Showing posts with label Child Predators. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Child Predators. Show all posts

Friday, January 27, 2012

Mom on Mission: Protecting Children From Sexual Predators




Each morning from her home in Richmond, Virgina, Polly Franks begins her day by answering calls and personally responding to the dozens of emails she receives from strangers asking for advice and information on serial sexual predators.

In 1983, "ski-mask rapist"
Joseph Frank Smith was convicted twice of raping a woman in San Antonio,Texas.Instead of being sent to prison, a judge released Smith on probation. Smith's attorney convinced the court that he was a candidate for a new procedure called "chemical castration" with the stipulation that he take the drug Depo-Provera and attend weekly counseling sessions for the next ten years. His lawyer argued if his client received regular injections that it would reduce his testosterone level and he would no longer have a desire to rape women and children.

Following his 30 days' in-patient treatment at John Hopkins Hospital, Smith was free to move to Richmond, Virginia to start his new life.

Three years into his 
castration injections, he met, and fell in love with his treatment nurse, Barbara. The couple married and began a family.

Somehow, with six years left of his court-ordered treatment, Smith was dismissed from the program and instructed to report to the Texas courts by mail until the end of his parole. Frank and Barbara appeared to be your average couple. Smith was an over-the-road truck driver and Barbara a registered nurse.

When Polly Franks and her family moved next-door to the couple she was thrilled. The families spent time together at each other homes. Their children became best friends.

In the early 1990s police received reports from 83 pre-teen-aged girls who had either been raped or molested by a man who would break into home while the children were sleeping. Police were left scratching their heads. This person was not in their database and matched no one currently in their system.

In 1995, while Polly's girls, ages 8 and 9, were at a sleep-over, Barbara Smith caught her husband, naked and masturbating in front of their eight-year-old daughter and the neighbors' kids. Police were contacted. They ran Smith's DNA through a state-wide database. It came back positive for the rape of a five-year girl. Smith was arrested.

When Frank Joseph Smith only received a suspended sentence, Polly Franks was furious. She decided to keep an eye on him, following him each time he moved into a new neighborhood. Undeterred by a childhood disease that had left her dependent on a wheelchair and crutches for mobility, Polly Franks moved with the ease and art of a veteran twenty-year law enforcement officer.

In 1997, Polly Franks got her private investigator license with the sole purpose of bringing Smith to justice. And it was also a way to legally follow Smith. She was determined to learn within the law how to get him off the streets. In 1998, Smith was finally sentenced to 40 years in prison. In 1999, he was sentenced to life plus 20 years after pleading guilty to the rape of a five-year-old and the confession to 83 other 
sexual assaults with children.

Polly Franks has testified before Congress and 
lobbied on Capital Hill for tougher sex offender laws.

In 2006, she created the 
Franks Foundation, a non-profit organization dedicated to protecting kids from sexual predators. And she provides a rather unique service to young victims of sexual abuse who are treated at hospitals called "Operation Fuzzy." The kits provide a tremendous comfort to the children after a trauma.

"Smith did not get to my children or anyone else's because of parental neglect. Smith's crime spree was a smashing success because repeatedly he was put back onto the streets, 286 victims (that we know of) later."

By his own admission, he was a sex offender from the age of eleven.

He did not go to prison until he was forty-six 
years of age.

When a child is violated, we are all 
violated.

Let's help this amazing woman and her organization Polly is Founder and Executive Director of the Franks Foundation, (www.franksfoundation.org) a nonprofit organization dedicated to protecting America's kids from sexual predators. Join me on Twitter atwww.twitter.com/pollyfranks

Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases.

 A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals, victim advocates and the faith based community and author.. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing prevention and solutions within the community to the workplace. Host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show,"Time'sUp!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host onCrime Wire. Online contributions: Forbes : Crime, She Writes providing commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up! a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crime

Wednesday, May 18, 2011

The Roth Show and Susan Murphy Milano: Special Guest Chip St. Clair : 7:00M Eastern Time

The "Annie Oakley of the Airwaves" and
the "Jane Wayne of Justice"

The Roth Show

Wednesday, May 18, 7-8pmET

Special Guest: Chip St. Clair

St. Clair’s own harrowing story is chronicled in his best selling memoir The Butterfly Garden (HCI, 2008) – a haunting account of surviving the darkest of family secrets — a childhood unknowingly spent on the run with one of America’s most wanted killers — of his metamorphosis from unthinkable horror to a future of self-discovery, hope, and peace using the power of literature and love to battle the demons of the past. And ultimately of his commitment to protect children, empower survivors, and put predators behind bars.

