller buried?  Clay Waller isn't likely to confess so now it'sup  to law enforcement and the search teams who've logged in thousands of man hours eliminating hundreds of acres of land to find her.  Jacque Waller's case is registered with the CUE center for Missing Person's a National not for profit organization providing Help & Hope to missing families across the county.   The details for the next search is listed below.  If you live in the area, please lend your support:

May 5, 2012 Search Jacque Waller Ground & K-9 Search -


Meeting at 8:00 a.m. at Klaus Park just off I-55 at the main Jackson exit (HWY 34 & I-55). There are approximately 140 acres that need to be searched for law enforcement. Wooded ground and open fields. Will need volunteer ground pounders support to get the ground covered in one day. Also need ATV teams on Sat 05/05 search. Dress appropriately. Bring bug spray, sunscreen you will need it. Folks are needed to help take care of getting volunteers fed lunch, so if you're unable to go on the search and want to help, you are still needed. Water/beverage, food snacks can be dropped off at Mid America Rehab, 3047 William Street, Suite 100, Cape Girardeau, Missouri, 63703, 

if your not in the area and want to help with the search please send a check/M.O. made out to SEMO Search Dogs, Inc. mail to Bobby Sherrill at Mid America Rehab. 

If you can help by contacting restaurants to get food donations for the team, please do and let Bobby or I know. We are anticipating up to 100 searchers Come help and lets get this girl back to her family!
Please go to event page and let us know if your coming and how you can help. Please share with all your friends!
Thank you to all the supporters of Team Jacque
https://www.facebook.com/events/280394132049075/



Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases.

 A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals, victim advocates and the faith based community and author.. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing prevention and solutions within the community to the workplace. Host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show,"Time'sUp!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host onCrime Wire. Online contributions: Forbes : Crime, She Writes providing commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up! a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crime Susan is also the daughter of a Chicago Violent Crimes detective who murdered her mother before committing suicide.  www.documenttheabuse.com

Friday, March 16, 2012

Proper Investigation Into Intimate Partner Homicide Case Nets Arrest and Murder Charge of Ft. Campbell Staff Sargent

 


Yesterday a Ft. Campbell soldier was charged in the murder of his wife, Kathleen McGee age 30 from Hopkinsville, KY.

On December 2, 2011, Fort Campbell Staff Sgt.Michael Korolevich intentionally shot his wife in the head during an argument.  When the 911 call was made the husband claimed his wife shot herself.

The work of the investigators and forensics team on this case should be an example for all law enforcement agencies across the county to follow when intimate partner homicide is suspected.  Rarely does a woman take a loaded gun and kill herself. Nearly 80 percent of all firearm suicides are committed by white males. That was the first red flag.  The second is that the husband placed the call making the false claim.  


The Christian County Sheriff's office began interviewing friends and family, discovering Kathleen McGee was in fact in a violent relationship.  She feared for her life.  Investigators paid close attention to the Staff Sargent's account of what he claimed happened the night of December 2, 2011. Investigators continued to keep their prime suspect in their the radar. 


On Wednesday, after intense questioning, the Sargent finally admitted he murdered his wife.  He is now being held on $1 million dollars cash bond.  This case was solved because investigators went beyond the crime scene for answers, crucial in cases of intimate partner homicide, but often neglected by investigating agencies. They looked and considered the pattern of conduct in this case (a factor in all I.P.V crimes) carefully reviewed the evidence and spoke with people whom directly knew Kathleen McGee.


Kathleen McGee's cause of death could have easily been ruled as so many I.P.V.H. cases do everyday, a suicide, undetermined death or gone completely cold.  


Just think how many cases would be solved if all law enforcement agencies across the globe investigated intimate partner violence and homicide cases as a serious crime!


Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases.

 A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals, victim advocates and the faith based community and author.. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing prevention and solutions within the community to the workplace. Host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show,"Time'sUp!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host onCrime Wire. Online contributions: Forbes : Crime, She Writes providing commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up! a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crime.  

Tuesday, September 27, 2011

The Sweet and Unassuming Perpetrators of Intimate Partner Violence


Profile of an Abuser

The abuser can be a male or female. The abuser can be sweet, handsome and unassuming to everyone, but you.

An abuser knows exactly how to manipulate all types of situations.

An abuser is the most generous and helpful person to the neighbor, your family, and friends. If you tell anyone you are being abused it is not likely you will be believed. When you are or were dating you thought it was “special” that this person was jealous of anyone who approached. Thinking how lucky you were until you moved in with them or married and the jealously turned into anger and rage, chances are you love this guy with all your heart and yet they still accuse you of having “secret affairs” or relationships with everyone else but, them.

