Showing posts with label Cape Girardeau. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Cape Girardeau. Show all posts

Thursday, June 14, 2012

Jacque Waller: Missing Mother and Hero




by Susan Murphy-Milano

In the early afternoon of June 1, 2011, Jacque Sue Waller, 39, met with her attorney to finalize the divorce from her estranged and abusive husband, Clay Waller, 40, in Cape Girardeau County, Missouri.  Clay Waller was a former police officer turned contractor and his wife, Jacque, was employed for several years with Blue Cross Blue Shield. According to family members, after years of abuse, she gained the courage to end the relationship with him, packed up her triplets and moved into her sister’s home the previous year.  

After the meeting with her attorney, Jacque drove to Clay Waller’s rental home to pick up the couple’s 5-year old son, Maddox. What she didn’t know was that her son wasn’t there, but was at the home of her soon to be ex-husband’s new girlfriend.  Jacque made a call to her sister at 4:00 pm and left a message to let her know she arrived safely at Clay Waller’s home and would return soon.  This was the last call she would make. 

Clay Waller lured her to his home for, what police now believe, was the sole purpose of killing her. When police interviewed Clay Waller, he claimed the couple got into a fight and Jacque stormed out of the house, on foot, around 4:00 pm. He told investigators that he left the home soon afterwards and when he returned, around 6:00 pm, Jacque’s car was gone from the driveway.  Jacque’s abandoned car was found the next day off I-55 (near Jackson/Fruitland, Missouri) disabled with a flat tire. According to law enforcement, the flat tire was staged and had been punctured with a sharp object.  Her laptop was still in the back seat and police subsequently took it into evidence, and later discovered Jacque’s journal on the computer containing dates and times of conversations and threats Clay Waller made against her life. 

On June 3, 2011, a judge signed the warrant to search Clay’s home and investigators uncovered important evidence.  Five days later, when they attempted to question Clay, he hired an attorney and refused to cooperate with the investigation. 

On July 29th, 2011, police charged Waller with stealing and harassment. Clay Waller had accepted payment as a contractor in the amount of $55,000 for work never completed.  A judge set bail at $65,000 cash bond. (Waller’s arrest has nothing to do with Jacque disappearance) At the end of August he’s able to make bail and is released. He is arrested again, this time for Internet  against Jacque’s sister, this time facing Federal charges.
Within the first month of Jacque Waller’s disappearance there was very little media coverage about the case, locally or nationally. I spoke with her parents, Stan and Ruby Rawson, and they, along with Monica Caison from CUE Center for Missing Persons, appeared on my weekly radio show, Time’s Up.  We also  booked appearances on The Roth Show and Crime Wire exposing to listeners the abuse Jacque endured during her marriage.  Soon afterwards national media outlets picked up the story and the spotlight was finally turned on the case. Major searches for Jacque were planned in the coming weeks afterwards. 

The family registered the case with CUE Center for Missing persons in North Carolina, and the Scott County Missouri Search and Rescue K-9 Team, both non-profit organizations aiding families of the missing. They began to map out areas and began searching for Jacque.  According to searchers on the ground, during one of the large scale searches, Clay Waller drove by the 150 volunteers, honked his car horn, blew them kisses and flipped them his middle finger.

In September, 2011, another break in the missing mother’s case occurred when Clay Waller’s father related to police hisson’s confession to him that he broke her neck during an argument. Waller’s father was ill and in a nursing home when the interview was conducted by law enforcement. Prosecutors were unable to obtain a video affidavit in time and Waller’s father died in the nursing home on December 20th, 2011, taking his information to the grave.
The first holiday without Jacque proved difficult for the family.  The triplets, now six years old and living with Jacque’s sister, know their mom is gone and made a special Christmas wish for Jacque to be found so they can visit her and place flowers on her gravesite.

On January 3, 2012, Clay Waller received a five year sentence in federal prison for threatening the legal guardian of his children, and his wife’s sister, online. 

During the last of week of April I was invited to Cape Girardeau by the Scott County Search and Rescue K-9 Team for a series of events to train law enforcement and lecture, bringing them awareness about intimate partner homicide and to highlight Jacque’s case. Just days before my arrival in Missouri, Clay Waller was charged with first-degree murder, as well as tampering charges included by the prosecutor. If convicted, he may spend the rest of his life in jail.  Clay Waller appeared on the murder charges in court today, with another hearing date set for the end of July..

