Women Like Lisa Stebic Do Not Just Vanish

Lisa Stebic, mother and sister has been missing since Monday, April 30, 2006 .She was last seen at her home at around six. Her car was still in her garage and she had her cell phone and wallet with her. According to police her cell phone has not been used since then. Lisa would never ever leave her children. They were her entire world. She was in the process of a divorce when she vanished. Her husband Craig Stebic is a suspect. The case is before the grand jury. But her case has gone cold. In my opinion, Lisa did not vanish. And without a body authorities are still hoping someone who knows anything will come forward.
Please view the video on Lisa http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mOnmtH27PXQ&feature=related

She is Missing & We Need YOUR Helpto find her!PLEASE call the Plainfield Police Department at 815-267-7217with ANY information- anonymous or not -It could save her life!
Recent News Coverage about Lisa Stebic's disappearance:FoxNews.com articleCBS - WBBMNBC - WMAQABC - WLSFOX - WFLDWGNJoliet Herald article 5/6Chicago Tribune article 5/4Naperville Sun article 5/5
Contact: findlisastebic@gmail.com
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Drew Peterson: The Circus Act Continue's

Media Darling Drew Peterson and the "Legal Media Marshmallow Roaster" are headed to New York for another yet another round with Matt Lauer. Today marks the fourth month anniversary in the disappearance of Stacy Peterson, mother, sister, spouse and in my opinion, murder victim. The nation has watched patiently, waiting, until Stacy Peterson's case is solved. And while we wait, all we get is more of the same. A circus act to be sure as two grown men walk and talk in pathetic costume. Each, ever so carefully speaking the universal language of those in our world who have been arrested, charged, swat team visited and perhaps murdered those they profess to love. The native tongue is at times clever and manipulative. Their tribe is called: Abuser.

For more information on how you can assist the Stacy Peterson family, tips, leads, follow the case, or attend the fundraiser, please visit http://www.findstacypeterson.com/

It has been a busy twenty-four hours at the Peterson household. On Wednesday at nine in the morning, four armed police officers knocked at the door and served subpoena's for both the teenage boys to appear before the grand jury, today at nine in the morning. Unless Peterson has another rabbit to pull out of his cap, while he in doing his media dance, the boys will be at the grand jury hearing pertaining to their mother, Kathleen Savio.

Excerpts from http://www.chicagotribune.com/ ---In yet another turn of events, Peterson will have his personal items returned within the next few weeks। But, just a couple hours ago, Peterson's gun card permit was revoked. So Peterson's firearms will not be returned because he has no legal license to own or carry weapons.
Under the Firearm Owner's Identification Card Act, a card may only be revoked for specific reasons, such as a conviction for a felony or domestic battery within five years, admittance to a mental health facility, providing false information on an application for the card and being subject to an existing order of protection.A card also may be revoked if the cardholder's mental condition is found to present a clear danger to the person or other people. Some denials or revocations occur automatically when a person is convicted of a crime or committed to a mental facility, but others can be granted at the request of law enforcement, a family member or doctor, said state police Master Sgt. Luis Gutierrez. Last year, the agency denied or revoked 26 FOID cards.Meanwhile, while Brodsky and Peterson flew to New York for his third appearance on the NBC show, Brodsky's law partner, Reem Odeh, questioned the way the case was being managed."I'm concerned that there's more emphasis and more of an effort to cater to the media frenzy than there is to looking into the issues surrounding the investigations," Odeh said. "It just seems to me that when there's nothing going on with the investigation and things are quiet in the media, it seems like sometimes either Joel or Drew says something to start the media frenzy all over again."Brodsky has mounted an aggressive campaign for media coverage. Asked whether she discussed those issues with Brodsky, Odeh said, "Absolutely. I don't think it's appropriate. I think it is in the client's best interest to keep it quiet and focus on the case. But he just says the case is going to make us famous and we're all going to get book deals."Odeh said she plans to meet with Peterson and tell him that she believes he should behave in a more professional manner, and if that doesn't happen, she will push to have him dropped as a client.

Murdered Infant Was A Life, Not A Toy Doll

Take a good look at these two individuals who starved their 5 month old helpless, infant child.
Neither one of them should ever, see the light of day। There are those who would possibly defend this man and woman making excuse's such as they had a troubled past or a history of mental illness themselves and the general pubic should not be so hard on the parents of the murdered child. I disagree. We have to hold those who commit these unimaginable crimes of horror, accountable. We must stop using the abuse and mental illness "cushion" as an excuse and a defense in these particular crimes. This is not a doll, This was a human life!

