Thursday, July 29, 2010
In Domestic Violence Relationships: Excuses Can be Deadly!
How many more times are you going to allow the a person with whom you are in a relationship to make excuses for their outbursts? Either through yelling at you because the boss got on their back or there is not enough money through the end of the month to buy groceries and somehow your partner is blaming you? The house is in shambles, the kids have been up all night with the flu and you are whacked across the face by your "loving partner" because things are not the way " THEY" expect them. Your partner informs you, similar to placing you on notice, that you have had this conversation before.
When someone you are with hurts you, and punishing you is the only thing you are told that gets your attention, that is not love . It is not acceptable. It is abuse, power and control. It is a crime and it's against the law.
You do have options. Stop excusing the excuses! From "he was drinking", to "we are having financial problems", or how about when you are made to believe "it was your fault." It is not.
Martina McBride recorded a song titled "Independence Day", please take a moment and listen to her words.
Your day of Independence is a phone call away. Please contact the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or if you are hearing paired (TTY) 1-800-787-3224. They offer services in your area for shelter, legal, counseling, they will even help you with a safety plan. The phones are answered by a trusting caring professional, who is there just for you twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week.
Perhaps contacting a shelter for information or services is not something you would like to do. Regardless, having a plan is a must! Before you consider announcing you have had enough, or the relationship is over, prepare the "Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit video and document" similar to the example of the re-inactment below. You can order " Time's Up" a life saving book to leave with your life and move on to independence on Amazon.com or in e-book form on http://www.susanmurphymilano.com/.
If you do nothing else, please take one important step that if something does happen to you, if you do vanish like Stacy Peterson, Vensus Stewart, Rachel Anderson, Susan Powell, Lisa Stebic, or are found murdered like Monica Beresford-Redmond, Franki Jacobson, Renee Pagel and others, where the person responsible has gotten away with murder, that your voice and record of the abuse will be captured and recorded. Do it for you friends, family and loved ones. Do it for your children. Do it for you!
If you have an opportunity take a moment and download a podcast about abuse from a radio show on the AWN Radio Network Linked HERE. .