Egan Atkins: Wanted for the Murder of Nicole Williams

Anyone who sees the man pictured above is asked to immediately call 813-247-8200.

(A warrant has been issued for Egan Atkins, age 34 in the fatal stabbing of his estranged wife in Gibsonton, Florida )

Most of us who hear or read news stories about domestic or as I say "intimate partner violence" tend to think and believe in terms of a “single incident” or, a “one time only” act of violence. But that is a myth. A tragic example is that of Nicole Williams Kings, 36, of Gibsonton, Florida. She and her husband were going through a divorce. Yesterday, in the middle of the night, her estranged husband broke in the home, went into the kitchen and grabbed a butcher knife. Then he went upstairs and stabbed her to death as she slept. Her 3 teenage children were in the home, she died from multiple stab wounds.

Sadly, this is a case of continuing pattern of behavior which can include repeated harassment, stalking or surveillance of their victim, threats and intimidation, bodily harm, sexual assault, child abduction or the constant threat of it, that can escalate, as it did here, to murder.

According to news reports he was distraught over the ending of the marriage. It is no excuse to kill anyone. The horror of what these children witnessed will be with them for the remainder of their lives.

Once you are threatened, hit, stalked, questioned in a controlling way, a second chance to save your life, is no longer an option.

“If you are reading this and find yourself in a similar situation, know that there are measures you must take before announcing the end of your relationship. These safety precautions can be found in the book, "Time's Up: A Guide on How to Leave an Abusive and Stalking Relationship" by Susan Murphy Milano. Don't take things into your own hands without expert guidance.” (Mothers Are Vanishing)

I cannot stress enough, if you are in a relationship that has a history of violence, simply mustering up the courage to confront the person and say it is over, without the proper tools, can cost you your life!

One of the major reasons women stay in abusive relationships is fear. They are afraid of what will happen to them and their children if they leave. Sadly, their fears are often justified; statistics show that a woman is at the greatest risk for injury when she announces her plans or leaves an abusive relationship.

The book "Time's Up A Guide on How To Survive and Abusive and Stalking Relationship" is the prescription, if you will, that every person must obtain before they announce they are leaving. Below is an example from Chapter 4, one of many unique tools provided in the book. It is available onAmazon.com, or you can purchase via e-book or on a cd. If you have questions, the email address is: timesupforjustice@gmail.com

Before you decide that you have had enough and are ending the relationship create for yourself the "Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" and video (shown below). Follow the steps in the Time's up Book, it just may save your life!

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.

Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/

Susan is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/ and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr Laurie Roth. Susan is a survivor- the daughter of a police officer family intimate partner homicide by her father who murdered her mother before committing suicide.

"Relationship Safety"- From The Experts: Today at 11:00 AM EST on the Zeus Radio Network

On The Here Women Talk Radio Network, Sandra Brown, M.A., Author of "How To Spot A Dangerous Man" and Women Who Love Psychopaths, and Susan Murphy Milano Author of "Time's Up" and Moving Out Moving On," will be guests today at 11:00 AM EST, on the Vicki Childs-P.I. Answers show.

Susan Murphy Milano recently joined Sandra Brown, M.A. and the Institiute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as their Strategist for High Conflict Divorce & Custody Cases and Intimate Partner Violence Expert. After the show please visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ where you can sign up for the newsletter and read the latest news and important resources for your life offered by Institite. Both Susan and Sandra are also regular contributors to the "Times Up Blog " for survivors of violent crime.

Direct Link to the Show (Click here)
Date: Thursday, September 16, 2010

Time: 11:00 A.M. EST and 10:00 A.M. CST

Chat-in or Call (646) 652-2071

(Susan Murphy Milano, is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Psychopathy Education for more information visit http://www.saferelationships.com/ and is the author of the new book "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and where ever books are sold.)

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.

Don't Wait Until It's Too Late!

