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The Roth Show: War Against Women with Barry Goldstein and Mo Hannah

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From a recent post on Time’s Up! by Barry Goldstein, he states, “Sexism is critical to the discussion of domestic violence because it causes men to abuse their partners based on a sense of entitlement and superiority. It promotes many other practices and policies that mistreat women such as the issues that led to discussion of the Republican war on women. Most people become deeply insulted and angered when called sexist, but most sexism is far more subtle than the over-the-top hateful comments recently made by Rush Limbaugh. Good and caring men engage in sexist behavior, often without realizing they are doing so. I would urge Republican leaders, as well as Democrats and independents to avoid the normal defensiveness in responding to accusations of sexist behavior.”  (to read entire article CLICK HERE)

Barry Goldstein and Mo Hannah will be on hand for the hour to discuss the politics of the war on women and offer solutions, and by taking proper actions, to improve the conditions in our society.

Barry Goldstein is a nationally recognized domestic violence expert, speaker, writer and consultant. He is the co-editor with Mo Therese Hannah of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, ABUSE and CHILD CUSTODY. www.Domesticviolenceabuseandchildcustody.com 

Mo Therese Hannah,PhD is a Professor of Psychology at Siena College, the Founder of the Battered Mothers Custody Conference, and The EQ Program Certified Imago Advanced Clinician

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The Susan Murphy Milano Show: Protective Mothers & Custody- Guests Dr. Mo Hannah and Barry Goldstein

"All across this nation, we are witnessing widespread, shocking injustices inflicted on battered women and their children by the family courts.

So pervasive and serious are these injustices that every year, battered mothers and their professional and lay advocates from across the country gather together at the Battered Mothers Custody Conference, a weekend event dedicated to addressing these issues.-- Dr. Mo Hannah"


Our guests for the hour Dr. Mo Hannah and Barry Goldstein, Esquire

Mo Therese Hannah, Ph.D. is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Siena College. Loudonville, New York. As a practicing clinical psychologist specializing in couples therapy, she is an Advanced Clinician in Imago Relationship Therapy and serves as an Academic Faculty Member of Imago Relationships International, the professional training organization for Imago Therapy. Having served since 1996 as Editor/Managing Editor of the Journal of Imago Relationship Therapy, she has published five books and produced numerous articles and presentations on topics related to relational psychology.

With Joe Marrone, Ph.D., she is the author of The EQ (Social-Emotional Intelligence) Program, which teaches elementary aged children the principles and practices of good character and of equitable and respectful relationships. Dr. Hannah directs the EQ Program at Siena College, in which Siena students are trained to teach the EQ lessons to children in Capital District-area schools.

Dr. Hannah's interest in abusive dynamics and their impact on interpersonal relationships and in forensic psychology led her to plan and chair the first Battered Mothers Custody Conference in the Country.

Barry Goldstein has fought battles in the trenches and the courtrooms in an attempt to keep battered women from losing their treasure, their children. He continues to work with agencies and educators and has joined his expertise with others in the battle against violence in the home. Goldstein is a nationally recognized domestic violence expert, speaker, writer and consultant. He is the co-editor with Mo Therese Hannah of DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, ABUSE and CHILD CUSTODY. Barry can be reached by email at their web site www.Domesticviolenceabuseandchildcustody.com

BARRY GOLDSTEIN, attorney, teacher, author and advocate for women abused by their partner (and too often the courts) has written a book for women seeking to leave their abusers and for their friends, family, supporters and advocates. SCARED TO LEAVE AFRAID TO STAY Paths From Family Violence to Safety tells the story of ten women as they left their abusers seeking a better life. The book shows in these abuse cases how courts handle legal issues such as orders of protection, custody, visitation, support, marital property and criminal prosecutions. It tells about the resourcesavailable for women seeking to leave their abuser. Click the links to learn more about the book, author or to view frequently asked questions (FAQs). The book is published byRobert D. Reed Publishers and is available at book stores online and off.

