Introducing Simply the Best : "Document the Abuse"

Today, we announce our new site www.documenttheabuse.com.  A place for prosecutors, law enforcement, social service agencies, human resource managers, workplace violence security experts, insurance carrier's, health care providers, faith based organizations and those directly in the process of divorce, affected by domestic violence and stalking by someone with whom they are in a relationship.

If you are in law enforcement the information and training provided on the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit is a supportive component in addition to what you already are doing on the job as it is valuable tool that is saving lives.  For the first time when a potential victim prepares the "EAA" you will know and have at your fingertips information that includes the offender.  As are aware this is very important when a person in your district is reported missing or becomes a fatality.  You will have the victims words in a notarized, witnessed and taped statement already in your hand ready to meet with the prosecutor or district attorney for a solid case.

For those who enter the courthouses assigned to work the domestic violence and trial calenders the "EAA" has a number of benefits for a successful prosecution.  This includes cases where you have no body, but you do have enough evidence. Or in cases where the alleged defendant at pretrial claims crime of passion, unhinged, accident or self-defense, if the victim prepared the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit prior to their death, its game on as a prosecutor for a winning victory and game over for the defense in court.

Case concerning the right to confront and prove intent to prevent the witness from testifying

Giles v. California, 554 U.S. 353 (2008)

Facts of the Case

When Dwayne Giles was tried in state court for the murder of his ex- girlfriend, he claimed self-defense. Giles stated that he had heard her vow to hurt him and a friend, and that she had previously shot a man and threatened people with knives. The prosecution then introduced evidence of a conversation between Giles' ex-girlfriend and police in which she claimed that he had assaulted her and threatened to kill her. The district court eventually convicted Giles of murder.

On appeal, Giles argued that use of the police conversation violated his Sixth Amendment right to confront witnesses against him, namely, his deceased ex- girlfriend.

The California Supreme Court held that Giles had waived this right because he was the cause of his ex-girlfriend's absence. Although this exclusion was justified under common law rules of "forfeiture by wrongdoing", the Supreme Court had greatly constrained the admissibility of such evidence in its 2004 holding in Crawford v. Washington. Crawford essentially wiped out the admissibility of such out-of-court statements unless the testimony could be subject to cross-examination at trial, an option that would be impossible under these circumstances. This case gives the Court an opportunity to expand on its decision in Crawford and to apply it to a situation where the wrongdoing that kept the witness from appearing in court was not motivated by a desire to prevent the witness' testimony.

Question
Are a criminal defendant's rights under the Confrontation Clause of the Sixth Amendment violated when the common law "forfeiture by wrongdoing" doctrine is applied to allow out-of-court statements made by a witness, absent due to the defendant's own conduct, into evidence without giving defendant an opportunity to cross-examine the absent witness?

Conclusion
Yes. In a 6-3 decision, the Court held that the forfeiture by wrongdoing exception only applies to situations where the defendant causes the witness' absence with the intention of preventing that witness from testifying at trial. Without this intention, any act by the defendant making the witness unavailable does not waive that defendant's Sixth Amendment right to confront and cross-examine the witness, and therefore any out-of-court statements made by the witness are inadmissible as evidence. Justice Antonin Scalia delivered the opinion of the Court.

Justice Clarence Thomas wrote a concurring opinion stressing his belief that statements such as those made by the witness in this case should not implicate the Confrontation Clause at all because the police questioning was not a "formalized dialogue." Justice Samuel Alito also wrote a concurring opinion suggesting that the witness' statements, in his view, did not fall within the Confrontation Clause but noting that neither party had made this argument before the Court. Justice David Souter, joined by Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg, concurred in all parts of the majority opinion except one section denouncing the dissenting argument. Justice Souter stated that he did not find the dissent as wrongheaded as the majority suggested.

The dissent, written by Justice Stephen Breyer and joined by Justices John Paul Stevens and Anthony Kennedy, argued that a defendant loses his right to confrontation when he makes a witness unavailable due to his own wrongdoing, even if he did not act with the specific intention of preventing her from testifying at trial.

