Domestic Violence Awareness

The Legacy of Susan Murphy Milano lives on through Document The Abuse and the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit (EAA)

In November of 2011 The Roth Show featured Susan Murphy Milano, Attorney Holly Hughes and the developer of the iEAA Apple App, Chet Hosmer, on the show to explain the details of how the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit (EAA) should be used. Not only has it been used in several high risk domestic violence cases, but those who created their personalized EAA are still alive to tell about it.

The Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit is a revolutionary new tool described and detailed in the book, Time’s Up: A Guide on How to Safely Leave an Abusive and Stalking Relationship by Susan MurphyMilano.  Since the release of the book on April 12, 2010, thousands have become aware of a new standard of safety which goes well beyond current planning measures for abuse victims. Used by hundreds of advocates and victims, they are the living testament to the success of the EAA.

The world knows the passion and brilliance of the late Susan Murphy Milano's work in the field, the thousands of lives she was able to save, and the sense of urgency she had about the EAA and documenting the abuse of victims in a way that is beneficial to them, strengthening a possible prosecution, and not, in her words, just "lip service."

Through her partnerships with Sandra L. Brown of The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Neil Schori of Naperville Christian Church, Susan and her work were instrumental in the creation of Document the Abuse.Com where information about the EAA is explained, resources are listed and those qualified to assist are certified.  Several individuals are skilled in assisting victims, including Tracey Murphy on the west coast and Michelle Harkey on the east coast, who have had positive results.

This nugget of gold broadcast explains in detail the legal and forensic benefits of the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit and how it is the first step a victim should take, before ever announcing she's leaving or suing for divorce. It insures her testimony should anything negative happen to her, it records the history of abuse towards the victim or the children who are often used as ammunition in the battle to hurt each other in a contentious breakup.

In this podcast listeners will learn:

• The challenges of prosecutors to get around the hearsay of witnesses after the fact
• The forensic advantages for law enforcement built into the iEAA Apple App
• How the EAA circumvents Crawford v Washington and the right of a defendant to confront the accuser
• Explanation of the "forfeiture clause"
• How a technology company stepped up to help create the iEAA Apple App

Important Books by Susan Murphy Milano for Victims of Abuse:

Time's Up, A Guide on How to Leave an Abusive and Stalking Relationship (Kindle)
  Time's Up: How to Escape Abusive and Stalking Relationships Guide [Paperback]
  Moving Out, Moving On: When a Relationship Goes Wrong Workbook [Paperback]
  Holding My Hand Through Hell: A Real Life Journey of Hope, Survival, Murder, and Abuse [Kindle Edition]
  Holding My Hand Through Hell [Paperback]

What Would Susan Say: The Susan Cox Powell Video Testimony

Recently released documents in the Susan Cox Powell disappearance, especially a written last will and testament and video made by Susan, indicate that she was in imminent danger and she knew it. In the video we see her laying the groundwork and instruction should something happen to her, as well as in notes she wrote indicating that, ..."if something happens to me it may not be an accident."

This case was one that Susan Murphy Milano wrote about and talked about extensively. (Below are links to some of the posts she wrote.) She had Susan Cox Powell's parents on radio shows along with their attorney Anne Bremner whom she talked to frequently about the case.

According to Susan, and some of the conversations we had about it, the writing was on the wall, Josh Powell had intimate knowledge about what happened to his wife on the night he took two small children camping in freezing weather after dark. Add in the later interviews with his father, still incarcerated Steven Powell, and the soup gets even spicier. She felt that Steven Powell could have possibly been the mastermind behind the whole crime given his obsession with something he could not have, his son's wife.

We are all familiar with the incidents that occurred since the beginning of this case in December of 2009, and the last one standing is Steven Powell. Josh Powell incinerated himself and his children after a social worker came by for an appointed visitation, and his brother, who some believe was also involved, has committed suicide.

By all indications Susan Cox Powell was attempting to create an Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit (EAA), but what went wrong, and why didn't it accomplish what she wished it would?