Journal Register-Peoria, IL , Benjamin Sargent died with his eyes open, fists clenched and strapped into a car seat after eight days without food or water, authorities say।
The 5-month-old was dropped off at his parents’ house on Feb. 4, wearing a bright-blue snowsuit and strapped into his car seat. Eight days later, he was found in the filth-strewn home in the same position, Peoria County State’s Attorney Kevin Lyons said Wednesday during a bond hearing for the parents, Tracy D. Hermann, 21, and James E. Sargent, 23, both of Peoria, who are charged with murder for their son’s death.
“It’s the worst case of child neglect we have seen since the turn of this century,” Lyons said afterward. “(On Tuesday), I told (Peoria Police) Chief (Steven) Settingsgaard that this case even rattled me.”
The charges state the parents’ actions, or lack thereof, were “brutal and heinous ... indicative of wanton cruelty,” factors that could mean they face up to 100 years in prison if convicted.
Lyons also said he might seek the death penalty for the two. State law allows a capital charge if the accused is older than 17 and the victim is younger than 12.
“He died from starvation due to neglect from these two defendants, his parents,” Lyons said, spitting out the last word with contempt.
Circuit Judge Glenn Collier ordered Sargent and Hermann held without bond, pending a hearing this afternoon, when it is expected that Lyons will present more evidence as to why the two should not be released pending trial.
Peoria County Coroner Johnna Ingersoll said Benjamin weighed 10 pounds when he was found by police. He was nearly eight pounds at birth, she said.
Reading from a prepared statement, Lyons said police found the infant sitting in his own waste, all the while strapped into the seat, which was in a crib.
A person who was staying at an unattached garage adjacent to the house had seen Benjamin at some point, thought it was “odd” that he was still on the living room floor after being dropped off and moved him, car seat and all, into the other room.
There Benjamin sat for eight days, most of which both Hermann and Sargent were home, “playing video games, watching TV, feeding and caring for themselves,” Lyons said afterward.
Police had interviewed Sargent, who at first told them he had moved the baby “once or twice,” but later conceded that he might not have moved Benjamin at all during the week, Lyons said.
Hermann’s last contact with her son was the night before police were notified. Then, she allegedly told police she “looked at the baby in the crib and presumed he was sleeping, so she said she stuck a bottle between the baby and the side of the car seat so that when he woke up, he could grab it and feed himself,” Lyons said in open court.
The house, Lyons said, was in complete disarray, with clothing everywhere and spoiled food left out. The temperature in the baby’s room was nearly 80 degrees, he said.
Hermann then left for Iowa to meet with a man she had met over the Internet, the prosecutor said, noting that she allegedly told police “ Benjamin was not her duty and that it was James’ responsibility.”
Prosecutors from Lyons’ juvenile division have already begun proceedings to permanently remove Hermann’s 3-year-old daughter from the home.

Officer Vanaman Murder Trial of Wife Barbara-Drags On

Below Former Police Officer Robert Vanaman, out on Bond while awaiting trial for the
murder of his wife Barbara Vanaman.




Background on Case: Barbara Vanaman was the mother of a three and thirteen year old boy. On May 11, 2006, around 5 p.m. neighbors heard the couple arguing. A few mnutes later, a shot rang out killing Barbara. All in the name of self defense of course, Robert was taken to the hospital because he needed to be treated for stab wounds during the incident.
Some General Information :
Robert has been on the police force for 15 years
Robert's father was also a Mullville police officer
Friends and neighbors say they were "the perfect couple"
My radar screen goes up based on Police response to officer related domestic violence disputes and field experience on officer related shootings:
Robert hires an attorney almost immediately following the incident; he is immune from answering any questions by police because he is represented by a lawyer; he is allowed upon leaving the hospital to return home to the crime scene where the death is still under investigation; He has not been charged and remains on sick leave. He has no restrictions on where he can go and what he can do.
Questions :
Where were the children on a school day at 5 P.M.? Was Robert on duty that day? Was he still in his uniform? How long had he been home? About what time did the neighbors hear the couple arguing? Was Barbara asking to divorce her husband? Did they get into a fight over her wanting to end their marriage? Has anyone interviewed co-workers from Barbara's employment? What about Barbara's relatives have police or the prosecuting attorney interviewed them? Did Robert threaten Barbara with the gun and she grabbed a knife to protect herself and then the gun went off?
Robert Vanaman is a 15 year veteran with a police department. He went through extensive training and knows how to use a weapon. In any police home where their are problems one of the first things a neighbor or co-worker says after a tragedy is they were "The Perfect Couple". Even after an Officer kills his wife and then commits suicide. And to everyone, not one person can say anything but good things about officers and their families. That's because from experience this is the officers self created persona. He goes out of his way to make sure the world knows what a great person he is and what a wonderful husband, father and neighbor he is on and off the job.
Look at any news story on police officers and you'll see what I mean. This case needs to be removed from the county. Although I fear the investigation has been tampered beyond repair, there are many things in this case along that smell of a cover-up.
Please don't let the answers to the truth die with Barbara, she deserves more and so do her children। If you know anything, if your a relative, friend, co-worker contact,Cumberland County Prosecutor Ronald Casella.
UPDATE 2/25/08:BRIDGETON -- If expert witnesses are available, a trial for a Millville police sergeant charged with murder could take place late this summer। A defense attorney for Millville police sergeant Robert Vanaman said Monday that he and First Assistant Prosecutor Ken Pagliughi need time to check with expert witnesses to make sure witnesses can be ready within the next four to six months for a potential trial.
At a status conference Monday afternoon on Vanaman's case, Superior Court Judge Walter Marshall Jr. set a return date on the case for March 31, at which time it's expected a trial will be scheduled.
Vanaman, 39, a 16-year veteran with the Millville Police Department, pleaded not guilty to charges of murder in November 2006 in connection with the shooting death of his 37-year-old wife, Barbara Vanaman.
Barbara Vanaman was shot and killed during a May 11, 2006, domestic dispute at her Wedgewood Court home in Millville, where she and her husband lived with their two children, ages 5 and 14.
Robert Vanaman is free on $750,000 bail.
He is currently suspended without pay from the Millville Police Department.
Joseph O'Neill, an attorney representing Vanaman, says his client shot Barbara Vanaman in self-defense.
But Pagliughi has argued that knife wounds Vanaman suffered in the May 11, 2006, incident, which O'Neill claims were caused by Barbara Vanaman, were self-inflicted.
A total of 15 expert witnesses are expected to testify at Vanaman's trial.
Pagliughi said in court Monday that the prosecutor's office may hire an additional witness to testify in response to a report prepared by one of O'Neill's witnesses that he only recently received.
The expert report is most likely in support of O'Neill's self-defense theory, as Pagliughi stated in November that he had yet to receive any evidence supporting that defense.
"I should know whether there will be an additional witness within the next couple of weeks," he told Marshall.
If expert witnesses are unavailable, Vanaman's trial could be delayed.
However, Pagliughi said after court Monday he is optimistic that the trial will take place in 2008.
Both Pagliughi and O'Neill stated in past interviews that they are prepared to try the case as soon as possible। (By MATT DUNNmailto:DUNNmdunn@sjnewsco.com)