We hope you take the time and visit our new site.  If you have questions or would like to set up a training, have us attend your conference - email us at documenttheabuse@gmail.com

Christmas on the Road "Merry Christmas"

This tree is 135 feet tall.  Taken at old town square Plaza Don Luis in Albuquerque, New Mexico

The one great thing about working cases of missing persons and unsolved homicides is that I never know where my travels take me. Everyday is a new adventure.

Good or bad, I now believe that everything in our lives happens for a reason.  I have been fortunate these past couple of years in truly witnessing miracles either of important life events or individuals, causing me to embrace and not question.  So many amazing people, literally crossing my path. Some for reasons I did not explain and for their own sake releasing them as if I was holding the string on a balloon up into the sky.  It is they whom I miss and love the most.

Family is so important and I always find myself in envy of all whom can share and connect during this special time of year. Whatever you do, remember to always hold them close.


May God bless all of us and keep us safe!


Merry Christmas!


Susan


From Albuquerque, NM More Photo's this morning taken at Sunrise:

"Believe"

"Nobody trips over mountains. It is the small pebble that causes you to stumble. Pass all the pebbles in your path and you will find you have crossed the mountain."

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Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases.

A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals, victim advocates and the faith based community and author.. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing prevention and solutions within the community to the workplace. Host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show,"Time'sUp!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host onCrime Wire. Online contributions: Forbes : Crime, She Writesproviding commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up! a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crime 

'Tis the Season to be Safe in Your Home'

Every year my mother made a big deal about Christmas from planning out what color to make the eyes on the gingerbread cookies, to the day she, my brother, and myself would go downtown to Marshall Field’s department store for our annual Santa visit and photo. The bright lights and holiday decorations lining downtown store windows and street lamps always made me forget, if only for a moment, our lives were anything but bright and hopeful.

I have to give my mother credit, as difficult as our daily fight for survival she created happy memories for us. Sometimes, the holiday did not turn out as planned and we ended up on Christmas morning in the emergency room as she received medical attention from injuries caused by my father. My little brother and I viewed stuffing every pocket in our coat and pants with candy canes while at the hospital as a cool thing. Instead of opening presents, we went back to the house with a cup of hot chocolate and whip cream prepared with love.

Hope was always a magical illusion it did not matter if it was Christmas or not. The days and months always felt as if they were continuous in a never ending road of unpredictable behavior by a man authorized  to carry a gun and a badge to protect the streets of Chicago, while hiding behind the closed door of our home like a coward, terrorizing his own family. In our house you told time by the changing of seasons and what you needed to wear before heading out the door. During the holidays it was the one time of year that I didn't wish anything from the Sears catalog that would arrive sometime after Thanksgiving. If Santa was real, perhaps he would find us a nice safe place like I remembered watching in the movie Miracle on 34th Street, where we could hang our stockings behind a tree tacked to the wall and live happily, far away from my father, forever.

Growing up, my brother and I never really counted on much.  Making plans for anything was wishful thinking. More than fifty years later, I have no closure, just an acceptance of the violent events that would eventually hijack my mother’s life. The last memory of her is 10 feet away from the oven where we baked Christmas cookies, throughout the kitchen her blood spilled over onto the once bright yellow pattern on the floor tiles where my brother and I once sat anxiously waiting for the Christmas cookies to finish baking. In the bedroom; a couple hundred feet away, dead from a self inflicted gunshot, my father.  Although not visible to the human eye, there is a tattoo etched deep inside as it is for all those whom survive homicide; a permanent scar from a battle I would rather erase from my memory.

The effects of the violence would follow me into my own world as an adult, a secret I kept hidden from friends, colleagues and relationships. Suddenly, my secret was out, unwillingly I was a victim and a survivor of a life I did not ask for nor chose as my life's journey. In 1988, my parents divorced and the holidays were around the corner. My mother and I spent the Christmas holidays together, the first without my father and the last one with my mother.

