Monday, December 12, 2011

Tracey Young: Confrontation Leads to Murder

In New York over the weekend Tracey Young, 42 a criminal investigator with the State was murdered by her husband, an ex-NYPD retired cop. He fired 3 shots to her face and 4 to her mid-section and torso.

They were married for two years. According to reports the couple was enjoying a romantic evening, they argued and then he punched her. Tracey responded by saying she had had enough she was going to her sisters for the night and told her husband she was leaving him. Sources say this was not the first time he was violent. And Tracey never reported prior incidents of abuse.

Enraged, her husband shot her to death. Tragically, Tracey Young's own mother was murdered thirty-one years ago, also as a result of intimate partner homicide.

Clarence Cash her husband was arraigned and is being held without bail. He returns back to court January 3, 2012.

You just never know when a person will snap. When ending a relationship you must do so with caution. Never confront, announce in anyway you are leaving or ending the relationship. Like Tracey Young, it will cost you!

Once you are threatened, hit, stalked, questioned in a controlling way, a second chance to save your life, is no longer an option.

“If you are reading this and find yourself in a similar situation, know that there are measures you must take before announcing the end of your relationship. These safety precautions can be found in the book, "Time's Up: A Guide on How to Leave an Abusive and Stalking Relationship" by Susan Murphy Milano. Don't take things into your own hands without expert guidance.” (Mothers Are Vanishing)

I cannot stress enough, if you are in a relationship that has a history of violence, simply mustering up the courage to confront the person and say it is over, without the proper tools, can cost you, your life!

One of the major reasons women stay in abusive relationships is fear. They are afraid of what will happen to them and their children if they leave. Sadly, their fears are often justified; statistics show that a woman is at the greatest risk for injury when sheannounces her plans or leaves an abusive relationship.

The book "Time's Up A Guide on How To Survive and Abusive and Stalking Relationship" is the prescription, if you will, that every person must obtain before they announce they are leaving. Below is an example from Chapter 4, one of many unique tools provided in the book. It is available on, or you can purchase via e-book or on a cd. If you have questions, the email address is:

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network onVimeo.

Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases.
A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals, victim advocates and the faith based community and author.. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing prevention and solutions within the community to the workplace. Host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show,"Time'sUp!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host on Crime Wire. Online contributions: Forbes : Crime, She Writes providing commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up! a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crime

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

I think the fiancé knows exactly where she is, he speaks of her in the past as if he knows that she's passed. I don't know, that's just my opinion.

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