• There were no incident or police reports filed (that we know of) to indicate violence in the home, Susan only spoke about her unhappy marriage to friends as far as we know. (Hearsay) But, Josh Powell had violent tendencies as indicated in the treatment of his own mother.
• To document the abuse Susan had a handwritten "last will and testament" but it was not witnessed and notarized (that we know from news reports).
• After creating the handwritten will and the video testimony, Susan locked it away in what she thought was a safe place, but, by all reports, she didn't give a copy to relatives, trusted friend, or attorney.
• Most likely the video and will may not hold up as evidence in court, it would depend on the jurisdiction and laws for that state.

Susan Cox Powell tried, she knew enough about her own situation to know she was in danger, and to put her impressions in writing and video. She felt that something was going to happen, intuitively wanting to protect her children and the assets, she did all she knew to do.

Had Susan created an EAA with a trained advocate things may have turned out differently for her and for her children. Although hindsight in this case is 20/20, the information we know could possibly save the life of another in the same situation. 

A person trained to assist in the creation of an Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit would know how to have everything in order, signed, witnessed and notarized, to insure that if it ever needed to be presented to a prosecutor, law enforcement investigator, or to the court, that it would have the best chance of being the voice of the victim, whether or not that victim was disabled, missing, or deceased. It would also contain details about the possible perpetrator that would give investigators avenues to take to uncover evidence and proof.

It's a relatively simple process, and those who have created it are all still alive to testify to it's usefulness,  in fact it has the effect of empowerment and peace of mind to most of those who have created their individualized safety plan and the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit.

On the website, Document the Abuse, Sandra L. Brown, CEO of The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and colleague of Susan Murphy Milano, has assembled comprehensive information about lethality assessment, how to create the EAA, how to become certified to train others, and lists of all providers and community partners that are committed to help insure the safety of victims of family violence.

What Would Susan Say:

Nine emails were provided to the newspaper after Susan Powell disappeared in December 2009, but at the request of the provider, the newspaper held back on publishing them until now. 

"Every moment I step back and take stock of what I'm dealing with, it feels like a never ending cycle but I'm too afraid of the consequences (sic) losing my kids, him kidnapping, divorce or actions worse on his part, if I take a stand on one of his ultimatums like spending $20 on the counseling co-pay or cutting off access to my pay check," she wrote. 

When Susan Cox Powell vanished, it was disclosed by the oldest of the boys, "mommy went on a camping trip with us but she didn't come back." West Valley city police, for unknown reasons, decided to sit on evidence; blood, child's disclosure, a letter found in Susan's drawer at work stating "if something happens to me." There was enough within weeks to prevent Josh Powell from leaving the state of Utah and making an arrest. What in God's name were they waiting for?   (from May 1, 2012 post)

Help keep Susan Murphy Milano's legacy moving forward into the future, a future where there is absolute help for victims of violence, female and male.

If you're a victim, read Holding My Hand Through Hell, you will find yourself and your story somewhere in this book,  Susan's true crime memoir is a must. 

If you are thinking about ending a relationship, before you make any announcements or plans, read Time's Up, prepare your personal Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit and individualized safety plan to insure that you've done all you can.

Click on the book covers to purchase.

*Susan Murphy Milano lost her battle with cancer on October 28, 2012. To keep her work and her memory alive, I will be writing entries to her blog hoping to keep her many loyal readers and keep attention on the cases which she herself wrote about. Sometimes a case screams to be heard, a case that Susan herself would want to write about, those are the ones I will occasionally attempt to present as "What Would Susan Say."......Delilah (ImaginePublicity)

Disclaimer: I am not a trained or certified advocate, only a close friend and colleague of Susan Murphy Milano and was appointed administrator of her online sites. The opinions and case speculations do not necessarily mean that I'm an expert in domestic violence, only in the sense that I had the privilege of working with Susan on a daily basis, editing her blogs and books and sharing in her vast knowledge.

http://murphymilanojournal.blogspot.com/2009/12/not-your-average-camping-trip.html
http://murphymilanojournal.blogspot.com/2010/11/susan-powell-to-be-chewed-up-like.html
http://murphymilanojournal.blogspot.com/2010/11/susan-powell-part-2-to-be-chewed-up.html
http://murphymilanojournal.blogspot.com/2010/11/susan-powell-part-3-she-knows-she-will.html
http://murphymilanojournal.blogspot.com/2011/09/susan-cox-powell-father-in-law-arrested.html
http://murphymilanojournal.blogspot.com/2012/05/lesson-for-world-susan-cox-powell-and.html

What Would Susan Say: Where's Stacy?