Abruptly, in 1989, after their deaths, I left a successful business career for a world that provided little, if any, hope or assistance to abuse victims and their children.

I did not realize when I began working with victims of intimate partner abuse my world would be an important life raft for safety in keeping others alive. Over a decade of running a national agency and providing direct services, I began to incorporate strategies like no other in the country, as social service agencies were not familiar with the battleground I knew intimately.

Service providers and agencies layered by politics and paperwork with government forms and numbers instead of thinking outside the box; a box that never belonged there in the first place if lives were to be saved.

This rigid box of "rules and restrictions" is what often kicks the safety and services of a victim to the streets and back to the violence. Yes, a woman returns to the abuser numerous times before she leaves but it’s also because the family courts and services are either limited or dysfunctional.

Far too often services are based on income either too much, too little or there is not enough funding available for what is required. Ironically, the funding issues in my world were never an obstacle in keeping victims alive. With little or no resources, each person I assisted did not die. Instead, they moved forward with their lives, most went back to school to obtain degrees others found paying jobs as the sole support of the household turning their lives around minus the threat of violence. I think it was because I took the time with them, something I noticed from the  onset that was not happening when a victim reached out for help.

I learned from being in the trenches and providing hands on services combined with making time to explain to victims-- meant the difference between life and death. I would go beyond the sterile basic information and red tape of guide lines set by funders and various government agencies, people who were and continue to do so today, more concerned with tabulating stats of human lives that amounted to nothing more then entering useless garbage into a data base that had nothing to do with safety or leaving and never returning to the abuse or the system for help. One cannot effectively assist a victim of intimate partner by sitting behind a desk when they have never left the comfort of their offices, when they have never been inside the real world of sheer terror and violence that victims endure daily. Often placing victims in something labeled a shelter, government funded that does not in many ways meet the needs of victims. As I have always said like our own DNA no two cases of abuse are alike.

The days of placing a bandage on intimate partner violence, as though it were a boo-boo, are over. When a system does what it has always done, the results will be the same. It did not work out for women like my mother, unable to speak today, because they were silenced in the prime of their lives, murdered in cold blood.

As we enter the year 2012, know that the death toll across the country for those who lose their lives because of intimate partner violence does not have to be a predictable outcome in some hardwired data base, ultimately marked by a cemetery headstone as in years past. A child no longer has to acompany their mother to the emergency room on Christmas morning filling their pockets with candy canes in a cold waiting room as medical staff stitch their mothers head or set a broken limb and sent back out into uncertainty and fear that the next time they might not be so lucky.

In the New Year I would like everyone who reads this to join me in ending the abuse. How, you ask? Each time a news story about a victim who was killed comes across your facebook page or you read about a case in the Huffington post, AOL News, Google, News vine, USA Today, the Examiner, Forbes, The Washington Post, New York Times or see it on Nancy Grace, Fox News, Good Morning America, MSNBC, the Oprah Show, Dr. Phil, NPR Radio or any number of news programs send them a brief paragraph about the book Time's Up and that these cases no longer have to be tragic. That women such as Susan Powell, Stacy Peterson, Jacque Waller, Michelle Parker, Venus Stewart, Angel Downs, Renee' Pernice, Kathleen Savio and others if killed their words will speak from the grave in a court a court of law. The person responsible will be arrested.

The upside is that this book saves lives. The mothers, sisters, girlfriends and children currently living in fear who live in harm’s way each and every day need this book the most. It is up to us to see that the information and knowledge is in their hands.

And to ensure every domestic violence agency, court building, library, church, community center, hospital, business and school has a copy of the book Time's Up: A Guide on How to leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships. And for a domestic violence provider, social worker, first responder, government agency, school, business or individual who says that cannot afford it? You cannot afford not too!

