Showing posts with label Abuse and Trauma. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Abuse and Trauma. Show all posts

Monday, April 9, 2012

Lisa Nettie Annette Peterson's Murder Trial Resume's Today



In Muncie Indiana, the murder trial continues today for Benjamin Hankins, a former Gaston, IN reserve police officer and correctional officer who is standing trial for the murder of his estranged wife Lisa Nettie Annette Peterson who’d left and filed for divorce the previous year..
Hankins has tried to say since the shooting on June 3, 2011 of Lisa was in self-defense?   She was shot 3 times.  During the trial last week Pathologist Paul Mullen took the stand (coverage by the Star Press) • “said the 32-year-old victim was likely hit by three bullets -- one in the leg; one that passed through her arm, creating an apparent defensive wound, and then entered her chest and lung, and a third bullet that passed through her lower torso. The victim essentially bled to death, Mellen said, and likely could have survived her wounds only with a quick emergency medical response. Authorities allege Benjamin Hankins waited 17 minutes after firing the gunshots before he called 911.
The Pathologist also testified the victim's leg wounds, caused by a single bullet, could have been inflicted after she had fallen to the floor, and then held her legs up in an desperate bid to shield herself from more gunfire.
What is also troubling is the youngest child heard their mother scream and plead for her life, just before she was murdered. There are also threatening text messages sent by Hankins to Lisa’s cell phone being entered into the court record.  Hankins was no boy scout, an angry violent man solving what he couldn’t control with violence that resulted in the cold blooded murder of Lisa.  The mother of three was not match for the trained killer. 
The defense would have been better served to plea bargain the case prior to trial. When you represent a cowardly killer and the evidence is overwhelming, you pick up your big boy briefs and do the best you can for your client instead of trying to ask the court to rule a mistrial when damaging testimony cooks the client like a pan on a hot stove.  
This former officer demanded she return with the children and be a family, or else.  A common thread in many cases of intimate partner violence that leads to homicide. The offender almost always gives an ultimatum to their victims before they kill them. Hankin's behavior, actions and pattern of conduct were like following the sheet music to the hit song " If You Leave Me, I Will Kill You," with the final notes ending in gunfire. 
If we hold officer's to a higher standard when they go through the academy and are sworn to serve and protect, than the same standards should be applied when anyone in law enforcement murders their own wife. 
Whatever you do, if you or someone you know is ending a relationship, leave and go someplace safe.  Do not stay once you have filed for a divorce or announced the relationship is over.  And for heaven's sake have a plan of action BEFORE, you say or do anything!

The dangers should be carefully considered when ending a dating relationship or marriage. The reaction to rejection is costing lives. In cases where the victim has died, her fears during the relationship or marriage remain silent, telling family or friends is considered "hearsay" and it's not enough when the person responsible is finally brought to trial. As a precaution, victims are encouraged to prepare the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit and video, also known as the "EAA." This removes hearsay and in a victim's own words provides historical abuse documentation, gives law enforecment and prosecutors a profile of the offender and shows his pattern of conduct prior to the crime should the victim vanish or be killed.

Document the Abuse.Com contains vital information on how the EAA can support each case of abuse from the perspective of the first responders and advocates, to an appearance in court. It explains the legal benefits to the abuse victim, whether they are able to testify or not, how their words are forever documented and hold up in court, much like a Living Will.


Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases.

 A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals, victim advocates and the faith based community and author.. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing prevention and solutions within the community to the workplace. Host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show,"Time'sUp!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host onCrime Wire. Online contributions: Forbes : Crime, She Writes providing commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up! a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crime

Wednesday, January 11, 2012

The State of Texas: Victims of Intimate Partner Violence and Homicide Ignored?

On Tuesday Afternoon in a Texas South Welfare Services building, Kimberly Lee Gonzalez, 25, and the mother of three young children was found murdered in a bathroom stall.



In the moments prior, state workers witnessed Kimberly's common-law husband follow her into the women's restroom.  The door of the stall is torn of its hinges.  Workers find Kimberly slumped over and bleeding from the head, barely breathing.  She is rushed to the hospital in Corpus Christi where she dies.  A few hours later husband is arrested on suspicion of murder.

How the heck can it be that employees in a welfare office know this is her common law husband?