Roller Coaster

Many forms of abuse are obviously cruel. Emotional abuse is more subtle. Quite often such abuse goes unseen, as even the victim does not recognize that she is being abused. Although emotional abuse does not leave black eyes or visible bruises, it is often more seriously damaging to your self-esteem. Emotional abuse is cruel and scars your soul. Physical or sexual abuse is always accompanied and often follows emotional abuse, for example, emotional battering is used to wear the victim down - often over a long period of time - to undermine her self-concept until she is willing to take responsibility for her abuser's actions and behavior towards her or simply accept it.
There are many categories of emotional/psychological abuse। They include a variety of behaviors that will be easily recognizable by those experiencing them, and often remain completely unnoticed by others। They include: Isolation The abuser will control whom the victim sees, where she goes, whom she speaks to and what she does। This can take the form of simply not allowing her to use the phone, have her friends round or visit her family, or ensuring it simply isn't worth it by being in a bad mood because she left some housework undone, making her feel guilty that she was out enjoying herself while he worked, or even encouraging her - theoretically - to make friends, and then discounting them or complaining that she cares more for her friends/family/hobby than she does him or is neglecting him. Some abusers may move home frequently to prevent their victim from building a social support network or slowly chip away with their existing relationships with family and friends. Many abusers justify their control over their victim by stating that it is proof of their love, or that they worry about their safety when out, etc. In reality however, the abuser needs to isolate his victim to feel secure themselves, they feel as though any relationship, be it family, friend or colleague, will undermine their authority over and take their partner away from them, i.e. poses a threat. The effect of this isolation is that the victim feels very alone in her struggle, doesn't have anyone with whom to do a 'reality check', and is ultimately more dependant on the abuser for all her social needs. Forms of Isolation include: Checking up on you when your out running simple errands; Accusing you of sleeping around;Moving to an isolated away from friends and family ; Making sure you only have one car or no telephone service where you are living ;Making your friends or family feel uncomfortable when they call or visit and they slowing stop contacting you; Punishing you for being 10 minutes late home from work by complaining, bad moods, criticism or physical abuse; Not allowing you to leave the house on your own, they always have to be with you; Demanding a report on your actions and conversations on a daily basis; Preventing you from leaving the home and working any kind of job; Not allowing any activity which no not include them; Finding fault with your friends/family; If you are allowed to work-insisting on taking you to and picking you from work; In extreme cases the victim may be reduced to episodes of literally becoming a prisoner, being locked in a room and denied basic necessities, such as warmth, food, toilet or washing facilities.
Abuse When thinking of abuse : we tend to see the abuser yelling out insulting names at the victim, and while this does happen, there are many more forms than name-calling.
The abuser may use critical, insulting or humiliating remarks (for example,। you've got a mind like a porch step; you're stupid; etc.), he may withhold conversation and refuse to discuss issues, or he may keep you up all night insisting on talking when you need sleep. Verbal abuse undermines your sense of worth, your self-concept (perhaps who you think you are) by discounting your ideals, opinions or beliefs. Verbal abuse can include: Yelling or shouting at you; Making threats; Insulting you or your family; Being sarcastic about or criticizing your interests, opinions or beliefs ;Humiliating you either in private or in public; Sneering, growling, name-calling; Withholding approval, appreciation, or conversation; Refusing to discuss issues which are important to you; Laughing or making fun of you inappropriately; Leaving nasty messages on your cell phone or at home; Accusing you of unfaithfulness, not trying hard enough or purposely doing something to annoy you;Blaming you for his failures or other forms of abuse; All of these abusive behaviors prohibit normal, healthy interaction between two adults as well as a lack of respect for individual thoughts, feelings, and opinions. A healthy, mutual interaction and conversation between two persons respects and promotes the right of each partner to their own individual thoughts, perceptions and values.
If you feel you are not ready to leave your situation and you would like someone to talk with about your options, Please consider contacting the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence their services are free and confidential। They will provide referrals in your area। All it costs you is your time. The number is 18000-799-SAFE. Or visit them on the web at
http://www.ncadv.org/

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Parents: Time To Find Out Who Your Kids Are Dating