Time's UP !!!

www.documenttheabuse.com

• Other Stories on the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit:
• 
  http://courtwatchbrevard.org/drupal/?q=node/176  (example of site using EAA)
  
  
  http://www.forbes.com/sites/crime/2011/10/30/new-technology-for-domestic-violence-and-stalking-victims/
  
  
  http://www2.scnow.com/news/grand-strand/2011/nov/15/cell-phone-app-help-domestic-violence-victims-spea-ar-2692274/  (media Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit) 
  
  
  http://www.wgntv.com/news/coverstory/wgntv-evidentiary-abuse-affidavit-new-tool-gives-abused-women-a-voice-in-courtroom-20111109,0,2614298.story (Media on EAA)
  
  
  http://www.okcfox.com/newsroom/top_stories/videos/kokh_vid_4220.shtml (Media)

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Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases.


A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals, victim advocates and the faith based community and author.. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing prevention and solutions within the community to the workplace. Host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show,"Time'sUp!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host onCrime Wire. Online contributions: Forbes : Crime, She Writesproviding commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up! a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crime

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Cold Blooded Mother Murders Her Entire Family

                                                           Skyler 8 and her brother Ian 7

Both of these beautiful children had just gotten off the school bus.    It was their last day of school until after the new year.

As always, I received a dozen or so emails when the news broke about a tragic shooting; in my opinion, a premeditated slaughter in Emington, IL, an entire family erased.  Among those who lost their lives was a 10-month old baby Maggie Warren, the father to the infant and live-in boyfriend Daniel Warren, the mother to all the children, Sara McMeen, and Skyler and Ian Lemke.

Interesting how everyone who wrote assumed it was the father.  On Friday, a neighbor saw the mother in the back yard after 3 other shots had already rung out from inside the home.  The neighbor asked if everything was alright and the mother shouted "no," firing point blank at the baby in her arms, dropped her to the grass, then committed suicide.

As you're reading this you can think of all the "reasons" someone would do this, especially a mother.  Was she mentally ill, not on her medication, misdiagnosed or did she just snap? There is not one good reason, in my book, for wiping out innocent lives.  Sara McMeen planned the murders.  No, she did not simply snap.

Having personally bathed,  for 18 years, in the world of abuse victims and serial offenders who eventually turn deadly, society continues to dismiss the events leading up to intimate partner violence and homicide.  We sugar coat it by saying the individual was mentally ill or they were under pressure.  We tiptoe around these crimes hiding behind the computer screen or inside our home in a hear no evil see no evil mentality.  These murders are not isolated, one time incidents.  It is an epidemic!

The community of Emington has an opportunity to be a voice for the children and father now forever silenced on a national level.  Perhaps a town meeting, after the holidays, with a plan of awareness and action in memory of the victims.  It is my hope the town can rise above the tragedy and not keep it a secret, hidden as though it never happened.  That would be a crime!

Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases. She is a intimate partner family homicide survivor.

A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals, victim advocates and the faith based community and author.. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing prevention and solutions within the community to the workplace. Host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show,"Time'sUp!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host onCrime Wire. Online contributions: Forbes : Crime, She Writesproviding commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up! a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crime

The Holiday Season: Kill Thy Partner is in Full Force

Listen up! If you are going through a break-up or divorce, extra caution is urged if you plan on being around in 2012 and beyond.

www.documenttheabuse.com

The holiday season presents additional dangers to victims of intimate partner violence and stalking.  As an example: you are married with two children the relationship has been verbally abusive for as long as you can remember.  You can't breathe in your own home.  As a couple you have or are in counseling. You have tried talking, crying, pleading for things to be different.  Everything you attempt, fails.  Last resort is a divorce.  You talk with a few trusted people, do some research on the Internet and you decide to hire an attorney and begin divorce proceedings.  It is not as "simple" as it sounds.