Is it ironic that on October 28, 2007 Stacy Peterson was never heard from again, silenced in the prime of her life, most likely at the hands of her husband Drew because of the secrets she held so long?

On October 28, 2012, another Sunday morning, exactly 5 years later, another voice, Susan Murphy Milano, was silenced in the prime of her life, taken by the hands of an abusive disease, because of the secrets she held so long that caused pain and stress in her life and contributed to her disease.

What would Susan say?

After a week of being in the fog zone, with time being insignificant, you can almost hear Susan shouting,

"Ok, enough about me already! You all have work to do! It's not about me, you know where I am, but, how are you going to find Stacy?"

From the beginning days of the Stacy Peterson case Susan was deeply affected, not only because she recognized the fact that Stacy most likely wasn't coming back, but because she saw similarities between Drew Peterson and her police officer father, the smug attitude and the fact that each of them thought they could get away with what they had done behind closed doors.

Immediately Susan picked up on the nuances of the case, before national media attention, and made no bones about what she wrote, sympathetic to the family members, but calling out what she saw from first hand experience living with an abusive cop. She saw through Peterson and his "Legal Marshmallow Roaster" attorney and knew exactly what they were up to, doing everything to divert attention away from Stacy.

In the midst of the circus of media, online forums, and news reports was a young mother, Stacy, who held within her being a secret she hoped would be more of an insurance policy. Stacy confided this secret and most likely lost her life because of it.

Because of Stacy, Susan was inspired to create the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit. Had Kathleen Savio had the opportunity to create her own EAA, perhaps Stacy would still be around. Had Stacy done the EAA, the public would not have been subjected to the years of buffoonery created by Drew Peterson and his campfire team of attorneys and public relations ringmasters.

Peterson’s pattern of conduct and actions are important as it relates to Stacy Peterson. She can be placed in the marital home the morning she disappeared, so we know she and Peterson were in that house. From Sunday morning until the following day, there is a window of opportunity for Peterson, and when the coast is clear, in my opinion, he takes her out of the house. How far is he really going to drive? Does he go to one of two camp grounds with which he is familiar within an hour’s drive of the house? Does he go to a more obvious and public location, perhaps in plain site and one that is familiar to him? We do not know because Stacy Peterson is still out there someplace waiting to be found.......Stacy Peterson's Tragedy: Saving the Lives of Others, October 27, 2011

Now that Drew has been convicted of the murder of his previous wife, Kathleen Savio, and we see the latest news about appeals and possibly a second circus act, Susan would want us to remember the most important fact:

STACY PETERSON IS STILL MISSING.

Whatever the significance of the October 28 date may be, it's no coincidence in the universal order. It's a date that both Susan and Stacy will be remembered in the future, somehow still connected to each other.

The world has the opportunity to change the way intimate partner violence and homicide is handled, something Susan vowed she would do in 1989.  The challenge is: "Who Can Fill Her Shoes?"

On October 28, 2012, Susan Murphy Milano lost her battle with cancer. 

Her latest book, a "true crime memoir" based on the experiences of her life, HOLDING MY HAND THROUGH HELL, was released earlier in the month. 

To order a copy go directly to the publisher, Ice Cube Press (http://icecubepress.com) or Amazon and Barnes&Noble, or ask your local book stores to order it.

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Join Me Sunday at Naperville Christian Church!

Susan Murphy-Milano returns to the church where the revolutionary new tool for victims of abuse, the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit (EAA), became a reality. Pastor  Neil Schori of Naperville Christian Church in Naperville, Illinois, invited Murphy-Milano to speak to the congregation, guests and friends, about what an important role the church has played in making a difference in the lives of several abuse victims who have found sound counseling and information from Pastor Schori over the last few years.