With chilling detail and a riveting, lyrical narrative, The Butterfly Garden
reveals St. Clair's struggle to piece together his haunted past before it consumes him and shares his inspiring metamorphosis from victim to victim's advocate. The Butterfly Garden is a timeless triumph, a reminder that hope can be the most powerful of all emotions, freeing us to soar despite the past and the odds against us.

LISTEN LIVE: http://therothshow.com

The Roth Show is a nationally syndicated talk show hosted by Dr. Laurie Roth, Ph.D., and stands on principles and leading the charge for the legions of Americans who are saying “Enough Already!”
Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is also in partnership with Pamela Chapman and iAscend Programs. http://pamelachapmanl.biz

Susan is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talkhttp://www.herewomentalk.com/and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr Laurie Roth. Susan is a survivor- the daughter of a police officer family intimate partner homicide by her father who murdered her mother before committing suicide.

Sunday, May 1, 2011

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Tonight Delilah and Susan are joined by Monica Casion, Founder of the Cue Center for Missing Persons.

Case 1 - $20,000 WANTED FUGITIVE REWARD - Dr. Emilio Luna, who is under indictment for five counts of distribution of child pornography, fled house confinement on September 12, 2010. Luna, a pediatrician in Phoenix, Arizona, was identified as allegedly sharing child pornography on a peer-to-peer (P2P) network.


Case 2 - $60,000 MISSING PERSON REWARD - Billy Smolinski quarrelled with his much-older girlfriend on their Florida vacation about calls she was getting on her cell phone. It turns out they were from the woman's other lover -- a married guy she had no intention of dumping.

Case 3 - $10,000 UNSOLVED MURDER REWARD - Michael Surber was a professional billiards player who played all over the country. He worked for a casino and spent all his free time practicing. Friends say if you couldn’t find Mike, he was in his basement playing the game he loved.
That’s why when Michael didn’t show up for a match at his local billiards club, friends knew something was wrong.

LISTEN LIVE: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/crimepays

Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visithttp://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is also in partnership with Pamela Chapman and iAscend Programs. http://pamelachapmanl.biz

Susan is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talkhttp://www.herewomentalk.com/and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr Laurie Roth. Susan is a survivor- the daughter of a police officer family intimate partner homicide by her father who murdered her mother before committing suici
Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is also in partnership with Pamela Chapman and iAscend Programs. http://pamelachapmanl.biz

Susan is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr Laurie Roth. Susan is a survivor- the daughter of a police officer family intimate partner homicide by her father who murdered her mother before committing suicide.

Delilah -Imagine Publicity www.imaginepublicity.com

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

"Predators Behind Bars"






Join us for a riviting hour of radio, information, education and prevention. You won't see today's guest on shows such as Nancy Grace, Fox News or any main stream media because our guests have each triumphed over tragedy as tireless advocates in the trenches protecting our children and educationing parents on Predators. Today's guests on the show have literally put predators behind bars.


Guests Chip St. Clair is the author of the bestselling memoir The Butterfly Garden – a haunting account of surviving the darkest of family secrets — a childhood unknowingly spent on the run with one of America’s most wanted killers — of his metamorphosis from unthinkable horror to a future of self-discovery, hope, and peace using the power of literature and love to battle the demons of the past. And ultimately of his commitment to protect children, empower survivors, and keep predators off of our streets.



Jaemi Levine is a National Digtal Violence Expert and the Founder of Mothers Against Predators a non-profit organization working to educate parents about digital crimes, human trafficking, predators and keeping our children safe. And the importance of keeping art and music in the schools.



The number to call into the show with questions or comments is :

1-347-326-9337

Wednesday, May 5, 2010
TIME: 4: 00 PM Eastern Time
3:00 PM Central Time


Show Link: www.blogtalkradio.com/susanmurphymilano

If you miss the show be sure to return to this site where it will re-play automatically through May 5, 2010 or you can down load the podcast by going to the link for the show.