Author Diane Fanning shares about a new resource she feels could make the difference between life or death. She notes that when professionals cross paths with women in distress they are given a small window of opportunity in which to pass along the right resources, like the one she is suggesting here, to empower these women to act in their own best interestWhen we need to make a change in our lives, we are often in a high period of stress. That condition makes it more difficult to think clearly. It’s hard to know what to do first. It is difficult to organize a logical plan of action.
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No one feels this sense of overwhelming hopelessness more than a woman who is a victim of domestic abuse. She is often overwrought with emotion, vibrating with anxiety and frozen in fear. Too often, women stay in a state of paralysis, wanting to leave but not knowing how to accomplish it.

Doing nothing is not an acceptable option. The status quo is not viable in the long term. Too many women are lost in that place, becoming victims to the ultimate form of domestic violence—homicide.

Fear is the most powerful of emotions. Its most worthy adversary is a concrete step-by-step plan. But how can a woman conceive of a workable plan when not thinking clearly? Now, there is an answer, a guide, a recipe for survival—Time’s Up by Susan Murphy Milano. It is a handbook that can save a woman’s life.

I was stunned when I read through this book. It begins with a simple and clear explanation of abuse—a thorough and thought-provoking summary that left me shaking and in tears as I recognized the emotional trauma of one of my early relationships—trauma that I’d tried hard to deny.

Susan then goes through everything you need to do in preparation for departure, step by step. With her advice, a woman can turn a helter-skelter act of desperation into a well-planned and executed course of action that elevates her safety and reduces her risk.

It is vital to keep the safety factors clearly in view because the most dangerous window of time in any woman’s life is the moment she decides to leave a relationship up until two years after she acts upon it. Time’s Up is full of precautions, tips, forms and reassurances that will guide a woman every step of the way. Susan introduces the concept of an Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit, a written document and a taped interview, that documents injuries—both physical and emotional—and can serve as a woman’s best life insurance policy.

If a woman is in a controlling relationship since her teenager years and knows nothing about leading an independent life, Time’s Up, covers the tiniest detail including how to read a lease and sign up for utilities. If a woman is sophisticated, educated and aware, this handbook fills in many of the gaps and unforeseen complications that might catch her unawares and put her life at risk.

I wrote Gone Forever about a remarkable woman named Susan McFarland who lost her life at her husband’s hand. Susan was a planner. She attended to many details about her separation from her husband. But she overlooked some steps because she did not imagine a need for that extra level of caution. Susan Murphy Milano, both through her own personal experience and her work as a domestic violence advocate, can imagine them and help a woman navigate safely through dangerous straits. I am convinced that Susan McFarland might still be alive today if she had used Time’s Up to plan the end of her relationship.

This handbook should be available at every law enforcement agency, divorce attorney’s office, emergency room, library and battered women’s shelter. Doctors and pastors should hand it out to women in need of the advice it contains.

I also think that any woman who has a concern about domestic violence should have a copy of Time’s Up in her library. We won’t all need it for our own personal safety but one day, when we least expect it, a friend, a family member, a coworker, some woman in our orbit, will need it. Time’s Up can save a life—many times over.
By Diane Fanning

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Diane Fanning is a well known author of various true crime novels as well as fiction and other creative efforts. She has both researched wrongful convictions, the pathologies of murderers and wonders why people become victims, and criminals, and continues to tell their stories in an effort to better understand what those stories may offer us in the way. ( The story was reprinted from obviousanswers.presspublisher.com)

The Murder of Sheila Deviney "Oklahoma Style"

By Sheryl McCollum, Holly Hughes and Susan Murphy Milano

The murder of Sheila Deviney on January 6, 2004, was no accident. Sheila Deviney was in fact murdered! On Monday evening's show on "Intimate Partner Homicide Investigation" we were flooded with calls from friends, relatives, college professsors, co-workers, and former classmates providing vital information regarding the murder of this young woman.

