Friday, April 11, 2008

A New Crime Category - "The Vanishing Voice Club"

Rosa Lisowski, 48, Mother of 4

Bethanie Dougherty 40 Years old
Mother of 3 Children

Heather Malloy, Age 32 Mother of 1

Three women from different parts of the Country. Each has something in common. These missing wives and mothers have vanished. Membership to this particular club has grown in numbers, during the years.

Rosa Lisowski, from SanDiego vanished after walking her son to school on March 24, 2008. She and her huband were involved in a messy custody and divorce battle. The prime suspect her husband. Actually, Henry Lisowski is the only one who had reason to murder Rosa.

Bethanie Doughtery, New York. Taken from her home at three in the morning. Neighbors heard screams on April 2, 2008 and called police. She was apparently abducted from her home. Maybe police could check into current court records with Bethanie's estranged, husband? She has not been seen since. Story link:

Heather Malloy, Oregon, according to her husband, on March 8, 2008, they had a heated argument. She has not been scene since. Police need to get this case moving. A good place to begin is the court order of protection Heather took out against the oh so grief stricken Husband
And she has a 9 month old child. In my opinion, highly unlikely, that she just left. No credit cards have been used and she has not been scene since he made the police report. Story Link:

Others who are members :
Theresa Parker, Georgia- Police Officers Wife
Lisa Stebic, Illinois
Stacy Peterson, Illinois
Kathleen Savio, Illinois
Suzanne, Grattan, New Mexico

I write about these cases with passion. In hopes that those considering a divorce who live in a violent, toxic environment will have the courage to leave. And prepare their new life and journey with extreme caution.

It is painfully evident, society and the legal system do not respond to victim's of family violence. You must create a plan, get out for yourself, before something happens.

As I look at the calendar , I am reminded of someone very special to me who also became a member in the "vanishing voice club." Roberta Murphy, Illinois. A woman, who each time I write about another tragedy and offer my insight and direction to others, I do so not because she was murdered. But, because I survived. And since her death, have assisted thousands of women in safely leaving the violence and on to a new life.

If you are in a violent relationship, you need to begin making plans for a life without the threat of violence. Do you live in a rural community, isolated from others? Or maybe you are married to someone in law enforcement, consider contacting the National Coalition. They have a toll free number you can call twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. They will direct you to a safe place to stay, referrals for legal services, counseling for you and your children and help with a safety plan. The number is 1-800-799-SAFE.

You can also go to the library and pick up a copy of "Defending Our Lives" getting away from domestic violence & staying safe. The book explains everything you need to begin on your journey to a violent free life. You can contact me through my website at

I almost forgot, Happy Birthday, Mom!!!!


Cloey said...

Hi, Susan!

I'm going to be doing a story on Troy Tyo. Hes ex-wife allegedly talked her new husband into murdering him.

This time it was the husband who had custody of the kids, girls ages 10 and 7. They were in a heated custody battle.

Her and her new husband are now up on murder charges. Now where do the kids go!!! Idiots!!! Selfish, Selfish idiots!!!

I guess it goes both ways. Troy Tyo was concerned about his well being, too. Just like many women are.

I guess my advise would be to listen to your fears There's a reason God gave us that since of fear... it's for our protection!

My ex and I got divorced in 1990. I left him. It's still tough on both people.

He called one day and started to give me a bunch of crap. I simply told him that if he gave me crap I'd take him to the cleaners financially. (I didn't even ask for alimony and we were married for 23 years). He said to me "You want the nicest divorce in history, don't you!" I said "Yes! We have kids who will be getting married someday, they will be having our grand-kids and there's just no room for hatred and bitterness."

It's been so nice to be able to gather with his wife, my new husband and share our kids and 5 grand-kids. It took a lot of thinking and soul searching through the first few years, to get where I wanted to be with my Ex.... but we're there! And much happier in our new lives without each other...LOL.

I'm luckier than most, though. My ex wasn't a violent man. If he were... I'd be taking your very good advise, Susan.

Niki :)

Anonymous said...

Its scary for most women; If you don't have a fairly solid plan you may end up going back and the vioelnce will escalate. You do have the oppoortunty to call the number Susan has listed and talk with someone at the hotline who will help you. If you go to a shelter you can continue making plans from there. Filling out job application, find a place to live, contacting friends and other relatives. Please let someone help you for your own safety. There is lot more to leaving then just thinking about it or talking to someone over the phone. You need a safety plan for your life. Good Luck

Anonymous said...

Another great post!

Annie H, Criminal Justice Student Texas A&M

Anonymous said...

Since reading about Bethanie Dougherty I've had a funny feeling the ex had something to do with her missing. A lot of financial issues were involved in the divorce and he is the only one who know the house. I think he planned it to make it look like an abduction. Bethanie was a beautiful woman. She didn't deserve this!

Killawog, NY

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