Once you have expressed,verbalized or announced it is over to this person, without a real game plan of a strategy, you and or you children could be murdered. Lives in cities across the country are being lost over the "unexpected."  Being caught off guard.  In relationships that were never physically violent, only verbally.  The women while alive never believed "he would take it that far" or "he would contemplate murdering their own children."  A victim believes those who are murdered are from another population of society, "oh no it could never, ever be me."  Those women you are reading about who are  murdered don't live on the moon.  They are not from a foreign country.

Go to your bathroom mirror.  Take a good look at yourself, that is while you still can.  Yes, this was not in your life plan.  All you ever wanted was to love and be loved.  It didn't work out the way you envisioned your life.  Now you are telling someone whom you once deeply loved with all your heart, it's over.  But, they do not hear you. Instead your partner interprets your words as  "I am leaving you to find someone better." I know it is not what you said, but your partner is not listening. They also hear and feel rejected by you.  With rejection creates anger and it begins to brew inside of them similar to an overheated radiator on an engine.  From the moment you actually say out loud "we are done" there is no more trust on any level.  Trust that if you have children, your partner will remain in their lives.  Trust that you will not change passwords on accounts preventing assets.  Trust that you will not bleed the financial assets bone dry.

All bets are off! The person whom you believe you know like a pair of comfortable shoes, forget, it! Now, it's you against him.  Your partner holds an emotional grudge ready to explode when you least expect.

So, before you make a move, obtain a copy of the book "Time's Up A Guide on how to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships."  Available on line at Amazon.com, Kindle or in E-book at www.susanmurphymilano.com  This is not about "selling you a damn book. It is about keeping you safe and alive.  Something my own mother lost on January 19, 1989.  She was just like you.  My mother believed my father who also happened to be a Chicago police detective would never follow through on his promise, if she ever left to kill her.  My mother was tricked into meeting my father who had told her she needed to sign papers in order to have the house sold.  That was not true as she signed a quit claim deed in divorce court.  But my mother was so overjoyed to be finally free she didn't pay attention. Too busy being happy for the first time in 28 years, finally free of the violence. It got her killed.

The Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit (available in the Time's Up book)

See example of video affidavit

An “Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" and video has the additional psychological benefit of being forced to face reality and admit that the potential for the ultimate kind of violence exists…and that if it occurs the perpetrator will be held accountable.

Domestic violence or intimate partner victims now are able to provide information, in their own words, about the fears, dangers, experiences they have had at the hands of their abuser. The" Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" or "EAA" records victim's stories, histories, and experiences which are preserved and stored on their behalf. These videos will provide answers to the many questions, allegations, and fears that arise when a person has disappeared, gone missing, or been found dead.

Recent cases, such as missing mother Susan Powell of Utah, Renee Pernice of Kansas, Kelly Rothwell of Florida, Jacque Waller of Missouri and women like Stacy Peterson, where the victim’s police officer husband is the person of interest, is the classic example of the benefits of this type of evidence. If Stacy Peterson, or any woman found murdered or is missing, had done an Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit, ON TAPE, from following the information in the “Time’s Up" book ,they would be able to describe:

• threats made against her life or wellbeing, including details of how the perpetrator would carry out the threat
• incidents of past abuse that the victim has endured
• admissions or comments made to her about other victims or people abused
• where evidence or weapons would or could be located
• possible alibis that the perpetrator would make up in his defense (including identification of people who could be co-defendant’s or co-suspects)
• portray visible injuries or marks

Below are 12 women since Monday of this week who were murdered.  Each believed they would not be killed.  (source: www.domesticviolencecrimewatch.com)

Harrisburg Teacher Killed In Domestic Dispute-Thursday, December 15, 2011

Harrisburg, PA: A Harrisburg School District teacher is dead after being shot and stabbed by her estranged husband. Tarina Price was found lying in the street just after 3 a.m. Thursday. The shooting happened in the 1600 block of Sycamore Street. Harrisburg police said Price's estranged husband, Donnell Price, shot and stabbed her during a domestic dispute.