Dozens of statements, now recorded in podcast, from callers on the show as to Sheila's fear, her statement of mind and the threats made against her life, including the day before the fire, were never investigated by authorities. So how the heck does a case go cold for so many years without an investigation, a named suspect or an arrest? The answer is clear. The state never investigated the murder. The state even allowed a former ex-husband and buddy within days of the fire to enter private property and literally cut up the crime scene (the home) and dump it into a river. Only a person who has motive and something to hide goes to those extremes. Think about the fact the couple were no longer married. The only ties to the couple were the children. The ex-husband had no legal interest in the home or its contents.
The position of the body and the lack of smoke in her lungs after the fire shows Sheila Deviney was murdered.
Sheila's family, since her murder, has been trying to get the District Attorney's office in Oklahoma to open the case. The former elected officer refused to do his job and ignored the case. Now, with a different District Attorney elected into office, the case is still being ignored.

As we wait for the cobwebs to be dusted off the desk of Oklahoma District Attorney, Greg Mashburn, this particular cold case and facts into Sheila Deviney's murder will not be ignored by the Intimate Partner Homicide Investigation team of Sheryl McCollum, Holly Hughes and Susan Murphy Milano.
If you have any information on this case please contact us by email at IPHInvestigation@gmail.com. All information received will be kept confidential.
In the weeks ahead we will provide others facts on this case and keep you updated on any new developments.

In Domestic Violence Relationships: Excuses Can be Deadly!

How many more times are you going to allow the a person with whom you are in a relationship to make excuses for their outbursts? Either through yelling at you because the boss got on their back or there is not enough money through the end of the month to buy groceries and somehow your partner is blaming you? The house is in shambles, the kids have been up all night with the flu and you are whacked across the face by your "loving partner" because things are not the way " THEY" expect them. Your partner informs you, similar to placing you on notice, that you have had this conversation before.

When someone you are with hurts you, and punishing you is the only thing you are told that gets your attention, that is not love . It is not acceptable. It is abuse, power and control. It is a crime and it's against the law.

You do have options. Stop excusing the excuses! From "he was drinking", to "we are having financial problems", or how about when you are made to believe "it was your fault." It is not.
Martina McBride recorded a song titled "Independence Day", please take a moment and listen to her words.

Your day of Independence is a phone call away. Please contact the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or if you are hearing paired (TTY) 1-800-787-3224. They offer services in your area for shelter, legal, counseling, they will even help you with a safety plan. The phones are answered by a trusting caring professional, who is there just for you twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week.

Perhaps contacting a shelter for information or services is not something you would like to do. Regardless, having a plan is a must! Before you consider announcing you have had enough, or the relationship is over, prepare the "Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit video and document" similar to the example of the re-inactment below. You can order " Time's Up" a life saving book to leave with your life and move on to independence on Amazon.com or in e-book form on http://www.susanmurphymilano.com/.

If you do nothing else, please take one important step that if something does happen to you, if you do vanish like Stacy Peterson, Vensus Stewart, Rachel Anderson, Susan Powell, Lisa Stebic, or are found murdered like Monica Beresford-Redmond, Franki Jacobson, Renee Pagel and others, where the person responsible has gotten away with murder, that your voice and record of the abuse will be captured and recorded. Do it for you friends, family and loved ones. Do it for your children. Do it for you!

If you have an opportunity take a moment and download a podcast about abuse from a radio show on the AWN Radio Network Linked HERE. .

An Order of Protection is a Worthless Piece of Paper With Ink!

The events on December 27, 2009 in Stark County, Ohio, that lead up to the murders of Derrick Busto and Brandy Scheinder are chilling, yet a common theme we are witnessing as families ask questions after intimate partner homicide.

In this case Matthew Schneider the former husband of Brandy was on probation for a sexual assault against a minor child. When the former husband plead guilty the prrosecutors office decided to put on their "big girl panties" and slap a 12 day jail sentence on this man. Along with a 3 year probation and a requirement that he register as a sex offender every four months for the next 25 years.

During this time Brandy Schneider filed for divorce. After years of abuse and terror she as most victims left the marital residence with her son and try to move on with her life.

Brandy Schneider also secured and order of protection from the courts. Matthew Schneider was dangerous and on several ocassions threatened to take her life. Between May of 2009 and near the time of the murders Matthew Schneider was stalking his soon to be ex-wife. Not once but numerous sitings, following, harassing threatning and doing damage to property all while wearing an electronic monitoring braclet. This should have been an immediate termination of Matthew Schneider's parole. The offense was felony stalking.