We never really pay attention or think much about our kids being in an abusive relationship। We tell them to stay away from strangers or never to put their drink down at a party, but, as parents do we ever ask and check in with our kids and their relationships? As a parent, why not consider printing a copy of this off and either sitting down with your teenager and discussing the questions or lightly mention that you saw this and thought it might be of interest and leave it at that। Ask about their friends, if they suspect, they are in an unhealthy situation at the moment. It's a way to open the door to discussing the topic. Questions to really consider and go over with your teenager:Print this sheet off and write your ideas in the spaces। You can print this sheet from your browser (by pressing the 'print' button on the toolbar or selecting 'print' in the File menu।) Write a list of the ways in which you think your boyfriend/girlfriend has been or is being abusive towards you। ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________
Did you ever stop and think about your boyfriend/girlfriend and what they gain through their behavior? Does it make them a better person for controlling or hurting you? Maybe this is being done in their home and they think this is normal behavior? ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________How has the way you are treated made you feel? Helpless, stupid, afraid to tell someone? ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________How does or has the abuse affected you - how has it affected your confidence, your relationships, and your school studies or just your life right now।___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________How have the negative messages that your boyfriend/girlfriend has given you made you feel about yourself?___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________Do you think the abuse has consumed you completely?___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________If you break up:Good points / what could I gain________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________Bad points / what could I lose?__________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________If you stay in the relationship:Good points /
what could I gain______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________Bad points / what could I lose?_____________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________What's your worst fear if you end the relationship right now?___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________What's your worst fear if you continue seeing this person?___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________Who can you talk to who could help, a parent, family memeber, school mate, teacher?___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________What personal strengths do you have to help you keep going?___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________हवे you thought about steps you could take to try to change this situation?___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________What can you do to feel better and in a safe place (either in the relationship or after breaking up) ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________What things can you do for yourself, to feel stronger? (spend more time with my friends, find a job, keep a journal, pay attention to your school work, etc। ___________________________________________________________________________ ___________________________________________________________________________ _______________________________________________

Drew Peterson: Order of Protection Speaks From the Grave

The order of protection that Kathleen Savio(Peterson) was granted on March 11,2002 should be an important piece of the puzzle for investigators in her "unsolved murder". First, in order to be granted even the temporay emergency order, she had to go before a judge.

She was asked to raise her right hand and swear that the information in the petition for an order of protection is true to th best of her knowledge. Then the judge asked Kathleen Peterson is the signature on page 10(C) is hers. And she answered yes to the Judge.

"Above where she signed it stated "Under penalties as provided by law Section 1-109 of the Code of civil procedure, the undersigned certifies that the statements set forth in this instrument are true and correct."

It states in her own handwriting in the petition for the order of protection on page 10 (b) "Serveral times he has restrained me, held me down, knoocked me into walls, came after me with a poker, left marks on my body, dead bolt door he broke through it."

On Page 10 (A) of the petition for the emergency order of protection line #5 in her own words: " Over the phone before coming over to the house to deal with me, he wants me dead. And if he has to he will burn the house down just to shut me up.

On Page 11(A) of the emergency order where it says: Respondent is prohibited from the following (that would be Drew Peterson boxes checked on the order are Physical Abuse, Harassment and Interference with Personal liberty.

On March 22, 2002, Kathleen Peterson and her lawyer Brian Grady, located in Elmhurst, IL and Drew Peterson and his lawyer at the time Alexander Beck all appeared before a judge. By agreement the order of protection is dismissed.

Somewhere, someplace exists an important file from when Kathleen contacted the State's attorney's office back in 2002. In that file there are letters and other documents, along with photot's of bruises. Where is that file?

Document Links: http://www.amw.com/pdf/peter001.PDF

Kathleen Savio's Emergency Room Report which documents physical injuries and names Drew Peterson as her attacker.(Date unclear) http://www.amw.com/pdf/petersonemergency.pdf

Also, why hasn't anyone spoken to Kathleen's divorce lawyer Brian A. Gradyweb link: http://www.illinois-custody.com/. There is no longer a breach of confidentiality. Lawyers are required to maintain case file for seven years. Hello, someone needs to make contact with the attorney.

Kathleen Savio sends »Letter To The Prosecutor http://www.amw.com/pdf/petersonletter.pdf Addressed to Assistant States Attorney Elizabeth Fragale, she states that she had tried to reach her 3 times by phone.That she had called the police and spoke to Cheif Mike Calcagno, "that same week-end" (July 5, 2002).then "filed a report in regards to my safety" with 2 officers who arrived at her home. (date undisclosed)She directly asks Ms. Fragale why Peterson, "wasn't charged with this illegal entry, and attempt on my life ?" She names Drew Peterson as illegally entering her home, pushed her onto the stairs, threatening her life, and holding a knife against her throat.

"In December 2002, a copy of a Bolingbrook police dispatch report alleges that after "taking pictures at a wedding and drinking all night," the police officer came home and trashed their home, furious that his wife came home early to be with their young children rather than close a bar the couple owned. The report noted that police responded, and then stated: "Female left residence to spend night at her sister's house[.] Problem solved."[.

In my opinion, this is just enhances the autopsy report. The information is crying out for someone to make an arrest. Forget about doing a media dance or shuffle with Peterson's lawyer, the documented facts are speaking and we must now listen.

