Family Courts:" Mothers Without Custody"-The Susan Murphy Milano Show: Wednesday September 1, 2010

"I am a mother, a daughter, a sister, your neighbor, your co-worker and or friend. I am only one of thousands of Battered Mothers and battered children struggling daily to keep our children safe ourselves alive. Many have not survived. I pledge to my many sisters-and all our children, those who have fallen and those who still stand, being brutalized daily, weekly, year after year- by a system that is supposed to protect, the Courts continue to punish battered mothers and our battered children. United we carry forward the unheard cries of our children."

On the Susan Murphy Milano Show: Todays guests will be Barry Goldstein is a former attorney and author of the book, “Scared to Leave Afraid to Stay,” and newly released book, "Domestic Violence, Abuse and Child Custody" as well as an advocate for women abused by their partners and sometimes the court system.

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And Claudine Dombrowski a noted expert on Mothers Without Custody, who herself is currently being victimized by the family courts in Kansas City, Mo.

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Been there, done that…” Susan Murphy- Milano has turned a tired phrase into demonstrable realism through the gift of her newly published book, "TIME'S UP: A GUIDE ON HOW TO LEAVE AND SURVIVE ABUSIVE AND STALKING RELATIONSHIPS

(Susan Murphy Milano, is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Psychopathy Education for more information visit http://www.saferelationships.com/ and is the author of the new book "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and where ever books are sold.)

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.

"Multiplying Evil"

The body of missing Orgeon mother Heather Mallory was found last week in a forest. She had not been seen since her husband Brian Cole claimed she simply vanished.

Another angry controlling abusive husband decided when Heather announced the marriage was over and she was seeking a divorce he would in my opinion, take her very life.

On Friday July 3, 2010, Portland, OR., police said that 37-year-old Brian Cole was arrested for her murder in Sagle, Idaho, and is awaiting extradition.

At the time Heather vanished the husband told authorities "his wife drove away angry and never returned." How often have we read that wives and mothers in abusive marriages or relationships somehow just picked up and left? This case reeked as do most we read about when a victim of abuse decides to move on with their lives minus the abuser.

Notice how the abuser begins weaving their web of lies. If you recall Josh Powell ( wife Susan Powell)of Utah; Craig Stebic (wife Lisa Stebic) of Illinois; Drew Peterson (Stacy Peterson) of Illinois; Shon Pernice (wife Renee Pernice) Kansas City or George Parker (wife Theresa Parker)Atlanta, GA, all have the same similar stories about what happend to their wives.

With the exception of Theresa Parker the women missing all had kids. And do not believe for a minute they would ever leave their children behind. These missing women and mothers were each married to contolling abusive husbands.

I realize that when Martin Luther King spoke or wrote about violence he did not intend to apply his words of wisdom to victims who have lost their lives to controlling, angry men hell bend on their own justice. The abuser who preys and kills their loved ones is summarized below in words written over 45 years ago.

"The ultimate weakness of violence is that it is a descending spiral, begetting the very thing it seeks to destroy. Instead of diminishing evil, it multiplies it. Through violence you may murder the liar, but you cannot murder the lie, nor establish the truth. Through violence you may murder the hater, but you do not murder hate. In fact, violence merely increases hate. So it goes. ... Returning hate for hate multiplies hate, adding deeper darkness to a night already devoid of stars. Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that."

Tracking Those In The Name of Justice

Intimate Domestic Violence Homicides is an Internet site providing a national compilation of daily news articles about family violence murder and suicides. "Most mornings I wonder when society is going to realize intimate violence makes victims of us all."

This important site is the brain child of Cathy Church whom is also the Executive Director of Access Justice NOW. The site also includes a google map chart indicting each tragedy. The site is important in bringing awareness to the plight of victims after a tragedy. And sadly, it is an important tracking information site of the men whom not only kill their spouse or girlfriend, but the children.

The site also advocates assistance for those who have been victims killed.

Do Not Let a Victim Die in Vain
If you have a family member, friend or loved one who has been killed because of intimate or domestic violence, do not let their death be in vain.
Access Justice Now, a non-profit dedicated to seeking justice on behalf of intimate and domestic violence victims, may be able to help.

Go to http://www.accessjusticenow.org/ and fill out the Legal Assistance form at the bottom of the home page if you feel the death of your friend or loved one could have been avoided had authorities taken steps to enforce the law.
Everyone Deserves Justice, Everyone!

Maureen Weaver's Murder and the Media

Maureen Weaver died last Thursday in San Diego. Her son Tyler turns ten years old this weekend and the birthday party his mother was planning has been canceled. His birthday celebration has been replaced with attending his Mother's funeral.

Maureen was found dead in the driveway of her home. The crime scene was so gruesome a news chopper captured the tragedy from a distance. Authorities immediately placed Tyler Weaver into protective custody.

Tyler was only two years old when his parents divorced. Frank Weaver was said to have a violent temper. And he had a drinking problem. Just two years before they divorced Maureen filed a police report against Frank for attacking her in their home. Frank was placed on probation for the assault.