Rather than police arresting Matthew Schneider and held until a hearing for violating parole and felony stalking Brandy Schneider like so many victims we read about after the fact was murdered for negligence by a system sworn to protect victims of intimate partner violence under the very laws created because of bloodshed.

Maybe the US Attorneys Office or Lynn Rosenthal in Washington can investigate the oversight into human life lost due to shear ignorance as it pertains to rebuilding a new system from the ground up. One that includes an understanding of the landscape as it relates to intimate parter violence and homicide.

Today, on the Susan Murphy Milano show Brandy's mother Cheri Reed was on for the hour. It is important to note that Ms. Reed's discussing her daughters murder so soon after was to help other families and victims caught in the crossfire of tragedy.

Later in the show Derrick Busto's mother also came on and talked about her son and how "the system failed" these two women's children. "What good is an order of protection? she asked. If it means nothing more than a piece of paper with ink in it."

Listen to internet radio with Susan Murphy Milano on Blog Talk Radio

"The Courage To Get Out Of Your Own Way" The Susan Murphy Milano Show Live 4:00 PM EST

Todays Guests on the show are Gayle D’Ambrosio-Crabtree nationally recognized speaker and author. She is the founder of Hope for Healing.Org, a 501c3 nonprofit that serves victims of sexual and domestic violence.

Gayle is the wife of a Minister living in Strawberry Plains, Tennessee. There, she began a grassroots ministry . Hope for Healing.Org also distributed Angel Food, served the homeless and is an active worksite for juvenile offenders in the Restorative Justice programs of 3 East Tennessee counties.

And Lyn Twyman is a survivor of domestic violence, child abuse and intimate partner violence. Lyn became an advocate after seeing the cycle of violence and its affects repeat itself in her family due to denial and silence. She is also the Founder of Courage Network, a continuously expanding on line community for survivors, families, advocates and organizations. Courage Network provides many resources, including feature interviews with survivors and experts.

Date: Wednesday, July 7, 2010

Time: 4:00 PM Eastern Time and 3:00 PM Central Time

Call-in Number: (347) 326-9337

Show Link: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/susanmurphymilano

Crime Wire Live Tuesday June 15, 2010 at 9:00 PM EST and 8:00 PM Central

The Crime Wire team, Vito Colucci Jr., Private Eye and author, Denny Griffin, retired Investigator and Author, and Susan Murphy Milano, Violence Expert and Author are there-- On top of the crime -- at the top of their game.

Our guests for a power packed hour will be:

Tricia Griffith, owner of Websleuths, the Internet site that brings crime cases in the news and public eye long after the media has forgotten they need to be solved!

Famed Defense Attorney Mickey Sherman will be on the hot seat tonight discussing what else; defending the thugs, rapists and cold blooded killers.

This case involves one of those rather rare instances in which murder charges were brought and convictions attained when the victim’s remains had not been found. It is also somewhat unique in that the victim was a powerful organized crime figure. William “Wild Bill” Cutolo was the underboss of New York City’s Colombo crime family. His disappearance and presumed murder in 1999 caused his son to turn from a life of crime to become a cooperating government witness, whose work with law enforcement helped to bring about the arrests and convictions of his father’s killers in 2007

Janice Smolinski will discuss The Help Find the Missing Act (Billy’s Law) for families because it is one of the most important national pieces of legislation that will benefit the families of missing persons. With a grass roots effort started by the mother of missing Billy Smolinski, Janice Smolinski lives the nightmare shared with thousands across the country and millions worldwide. She has worked non-stop through the process of our government to bring this change for all.

President of Imagine Publicity, “Delilah,” creator of the crime suvivors and victim's rights blog "Time'sUp",she stands, supports and spreads important awareness on many issues, including missing persons, domestic violence, mothers without custody, human trafficking, self-defense, and victim’s rights.

Al Dressler Technology Expert and Crime Wire consultant will also weigh in on the rapid pace of technology in criminal cases.