Today's Headline: Peterson After Autopsy Report "I'm Scared" http://www.suburbanchicagonews.com/heraldnews/news/809161,4_1_JO23_PETERSON_S1.article

Peterson Fox News 2/23/08 interview:http://www.myfoxatlanta.com/myfox/MyFox/pages/sidebar_video.jsp?contentId=5859238&version=1&locale=EN-US

Stacy Peterson Website: Is a great interactive board with up to date discussions, up coming fundraiser info, volunteer information please visit them at http://www.findstacypeterson.com/

Drew Peterson's Lawyer Now Requires A Large Shovel?

The shovel can be purchased for $9.99 or less depending on where you live. I thought the defense attorney might be able to use this on his interviews as he shovels his way out from under the mounds of garbage that are piling up on the Drew Peterson case.



Today, Illinois States Attorney's James Glascow office issued the final results in the death of Officer Wife Kathleen Savio. The medical exaimer's report: ruled Kathleen's death a Homicide. In a bold move, Drew Peterson's legal counsel Joel Brodsky, a Chicago attorney, appeared on the Nancy Grace show by telephone. A skilled defense attorney whose client is suppose to be innocent would not be defending and disecting a medical exaimer's report line by line on national televsion. In case you missed the lamb roast with Nancy Grace this evening, here's the link:

http://edition.cnn.com/video/#/video/bestoftv/2008/01/18/ng.grills.peterson.attorney.cnn

If your client is not guilty, your first words should be " That's good news, now lets find her killer, my client is innocent". Those words of sincere interest to find Kathleen Savio's killer were never even touched upon during the interview with Nancy Grace.

In addition, this opens up the Savio family law suit that was filed just weeks ago holding Drew Peterson, potentially liable in civil court for her death.

January 2008 news when Savio Family hired a lawyer:
BOLI NGBROOK, Ill। (CBS) ― Former Bolingbrook police sergeant Drew Peterson is about to face another legal battle, this time involving the family of his third wife, Kathleen Savio. Savio's relatives just hired a big-name New York lawyer. CBS 2 West Suburban Bureau Chief Mike Puccinelli has an exclusive report on a new lawsuit. It's a 40-page document that lays the groundwork for Savio's family to sue former Peterson in civil court. On page three it says, "your petitioners are prepared to initiate a wrongful death cause of action against drew Peterson on behalf of the estate of Kathleen Savio" whose death the document goes on to say " was not an accident and it was not suicide." "The problem with that is, first of all they have to prove it was in fact a wrongful death, it was something other than an accident or suicide," said CBS 2 legal analyst Irv Miller. "But even more important, if they establish that, they still have to establish he's the one that did it." But before the wrongful death suit can be filed, Savio's estate has to be reopened. Thursday's notice of motion asks a judge to do just that. In the motion the Savios also ask that James Carroll, the executor of Savio's handwritten will, be removed from the case. As an uncle of Drew's they say he has a conflict of interest. They also say Carroll "wasted and mismanaged the estate" by permitting all "the assets of the marriage to pass to Drew Peterson, and away from the beneficiaries of the estate." That, they argue, goes against Savio's wish of having all her "worldly possessions" go to her children. "They have a pretty good argument to name a neutral individual to take over the estate as opposed to someone who is directly interested since that person is a relative of Drew Peterson," Miller said. The filing also contains a document showing that immediately after Carroll was named executor of Savio's estate, Carroll, acting as his own attorney, fired Savio's divorce attorney. Sixteen days later during final divorce proceedings a publicly appointed administrator noted that no one representing the children's interests was present in court when all of the couple's assets, other than Savio's life insurance, were awarded to Drew Peterson. He said the effect of the judgment was to transfer anywhere from $144,000 to $288,000 from the four children who were beneficiaries of the estate to Drew Peterson. One person who was familiar with the case wouldn't go on camera but summed up the division of assets this way saying, "They screwed the kids to benefit Drew Peterson." The Savios' new attorney, John Q. Kelly, is New York lawyer who represented the estate of Nicole Brown Simpson in a successful civil suit against OJ Simpson. He confirmed his involvement in the case. Peterson's attorney, Joel Brodsky, said, "They'll never be able to prove Drew did anything wrong, or caused the death of Kathleen Savio. If by some miscarriage of justice they get a judgment against Drew -- the money would be going to Drew and Kathy's children anyway. It's a fruitless act."

Stacy Peterson, wife #4 is still missing. I am wondering why the Illinois State police are not seeing through on the letter Peterson says he received from an unknown person from Peoria, Illinois back in November 12, 2007 who says they spoted "Stacy Peterson at a Kroger grocery store with a pudge." I will bet you anything Drew Peterson is behind this mysterious letter. An abuser always wants to leave a crumb behind ( its a catch me if you can ego trip)and in my opinion this mystery letter, is no mystery at all , if it's postmarked, this should lead police to where Stacy was buried. Isn't Drew's favorite show C.S.I. anyway? Or was this done by someone else in an old case he once worked on in the early days of his career?

Family and friends has created a great interactive site where you can view all the latest and breaking news and updates on the case as well as particpate on the interactive discussion board. http://www.findstacypeterson.com/

New York Wife Murders Police Officer Husband

Murder does not decide race nor gender. The very fact that violence was used regardless of gender is still a criminal act. Sometimes when I see cases where a woman, especially a poilce officer's wife in domestic related criminal acts occur, I cringe, often wondering if my own mother solved her pain in the same way as Mrs. Sheehan would I accept the fact that she committed murder? Honestly, I have no answer. But, I do have an answer for those women right now who are in violent relationships married to abusive men. Muster up every ounce of strength you have, from your head down to your toes, and make the decision to safely leave. Solving a bad situation by killing another human being is not the answer to your problems. But I suspect in this case it was Barbara's only option. And in this particular situation, Barbara did what she had to do. Unless you have lived in someone shoes it is difficult to know how the wife of an abuser should or could respond.