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Thursday, January 5, 2pm ET

Seal Beach Shooter of Nine: Crazy Like a Fox

Top row, from left to right: Victoria Ann Buzzo, 54, Randy Lee Fannin, 62, Christy Lynn Wilson, 47, Lucia Bernice Kondas, 65. Bottom row, from left to right: Laura Lee Elody, 46, (ex-wife of shooter) Michelle Marie Fournier, 48, David Cauoette, 64, Michele Daschbach Fast, 46.(Dept.Motor Vehicle photos)

There are no words to explain to anyone when a violent individual enters a business establishment and begins firing into a group of strangers all because they happen to be in the way of one man's rage. On Wednesday, October 12, 2011 that is exactly what happened.

The couple, who were divorced, had been in court the day before over custody. At issue was the 8-year old child, whom at the time of the shooting was waiting to be picked up after school by one of the parents. The father walked into the busy beauty salon and fired into the crowd of patrons. Within 2 minutes, dead were his ex-wife, 6 other customers and a man sitting in his car of the parking lot. A ninth victim was shot and she remains in critical condition.

The shooter has a history of mental health issues. On Friday, in California, he was charged with 8 counts of murder and 1 count of attempted murder. The State is seeking the death penalty. During hearing the judge ordered a medical evaluation after his lawyer said "his client was not receiving his antipsychotic medication.

Cold blooded killers like Scott Dekraai are clever like a fox. Is he crazy? Hardly! Storming into the salon with three weapons and body armor, was a well thought out, and executed plan of action. Now, at taxpayers expense, Dekraai will likely use the system because of his "mental condition" as his crutch, all on public dollars.

The professionals who treat him for his "mental condition" behind bars, will also conduct numerous studies and evaluations determining his "fitness to stand trial." The information they gather will be meaningless, unless, of course, they understand and apply pattern of conduct and victimology as it relates directly to cases of intimate partner homicides. If the money is going to be earmarked, why not allow it to include the family court system where custody was being fought and where Michelle's cry for help regarding how dangerous he is, to be recognized. Include the court appointed mental health professionals to the attorneys in the case. Interview everyone who knew them before, during and after the divorce.

The very legal system that is in place to protect, in my opinion, provides an opportunity for a very sane individual to use a temporary moment of pure anger playing a system to their advantage with precision and skill.

This was not an isolated incident. It is a reflection of intimate partner violence happening over the country.

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Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is a specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies and high risk cases and available for personal consultations through the Institute. She is also part of the team at Management Resources Limited of New York.

Susan is the author of "Time's Up: A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships,"Moving out, Moving on, and Defending Out Lives. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host on Crime Wire.

If you would like to schedule Susan Murphy Milano for training and interviews, please contact:ImaginePublicity PO BOX 14946 Surfside Beach, SC 29587 Phone: 843.808.0859 email- contact@imaginepublicity.com

Amy Leichtenberg:The Silent War: Mothers Without Custody

The last time Amy Leichtenberg saw her two boys alive, that motherly instinct took over and she knew something was not right. The father of the boys was acting strange when they met at the police station for the exchange of Jack and Duncan. Amy refused to hand over her boys on March 7, 2009, an officer threatened her if she didn't give them to their father, she would be arrested for not complying with a judge's according to her lawyer.

This week is the anniversary of the boys murders.

I am deeply disturbed by the escalating number of parents murdering their own families. as police discovered 9-year-old Duncan (left) and 7-year-old Jack(right) were found murdered in rural Putnam County, IL. Their father was found dead not far from where his car was left. According to police sources, the boys' father had a rope around his neck when he was found.

Amy Leichtenberg filed orders of protection against Michael Connolly more than once after his repeated physical and emotional abuse in the later years of their marriage. Amy filed for divorce that year and moved out of their home. In a 2006, a petition for a protective order against her husband was filed, saying that his "controlling and obsessive behavior" included threats to kill himself and others along with a series of bizarre demands he made of her. Within a 15-month period, Connolly violated the orders of protection 57 times.

