In a guest book on the Internet filled with family, friends and strangers Pamela Taschuk life is remembered for her courage and strength for moving forward away from her abusive husband knowing the consequences. The 48-year-old was a juvenile probation officer and social worker. Pamela was murdered a week ago today. Like thousands of other women who lose their lives daily from domestic violence in the home, Pamela was in constant fear of her husband. In September filed for divorce and obtained a court order keep her husband Allen away .
Police responded to the home some 48 times over a 15 year period. Allen Taschuk was arrested a total of 3 times in those 15years, the most recent incident at the end of August police arrested him allowing Pamela to obtain a court order of protection.
Unfortunately,, there is no one size fits all plan for your safety. But there are steps you can take to increase your chances. If your instinct kicks in and you feel contacting the police will be too dangerous, trust those instincts. Victims are in a “damned if you do, damned if you don’t” decision. Any legal action you take is not a guarantee of protection from further abuse. The abuser could care less, and obtaining a court order of protection may increase the violence or cause serious injury or cost you your life. You must weigh the consequences.
If my own mother Roberta Murphy murdered in 1989 by my police officer father were alive today she would tell you to have a strong plan of action before contacting a divorce lawyer or obtaining a court order of protection.
If you are or know someone in an abusive relationship help is a phone call away. Services are confidential and free of charge. Contact the National Coalition at 1-800-799 SAFE.