Partners in the new site, Document the Abuse.Com, Neil and Susan have worked closely to provide the EAA and information to as many as possible through providing direct and indirect services to victims leaving an abusive relationship. Along with colleagues, Sandra L. Brown, MA and Attorney Holly B. Hughes, the site allows victims, as well as service providers, to learn about the EAA and how it impacts and saves lives. There is certified training available for advocates, service providers, first responders, law enforcement, and prosecutors and attorneys.

Pastor Schori will lead a Q&A with Susan in the morning service covering the highlights of her life's work, and she will return for the evening service to share how everyone can easily become involved in the mission.

Pastor Neil Schori has taken the lead in addressing the issue of family violence within the faith-based community, and as a result, has provided a safe haven within his home church, as well as encourage other pastors and churches to take up the responsibility for those in their own churches.  Both Neil and Susan feel deeply that the faith-based community must take a stronger role in assisting victims within their own affiliations. With budget cuts for social services closing many shelters and service providers, the fellowship of faith must step in and, along with proper training, have the ability to counsel and provide tools for victims.

Take advantage of the opportunity to hear Susan Murphy-Milano and become a part of the solution she and Pastor Neil Schori have to offer!

For information about Naperville Christian Church, worship schedules and other activities available, please refer to the church website, NapervilleChristian.Org.  Pastor Neil Schori's personal blog: NeilSchori.Com

For information about Susan Murphy-Milano:  SusanMurphy-Milano.Com

Susan's Blogs:  MurphyMilanoJournal    ConqueringCancer.Me

Susan's latest book, Holding My Hand Through Hell,  will be available in October, and her previous books, Defending Our Lives, Moving Out, Moving On, and Time's Up are available through Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Books-A-Million and local retailers.  Time's Up can be ordered as an Ebook directly from Susan on her website and blog, or as a Kindle version through Amazon.

My Husband is a Murderer with Sandra Brown Today on Anderson Cooper

Sandra L. Brown on Anderson Cooper: My Husband is a Murderer

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Sandra L. Brown, author of Why Women Love Psychopaths and How to Spot a Dangerous Man  lends her expertise to the panel on Anderson Cooper Show, Friday, April 13. Go to AndersonCooper.Com for local times and listings.

What would you do if you found out the man you planned to spend the rest of your life with had a dark, violent past? Would you be able to spot the warning signs?

Anderson speaks with the D.C. Sniper’s ex-wife, Mildred, who reveals the shocking reason behind her former husband’s acts of terror. He also talks with other women who fell in love… only to learn that their men had violent and sometimes criminal pasts.

Sandra L. Brown, MA is the Founder and CEO of The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is recognized for her pioneering work on women’s issues related to relational harm with Cluster B/Axis II/Sociopathy/Pyschopathy disordered partners. She specializes in the development of Pathological Love Relationship clinical training and survivor support services. Her books, CD’s, DVD’s, and other training materials have been used as curriculum in drug rehabs, women’s organizations and shelters, women’s jail and prison programs, school and college-based programs, inner city projects, and various psychology and sociology programs and distributed in almost every country of the world.

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How to Survive a Relationship During Divorce and Custody: The Susan Murphy Milano- Show January 19, 2012 at 2:00 PM Eastern

The Susan Murphy Milano Show, “Time’s Up!”

Thursday, January 19, 2pm ET

Listen LIVE at: Here Women Talk

Sandra L. Brown, M. A. from The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education, and Susan Murphy Milano welcome a special guest, Tracey Murphy, to the show.  Tracey is the co-host of the radio show “Survivors Speak Out” on Dreamcatcher’s Talk Radio.

If you’re living in an abusive hell, this is a show you will want to make a point to listen to.  BEFORE you announce to your abuser that it’s over, you are leaving, or you are filing for divorce, there are specific steps you must take to manage your safety. Do not walk out with out it!

