Earlier today while attending a meeting a colleague received a phone call regarding a victim of intimate partner abuse and the sale of her 8-year old daughter by the abusive father along with a "woman broker" he secured because she had a buyer in China for the child.
The mother, currently in an abusive relationship who has other children sought the assistance of law enforcement (who responded it was a family matter, refusing to make an arrest or fill out a police report) and a well known nationally established agency for help. The mother had been beaten and brainwashed by her abuser, if mom told anyone, he would make sure she would be killed or deported and never see any of her children.
She left a crime scene, her own home. Traumatized and in fear for her life and the imminent sale of her child she walked into the organization. The case worker followed "procedure" going down a list of agency and personal contacts.
The case worker made calls to a hotline, it was busy. She continued making calls and allowed the woman to leave her offices so she could pick up her kids and go to work at a mid size national hotel chain. She did provide her with a transportation and grocery voucher and schedule her to return in the morning for a court order of protection. Then, the case worker left to go home.
An hour later, the woman called the agency hysterical. The child broker sent by the father had come to the mothers place of employment for her signature a document that would seal the deal for the sale of an 8-year old child. The mother refused to sign.
Most of the afternoon and this evening I waited for the case worker to call me. My colleague and I continued to speak over the phone. Outraged in what was not happening I wanted an address to go and get the woman and her kids. In an attempt to calm me down, I received this email in the subject matter it said "You started a fire":
Hi Susan: This is the plan for now: at least the order of protection will enable law enforcement to move on this guy if he makes any move to abduct the girl, etc. Apparently, a woman came to the client's place of work, to pick up the child and to have the client sign away her legal rights of the child, so that this woman could sell the child for the husband. The client did not sign the document. Abduction is the next real possibility. Agent also said that whatever is on the pink form from the police department and also in the records of DV can be used to arrest the guy and send him back to Mexico; and meanwhile the client can get a U Visa to stay here in the US based on those DV records.
My question is why hasn't anyone arrested the father? How is that the child has not been taken into protective services by the state? Where is I.C.E., S.L.E.D, or FBI?
You want to know why victims of domestic die? Or why they don't just get up and leave the abuser?
The answers: incompetence and failure by the entire system.
Do you think this woman has a chance at returning back to those offices in the morning? Her husband has all night to plan and take whatever action he deems appropriate.
And the child? By dawn she could be already transported and on her way to the buyer in China.
It's sad but true: here in this country, people are being bought, sold, and smuggled like modern-day slaves.
They are trapped in lives of misery—often beaten, starved, and forced to work as prostitutes or to take grueling jobs as migrant, domestic, restaurant, or factory workers with little or no pay. We’re working hard to stop human trafficking—not only because of the personal and psychological toll it takes on society, but also because it facilitates the illegal movement of immigrants across borders and provides a ready source of income for organized crime groups and even terrorists.
When it comes to human lives, waiting on protocol can get you killed. Finally, I was asked by my colleague what could I do for this woman and her children? My response, what I have always done, whatever it takes, even if it is outside the box.
Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases.
A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals, victim advocates and the faith based community. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing prevention and solutions within the community to the workplace.
Online contributions: Forbes : Crime, She Writes providing commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up! a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crime.
Radio Shows: Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host on Crime Wire.
Books: Time's Up: A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships,Moving out, Moving on, and Defending Out Lives.
Books: Time's Up: A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships,Moving out, Moving on, and Defending Out Lives.