2/20/2008--Howard Beach woman was ordered held without bail Tuesday after allegedly killing her retired cop husband, a slaying her lawyer suggested was motivated by fears for her life.The victim, Raymond Sheehan, and the suspect, Barbara Sheehan -- who was charged with second-degree murder -- had what neighbors and police sources said was a hostile, tense marriage and said that the victim abused his wife.On Monday afternoon, the wife, 46, called her sister in a panic. When the sister arrived, she found Raymond Sheehan, 49, shot dead in the bathroom, police said."I shot him," the wife told police officers, who subsequently responded to the home, a prosecutor said in court Tuesday. "I shot him. I think he's dead."Sheehan retired from the New York Police Department as a sergeant in 2002. He spent most of his career in the Crime Scene Unit and was part of the team that sifted for human remains at the Fresh Kills landfill in Staten Island after the Sept. 11 terror attack.He coached neighborhood sports teams, his friends said. "As far as I was concerned, he was a good guy," said neighbor Frank Provenzano, 44.But other neighbors, plus his wife's family, told police the couple were often at odds and that he physically abused her.Shortly before the shooting, the couple fought, neighbors and her family told police, and they said he punched her in the face."The decedent was, in fact, the aggressor," lawyer Douglas Dollinger said in court during Barbara Sheehan's arraignment.The suspect appeared to be on the verge of tears in court. The couple's college-age children, Jennifer and Raymond, sat in the second row, weeping.Barbara Sheehan was ordered held without bail, and her lawyer wouldn't comment outside court about raising a battered spouse defense.Michael Dowd, a lawyer who has defended a number of battered women accused of attacking their spouses, says that to win an acquittal, a defense lawyer has to get the jury to "see the world through the eyes of the battered woman, to see the dangers that were facing her."Often, Dowd said, a battered woman will be criticized for not calling police -- the NYPD had not previously been called to the Sheehan home -- or not just walking out."But that's often answered by who she is," Dowd said, noting that some women, no matter how badly abused, will stay for the sake of their children or because they don't believe in divorce."There's also the fact that there really is no protection out there for a battered woman if the person is dominant and in control, particularly if that person has guns." Though retired, Raymond Sheehan still kept guns in his home.When a battered woman fights back, Dowd said, "A lot of people say the woman went berserk."This often is the sanest day of the woman's life because she finally decided to stop the harm that she was facing."

What Police Officer Comment Site Responses to the Shooting have to say:

#1 -WHAT the heck.....????? in yesterdays report the Sgt was shot in the bedroom and now the wife says she shot him in the bathroom? Neighbors yesterday stated they were a nice curch going couple and they never heard anything out of the ordinary from the residence and no signs the couple ever fought...Today neighbors are saying they fought and he always was physically abusing her...??? Now she has a big time attorney that deal with battered women..I know where this is going...

#2-This is going to be one of those situations where the only people who truly know what happened in that house are her, the sarge and God

#3-First rule of defense attys - if your client confesses, put the victim on trial. He'll be a POS by the time the trial is over, no matter what he was really like.

#4-Hate to specualate on what really happened here. My fiance was in an abusive relationship and had some scary and terrible things happen to her. He is a fireman. No one outside knew what was going on withing, she never reported anything, but with everythign she told me there were times she should have shot him. I am not saying this is what happened here, and I would like to give the Sarge the benifit of the doubt, but I would like everyone who reads and posts to keep an open mind.


#5- What's going on here? A retired police SGT is shot by his wife...she caller her sister and the sister calls 911....if the Dgt was beating on her like she claimed and she shot him in self defense, why not call 911 immediately? And then maybe your sister? She shows fresh facial injuries...who put them there? Maybe the sister? It certainly sounds like the investigation is going in that direction if they arrested her and charged her with second degree murder...I would love to read this investigative report when concluded...

#6-Did she have to the Sarge in self defense? I mean come on. Never a police report, nothing on file? This has big time defense written all over it. She'll walk you watch.

Police Officer Kenneth Longerbean Disgraces The Badge

Look at this tin badge officer, he enjoys having sex with children. As an officer of the "puke patrol" he continue's to draw a pay check. Longerbeam acknowledged during a plea hearing on yesterday in court that he exchanged text messages with a cooperating witness about having sex with a boy and what sort of acts would be involved. The bozo must resign from his position and will have to register as a sex offender under the terms of the plea agreement, prosecutors said.

A District of Columbia police officer has pleaded guilty to charges that he arranged to have sex with a 14-year-old. Thirty-nine-year-old Kenneth Longerbeam, of Gwynn Oak, Maryland, pleaded guilty to one count of traveling to D.C. to have sex with a minor. He faces up to 30 years in prison when he is sentenced in May 22, 2008.
In the mean time, police Chief Cathy Lanier is seeking to suspend Longerbeam without pay. He has been on paid leave since he was arrested in December. He had been on the force for 11 years. Lanier says Longerbeam's actions are "contrary to everything the department stands for."