Where was the security detail provided by the State in the building when the sound of the metal being ripped from the stall occurred?

Where was everyone at the time she screamed for her life? Is it easier to say no one saw or heard anything for fear of a lawsuit by the family?  If they knew the husband followed her into that bathroom, they also know and heard the fight and piercing screams in that bathroom.

So how can we prevent this from happening in the future?  First, think about the loss of a human life. Three children are now motherless.  The State of Texas will, at the taxpayers expense and because the husband is alive, either plea bargain a deal or go to trial.  This will cost a minimum of $205,000 from taxpayer pockets either way, no one wins.  The price does not include his new life behind bars provided by the State until the day he dies.

Intimate Partner violence costs us all.  In part due to lack of tools and resources, followed by rarely treating these cases as crimes.  Remember, no one came to Kimberly's aide!

Because everything is dollars and cents with human life, consider that for a fraction of what this tragic murder has, and is going to cost, I could have been brought in to the State of Texas, trained everyone in that building and held class (Spanish and English) for recipients in, or suspected of, domestic violence and stalking receiving benefits from social services welfare department.




The training is for Any person who is likely to have contact with victims of domestic violence and the desire to be a point-of-contact for life saving documentation can be trained.
* Law Enforcement* Victim Advocates* Attorneys and Para Legals* Therapists* Domestic Violence Agencies
*Women’s Organizations* Social Service workers*Emergency Room Personnel* Public Health Nurses*911 Responders
*Jails* Court Personnel*Prosecutors/State Agencies* Private Physicians* College Campus Personnel
* Clergy


If you need personal assistance I can be contacted through www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com. 
or by email at murphymilano@gmail.com



 Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases.


 A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals, victim advocates and the faith based community and author.. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing prevention and solutions within the community to the workplace. Host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show,"Time'sUp!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host onCrime Wire. Online contributions: Forbes : Crime, She Writes providing commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up! a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crime.

Friday, October 21, 2011

Intimate Partner Violence "Enemy Within the Walls"




A home is suppose to be a safe place. For two very special children, this past week, it would be their graves.

How many nights did mommy and daddy argue? Just before bedtime, how often did the children ask God to keep them safe before going to sleep? Most kids growing up in violent homes always whisper to God requesting "make daddy stop hurting mommy."

I remember kneeling at the side of my bed as a child reciting the prayer "Now I Lay me Down to Sleep."

Now I lay me down to sleep,
I pray the Lord my soul to keep,
If I shall die before I wake,
I pray the Lord my soul to take.

Did I have an understanding of the prayer as a child, no. Thinking about the words now sends chills down my spine. Many a day was spent believing morning would never come. Threats of my father starting the house on fire, followed by specific details of how he would commit the perfect crime and ultimately get away with murder if my mother ever decided to leave him. I can still hear his words, "who is going to believe you Roberta, I'm a cop, just remember that." That was his promise to her, one he would make good when she finally did divorce him in 1989.

For Molly Friedander, age 10, and her brother Gregory, age 8, they likely heard the arguing and violent brutal beating happening to their mother several hundred feet away. A child always knows the scent and feel of imminent danger. Paralyzed by fear, they remain in their room as they had likely done before during other fights, hiding under the covers until the fighting stopped.

After he beat Amy Friedander to death, Samuel walked down the hall first to Molly's room, he took direct aim, with his 12-gauge shotgun. The next bedroom door was Gregory's, he repeated the same. Afterwards, he went down to the basement and killed himself.

This tragedy should be a wake-up call for anyone ending a relationship. Do not think for one second, this cannot happen to you, or believe it can never get that bad, or ever result in murder. You are in for a rude awakening!

If Amy Friendander were here she would likely shout at the top of her lungs, "leave-while you can still get out with your life." But, she and her children, are no longer here. In her heart, Amy never imagined her husband would go that far and kill the entire family.

My mother also made similar mistakes. She allowed the fear to traumatize her to the point where she stayed and lived as a prisoner in her own home. My mother believed if she stayed, just until we were old enough and out of harms way, it would keep us alive. And, it did, but at a great cost to our own quality of life.