                                             Jacque's Parents Stan and Ruby Rawson

Jacque Waller was, in my opinion, a very brave woman.  To endure the hell of abuse on a daily basis, and then figure out a way to leave with her three kids is remarkable, something many women aren’t able to do before they are murdered.  But, she did.  What Jacque Waller also does was set the tone for her kids, and no matter what happened to her she conveyed to them, by her actions, as only a mother can, that they will be safe. 

This should be a wake-up call for anyone involved in an abusive relationship.  Before you announce the marriage or relationship is over, have a solid game plan. Prepare the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit and video.  Follow the information in thebook Time’s Up, and never, under any circumstances, agree to meet with the abuser alone.





Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases. She is the creator of the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit.



Monday, April 23, 2012

Scott County K9 Search & Rescue Deserve's the State of Tennessee's Support





The Scott County K9 search and rescue unit assists families of loved ones; and are often called in across the county to search on missing person's cases.  Families like Jacque Waller’s the mother of three was last seen on June 1, 2011.  They along with the CUE Center for Missing Person's headquartered in Wilmington, NC and law enforcement have organized massive searches combing Cape Girardeau, MO  for Jacque Waller since she was reported missing.  
Jacque Waller an employee at the time with Anthem Blue Cross Blue Shield had moved with her triplets out of harms way, or so she wanted to believe.  The day papers were signed at the divorce attorney's office Clay Waller told Jacque she needed to pick up their son from his temporary residence.  
That day Jacque was filled with a false sense of security that she was going to be safe and finally away from her violent, and abusive husband.  One June 1, 2011 with her car parked in the driveway, Jacque rang the doorbell. Clay Waller made good on years of threats, "You'll find yourself being carried out in a body bag if you ever leave me, and your children will be motherless."  Jacque similar to the thousands of others in violent, abusive relationships thought because she'd been away from Clay he could no longer harm her, especially in giving him a good financial settlement.  But like all repeat abusive and dangerous offenders, Waller was never going to let her be free.
Prevention is the key for victims of domestic violence, abuse and stalking.  The Scott County K9, a 501C (3) charitable organization would like to bring awareness to the community in hopes of preventing mothers, sisters and victims of domestic violence from being reported missing.  
They are sponsoring events to bring awareness education and a prescription for change in the area of Intimate Partner Violence.  Law enforcement, hospital staff, social workers and those who respond to victims reaching out for service's are encouraged to attend the events listed below.
I hope to see an outpouring from the community in attendance at the events while I am in town.  I'm volunteering my time to train, teach and speak.  It's a  win-win for everyone.  The Scott County K-9 Unit receives all monies collected for tickets and books sold, the community has the opportunity to learn what they can do to prevent their own loved one or co-worker from being a victim and learning the signs and hopefully prevent someone else from being killed or reported missing.  
Help me help your Community to remove the Silence from Behind Closed Doors.
SEMO Search dogs is a non-profit, 501(c)3 organization created by the Scott Co Search and Rescue K9 Unit to help ease the financial burden incurred by search teams and personnel in the Southeast Missouri area. They depend on your donations to search and provide hope for missing loved ones families. 

Schedule of Events:

Saturday, April 28, at 5pm

Buckner's Banquet Room

132 N. Main
Cape Girardeau, MO
Tickets $30 or $250 to sponsor a table for 8, Event is open to the public
For complete details:   FLYERS SEMO SEARCH
Monday, April 30, 7pm

Miner Baptist Church

Miner, MO
FREE and open to the public
For complete details: Miner Baptist Church Event
Tuesday, May 1, 8am

Boothill Counseling

Sikeston, MO
A private presentation and training for counselors and advocates.


Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases.

 A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals, victim advocates and the faith based community and author.. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing prevention and solutions within the community to the workplace. Host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show,"Time'sUp!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host onCrime Wire. Online contributions: Forbes : Crime, She Writes providing commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up! a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crime Susan is also the daughter of a Chicago Violent Crimes detective who murdered her mother before committing suicide.  
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