Time: 9:00 PM EST 8:00 PM CST 6:00 PM PST

The number to call in with questions or comments is 1-646-478-0982

We profile a variety of cases each week, including cold cases, suspicious deaths, and current solved and unsolved murders.

If you are interested in having your case brought to the attention of the Crime Wire Team you can email us with cases, suggestions and comments at our email: thecrimewire@gmail.com

Link to Listen to the show Live http://www.blogtalkradio.com/crimewire

Our goal is to bring attention to those cases in which justice may not have been served and the families of the victims don’t have the resources to pursue the investigations on their own. Together we can make a difference.

Website: http://www.crimewiresite.com/

"Special Report" The Kathleen Savio Murder Case" On The Susan Murphy Milano Show Monday June 14, 2010 at 9:00 PM EST and 8:00PM CST

Tonights Guests Sheryl McCollum of the Cold Case Institute, Peter Hyatt Investigator, State of Maine Statement Analysis Labratory for Scientific Interrogation.

During this special hour we will discuss and investigate what really happened to Kathleen Savio former wife of former Bolingbrook police Sgt. Drew Peterson. What can we do to prevent these tragedies that we read about in the headlines from happening in the future?


Drew Peterson is currently in jail awaiting trial for the murder of his third wife Kathleen Savio.

For the lastest on the case visit http://www.petersonstory.wordpress.com/

The number to call in with questions or comments is 1-347-326-9337

DATE: Wednesday, June 15, 2010


TIME: 9: 00 PM Eastern Time and 8:00 PM Central Time

Show Link: www.blogtalkradio.com/susanmurphymilano

If you miss the show be sure to return to this site where it will re-play you can down load the podcast by going to the link for the show Here

National Criminal Profiler Pat Brown :TIME'S UP for Domestic Abuse

Nearly a day does not pass without watching Nancy Grace, MSNBC., Fox News, Jane Velez Mitchell that you do not see and hear Profiler Pat Brown weighing in on a horriffic criminal case. One would not think that with her busy schedule, including her new blogtalk radio show "Profile This," that she has the time to review anything other than what new case she has to profile next. The "master decorder of truth," as I refer to her Pat Brown, took time from her schedule to review my latest book. Reprinting her words below is my way of acknowledging and thanking her when I know her own amazing book is set for release in just 2 weeks titled, The Profiler: My Life Hunting Serial Killers and Psychopaths.

We hear the term, "Domestic Abuse," thrown around quite a bit and it is worth taking a look at what it really means in our own lives. Is it physical, mental, or both? When does one spouse's treatment of the other cross the line from just imperfect humans struggling in a relationship to one partner mistreating the other? After all, we know that marriage can be "work" and issues have to be dealt with and ironed out. We are going to disagree, even argue and be mad at each other, and, sometimes, we are not going to actually be able to kiss and make-up before bedtime. When should one start to worry that there is something really wrong with our marriage partnership?

I would say it is when the "partnership" becomes a boss and employee relationship and the boss is someone we would like to fire. While everyone wants power and control in life, a spouse must be willing to share that power and control with their partner, work together to achieve a balance where both parties are satisfied with the equation. Doing so is not a problem for those who love their spouse and want to see their spouse happy and want to achieve a positive and pleasing family life. Working together is an expectation for a committed couple and being good role models for the children is a natural desire for caring parents.

When one spouse becomes the master, putting his or her needs and desires above the spouse's, doesn't care how his/her mate feels, ignores the impact of this imbalance on the children, this is abuse - whether it is in the form of emotional manipulation of physical domination.

But, let's suppose you have already blown it and you are stuck in a nightmare; you are being mentally or physically tortured with regularity and you fear your mate instead of feeling safe in their company. It's time to make the decision to leave. Susan Milano-Murphy, one of my fellow bloggers at Women in Crime Ink knows well when someone should make a break for it and titles her new book on escaping abuse, TIME'S UP: A Guide on How to Leave an Abusive and Stalking Relationship.

To read the rest of the article go click HERE.

In case you missed the example of the "Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" that should be created before anyone announces they are ending their relationship.