Man Accused Of Shooting Ex-Girlfriend, Killing Her Cousin -Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Gifford, FL:  A man accused of shooting his ex-girlfriend and killing her cousin was arrested Thursday morning and booked at the Indian River County Jail.  "Sorry" was the only word LaShannon Shelly said as he was being placed in the back of an Indian River County Sheriff's Office cruiser.  Shelly, 26, turned himself in after being named a suspect in the shooting of ex-girlfriend Brittany Jackson, 18, and her 19-year-old cousin, Shanice Smith

Tulsa Shooting Turns Fatal; Suspect Also Sought In Glenpool Shooting-Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Tulsa, OK:  A woman was fatally wounded when she was shot at a Tulsa apartment complex Wednesday, and police think the shooter — thought to be her estranged husband — might have also shot someone in Glenpool and then carjacked someone near McAlester later in the day.  Victoria Turcios, 43, was found critically injured behind the apartments in the 1200 block of East 63rd Street about 3:30 p.m., officials said. She died at St. Francis Hospital about 9 p.m., Sgt. Dave Walker said.

Two Found Dead In Murder-Suicide, Police Say-Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Huntington Beach, CA:  A man and woman were found dead Wednesday morning in a Huntington Beach home, the result of what police suspect to be a murder-suicide, authorities said.  The man and woman were found in a residence in the 8800 block of Jarrett Circle just before 5:30 a.m. and were pronounced dead at the scene, according to the Orange County Coroner's Office.

Franklin County Couple Killed In Murder-Suicide-Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Louisburg, NC:  A Franklin County man killed his ex-girlfriend and then himself in a murder-suicide at a Louisburg apartment complex Wednesday morning, police said.  Chief Rick Lassiter said Gregory Hicks, 29, fatally shot Rosemary Guzman and then himself in the Franklin Court apartments, at 119-A Second St., around 8 a.m

Tahlequah Man Slain; Wife Jailed-Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Tahlequah, OK:  An apparent domestic dispute has left a man dead and his wife in jail, Tahlequah police said.  Police found George Whitehorn, 47, stabbed at least once Tuesday night in a house in the 1300 block of Nola Street. A police public information officer, Brad Robertson, said Whitehorn’s wife, Cynthia Whitehorn, greeted police from the porch of the house.

Police: Children Hear Fatal Shooting Of Mother-Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Ahwatukee, AZ:  The man who police say confessed to shooting his wife while one of his children was on the phone to a 911 operator Tuesday night is a detention officer for the state Department of Corrections.  Police said 26-year-old Anthony Philip Rinaldi was booked into jail on a charge of second-degree murder in the shooting death of his wife, 28-year-old Amanda Blaies-Rinaldi.

Police: Suffolk Man Killed Wife, Then Himself At Home-Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Suffolk, VA:  Police have ruled the two deaths at Bennetts Creek Landing on Tuesday a murder-suicide, city spokesperson Debbie George said today.  George said physical and medical evidence indicated that Stephen Laine, 50, stabbed and killed his wife, 47-year-old Kathryn Laine, before killing himself with carbon monoxide in the couple's home.

Couple Identified In Murder-Suicide Investigation-Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Sarasota, FL:  Sheriff’s detectives are investigating the gunshot deaths of a man and woman found in their home near Bee Ridge Road as an apparent murder and suicide.

On Wednesday, investigators notified next of kin and identified the couple as Ronald Eldredge, 69, and Beverly Eldredge, 67, of the 4200 block of Carriage Drive

Sources: Two Dead In Apparent Chelsea Murder-Suicide-Monday, December 12, 2011

Manhattan, NY:  Two men were killed Monday after an apparent murder-suicide inside a Manhattan apartment building.  It happened just before 11 a.m. inside the Robert Fulton Houses located at 413 West 16th Street in Chelsea.

Sources say it began when Jamie Cruz and her cousin, Brandon Romero, 20, went to the apartment of Cruz's ex-boyfriend, Kenneth Waldron, 29, to pick up her things.