When the news broke in San Diego of her death, folks on the Internet speculated and wrote less than favorable remarks regarding the crime when it was mentioned that her ex-husband was a possible suspect. Just shows the public's lack of awareness and understanding of these types of crime.

Yesterday, good old Frank was arrested in Idaho and taken into custody by police.

Did Frank Weaver murder his former wife and mother of his child Maureen Weaver?
Yes, he most certainly did.

Is it necessary for photo's of the Maureen Weaver murder scene to be posted on the Internet? What purpose does it serve the community and loved ones left behind to display such bloody graphic pictures?

Do those individuals who put them up on their Internet news media forum have children?

How would they feel if they were a crime victim knowing their ten year old son will soon discover bloody photo's of the most important person in this child's life, his mother.

If you want to properly cover the real stories behind the crimes women endure across the country three hundred and sixty five-days a year by those they loved or once loved. Head on over to the criminal courts building. Any city in any state will do. Report on the real stories and how often their cries for assistance fall on deaf ear, repeatedly. Or consider doing an in depth behind the scenes investigation on what a victim of violence must do in order to remain safe and alive.

And cover those lives who are not far themselves from taking a trip on a medical examiners gurney into the county morgue.

Pictures of this particular crime need to be removed over at the abc news site in San Diego.

Showing respect, especially during this time, is the very least you can do.

News sources: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/24806935/

May 23, 2008: Deputies: Santee Woman Was Murdered
May 23, 2008: Court Records May Offer Clues To Santee Slaying
May 23, 2008: Woman Found Dead In Driveway Identified

Drew Peterson: Camp Sticky Marshmallow Update Day #136

The legal team is now using new words as they prepare for their day in a courtroom, should it ever arrive, when an arrest is made in either case. I was struck by an article that appeared here: Title of article:" Lawyer Claims Vendetta"
http://www.suburbanchicagonews.com/heraldnews/news/843782,4_1_JO15_PETERSON_S1.article

Definition of a Vendetta for those who attempt to throw it out and see what sticks is:

a feud in which the relatives of a murdered or wronged person seek vengeance on the murderer or wrongdoer or on members of that person's family ;
any bitter quarrel or feud ;

What is the legal team of campfire roasters implying in using this terminology? There is no bitter battle. Can you blame friends and family for wanting to know where Stacy Peterson is?
Certainly, not. After all, it was Drew Peterson who said himself, "she is where she wants to be".

And it is not the neighbors "job" to locate Mr. Peterson's wife, who according to the legal team of roasters, obviously believes Sharon and her son Roy should be doing.

No one, sir, is seeking anything, but the truth. And for you or anyone, particularly those who have been arrested for domestic violence themselves, or been visited at their own home by members of a swat team, to imply otherwise further proves the camp marshmallow club of offenders is alive and well.

Now, 136 days have passed, the children are still without their mother. The world is a cold enough place when the only warmth and love of a woman a child knows is abruptly taken from them at the most important time of their lives.

Meanwhile, those who are volunteering their own time to locate the "potential homicide" sister, friend, relatives and neighbors of Stacy Peterson, please visit the website at :http://www.findstacypeterson.com/ . Now more than ever, the family of Stacy Peterson needs you support !

Drew Peterson: Camp Sticky Marshmallow Updates-Day #134

It is day 134 and Stacy Peterson who vanished on October 28, 2007, now considered a "potential homicide victim" has yet to be found.

This past weekend the headline in the tribune read- Investigations into Kathleen Savio's death could have political implications
Coroner's election rival, woman's relatives say probe was handled poorly--Excerpts From Article

The second investigation into the death of Drew Peterson's third wife and a new autopsy indicating she was murdered have rekindled smoldering hostilities between former and current state's attorneys and fueled a challenge to Will County's longtime coroner.

At the time, then-State's Atty. Jeff Tomczak was gearing up for what would become an acrimonious and losing election rematch with Democrat James Glasgow. Tomczak, a Republican, had won their 2000 matchup with help from an army of political workers sent by his father, Chicago water department official Don Tomczak, but the rematch played out against the backdrop of Don Tomczak's federal corruption trial.

During that time, the investigation into Savio's death went nowhere, and questions about whether her case was adequately investigated have now intensified.

Why aren't heads rolling? Politics and murder? What else has Will County botched up because of politics. Do we have to wait for more missing, or vanished bodies or relatives to literally beg for a proper investigation?

All this hand holding in Will County I think now the US Attorney's Office needs to step in and close this dance card.

The family of both Kathleen Savio and Stacy Peterson need to contact the US Attorneys Office as well as the media. In my opinion, there is enough fire power in the forged doctored will and statements made by the "Suspect" for the State to make an arrest.

Doesn't anyone find it odd that 134 days later, everyone is still holding hands?

134 Days, have passed and only one person has told the world "Stacy is where she wants to be".

To learn more about the case and current news please visit http://www.findstacypeterson.com/