Monday, September 19, 2011

Beatrice Ann Dickey: Taking Silence Implementing Action

I read a lot of amazing words from friends and colleagues for Beatrice Ann Dickey age 44, silenced earlier yesterday. Her life hijacked by a man to whom she was married. His weapon of destruction a metal baseball bat.

Ironically Beatrice worked in the Polk County Florida's Sheriff's office. Her boss Sheriff Grady Judd fondly referred to her as "his right hand."

When someone that we work with or is known to us personally, murdered as a result of intimate partner violence it is difficult to fathom how a person could remove such a gem of an angel.

Bea Dickey was the highest ranking civilian employee in the Sheriff's office. This should have been the best place for her to seek assistance. Inform her boss what was happening and that she was in fear for her safety. But, as a society, victims are too embarrassed to say anything. Often believing "they" can handle the situation.

Now, Bea Dickey has been silenced in the war known as intimate partner violence resulting in homicide. The Polk County Sheriff's office and the State of Florida have the opportunity to take what has happened and turn it into action. A successful plan of action I began in 1989, when my own mother was silenced by my father a Chicago police detective before he committed suicide. Since their deaths, thousands across the country are alive because of her. Polk County now has the opportunity to provide the prescription by supporting others in the community, in her memory.

The Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit

An “Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" and video has the additional psychological benefit of being forced to face reality and admit that the potential for the ultimate kind of violence exists…and that if it occurs the perpetrator will be held accountable.

The Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit: A Victim’s Voice (c)(TM)(R)

Domestic violence or intimate partner victims now are able to provide information, in their own words, about the fears, dangers, experiences they have had at the hands of their abuser. The" Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" or "EAA" records victim's stories, histories, and experiences which are preserved and stored on their behalf. These videos will provide answers to the many questions, allegations, and fears that arise when a person has disappeared, gone missing, or been found dead.

In relationships it is important to equip one's self with the proper tools before announcing "it is over." That, is what cost Bea Dickey her life. Unfortunately, hers life mirrors thousand of others across the county, victims of intimate partner violence, trying to break away from their abusive relationships with their lives in tact.

If Beatrice Dickey, or any woman found murdered or is reported missing, had done an Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit, ON TAPE, from following the information in the “Time’s Up" book ,they would be able to describe:

- threats made against her life or wellbeing, including details of how the perpetrator would carry out the threat
- incidents of past abuse that the victim has endured
- admissions or comments made to her about other victims or people abused
- where evidence or weapons would or could be located
- possible alibis that the perpetrator would make up in his defense (including identification of people who could be co-defendant’s or co-suspects)
- portray visible injuries or marks

Just think if we incorporate the only effective plan in the country and have it available for every prosecutor, law enforcement, church, family law office and social service agency across the country, lives would be saved.

Through our corporate and security technology partners we bring the proprietary training to you and your company. And you can now be trained and certified to provide the "EAA" for your clients or within your law enforcement and legal communities or private company. If you are in law enforcement, private investigations, a lawyer practicing in family related matters including custody, a social worker, medical care provider, human resource or are with an employee assistance program or a direct insurer such as Blue Cross and Blue Shield, Zurich N.A., AIG, Anthem, Liberty Mutual, State Farm, AllState or Travelers.

Below is the video example of what someone does as they prepare:

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up"fromCourage Network on Vimeo.

Order From AmazonIf you are in a relationship that has a history of violence, simply mustering up the courage to confront the person and say it is over, without the proper tools, can cost you, your life!

The book "Time's Up A Guide on How To Survive and Abusive and Stalking Relationship" is the prescription that every person must obtain before they announce they are leaving. Below is an example from Chapter 4, one of many unique tools provided in the book. It is available, or you can purchase via e-book or on a CD. If you have questions, the email address is:

Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is a specialist with intimate partner violence cases and prevention strategies and high risk cases and available for personal consultations through the Institute. She is also part of the team atManagement Resources Limited of New York.

Susan is the author of "Time's Up: A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships,"Moving out, Moving on, and Defending Out Lives. Susan is the host ofThe Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time'sUp!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host on Crime Wire.

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1 comment:

Anonymous said...

another IPH, So sad and so unacceptable. What caught my attention was how you mentioned the psychological benefits.
A sense of security is so important and although an EAA does not insure your physical safety, having an EAA sure gives you a sense of psychological security which is crucial when needing to make life or death decisions.

I know it took me several attempts to escape my abuser successfully. The first 5-6 attempts, i failed, he'd find me, stalk me and before you know it i would be back in it with him again,

I endured many injuries physically and mentally. I didnt understand the dynamics of abuse back then like i do now. I didnt understand that this could be a fatal relationship until i was laying in the hospital fighting for my life. Even then it took me time to understand.

Now why i believe the EAA is so crucial is because when we are in a place of fighting for our life, it is impossible to make rational decisions which could cost our life. Having an EAA in place 1, gives you mental security, and 2, if anything were to happen, the EAA will have all the info needed to solve the case.
I would love to see the EAA become standard procedure for anyone thinking about leaving an abusive relationship. It will make a difference, it already has.

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