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Don't Just Stand There-Do Something: Live On Blog Talk Radio -3:00 PM CST Today


Pamela Chapman of iAscend Programs is your host for the hour while Susan is on the road. Pamela is a self-esteem, life-transition expert, and works with women who are ready to turn their adversities into victories.


Along side Pamela is Deliah from Peace4the Missing and the Victim's Rights Blog, "Time's Up!". Guests include Polly Franks, Ms. Franks is a licensed Private Investigator and was responsible for putting a serial sexual predator behind bars.

And Gaetane Borders is a School Psychologist, noted Speaker and President of the non-profit organization, Peas In Their Pods. Ms. Borders is a national advocate of children rights, and works tirelessly to help parents achieve healthy, harmonious, and emotionally stable environments for children. Her dedication to empowering parents has made her sought after, as she frequently contributes her expertise on radio shows, magazines and television programs.

DATE: February 17, 2010

TIME: 3:00 PM Central Standard Time

Live call in Number: 347-326-9337

Show Link: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/susanmurphymilano

If you are unable to listen live, return to this site and the show will automatically play. Just remember to turn on and up the volume on your computer.

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

"Throw-A-Way" Today on the Susan Murphy Milano Show 3:00 PM EST



If you thought you knew the true story of the Wonderland Murders—Or saw the movie based on the murders featuring actor Val Kilmer in 2003-- if you thought you knew who porn star John Holmes was—think again.

Dawn Schiller author of the upcomming book "The Road Through Wonderland" remained at John Holmes' side for years, even as he got her hooked on drugs, beat her, and prostituted the underage teen.

Dawn Schiller will be my guest for the entire hour as we discuss her experiences and her present work with "Throw-a-way Teens" and Sexual Predators.

DATE: February 10, 2010

TIME: 3:00 PM Central Standard Time

Live call in Number: 347-326-9337

Show Link: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/susanmurphymilano

If you are unable to listen live, return to this site and the show will automatically play. Just remember to turn on and up the volume on your computer

To email us with comments or questions,or to be considered as a guest on a future show we can be reached at [email address] murphymilano@gmail.com

Thursday, January 28, 2010

"Justice Prevailed"





Rebecca McEvoy was raped and sodomized by her Step- father, Police Officer Bob Ingel. Rebecca McEvoy age 11, lost her life in a fatal car accident on the way to testify for the 3rd time as to the rape, and sexual assault she suffered at this predators hands.

Over a two year period the trial started and stopped like a car without any gas because Rebecca was unable to face her accuser in court. The defense lawyers were citing the "Crawford" case out of Ohio. That says “you have the constitutional right to cross examine your accuser” and because the girl was dead and unable to testify, there was a chance the Judge could throw out the case. But Assistant District Attorney, Steven Giardini was determined to make Rebecca’s case the exception because she had already been before a grand jury on two separate occasions and given her testimony.

It took great courage for this child to come forward and disclose the brutal sexual assaults committed by a person whom was not only living in her home, but, he was a cop with a badge and a gun.

On Tuesday, the trial resumed, the courtroom was packed with friends and family who for months had been ordered by the court to remain silent. Family members were prohibited by the courts from speaking to the media or releasing information and new developments on the case via the Internet or on blogs.

An hour or so before the trial began, Bob Ingle, who faced life in prison if convicted, turned down a plea deal, by the prosecutors. In my opinion, this dangerous and abusive sexual predator believed from day one he would never see the inside of a prison cell and walk free.

Late Wednesday both the defense and the state rested their case. The jury deliberated only a couple of hours before they returned the verdict of guilty!

While on earth Rebecca McEvoy suffered a “hell” no child should have to endure. But, this brave little girl did just that from the moment she came forward and told the world, enough.

From the heaven’s the angels sounded their horns and for Rebecca McEvoy, justice prevailed!

Tuesday, December 1, 2009

"Alarming Discovery"


Fifteen days after Jahmeshia Connor, age 12 was reported missing, the police discovered her lifeless body in an alley.