Cowardly Tin Badge Officers-Rape, Sex & Silence

Did the Florida State's Attorney's office make the right judgement call when they allowed a rapist who was a police officer to take a plea bargin deal? Maybe they didn't feel the victims would be able to go through with a trial and discuss what happened to them on a witness stand in front of a jury। And yet, had the case gone to trial Ragusa would have received life in prison। He'll be out when he is forty-two, and have the ability to live a good portion of his life as a free man। But, for rape victims, it is not so cut and dry। They will forever live with the trauma and fear of what was done to them for the remainder of their lives. They already have and will live the "crime victims prison", a place where the mind replays the criminal act in ways none of us can imagine. http://www.local10.com/news/15292315/detail.html -----------------------------

WINSTON-SALEM -- Former Landis police Chief Charles Childers will serve more than 12 years in prison after pleading guilty to child pornography and Internet-related sex crimes.
Childers stood before a federal judge in Winston-Salem and begged for mercy on Tuesday। Childers could have been given up to 45 years for the child pornography crimes।----------------------------------------------------

Police Officer Spouse/Girlfriend Lethal Indicator

The Lethal Relationship Indicator

--Any person who hits their partner is capable of serious bodily harm. Plain and simple, especially a person who is legally required to carry a badge and a gun.

--Choking can be lethal and you can have hidden injuries that can cause death from choking that may not show up for several days.

--A huge indicator...does he/she abuse animals and family pets? Any person who can harm and animal will harm people. Do they hunt with their co-workers or by themselves?
Are they extremely rough with household pets?

--While not all people who drink or use drugs are violent...officers who are violent AND use drugs and/or alcohol can be lethal.

More indicators:
Lethal Indicators For Abusers of the Badge

The Checklist for "Is He/She Lethal?"
The Assessment of how much danger you are in?

You should be advised that the presence of these indicators may mean your abuser is planning to kill you. Do not ever say, "It cannot happen to me." Or, “It’s not so bad”. And violence is not gender specific. Meaning it happens just as frequently as in same sex relationships, it is just not talked about as much. Too many women, like you, are risking your life when you stay, especially if the abuser is in law enforcement.

This means you must take immediate action
to protect yourself!

You must carefully develop a good safety plan. That would include becoming the best actor you can.

Do not tell them you are ending the relationship, seeing a lawyer or filing for a divorce. That may trigger the abuser into harming you and or your children. In most of the deaths that involved officers wives or girlfriends, they were in the process of ending the relationship. And those women were either killed or have never been found.

They know what to do. You have to know what to do in order to safely leave the relationship when your “GUT” tells you something is very, very wrong. You know the looks, the phrases and the non-verbal body language when something is about to explode within them.

Some Law Enforcement Officers are more likely to kill because they feel they know exactly how to get away with harming you. Consider these factors:

But, the greater the number of checks the greater the risk, the greater of intensity of each item the greater the likelihood of a life threatening attack.

Remember, past acts of violence are not always an accurate as predictor of what the abuser will do, the next time. And he has probably warned you enough times to watch it, or else. And you know better than anyone what the "or else" means.

1. He has threatened to kill himself, or you or the children, your relatives. This is considered to be an extremely dangerous situation.

2. If he has ever said something to you in the order of, "you will die before we divorce," or
"You are mine and I will not let anyone else have you.

3. Has he ever cleaned his weapons in your presence, pointed it at you jokingly ?
And then said Ah, it is not loaded.

4. There has been frequent physical assault against you. Especially when they have returned home from their shift? Maybe they are just drunk and angry, maybe, not, but you know when something is wrong.

5. There has been frequent and severe sexual abuse. It may be rape in your situation. He makes up, then tells you he is sorry. But in reality this has now become "the norm" in your relationship.

6. There abuser has seriously injured you. Now what, he is banking on the fact that you will not contact a superior at the job. Maybe he feels he has you right where he wants you, good and scared, in fear for your very life, or the life of your kids.

7. He threatens to takes you hostage. WARNING!
This is a dangerous situation, there is a great chance of homicide in the immediate future.

8. He makes threats against the children.

9. He has had a history of violence with others, either ex-wives or girlfriends .

10. Uses drugs or alcohol abuse, extreme intoxication.

11. He is severely depressed or acute depression with seeing little hope.

12. You have separated from your abuser, he cannot envision life with out you or the separation causes him great despair or rage. Never meet him in an isolated area. If you have children make arrangements for them to be dropped off at the police station after visitation. Never believe them when they ask you to meet with them, alone, without anyone else present.

13. Suicidal threats, attempts, or plans.

14. He has acted out part of the homicide or suicide fantasy, he may be totally invested in killing as a viable solution to his problems.

15. If he idolizes you, or depends heavily upon you to organize, and keep his life together, and has no friends, but you.

16. Access to you, if he knows where he can find you then he can kill you, if he cannot find you then he does not have access.

17. If you have made prior calls to his unit or department supervisor, you have probably angered him. The more calls you make the greater the risk. This includes the calls you should have made but did not for fear of being killed or hurt further.

18. When he does not care if he gets arrested, not scared of going to jail, or not care if he loses his job.

19. He has an explosive temper and is violent inside the home. He isolates you each time there is an explosive episode between the two of you.