The abuser is very insecure.

The abuser constantly questions your loyalty to them, the children and having a future together.

The abuser is clever at showing sincere intentions, but often has other motives

The abuser hurts or destroys family pets.

Jekyll and Hyde personality, they can be sweet one day and angry and violent the next.

The abuser is clever at showing sincere intentions, but often has other motives.

If you are pregnant, the abuser can become upset with you and angry and may attempt to make you miscarry. Once the child is born you may not be allowed to run and comfort your baby. An abuser expects the same attention and or sexual intimacy prior to the pregnancy.

An abuser may be unusually rough or use measures of discipline far too extreme on your child.

An abuser does not have the ability to love another person, is very critical of others.

An abuser blames you for everything that goes wrong in their lives; their job, outside pressures, whatever it is, you are blamed. Regardless of the situation; it is always your fault.

An abuser denies hurting you, almost acting like it never even happened.

The abuser will make excuses for why they become angry or physically violent.

The abuser blames their drug and alcohol abuse on you or their parents.

The abuser believes in maintaining control over every aspect of their lives to the point of obsession, including monitoring activities of you and or the children.

The Teeter Totter Abuser – remember when you were a child playing at the park? An Abuser rises you up and brings you down the same way as a teeter totter. One day they are driving you out of their lives saying things like “I have had it”, you are “worthless”

“I am leaving” to this is all “your fault” and beating you to “make you behave”.The next they are rising you up high by apologizing, sending you flowers, a card. They may actually cry or beg you not to leave them. They say things like: "I am sorry"; “It will never happen again"; “Don't you understand how much I love you?" They bring you gifts, or suggest a romantic weekend away. Suddenly they act as if they worship the ground you walk on. And acting as if they worship the very ground you walk.

Tarzan Abuser- their attitude and behavior is no different than “Me, Tarzan” (as they beat their chest) meaning they are superior to you, they are the “provider.”To “You, Jane” follow my lead, do as I say, be their slave, wait on their every desire, you are the invisible less important person in the relationship.

An abuser has an important career in the public, people depend on them for answers, and the abusive person brings this attitude home with them.

I cannot stress enough, if you are in a relationship that has a history of violence, simply mustering up the courage to confront the person and say it is over, without the proper tools, can cost you, your life!

One of the major reasons women stay in abusive relationships is fear. They are afraid of what will happen to them and their children if they leave. Sadly, their fears are often justified; statistics show that a woman is at the greatest risk for injury when she announces her plans or leaves an abusive relationship.
The book "Time's Up A Guide on How To Survive and Abusive and Stalking Relationship" is the prescription, if you will, that every person must obtain before they announce they are leaving. Below is an example from Chapter 4, one of many unique tools provided in the book. It is available onAmazon.com, or you can purchase via e-book or on a cd. If you have questions, the email address is: timesupforjustice@gmail.com

Before you decide that you have had enough and are ending the relationship create for yourself the "Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" and video (shown below).

If you do nothing else, please take one important step that if something does happen to you, if you do vanish like Stacy Peterson, Vensus Stewart, Rachel Anderson, Susan Powell, Lisa Stebic, or arefound murdered like Monica Beresford-Redmond, Franki Jacobson, Renee Pagel, Summer Inman, Kelly Rothwell and others where the person responsible has gotten away with murder that your voice and record of the abuse will be captured and recorded. Do it for you friends, family and loved ones. Do it for your children. Do it for you!

If you have questions, the email address is: timesupforjustice@gmail.com

This book doesn't merely discuss when you should leave or why you should leave, it tells you HOW you should leave. The book has step-by-step instructions how to covertly make a plan, set-up a safe escape, deal with financial issues, and the paperwork. Susan even takes you line-by-line through the process, the forms, the legal issues...she takes you by the hand, and, believe me, when you are being terrorized and you are an basket case, you don't need vague ideas, you need specific instructions. TIME'S UPcan save your life and your sanity. If you need to get out, get this book before you make a mistake that could be fatal. It is money well spent.



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Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is a specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies and high risk cases and available for personal consultations through the Institute. She is also part of the team at Management Resources Limited of New York.

Susan is the author of "Time's Up: A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships,"Moving out, Moving on, and Defending Out Lives. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host on Crime Wire.

If you would like to schedule Susan Murphy Milano for training and interviews, please contact:ImaginePublicity PO BOX 14946 Surfside Beach, SC 29587 Phone: 843.808.0859 email- contact@imaginepublicity.com
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