Site's around the Internet sent out a bulletin for Jahmeshia as an "endangered runnaway " I wondered why there was no amber alert issued for this child. She was an excellent student, responsible in her actions and never got into trouble. The family realized Jahmeshia was missing when the following day when she did not return home from school. A relative thought she was staying over someplace else the night before. And no one seemed to take responsibility in checking on her destination or having her call home once she arrived to make sure she got there safely. Which in my opinion is a crime in and of itself. In this climate of predators and criminals parents must know where their kids are at all times, period.


Also why didn't Chicago police issue an amber alert for this child? If her body was found this morning it is likely that whom ever abducted her kept the girl alive for a period of time. An autopsy is scheduled for today to determine her cause of death.
The most attention this case received appears to be today, after the discovery of her body. Guidelines must be established for all children from all neighborhoods regardless of a family's economic status in the community. At schools, libraries and in faith based organizations when a child is missing from a community and they are aware, access to mainstream communication is limited, they too, should pitch in to spread the word.
Perhaps in Mayor Daley's new budget he could provide funds to faith based organizations in the community for awareness and safety training.

Saturday, November 14, 2009

Behind The One Way Mirror: Robin Sax



Veteran prosecutor Robin Sax is a former deputy district attorney who was with Los Angeles County Distrist Attorney's office specializing in sex crimes against children. Robin has witnessed first hand the devastating toll these crimes take on innocent children, some so young they are barely able to see the top of a kitchen counter.

When we watch Nancy Grace or Larry King on CNN talk about the latest abduction, murder or sexual assualt against a child the general public doesn't see much other than what is being reported on a crime. We hope and pray when a child is found the person responsible is brought to justice. But, beyond that society doesn't think much more about the justice system unless the case is being covered in the news or televised. Then we see the talking heads debating the strength and outcome of the case. And cases involving children are never televised.

Up until a few months ago Robin Sax was the "heartbeat" for justice when in came to prosecuting child sexual assault cases. Now with her new book titled "It Happens Everday inside the life of a Sex Crimes D.A.", readers will gain insight into a world only prosecutors understand, that is until, now.

Robin provides a view in this amazing book of what goes right and what also go wrong in the prosecuting of these cases. And in a language all her own Robin Sax tells readers like it is within the system. A legal system that unless we make changes, the very children whom we are trying to protect that will lose in the end.

Dividing the book into two parts, she begins with "Behind the One-Way Mirror," which deals with the investigation portion of child sexual assault. She defines exactly what constitutes sexual assault and then presents the ingredients of what makes a case "fileable." She also explains why some cases never get filed.

In the second part, "Behind the Counsel Table," Robin sheds light on the whole court process. She discusses a range of issues, including mandatory sentencing, plea bargains, unsupportive parents, using children's testimony to prosecute the perpetrator, DNA evidence, the importance of corroboration, and the weaknesses of the jury system.

Her first authored book equally important for all parents is "Predators and Child Molesters" with a forward written by Marc Klaas, Klaas Kids Foundation.


To me being safe is more important than buying the lastest fashion or spending money on items you really don't need. Safety of our children is easier when we take the time to pick up information and learn as parents how to keep our kids safe. Robin Sax's information is similar to "boot camp guide for parents. Hey maybe that should be the title of her next book!

Either way the books are available in books stores and on Amazon.com. If your local library does not have a copy or two on their shelves politely ask the librarian to order it. Tell them Susan suggested it!

Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Human Trafficking: Is An Epidemic in the United States



Young girls abducted or lured away from home and into sex slaves is no longer just an overseas problem but a concern in cities across America. It is called human trafficking and it is an epidemic.