20. Obsessive about appearances to those outside the home or relationship.

If you have questions please do not post them on the blog. Email them to: abuseofthebadge@aol.com

Florida Police Fail To Serve & Protect?

Over the weekened a tragic murder of 17 year- old Natasha Hall happened inside her own home. She and her mother called the police on numerous ocassions. During the last call for help, just before the teen was murdered, Police informed the teen if she called again she would be arrested. This can not be confirmed by the Deland Florida police department, apparently they have "No Comment".

So what the hell does one do if they can't call the police for assistance?

Violence and threats are not childs play. This tragedy also makes me question how this Florida police department handles domestic violence related calls, in general. And God forbid, if your a cop's wife, what they might do. This is a serious epidemic.

What the teens mother must do now is rally every judge, womens advocacy group and high school to demand not only answers, but solutions. If you are a victim please contact the National Coaliton Against Domestic Violence at 1-800-799-SAFE. You can also contact that number for programs in your area for your teenager who is involved in an abusive relationship.

DELAND, Fla. -- A Central Florida woman whose 17-year-old daughter was killed in a murder-suicide apparently committed by her ex-boyfriend said the teen was told by police to stop calling for help or she'd be arrested.

Police said Clay Coffner shot his estranged girlfriend, Natasha Hall, in the head outside her DeLand home Friday before turning the gun on himself.

Video Link: http://www.local6.com/news/15330073/detail.html?rss=orlpn&taf=orlpn
Hall's mother, Sherry, said her daughter was concerned about Coffner and informed police.
In fact, Hall said her daughter called police so much that on Jan. 15 they threatened her.
"The police officer said if you call us one more time on him, I'm going to arrest you both," Sherry Hall said. "So, the day she died, she knew she couldn't talk to police. So, she handled it herself."
Michele Karpowicz said everyone noticed the warning signs before the homicide -- except police.

"I was going crazy," Hall's best friend said. "He was psycho, jealous and abusive."
Local 6 is trying to obtain a police call log to determine how many times the teen called police.
DeLand police officials have not responded to the allegations. (Source News 6)

"Stranger Danger" and Your Children

This is Important, ask your child's school when was the last time they had a "stranger danger" education awareness class. Maybe this is a good reminder to refresh their memories and yours.

What about your local church-how about asking them to post tips on kids safety in the bulletin this month.

Not a week goes by without a report of a child abduction, molestation, or a loved one who has turned up missing. An adult's worst nightmare can be minimized through proper safety tip education with a youngster about "stranger danger" and what to do to keep a loved one out of harm's way.

The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children offers the following safety tips for parents to discuss with their youngsters:

•Travel with a friend, or better yet, a group of friends when riding your bike or walking to or from school or other destinations.

•If a stranger offers you a ride somewhere, say no, and run away. Adults should define "stranger" and give safety tip examples to help youth, especially young ones, know what you mean.

•If someone follows you on foot, get away as quickly as you can. Find Local Sex OffendersSearch Over 400,000 known sex offenders for free.
Updated daily. http://www.childsafenetwork.orgGo to someone's house they know, or run to other people, or just teach them to run away.

•If someone is following you in a car, turn around and go in the opposite direction or take a path where a car would not go.

•Never leave school or any other extracurricular activity or event with someone who makes you feel uncomfortable. Moms or dads should tell their youngster that it is okay in these circumstances to not ride home, but that also means adults should have an established communications method along with these safety tip guidelines so that the kid does not end up stranded or alone.

•If a stranger tells you that there is an emergency or that a family member is hurt or that a pet has been in an accident, always check with your mom or dad or other trusted adults. This is a common trick used by many molesters or kidnappers.

•For more information about safety tips from the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children, call 1-800/843-5678.

Other general safety tips include:

•Grown-ups MUST establish "safe houses" where kids feel comfortable in knocking on their door at any time a situation warrants it. Be sure to get approval from the neighbors/homeowners first before designating a home as a "safe house." If possible, have a neighborhood safety tip meeting and have residents agree to watch after one another.

•Parents should not become lax about kids going to a friend's home in a neighborhood--even if it is only a few doors away. Snatchings can happen in an instant; even under a parent's watchful eye. The key is to keep an eye on a youngster when out front. Older youth should be instructed to call when they arrive at a friend's home for peace of mind and as a good safety tip practice.

•Never let kids play out in the front yard alone without direct supervision by an adult. There are too many opportunities for endangerment or other types of accidents. A back yard is a much safer, and more private, option.

•If at all possible, an adult should greet youngsters as they get off a school bus, and not have them walk home alone.

•Parents should be cautious about blatant use of a child's name on a back pack or jacket. Kids sometimes believe that a person can't be a stranger if they know them by name, when the reality is that their name was easily readable on their attire or the individual heard a youngster's name mentioned.

•Adults should understand that boys are at just as greatest of risk as girls. It is a common safety tip misconception that child molesters or perpetrators are typically men and seek only girls. Molesters come in all ages and both genders, and their victims can be of either sex.

•Parents should begin reinforcing these safety tips as soon as a kid is old enough to understand, and above all, ensure that their child feels comfortable enough in discussing these issues, their concerns or fears, or any potentially inappropriate events that have possibly transpired. Awareness of these safety tips can help kids be less susceptible to any stranger dangers.

If you have childen in school or daycare, print a copy of this off and give it to other parents or school officials.