In 2007, Amy was awarded full custody of the boys with Connolly given supervised visitation. According to court reports from the family visitation center, Connolly's behavior was dangerous enough to temporarily cease all visits with the boys. In my experience, when a family visitation center terminates interaction between parent and child, it sends a red flag of danger. Connolly, the ever witty and clever abuser, was able to resume visits when his psychiatrist sent a "sympathy letter" to the judge "if my client is able to spend more time with his sons, Mr. Connolly's depression and outbursts would lessen."

The judge, who is still on the bench, responded by setting a series of "behavioral guidelines." This included obtaining employment, housing and continued therapy.

"(He) tells me if I ever take the boys away he will hunt me and my parents down and cut us open," Amy Leichtenberg, then known as Amy Connolly, stated in the 2006 petition seeking an order of protection. Amy said during their marriage Connolly had tried to isolate her from her family. A common characteristic among abusers.

Despite the 57 violations of the protection orders, dangerous behavior and deadly threats, McLean County Judge James Souk"rewarded" Connolly unsupervised visitation with his sons.

Connolly filed numerous motions with the court, basically wearing the judge down. Despite pleas from Amy and her lawyer, which were ignored. This mother’s plea for supervised visitation was dismissed without regard to serious safety concerns.

There is an automatic presumption that it is in the best interest of a child “regardless of court orders”, prior violence or threats, to maintain visitation with both parents. Victims of domestic violence face a double edged sword. Either expose their children to imminent danger, or defy the court system refusing to allow visitation. Like so many others before her, Amy tried to deal with a violent relationship in a family court environment.

In family court the two parties are presumed to be on a level playing field--law abiding individuals who have a disagreement over a private family matter. A core assumption of family law is that family disputes are not criminal disputes. As such, there are few safeguards built into the family court system to protect against the criminal dynamics that dominate family disputes in cases of family violence. In addition, the accusations the victim makes in family court, no matter how serious, carry no more authority than one person's say so. One of the most serious consequences is that when a family violence victim opens a case in family court against her abuser, the abuser is given equal opportunity to fight back against the victim's accusations, often because the abusers past is not an issue. Unless, of course, he is brought in from county or state prison sporting an orange jump suit and leg shackles.

There are lawyers and men’s groups who argue using domestic violence with a broad brush is not a reason to deny fathers visitation with their children. Accusing mothers of lying or making up stories to keep fathers’ from their children.

Under the current laws, a parent without custody is entitled "reasonable visitation." There is a high burden of proof as evidenced in this case when a court refuses to take into account dangerous abusers pose to their children.

Until we place the issue of labeling these cases as a "private matter" or an isolated incident, expect the death toll among children to rise. Expect the courts to continue to ignore clear and present danger signs when a victim of violence seeks a divorce.

Remarkably, Amy Leichtenberg, under the circumstances is doing fairly well for a mother whom lost her entire world.

When she and I talk she says " I will not let that monster who destroyed my life, win. That's what he wanted you know, (she says with great conviction) , he thought without my kids I would wither and die. Well I hope he is rotting in hell someplace for what he did and I am going to make each day on earth count, for my kids. For other parents so they won’'t have to endure what I have. I am going to get laws past so that a person who is not mentally stable like their father was, has no access to children. The same way a predator is dealt within the justice system and denied contact with children." And, today, two years later, Amy Leichtenberg is changing the dysfunctional legal system that, in my opinion, allowed her children to lose their lives.

Amy Leichtenberg will never again hear the laughter of her boys Jack and Duncan. Amy will never wait in the kitchen as the boys run in after school only to run out again to play before it gets dark. Amy will never prepare another favorite meal of macaroni and cheese. Those day's are gone. The lights that once burned brightly from within her life, are now but a memory.

