Stalking Dangers "Time's Up"

What is Stalking?

A person commits stalking when he/she knowingly and without lawful justification

engages in at least two separate instances of:

1. Following another person (that means you) or

2. Placing another person under surveillance or

3. A combination of following and surveillance and transmits a threat to that

person (that means you) of immediate/future, bodily harm/sexual

assault/confinement / restraint or engages in conduct which places another

person in reasonable apprehension of receiving bodily harm/sexual

assault/confinement/restraint.

Stalking is a pattern of behavior.

Unwanted communication including, but not limited to:

• Voice messages
• Texting
• Emails,
• Letter writing
• Sending flowers or gifts
• Psychological terrorism

Stalking is a crime. When there are two or more incidents and you have documented the stalking behavior, make a police report. Seek a court order of protection.

Violent Stage

When all attempts fail to “win” you back into their life, they could become more hostile, frustrated, angry and ultimately explosive. Violent behavior may include the following:

• Kidnapping
• Robbery
• Rape
• Assault
• Hurting family and friends
• Murder/suicide

Anyone is capable of stalking someone. Often, after a relationship has ended, stalking will begin or escalate. This is a very important time to pay attention to your surroundings. For a few months when driving, check your rear view mirror frequently to make sure you’re not being followed. Carry both home and car your keys in your hands, instead of your purse or pocket. If you have a roommate, call ahead and have him or her watch for you until you are safely in the door. It is also important not to date anyone, as this often enrages the abuser. He is already upset, depressed and potentially dangerous.

And seeing you out in public with someone new will likely set him off. Besides, you are in no emotional position to begin dating. This is no time to prove anything.

I suggest you consider going to a therapist and to spend some quality time in self care and healing.

It is common for a stalker to call you day and night. Consider changing your phone number. Phone service companies for both home and cell are pleasant and helpful when you explain you are receiving harassing and or threatening calls. If you have children, speak with them about not answering your cell phone. The same applies to your home phone: allow calls to go to voice mail.

Keep your children informed. You are no longer dating this person. For example, perhaps you are at work, when your kids are walking home from school. The kids are told you have been in an accident or he unexpectedly picks them up on the way home from school for ice-cream.

A divorced mother of two broke off a relationship with a man the children liked and trusted. Kay did not say much to the kids except that he would no longer be around. She felt the kids did not need to know the man she was dating was controlling, obsessive and downright scary. When Kay came home, Rob was in the kitchen making dinner with the kids. He had been harassing her and following every move, since their break-up. She remained calm. Kay excused herself to change out of her work clothes. Using her cell phone, she texted a friend for help. Twenty minutes later, police arrived and arrested Rob for stalking. Kay documented other evidence saving voice mails and text messages. It was enough to obtain a court order of protection. Always be prepared for anything.

Do not panic and remember to think on your feet. And pick up a copy of the book "Time's Up" either from Amazon.com or buy it in E-book here on this site and prepare the Evidentiary Abuse Affavit along with the example you can follow for the video below.

The person stalking you may have a weapon, be on drugs or in a suicidal depression.

He is obsessed with you, believes he cannot live without you, and, at the beginning, may attempt to be sweet by sending cards, flowers gifts, sweet text or email messages.

When that fails and you continue to ignore him, he may step up his efforts and begin stalking you aggressively by showing up at your workplace, waiting for you when you arrive at home, leaving notes on your car, or by stalking you, and committing acts of violence against you or your children. Keep a journal with dates and times, document all threatening incidents.

What is Cyber Stalking?

Black's Law Dictionary defines cyber stalking as “the act of threatening, harassing, or annoying someone through multiple email messages, as through the Internet, esp. with the intent of placing the recipient in fear that an illegal act or an injury will be inflicted on the recipient or a member of the recipient's family or household.”
Certain Internet capabilities facilitate cyber stalking by increasing the capacity to contact potential victims. These include chat rooms, bulletin boards, newsgroups, instant messaging, and other web communication devices. Also, the Internet provides a quick, inexpensive, and efficient means to collect and disseminate information to a large public audience. It can be used from anywhere in the world where there is Internet access to:
1. disseminate intimidating and threatening messages, including pictures, video, and audio;
2. transmit large volumes of junk mail or viruses in an attempt to damage data;
3. impersonate people and engage in inappropriate conduct in their name;
4. gather information for harassment purposes;
5. post false information about, and monitor and spy on, people;
6. encourage other people to track and harass people; and
7. engage in other harassing and intimidating behavior.

If you are in a relationship that has a history of violence and stalking simply mustering up the courage to confront the person and say it is over, without the proper tools, can cost you, your life!


The book "Time's Up A Guide on How To Survive and Abusive and Stalking Relationship" is the prescription that every person must obtain before they announce they are leaving. Below is an example from Chapter 4, one of many unique tools provided in the book. It is available on Amazon.com, or you can purchase via e-book or on a CD. If you have questions, the email address is: timesupforjustice@gmail.com


Before you decide that you have had enough and are ending the relationship, create the "Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" and video (shown below).

If you do nothing else, please take one important step that if something does happen to you, if you do vanish like Stacy Peterson, Vensus Stewart, Rachel Anderson, Susan Powell, Lisa Stebic,Kelly Rothwell or are found murdered like Monica Beresford-Redmond, Franki Jacobson, Renee Pagel,Summer Inman, and others where the person responsible has gotten away with murder, that your voice and record of the abuse will be captured and recorded. Do it for you friends, family and loved ones. Do it for your children. Do it for you!

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.

Susan is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr Laurie Roth. Susan is a survivor- the daughter of a police officer family intimate partner homicide by her father who murdered her mother before committing suicide.