Corpus Christi Police: Woman Shot To Death Monday, Alice Police Officer Arrested-Monday, December 12, 2011

Corpus Christi, TX:  A 31-year-old woman was found shot to death Monday morning at a Corpus Christi home and police arrested an Alice police officer they believe to be the shooter.  Police were called to a shooting about 7:30 a.m. in the 100 block of Highwood Street. The woman, identified by Alice police as Leslie Morin, and her mother were hiding in a closet, when the man broke open the door, grabbed his common-law wife and shot her multiple times, Ric Ortiz, chief investigator with Nueces County medical examiner's office, said.

Cops Probe Glen Head Couple’s Murder-Suicide-Monday, December 12, 2011

Glen Head, NY:  Nassau County police are investigating an apparent murder-suicide in Glen Head early Monday morning.

Officers made the discovery after checking the couple’s Cedar Swamp Road home after a concerned friend reporting being unable to get in touch with them, police said

f you are in a relationship that has a history of violence, simply mustering up the courage to confront the person and say it is over, without the proper tools, can cost you, your life! One of the major reasons women stay in abusive relationships is fear. They are afraid of what will happen to them and their children if they leave. Sadly, their fears are often justified; statistics show that a woman is at the greatest risk for injury when she announces her plans or leaves an abusiverelationship. The book "Time's Up A Guide on How To Survive and Abusive and Stalking Relationship"is the prescription, if you will, that every person must obtain before they announce they are leaving. 

Below is an example from Chapter 4, one of many unique tools provided in the book. It is available onAmazon.com, or you can purchase via e-book or on a cd. If you have questions, the email address is: timesupforjustice@gmail.com Before you decide that you have had enough and are ending therelationship, create for yourself the "Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" and video (shown below). If you do nothing else, please take one important step that if something does happen to you, if you do vanish like Stacy Peterson, Vensus Stewart, Rachel Anderson, Susan Powell, Lisa Stebic, or arefoundmurdered like Monica Beresford-Redmond, Franki Jacobson, Renee Pagel, Summer Inman,Kelly Rothwell and others where the person responsible has gotten away with murder that your voice and record of the abuse will be captured and recorded. Do it for you friends, family and loved ones. Do it for your children. Do it for you!

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up"from Courage Networkon Vimeo.

• Other Stories on the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit:
• 
  http://courtwatchbrevard.org/drupal/?q=node/176  (example of site using EAA)
  
  
  http://www.forbes.com/sites/crime/2011/10/30/new-technology-for-domestic-violence-and-stalking-victims/
  
  
  http://www2.scnow.com/news/grand-strand/2011/nov/15/cell-phone-app-help-domestic-violence-victims-spea-ar-2692274/  (media Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit) 
  
  
  http://www.wgntv.com/news/coverstory/wgntv-evidentiary-abuse-affidavit-new-tool-gives-abused-women-a-voice-in-courtroom-20111109,0,2614298.story (Media on EAA)
  
  
  http://www.okcfox.com/newsroom/top_stories/videos/kokh_vid_4220.shtml (Media)
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If you have questions, the email address is: timesupforjustice@gmail.com

This book doesn't merely discuss when you should leave or why you should leave, it tells you HOW you should leave. The book has step-by-step instructions how to covertly make a plan, set-up a safe escape, deal with financial issues, and the paperwork. Susan even takes you line-by-line through the process, the forms, the legal issues...she takes you by the hand, and, believe me, when you are being terrorized and you are an basket case, you don't need vague ideas, you need specific instructions. TIME'S UP can save your life and your sanity. If you need to get out, get this book before you make a mistake that could be fatal. It is money well spent. 

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Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases.


A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals, victim advocates and the faith based community and author.. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing prevention and solutions within the community to the workplace. Host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show,"Time'sUp!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host onCrime Wire. Online contributions: Forbes : Crime, She Writesproviding commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up! a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crime