Thursday, May 10, 2012

Behind Closed Doors: Verbal, Emotional, Physical Abuse

Suffering in silence behind closed doors with verbal, emotional and physical abuse is unhealthy and dangerous.  

I know you believe that special person in your life whom you love with all heart will "someday" return to the person they were when you began the relationship.  But it's not likely to happen.

Did you ever stop and ask yourself, how do you stay with a person who is harming you?  Calling you names or threatening you one minute only to change and say they've forgiven you, the next.  What exactly are you being forgiven for?  What did you do to deserve being screamed at or hit and thrashed about a room by you hair? Or told by the person professing their love, if you ever leave them, you'll be killed.  

I know you believe the person you love so much would never truly go so far as to kill you like those other women we read about in the news who go missing or are found dead, think again!   Kelly Rothwell, Jacque Waller, Gayle McCaffrey, Susan Powell, Renee Pagel, Stacy Peterson, Lisa Stebic, Amanda Graham, Hope Meek, Patty Vaughan, Nicole Fields, Kimberly Langwell, Sheena Morris, Valarie Calderon, Venus Stewart, Angel Downs, Lisa Shuttlesworth, Amanda Leher, Michelle Parker the list is endless of women and mother's just like you who refused to believe they'd be murdered by their boyfriend or husband's claiming to love them, literally to death.   Each of these women thought exactly as you do while they were alive. That it could never happen to them.

If you are in an abusive relationship, why don't you begin by being honest with yourself for once and admit your relationship is now dangerous.  That you may not have the opportunity to wake-up alive today or the following morning.  That you will enrage the person who is abusive so much you'll either be murdered in cold blood and if you have kids they will be motherless.  Is that what you really want, to die or to be a name and a number on a missing person's report listed on a national data base?

How about today, you look in the bathroom mirror and tell yourself, you're worth more than being a punching bag.  

How about today, you tell yourself, Enough!

It is time for you to remove the dangerous toxic abusive person from your life.

It is time for you and your precious children to leave the violence that is holding your live's hostage.

It is time for you to realize that there may not be a next time.

It is time for you to get the hell out of your own way, wake up, and understand the reason's you do not "feel safe," is because you are not!

You cannot plead with an abuser and walk away from potentially life threatening situations if you are unable to learn the steps necessary to protect yourself.  Time's Up: A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships will allow anyone to orchestrate what is needed to be safe.

"If you are a sophisticated, aware woman, you will find things you didn’t know to help yourself and others.  If you are a stay-at-home-mom who has been controlled since a teenager and doesn’t know the first thing about leading an independent life, you’ll find all the details you need to escort you through the risk-filled and often baffling transition ahead .  Time's Up by Susan Murphy Milano:  is the best companion an abused woman can have  Kathryn Casey, True-Crime Author

The Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit document preparation and video example in English

The Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit document preparation and video example in Spanish

The Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit document preparation and video example for Men who are being abused

Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and
 specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases.

 A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals,
 victim advocates and the faith based community and author.. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing 
prevention and solutions within the community to the workplace. Host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show,"Time'sUp!" . She is a regular 
contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host onCrime Wire. Online contributions: Forbes : 
Crime, She Writes providing commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up! 
a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crime Susan is also the daughter of a Chicago Violent Crimes detective who murdered her mother
before committing suicide.

Holding My Hand Through Hell

Holding My Hand Through Hell the latest book by Violence Prevention Specialist, 

Susan Murphy Milano, is slated for release on October 3, 2012.

To place your *order CLICK HERE

Based on a true story, told with the flow of a novel, spiced with frank wisdom and wit, Holding My Hand Through Hell
 encourages the reader to immerse themselves into this family’s life and is an inspiration to become an advocate for 
change in this world we all share. This book will incite discussion, debate, and heightened awareness about hope,
survival, abuse, murder, and its impact on our society. In the end, it will leave readers both applauding this 
woman as well as wondering how she escaped, sometimes at the eleventh hour. Twenty years later, she has 
realized that God must have been holding her hand through hell, delivering her from the evils of her life in order to 
save others.
Includes a foreword by Diane Fanning, Edgar nominated award-winning, true crime author.
This poignant well-written book tells the story of a police officer’s family and one daughter’s quest for justice 
long after'the heart-wrenching murder of her mother. Susan Murphy Milano embraces a legacy of unconditional
 love and faith to triumph over a life plagued with unspeakable abuse and pain.
Website: Susan Murphy-Milano

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