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The Disappearance of

Hope Danielle Meek

Details of Disappearance
Meek resided on Section Line Road in Valliant, Oklahoma with her husband and their three young children. Her husband told authorities that he saw Meek inside their home during the day on February 21, 2002. She has never been heard from again. She not reported missing for five days.

Authorities stated that it is uncharacteristic of Meek to leave without warning. Her 1995 Chevrolet pickup truck, her car keys, her eyeglasses and her cellular phone were discovered inside of her house after she went missing. She has failed to contact her children since her disappearance. Meek’s husband filed for divorce from her fifteen days after her disappearance, and received custody of their children.

Meek worked as a jailer at the time of her disappearance; she was in charge of escorting prisoners from their cells to court appearances. Her case remains unsolved.

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Susan is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talkhttp://www.herewomentalk.com/ and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr Laurie Roth. Susan is a survivor- the daughter of a police officer family intimate partner homicide by her father who murdered her mother before committing suicide

Criminal Profiler Pat Brown Says What We All Are Thinking!

This is an excerpt of the excellent post from Author and Criminal Profiler Pat Brown. To read the rest of the story go to womenandcrimeink.blogspot.com

Until the horrific news of the murders on the South Side of Chicago hit the airwaves, Jennifer Hudson's life was many a girl's dream. Ms. Hudson, American Idol contestant and Dreamgirls star, had made it; well, more than made it. She had risen from the streets of Chicago and made the type of choices that eventually brought her fame and fortune.

However, Ms. Hudson couldn't choose which family to be born into, and even though she loves her mother and siblings, she can't force them to make smart choices for themselves. Sadly, each one of her family members appears to have played with fire and ended up getting burnt by it. Mom Darnell Donerson and brother Jason Hudson ended up being shot in their home. Sister Julia lost her son Julian King (pictured right), found dead the back of his uncle's stolen and abandoned SUV; someone had no problem pumping a number of bullets into a seven-year-old boy. All totalled, this horrific crime left in its wake three homicide victims and two grieving sisters. In my opinion, however, the only truly innocent victims were the little boy himself and Jennifer Hudson. The rest aided and abetted the alleged killer. Go to Women and Crime to Read More.

Advocating For Those Where Justice is Interrupted

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Becca McEvoy: Justice In Limbo

Former Police Officer Bob Ingel

The family of Becca McEvoy returns to court today in Mobile Alamaba fighting for justice for a little girl they say was raped by her police officer stepfather, Bob Ingel. Rebecca McEvoy, 11, was killed in a car crash last January.

Before she died, unexpectedly, Rebecca had been before the grand jury, testifying in hopes of seeking justice against this alleged sexual predator. According to prosecutors, a medical exam confirmed Rebecca had been raped, but Ingle's attorney is hoping a 2004 Supreme Court ruling will keep the case from ever going to trial.

Today, a Mobile County Judge is expected to decide whether a defendant can stand trial without having an opportunity to confront his accuser.

The lawyers are using the "Crawford" case out of Ohio. This says “you have the constitutional right to cross examine your accuser” and because the girl is dead and cannot testify, there is a chance the Judge may throw out the case.The Assistant District Attorney, Steven Giardini, believes the case law should not be applied in Becca McEvoy's case.

Justice for Becca-Resource and video'sStory Link

http://scaredmonkeys.com/2008/04/08/outrage-the-tragic-tale-of-becca-mcevoy-victimized-by-stepfather-bob-ingle-then-again-by-the-us-legal-system-part-1/

For more coverage go to http://www.my.opera.com/rhondawheelus/blog

Crime Magazine: http://www.jurorthirteen.com

The War on Crime Radio: http://www.thewaroncrime.blogspot.com

The Bells of Justice Are Calling Barbara Winn

On Thursday, Barbara Winn's family and friends filled every seat in the St. Paul, MN courtroom.

No one complained about the close, tight, seating that morning.

They had prayed and thought of this special day for twenty-seven long years. The family quietly sat as the accused Aaron Foster, indicted by a grand jury back in November, appeared in court before the judge.

On Monday, court will begin again, as family and friends listen to arguments as to whether or not the murder case of Barbara Winn will be heard or dimissed.

Barbara's family has never given up hope that her killer would finally be brought to justice . They put up internet sites: http://www.justiceforbarbara.com/ .

Friends and Family worked closely for 27 years with local news reporters and many prosecutors. And in recent years, Barbara's case has been an important fixture on the internet for brining justice to those whose cries for help fell on deaf ears.

For more on the case and important details here's the news link:

http://www.twincities.com/ci_8644466?nclick_check=1

Cindy Bischof "Jumped Through Hoops"

Cindy Bischof did everything in her power, and yet, she tragically lost here life in spite of her efforts. While pleased that the story made the front page of the Sunday Chicago Tribune. Perhaps it will spark a fire under elected officicals to provide safety measures for victims that go beyond court orders of protection and jail time for offenders.

The headline across the Sunday paper read "The Law Didn't Save Her"

She tried a court order. She had him arrested. She took all the legal steps she could right up to the day her ex-boyfriend shot her dead in a parking lot. Here's link for the story:http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/local/chi-domestic-violence_bd16mar16,1,2303253.story
In an earlier post on 3/11/2008 :http://murphymilanojournal.blogspot.com/search/label/Cindy%20Bischof I ask for the public's help.

And come to think of it, a CEO or two from companies like CitiCorp, Bank of America, Verizon Wireless, American Express, AT&T , just to name a few, would also fuel the measures required to meet the needs as it pertains to safety when women leave behind their lives and begin anew in order to be safe.

I have methods and strategies from my years of experience in working with victims across the country. But, one voice, or one newpaper article will not stop the bloodshed.
If this story has angered you , enough to do something, please either email me at kindlivinginc@aol.com or over at the website contact@movingoutmovingon.com.
When one life is lost, we all loose!