It become so alarming that local leaders in San Antonio, Texas are looking at ways to tackle the problem. It did not take long for human rights investigators, posing as buyers, to show just how easy it is to buy sex with a child. "Now if you want something really young, that will cost you $200," said a man, who was captured on hidden camera by investigators with Shared Hope International, a nonprofit group working to rescue and rehabilitate young girls and boys who of are victims of human trafficking. The video tape showed the investigator wheeling and dealing for a young girl and finding out if he could purchase a girl for as young as 14 years old. "We have information on girls as young as 10 or 11," said Chris Burchell, who has helped to create a new statewide nonprofit organization called the Texas Anti-Trafficking in Persons and Child Sexual Exploitation Coalition. Shared Hope International visited three Texas cities, including San Antonio, and discovered many prostitutes were forced into sexual acts at an early age and were being treated as criminals rather than victims of human trafficking. According to Burchell, many of the girls were runaways or tricked into performing sex. One recent case involved a local 13-year-old girl. "The teenage girl went into a known crack dealer's home with a friend when one of the crack dealers locked her in the bathroom and told her friends she had left. Once the friend left, the 13-year-old girl was sexually assaulted and sold to everybody else buying crack that weekend," Burchell said. Innocent girls and boys are tricked or forced into becoming sex slaves and it's happening almost everyday and Burchell said parents need to know this so they can teach their children what to watch out for. Burchell said new human trafficking laws are helping authorities crack down on domestic human trafficking but more work is needed. "These are our own locally raised born here kids that are being subjected to forced prostitution," said Burchell. Helping a great deal is the Bexar County Sheriff's Human Trafficking unit. They typically go out during the day or night to visit area prostitutes, not to make an arrest, but to find out ways to help minors who are working the streets into a better life. The HT unit works closely with other agencies including Catholic Charities offering services to young victims who were forced into sex slavery and don't know how to get out of it.

The County's Human Trafficking Unit is the only one of its kind in the San Antonio area and according to Burchell, with the help of other agencies, they have been able to be one of the first in Texas to indict someone under the new Human Trafficking law. Burchell is working to create a network of agencies across the state to provide services such as medical treatment and rehabilitation so that children who's lives were interrupted can get back on track. "Hopefully those victims can be kids again," said Burchell. "Just imagine a child, 12, 13 years old, being forced to provide sex services 30 to 50 times a day," said Burchell. With the help of Shared Hope International, Burchell hopes the state is well on its way to tackling the problem of child prostitution and hopes parents as well as children are aware that human trafficking is happening in our backyard and we must all fight to protect our most innocent and vulnerable.

Laws against trafficking in the United States exist at the federal and state levels. Over half of the states now criminalize human trafficking though the penalties are not as tough as the federal laws. Related federal and state efforts focus on regulating the tourism industry to prevent the facilitation of sex tourism and regulate international marriage brokers to ensure criminal background checks and information on how to get help are given to the potential bride.

Human & Sex Trafficking Affect Over 4 Million Children & Young Women Each Year.
Project Meridian's mission is to rescue and rehabilitate victims of human trafficking; sex & organ trafficking; and to help end trafficking through a campaign of public awareness and the prosecution of those who prey on the vulnerable. "Evil Flourishes When Good Men Do Nothing"

To learn more visit Project Meridian's Web site: http://www.projectmeridianfoundation.org/

Human Trafficking / United States Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE) Click here Human Trafficking and Operation Predator is a comprehensive initiative designed to protect young people from child pornographers, alien smugglers, human traffickers, and other predatory criminals.

For more information regarding Human Trafficking: Texas Anti-Trafficking In Persons And Child Sexual Exploitation Coalition CHRIS.BURCHELL@TEXAS-ATIP.ORG

National Human Trafficking Resource Center Hotline 1-888-373-7888

Tuesday, June 16, 2009

Justice Interrupted Investigates "The Rape of a Child"

Tonight on Justice Interrupted at 10:00 PM Central Time a very special woman shares her story of silence within her own home. And the demons that remain her contstant companion.

"My name is Tivona. I’m not a famous author, model, or actor. I’m not Super Girl trying to save the world or a Super Villain trying to destroy it. I’m not anyone special except to my family. I’m just an ordinary, fun loving, moody teenager. I’m just trying to grow up and live an average life like everyone else. I’m 14 and looking forward to high school.

Yet, there are days that I wake up and feel like I can’t relate to anyone else in the world. I want to be a ghost and disappear…There are days I wish I weren’t here. During the day, I maintain A’s in school, I sing, draw in my journal, hang out online with my friends, play the saxophone, am an avid hunter and am a half back on my soccer team. Yet at night, when I crawl into my warm bed – surrounded by my soft blankets, my cats and more stuffed animals than you can count, I feel so alone. So isolated. Like no one else in the world knows how I’m feeling. It’s at this time, that I have to deal with my own private monsters and demons.