On Amy Leichtenberg's Facebook page she writes:

"I wish I could turn back the hands of time...I am so sorry Duncan and Jack...I love you both to the heavens and back"

It would be nice if people reading this could take a moment and send an inspiring email or words of comfort to this remarkable mother, who needs for all of us to keep her in our daily prayers. Emails to Amy can be sent to our address here: timesupforjustice@gmail.com and we will forward them on to her.

Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visithttp://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is also in partnership with Pamela Chapman and iAscend Programs.http://pamelachapmanl.biz

Susan is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and SurviveAbusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr Laurie Roth. Susan is a survivor- the daughter of a police officer family intimate partner homicide by her Chicago detective father who murdered her mother before committing suicide.

Family Courts:" Mothers Without Custody"-The Susan Murphy Milano Show: Wednesday September 1, 2010

"I am a mother, a daughter, a sister, your neighbor, your co-worker and or friend. I am only one of thousands of Battered Mothers and battered children struggling daily to keep our children safe ourselves alive. Many have not survived. I pledge to my many sisters-and all our children, those who have fallen and those who still stand, being brutalized daily, weekly, year after year- by a system that is supposed to protect, the Courts continue to punish battered mothers and our battered children. United we carry forward the unheard cries of our children."

On the Susan Murphy Milano Show: Todays guests will be Barry Goldstein is a former attorney and author of the book, “Scared to Leave Afraid to Stay,” and newly released book, "Domestic Violence, Abuse and Child Custody" as well as an advocate for women abused by their partners and sometimes the court system.

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And Claudine Dombrowski a noted expert on Mothers Without Custody, who herself is currently being victimized by the family courts in Kansas City, Mo.

The number to call into the show with questions or comments is:

1-347-326-9337

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If you miss the show be sure to return to this site where it will re-play automatically through September 8,, 2010 or you can down load the podcast by going to the link for the show.

To be considered as a guest on a future show or if you have a subject matter or idea you would like on a topic of interest please email us at murphymilano@gmail.com

Been there, done that…” Susan Murphy- Milano has turned a tired phrase into demonstrable realism through the gift of her newly published book, "TIME'S UP: A GUIDE ON HOW TO LEAVE AND SURVIVE ABUSIVE AND STALKING RELATIONSHIPS

(Susan Murphy Milano, is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Psychopathy Education for more information visit http://www.saferelationships.com/ and is the author of the new book "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and where ever books are sold.)

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.

Men Who Are Changing Victim's Lives,Part2

The Susan Murphy Milano Show welcomes back guests, Barry Goldstein and Ben Atherton-Zeman.  Joining them on Wednesday, March 24 will be Joe Samalin from Men Can Stop Rape.

Each of these men are involved in the movement to end domestic violence towards women.   They bring the message to all who will listen, especially other men, and join forces to proactively take a stance against family violence at all levels.

Ben Atherton-Zeman’s wildly popular play, “Voices of Men,” is performed all over the country on college campuses and for any event promoting the fight against violence.

Barry Goldstein is a former attorney and author of the book, “Scared to Leave Afraid to Stay,” an upcoming book "Domestic Violence, Abuse and Child Custody" as well as an advocate for women abused by their partners and sometimes the court system.

Joe Samalin,  with Men Can Stop Rape, provides agencies, schools, and organizations with direct services for youth, public service messaging, and leadership training.

Ben and Barry were well received on the previous show which aired on March 3, and we decided we need to spend another hour with them answering questions and phone calls on how men can be involved in the family violence arena.

Men's voices are needed in the fight against family violence that is escalating at a rapid pace within the homes and court rooms across America.  All three of these men have made strides to educate men, causing them to reflect and change their attitudes towards violence against women.  It's not a gender issue, it's a human issue, and violence in the family must come to an end.

The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Men who Are Changing Victim's Lives, Part 2" is on BlogTalk Radio at the link provided HERE.   

WEDNESDAY, MARCH 24, AT 4PM EST, 3PM CST.

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