Listen Live by go to www.herewomentalk.com 

The Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit (E.A.A.)© is the mastermind process of violence expert Susan Murphy Milano that combines videotaping of an abuse victims’ actual words attesting to abuse, with witnessed and notarized legal documents that successfully satisfy legal hurdles often faced in intimate partner violence and stalking cases.

Document the Abuse.Com contains vital information on how the EAA can support each case of abuse from the perspective of the first responders and advocates, to an appearance in court.  It explains the legal benefits to the abuse victim, whether they are able to testify or not, how their words are forever documented and hold up in court, much like a Living Will.

www.documenttheabuse.com

Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases.

 A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals, victim advocates and the faith based community and author.. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing prevention and solutions within the community to the workplace. Host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show,"Time'sUp!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host onCrime Wire. Online contributions: Forbes : Crime, She Writes providing commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up! a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crime.

The Holiday Season: Kill Thy Partner is in Full Force

Listen up! If you are going through a break-up or divorce, extra caution is urged if you plan on being around in 2012 and beyond.

www.documenttheabuse.com

The holiday season presents additional dangers to victims of intimate partner violence and stalking.  As an example: you are married with two children the relationship has been verbally abusive for as long as you can remember.  You can't breathe in your own home.  As a couple you have or are in counseling. You have tried talking, crying, pleading for things to be different.  Everything you attempt, fails.  Last resort is a divorce.  You talk with a few trusted people, do some research on the Internet and you decide to hire an attorney and begin divorce proceedings.  It is not as "simple" as it sounds.

Once you have expressed,verbalized or announced it is over to this person, without a real game plan of a strategy, you and or you children could be murdered. Lives in cities across the country are being lost over the "unexpected."  Being caught off guard.  In relationships that were never physically violent, only verbally.  The women while alive never believed "he would take it that far" or "he would contemplate murdering their own children."  A victim believes those who are murdered are from another population of society, "oh no it could never, ever be me."  Those women you are reading about who are  murdered don't live on the moon.  They are not from a foreign country.

Go to your bathroom mirror.  Take a good look at yourself, that is while you still can.  Yes, this was not in your life plan.  All you ever wanted was to love and be loved.  It didn't work out the way you envisioned your life.  Now you are telling someone whom you once deeply loved with all your heart, it's over.  But, they do not hear you. Instead your partner interprets your words as  "I am leaving you to find someone better." I know it is not what you said, but your partner is not listening. They also hear and feel rejected by you.  With rejection creates anger and it begins to brew inside of them similar to an overheated radiator on an engine.  From the moment you actually say out loud "we are done" there is no more trust on any level.  Trust that if you have children, your partner will remain in their lives.  Trust that you will not change passwords on accounts preventing assets.  Trust that you will not bleed the financial assets bone dry.

All bets are off! The person whom you believe you know like a pair of comfortable shoes, forget, it! Now, it's you against him.  Your partner holds an emotional grudge ready to explode when you least expect.

So, before you make a move, obtain a copy of the book "Time's Up A Guide on how to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships."  Available on line at Amazon.com, Kindle or in E-book at www.susanmurphymilano.com  This is not about "selling you a damn book. It is about keeping you safe and alive.  Something my own mother lost on January 19, 1989.  She was just like you.  My mother believed my father who also happened to be a Chicago police detective would never follow through on his promise, if she ever left to kill her.  My mother was tricked into meeting my father who had told her she needed to sign papers in order to have the house sold.  That was not true as she signed a quit claim deed in divorce court.  But my mother was so overjoyed to be finally free she didn't pay attention. Too busy being happy for the first time in 28 years, finally free of the violence. It got her killed.

The Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit (available in the Time's Up book)

See example of video affidavit

An “Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" and video has the additional psychological benefit of being forced to face reality and admit that the potential for the ultimate kind of violence exists…and that if it occurs the perpetrator will be held accountable.

Domestic violence or intimate partner victims now are able to provide information, in their own words, about the fears, dangers, experiences they have had at the hands of their abuser. The" Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" or "EAA" records victim's stories, histories, and experiences which are preserved and stored on their behalf. These videos will provide answers to the many questions, allegations, and fears that arise when a person has disappeared, gone missing, or been found dead.