In the dark, I feel like no one could understand me. I’m not worried about the typical teenage stuff because my life over the last 4 years hasn’t been really ordinary. It’s been conventional on the outside while pain and guilt raged on the inside. Quietly, I’ve suffered. How could I tell anyone that I was a victim of sexual assault? Who could I tell and who would believe me?
As the daughter of someone in law enforcement and the niece of an attorney, I have always been told, and led to believe, that if you do something wrong – you are punished. There are consequences for your behavior. Today, as I write you my story of sexual abuse at the hands of a loved one, my abuser is free to roam the streets of our town because the Prosecuting Attorney refuses to follow up on my claims of abuse. I know it is hard to listen to these accusations. I know it is hard to comprehend that “this” person can do “these” things but there is a “silent epidemic” occurring in this country and it is harming those of us you have “sworn” to protect! Please take a minute to listen to our “cries for help”. They are not false or “made up”. They are very real. In some of our lives, there are truly monsters who hide “under our beds” and “in our closets” at night just waiting for the darkness so they can “attack”. We rely on you to help and we need you NOW more than ever!

I truly believe that society has the resources to put an end to this epidemic. At the very least, we can drastically reduce it. Why don’t we? Are we too afraid it can happen in our own homes and that’s scarier to acknowledge than believing it is the “horrible monster we see on Law and Order” that is causing this destruction? Perhaps you misread the statistics?
Talking about sexual abuse of children is crossing into frightening, unfamiliar territory for many people. We live in a very confusing society with hypocritical views on sex and sexuality. We are uncomfortable talking about sex, but we are willing to have it sold to us through songs, magazines, TV and advertisements.

I know that healing is a process, a journey. I know I will never forget the assaults and abuse but I hope to grow from this experience and I want to help others “escape” and grow too. PLEASE JOIN ME AND USE YOUR VOICE TO HELP STOP THIS CYCLE OF VIOLENCE IN OUR COUNTRY.

Child sexual assault is the world’s deepest, darkest, best kept secret. How many are out there, I guess we will truly never know. I am asking, pleading with you to take a stand. Remind all those who choose to seek out the children, that their behavior will not be tolerated no matter who they are. I believe I did the right thing by finally “telling”. I truly hope that my openness can save other children. I told the police. I was open and honest, even though it was extremely embarrassing to retell my story to one stranger after another. I believed in the process of the justice system. All I am asking is that the justice system “believes in me too!”

Here’s my story, it began in 1994:
People talk about “Princesses”. Royalty really isn’t my thing – I enjoy the “supernatural” – vampires really. Nevertheless, for years, I was truly a “Princess” in my family. The “first born” for both sides of extended family, I entered this world in grand fashion (an emergency C-section because I had stopped breathing). For my loved ones, I truly was a miracle and blessing. I grew and thrived from the attention and you can truly say “I was rotten”. So many camera flashes have gone off in my face over the years it’s amazing I am not blind. As an avid hunter, my grandfather had me appreciating nature as soon as I could walk and follow in his footsteps. Even my name, Tivona, means a “love for the outdoors. This man was my “hero”.
My perfect, innocent “happily-ever-after-fairytale-princess” life and childhood began to crumble and ended when I was 10. That was the year my grandfather died. That was the year that my whole world began to shatter into small pieces and fall apart around me. It was at that time, my uncle would also begin to “groom” me for his own sexual pleasures and means of “control”. It began with slow rubs and touches and progressed from there.


During this time, my uncle gradually eroded our appropriate adult / child boundaries, built a wall of secrecy around us and finally established compliance through my fear. Over the next 3 years, I was repeatedly reminded that this was “our little secret” and I mustn’t say a thing. He told me that I would be to blame if anyone discovered our secret little game. He repeatedly told me that: “This would really hurt my mom if she knew” and that he would go to jail if I told. Each time he said that, a part of me died. I betrayed what I knew was the “right thing to do” because I was afraid “no one would believe me” and because I didn’t want my close knit family to fall apart. It just seemed easier to close my eyes, retreat to the darkness in my head and “go along” than upset anyone. My life became a fraud and a fiction. Do you know how much energy is consumed to keep a secret hidden from ourselves and our families?


