A jury found Brian Cole guilty of murdering his wife Heather Mallory, 32. She initially went missing in March of 2008. During a heated argument in the home, and because Heather was ending her violent relationship with Cole, he beat and then strangled her to death, then stuffed her body in a duffel bag, hiding it in the forest.
Heather was listed as a missing person until 2010. Her husband, just as many of those who kill their wives and girlfriends “claim” she took off and he did not know anything as to her whereabouts. Cole, like so many others before him, are not able to allow the person in the relationship to leave with their life. He watched her die, his last act of control over her as a punishment for wanting out.
Cole moved out of the State of Oregon two months after Heather was reported missing, moving to Idaho with the couple’s young son. Cole likely believed that if he moved away, authorities wouldn’t charge him with her murder. It should be noted that the jury read the verdict, he cried like a cowardly baby.
When Brian Cole murdered Heather, he didn't just take her life. He hijacked his young son from forever knowing the love of his amazing mother, forever.
Intimate partner homicide continues to the number one cause of death to those whom experience violence in their relationships.
Before anyone says to their husband or boyfriend they are ending the relationship; they must complete the abuse affidavit and video as exampled below:
The Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit: A Victim’s Voice(c)Domestic violence or intimate partner victims now are able to provide information, in their own words, about the fears, dangers, experiences they have had at the hands of their abuser. The" Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" or "EAA" records victim's stories, histories, and experiences which are preserved and stored on their behalf. These videos will provide answers to the many questions, allegations, and fears that arise when a person has disappeared, gone missing, or been found dead.
Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.
Numerous cases, such as missing mother Susan Powell of Utah, Kelly Rothwell of Florida, and women like Stacy Peterson, where the victim’s police officer husband is the person of interest, is the classic example of the benefits of this type of evidence. If Stacy Peterson, or any woman found murdered or is missing, had done an Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit, ON TAPE, from following the information in the “Time’s Up" book on a flash drive, they would be able to describe:
- threats made against her life or wellbeing, including details of how the perpetrator would carry out the threat
- incidents of past abuse that the victim has endured
- admissions or comments made to her about other victims or people abused
- where evidence or weapons would or could be located
- possible alibis that the perpetrator would make up in his defense (including identification of people who could be co-defendant’s or co-suspects)
- portray visible injuries or marks
If you are in a relationship that has a history of violence, simply mustering up the courage to confront the person and say it is over, without the proper tools, can cost you, your life!
The book "Time's Up A Guide on How To Survive and Abusive and Stalking Relationship" is the prescription that every person must obtain before they announce they are leaving. Below is an example from Chapter 4, one of many unique tools provided in the book. It is available onAmazon.com, or you can purchase via e-book or on a CD. If you have questions, the email address is: email@example.com
Susan is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talkhttp://www.herewomentalk.com/and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr Laurie Roth. Susan is a survivor- the daughter of a police officer family intimate partner homicide by her father who murdered her mother before committing suicide.
Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/