Recent cases, such as missing mother Susan Powell of Utah, Renee Pernice of Kansas, Kelly Rothwell of Florida, Jacque Waller of Missouri and women like Stacy Peterson, where the victim’s police officer husband is the person of interest, is the classic example of the benefits of this type of evidence. If Stacy Peterson, or any woman found murdered or is missing, had done an Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit, ON TAPE, from following the information in the “Time’s Up" book ,they would be able to describe:

• threats made against her life or wellbeing, including details of how the perpetrator would carry out the threat
• incidents of past abuse that the victim has endured
• admissions or comments made to her about other victims or people abused
• where evidence or weapons would or could be located
• possible alibis that the perpetrator would make up in his defense (including identification of people who could be co-defendant’s or co-suspects)
• portray visible injuries or marks

Below are 12 women since Monday of this week who were murdered.  Each believed they would not be killed.  (source: www.domesticviolencecrimewatch.com)

Harrisburg Teacher Killed In Domestic Dispute-Thursday, December 15, 2011

Harrisburg, PA: A Harrisburg School District teacher is dead after being shot and stabbed by her estranged husband. Tarina Price was found lying in the street just after 3 a.m. Thursday. The shooting happened in the 1600 block of Sycamore Street. Harrisburg police said Price's estranged husband, Donnell Price, shot and stabbed her during a domestic dispute.

Man Accused Of Shooting Ex-Girlfriend, Killing Her Cousin -Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Gifford, FL:  A man accused of shooting his ex-girlfriend and killing her cousin was arrested Thursday morning and booked at the Indian River County Jail.  "Sorry" was the only word LaShannon Shelly said as he was being placed in the back of an Indian River County Sheriff's Office cruiser.  Shelly, 26, turned himself in after being named a suspect in the shooting of ex-girlfriend Brittany Jackson, 18, and her 19-year-old cousin, Shanice Smith

Tulsa Shooting Turns Fatal; Suspect Also Sought In Glenpool Shooting-Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Tulsa, OK:  A woman was fatally wounded when she was shot at a Tulsa apartment complex Wednesday, and police think the shooter — thought to be her estranged husband — might have also shot someone in Glenpool and then carjacked someone near McAlester later in the day.  Victoria Turcios, 43, was found critically injured behind the apartments in the 1200 block of East 63rd Street about 3:30 p.m., officials said. She died at St. Francis Hospital about 9 p.m., Sgt. Dave Walker said.

Two Found Dead In Murder-Suicide, Police Say-Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Huntington Beach, CA:  A man and woman were found dead Wednesday morning in a Huntington Beach home, the result of what police suspect to be a murder-suicide, authorities said.  The man and woman were found in a residence in the 8800 block of Jarrett Circle just before 5:30 a.m. and were pronounced dead at the scene, according to the Orange County Coroner's Office.

Franklin County Couple Killed In Murder-Suicide-Wednesday, December 14, 2011

Louisburg, NC:  A Franklin County man killed his ex-girlfriend and then himself in a murder-suicide at a Louisburg apartment complex Wednesday morning, police said.  Chief Rick Lassiter said Gregory Hicks, 29, fatally shot Rosemary Guzman and then himself in the Franklin Court apartments, at 119-A Second St., around 8 a.m

Tahlequah Man Slain; Wife Jailed-Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Tahlequah, OK:  An apparent domestic dispute has left a man dead and his wife in jail, Tahlequah police said.  Police found George Whitehorn, 47, stabbed at least once Tuesday night in a house in the 1300 block of Nola Street. A police public information officer, Brad Robertson, said Whitehorn’s wife, Cynthia Whitehorn, greeted police from the porch of the house.

Police: Children Hear Fatal Shooting Of Mother-Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Ahwatukee, AZ:  The man who police say confessed to shooting his wife while one of his children was on the phone to a 911 operator Tuesday night is a detention officer for the state Department of Corrections.  Police said 26-year-old Anthony Philip Rinaldi was booked into jail on a charge of second-degree murder in the shooting death of his wife, 28-year-old Amanda Blaies-Rinaldi.