As a family member, he had seduced us all. He had our devotion and love. He was trustworthy and “above reproach”. His popularity within our family covered behaviors that should never have been tolerated. He was a trusted friend and relative; a pillar of the community. He would never do anything “shady” or inappropriate. That is what he hoped everyone would believe if I ever told our “secret”.
By creating an untarnished image, he has convinced my beloved aunt and his children that he is innocent and that I am lying and trying to destroy his pristine image in our lives and our community. He has ‘explained away’ most of his actions with excuses. When approached with his inappropriate behaviors, he responded by being insulted and became extremely defensive. Although never acknowledging the abuse, he never once denied it either. His response to the police, and I quote, “if that’s what she said happened, then it must have happened…I just don’t remember”.


During my short time in therapy, I have learned that pedophiles are like any other predator. They stalk and hunt children as their prey. Many predators, like mine, will spend weeks, months, and even years grooming their victims. They are calculating, manipulative, and very, very patient when it comes to achieving their goal. Molesters are charming. They get along with everyone and are usually popular. They can be upstanding members of the community and tend to present a perfect image. Like my uncle, they are “great guys” and “everybody’s friend”. They are charming and intimidate other adults into believing they are above reproach. Their behavior is a controlled public image – for I know all too well about their private behaviors. My counselor says she has never met a “child molester she didn’t like.


Today, I wonder if he is capable of feeling, let alone harbors a conscience. And did he, in all those years of wonderful memories, ever really love me? Is he sorry for the destruction he has caused in all of our lives, even though he refuses to admit it? I'd like to know WHY? Why did he chose to cross the line?"

Join Hosts: Robin Sax Prosecutor and Author, Author Stacy Dittrich, Violence Expert and Author Susan Murphy-Milano as they provide justice for those whose lives have been interrupted by rape, murder, child sexual predators, strange and unexplained disappearances.........To listen live go to: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/justiceinterrupted and click on the "Click To Listen" icon.You might want to refresh your page because the icon will not show until the show starts.Call in live at: 914-338-0663 to participate in the show.

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Justice Interrupted Investigates Tuesday May 19, 2009 at 11:00PM EST

Justice Interrupted Show airs every Tuesday night @ 11 PM ET/ 10 CT / 9 MT/ 8 PT

Dana Pretzer , Host of the popular Scared Monkeys Radio a national news based entertainment talk show for 10 years. He breaks news makers before the networks. Covering stories Like Caylee Anthony, OJ Simpson, Drew Peterson, Missing Persons, high profile Cases in the News, Entertainment, Politics and The Law.

Peace Over Violence is a 35 year-old non-profit, feminist, multicultural, volunteer organization dedicated to a building healthy relationships, families and communities free from sexual, domestic and interpersonal violence. To achieve this mission our agency manages five departments delivering the services of Emergency, Intervention, Prevention, Education and Advocacy.

Linda Ferrari is known by colleagues and the media as “The Credit Score Expert.” Linda has dug into more than 14,000 credit reports providing in-depth solutions through coaching and consultation to thousands of consumers and mortgage professionals. In doing so, Linda has orchestrated higher credit scores and better financial opportunities and futures for individuals and families from all walks of life.

Join Hosts: Robin Sax Prosecutor and Author, Author Stacy Dittrich, Advocate and Author Susan Murphy-Milano as they provide justice for those whose lives have been interrupted by rape, murder, child sexual predators, strange and unexplained disappearances..........

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Wednesday, October 29, 2008

What Every Parent Must Do Before Taking Kids Out On Halloween!


The chaos, candy and costumes that are all a part of the Halloween joy and hysteria are here once again. As a mother of three and a young-at-heart baby boomer, few people have cherished the rituals of this unusual and downright bizarre holiday more than me. However, it's not all fun and candy.



The Franks Foundation is urging every parent in America to check their local sex offender registry before taking theirchildren trick-or-treating. It goes without saying that children should never be allowed to go out alone by themselves on any night, particularly this one.

Checking their local sex offender registry before the annual night of trick-or-treating is one more quick but important step that parents can take to ensure theirchildren's safety. The Franks Foundation recommends the nationwide sex offender registry at http://www.familywatchdog.us./; It will take less than five minutes of your time and is absolutely free.

While you're at it, you can sign up for free email notifications
whenever a convicted sexual predator moves into your community.

Aren't your kids worth it? The Franks Foundation thinks so!
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