When she died I vowed to save lives and change how intimate partner crimes are handled. Because of my mother's murder some amazing tools have been created for a victims of violence. Proudly, thus far, every single woman and child who have come to me through the many years for assistance, are alive and well, living happy and productive lives. A lot of the information to leave safely can be found in the book,
Time's Up.

Time's Up! If you doing nothing but prepare the abuse video and affidavit prescribed in the
information provided below, you have taken a big step towards having your words stick if
something happened to you. Telling a close friend or family member about the terror and abuse
is not enough to make an arrest or prosecute in a court of law.

The month of October is National Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Intimate partner violence occurs 365 days a year, 7 days a week. Perhaps doing something for those who you know are in a rocky or violent relationship is a start to how you can help others.

Providing information on what you need to do if you or someone you know is in a potentially violent relationship is done with the hope of saving lives. My work in the area of intimate partner violence prevention is a direct result of not being able to save my own mother back in 1989, killed by her police detective husband prior to committing suicide.

If you are in a relationship that has a history of violence, simply mustering up the courage to confront the person and say it is over, without the proper tools, can cost you, your life!

One of the major reasons women stay in abusive relationships is fear. They are afraid of what will happen to them and their children if they leave. Sadly, their fears are often justified; statistics show that a woman is at the greatest risk for injury when she announces her plans or leaves an abusiverelationship. The book "Time's Up A Guide on How To Survive and Abusive and Stalking Relationship"is the prescription, if you will, that every person must obtain before they announce they are leaving. Below is an example from Chapter 4, one of many unique tools provided in the book. It is available on Amazon.com, or you can purchase via e-book or on a cd. If you have questions, the email address is: timesupforjustice@gmail.com

Before you decide that you have had enough and are ending the relationship, create for yourself the "Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" and video (shown below).

If you do nothing else, please take one important step that if something does happen to you, if you do vanish like Stacy Peterson, Vensus Stewart, Rachel Anderson, Susan Powell, Lisa Stebic, or arefoundmurdered like Monica Beresford-Redmond, Franki Jacobson, Renee Pagel, Summer Inman,Kelly Rothwell and others where the person responsible has gotten away with murder that your voice and record of the abuse will be captured and recorded. Do it for you friends, family and loved ones. Do it for your children. Do it for you!




If you have questions, the email address is: timesupforjustice@gmail.com

This book doesn't merely discuss when you should leave or why you should leave, it tells you HOW you should leave. The book has step-by-step instructions how to covertly make a plan, set-up a safe escape, deal with financial issues, and the paperwork. Susan even takes you line-by-line through the process, the forms, the legal issues...she takes you by the hand, and, believe me, when you are being terrorized and you are an basket case, you don't need vague ideas, you need specific instructions. TIME'S UP can save your life and your sanity. If you need to get out, get this book before you make a mistake that could be fatal. It is money well spent.




On October 31, 2001--Technology is about to change the way victims of domestic violence and stalking will be able to document and video the abuse and potential threats against their lives. It is also a unique way, once the technology is used across the country, for abusers to think twice about making their spouse or girlfriend vanish without a trace. In her absence, if the victim has completed the process, called the "Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" it will bring an arrest and a solid case for prosecutors.

THE GOAL OF THE TECHNOLOGY:

To significantly reduce the number of homicides and missing persons per year by
providing cutting edge technology and vital knowledge that will first give potential
victims a fighting chance, a strong voice, provide valuable non‐reputable evidence that
will aid in any investigations, eventual conviction, overruling “hearsay” laws, in the
worst case scenarios and provide a powerful deterrent against would‐be attackers.

To significantly reduce the costs incurred by law enforcement, the justice system and health
care services, including insurance claims, each costing taxpayers annually.

About the Conference

Nationally recognized Intimate Partner Specialist, Susan Murphy Milano, and Chet Hosmer of
WetStone Technologies, a wholly owned subsidiary of Allen Corporation of America are
partnering to bring a newly created technology that will revolutionize the way cases of intimate partner violence are handled at every level. The technology will be unveiled nationally October 31 at the Techno‐Forensic Conference in Myrtle Beach, SC. http://www.techno‐forensics.com/ - If you are interested in covering the event or writing a story please contact Delilah@imagine publicity.com or for more information call 843.808.0859


http://www.techno-forensics.com/session/intimate-partner-violence-growing-epidemic-how-technology-can-aid-law-enforcement-and-prosec


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Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is a specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies and high risk cases and available for personal consultations through the Institute. She is also part of the team at Management Resources Limited of New York.

Susan is the author of "Time's Up: A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships,"Moving out, Moving on, and Defending Out Lives. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host on Crime Wire.



If you would like to schedule Susan Murphy Milano for training and interviews, please contact:ImaginePublicity PO BOX 14946 Surfside Beach, SC 29587 Phone: 843.808.0859 email- contact@imaginepublicity.com

Monday, October 3, 2011

How Technology Can Aid Law Enforcement & Prosecutors in Saving Lives in Intimate Partner Violence Victims


Techno Forensics


THE INTIMATE PARTNER VIOLENCE A GROWING EPIDEMIC - HOW TECHNOLOGY CAN AID LAW ENFORCEMENT AND PROSECUTORS IN SAVING LIVES OF VICTIMS

This panel will discuss the global epidemic of intimate partner violence. It will highlight and discuss the importanceof solving technical and legal issues that impead prosecution, how it complicates the protection of victims, and offer solutions. The audience will hear from a panel of experts that include law enforcement professionals, legal representatives, technologists and advocates.
Bios:
Chet Hosmer is the Chief Scientist and co-founder of WetStone, now a division of Allen Corporation. Chet has over 30 years of experience researching and developing high technology solutions. Since 1992, Chet has focused his research in Cyber Security and has served as the Principal Investigator on over 40 cyber security, digital forensic and information assurance research programs funded by AFRL, ARL, OSD, DARPA and NIJ. Chet received his BS Degree in Computer Science from Syracuse University, serves on several editorial boards, is an Adjunct Professor at Syracuse University and is a visiting professor at Utica College. Chet actively gives numerous Cyber Security relevant keynote, plenary and panel presentations each year on a global basis.
Susan Murphy Milano is a nonfiction author, violence expert—a defender of victims' rights. Susan has appeared onOprah, 20/20, American Justice, and CNN. As a nationally recognized women's advocate, she was instrumental in the passage of the Illinois Stalking Law and the Lautenberg Act. After the murder of her mother, committed by her Chicago detective father, Susan set out on a mission to keep women alive and she has successfully done that for over 20 years. The ultimate question asked by Oprah, "So Susan, women have to have a plan?" was answered a dozen years later because of working and highlighting cases of high risk intimate partner violence,and finally, realizing the solution. The Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit (EAA) contained in her book, Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships is the prescription for the epidemic of women, like Stacy Peterson, who has been missing since 2007, and presumably dead.
Holly HughesAttorney with the Fulton County District Attorney's office in Atlanta, GA where she prosecuted some of the most high-profile cases in the United States, including working ProP the murder case against Ray Lewis, superstar with the Baltimore Ravens. Holly Hughes was a triple threat prosecuting homicides, hate crimes and high profile felony cases. Prior to making a name for herself as a tough big-city prosecutor, she also worked as an attorney specializing in Discrimination and Civil Rights. Ms. Hughes has hosted the highly popular "Nancy Grace Show" on CNN Headline News Channel, and continues to appear as a frequent guest on the program. She has also appeared on Court TV as a frequent commentator and legal analyst since 2003. Additionally, she appears regularly on Tru TV's In Session and CNN HLN Prime News as well as The Susan Murphy Milano show as an expert in criminal law. With over 100 media appearances Ms. Hughes has been qualified as an expert in high profile litigation and criminal procedure with the Cold Case Research Institute of Georgia. She is also a frequent guest lecturer at local colleges and law schools. She has been honored in Madison Avenue's Who's Who of Young Professionals. After 10 years with the DA's Office, Ms. Hughes is now in private practice in Atlanta, handling criminal defense and civil matters.

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Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is a specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies and high risk cases and available for personal consultations through the Institute. She is also part of the team at Management Resources Limited of New York.

Susan is the author of "Time's Up: A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships,"Moving out, Moving on, and Defending Out Lives. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host on Crime Wire.

If you would like to schedule Susan Murphy Milano for training and interviews, please contact:ImaginePublicity PO BOX 14946 Surfside Beach, SC 29587 Phone: 843.808.0859 email- contact@imaginepublicity.com
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