Police: Suffolk Man Killed Wife, Then Himself At Home-Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Suffolk, VA:  Police have ruled the two deaths at Bennetts Creek Landing on Tuesday a murder-suicide, city spokesperson Debbie George said today.  George said physical and medical evidence indicated that Stephen Laine, 50, stabbed and killed his wife, 47-year-old Kathryn Laine, before killing himself with carbon monoxide in the couple's home.

Couple Identified In Murder-Suicide Investigation-Tuesday, December 13, 2011

Sarasota, FL:  Sheriff’s detectives are investigating the gunshot deaths of a man and woman found in their home near Bee Ridge Road as an apparent murder and suicide.

On Wednesday, investigators notified next of kin and identified the couple as Ronald Eldredge, 69, and Beverly Eldredge, 67, of the 4200 block of Carriage Drive

Sources: Two Dead In Apparent Chelsea Murder-Suicide-Monday, December 12, 2011

Manhattan, NY:  Two men were killed Monday after an apparent murder-suicide inside a Manhattan apartment building.  It happened just before 11 a.m. inside the Robert Fulton Houses located at 413 West 16th Street in Chelsea.

Sources say it began when Jamie Cruz and her cousin, Brandon Romero, 20, went to the apartment of Cruz's ex-boyfriend, Kenneth Waldron, 29, to pick up her things.

Corpus Christi Police: Woman Shot To Death Monday, Alice Police Officer Arrested-Monday, December 12, 2011

Corpus Christi, TX:  A 31-year-old woman was found shot to death Monday morning at a Corpus Christi home and police arrested an Alice police officer they believe to be the shooter.  Police were called to a shooting about 7:30 a.m. in the 100 block of Highwood Street. The woman, identified by Alice police as Leslie Morin, and her mother were hiding in a closet, when the man broke open the door, grabbed his common-law wife and shot her multiple times, Ric Ortiz, chief investigator with Nueces County medical examiner's office, said.

Cops Probe Glen Head Couple’s Murder-Suicide-Monday, December 12, 2011

Glen Head, NY:  Nassau County police are investigating an apparent murder-suicide in Glen Head early Monday morning.

Officers made the discovery after checking the couple’s Cedar Swamp Road home after a concerned friend reporting being unable to get in touch with them, police said

f you are in a relationship that has a history of violence, simply mustering up the courage to confront the person and say it is over, without the proper tools, can cost you, your life! One of the major reasons women stay in abusive relationships is fear. They are afraid of what will happen to them and their children if they leave. Sadly, their fears are often justified; statistics show that a woman is at the greatest risk for injury when she announces her plans or leaves an abusiverelationship. The book "Time's Up A Guide on How To Survive and Abusive and Stalking Relationship"is the prescription, if you will, that every person must obtain before they announce they are leaving. 

Below is an example from Chapter 4, one of many unique tools provided in the book. It is available onAmazon.com, or you can purchase via e-book or on a cd. If you have questions, the email address is: timesupforjustice@gmail.com Before you decide that you have had enough and are ending therelationship, create for yourself the "Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" and video (shown below). If you do nothing else, please take one important step that if something does happen to you, if you do vanish like Stacy Peterson, Vensus Stewart, Rachel Anderson, Susan Powell, Lisa Stebic, or arefoundmurdered like Monica Beresford-Redmond, Franki Jacobson, Renee Pagel, Summer Inman,Kelly Rothwell and others where the person responsible has gotten away with murder that your voice and record of the abuse will be captured and recorded. Do it for you friends, family and loved ones. Do it for your children. Do it for you!

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up"from Courage Networkon Vimeo.

• Other Stories on the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit:
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  http://courtwatchbrevard.org/drupal/?q=node/176  (example of site using EAA)
  
  
  http://www.forbes.com/sites/crime/2011/10/30/new-technology-for-domestic-violence-and-stalking-victims/
  
  
  http://www2.scnow.com/news/grand-strand/2011/nov/15/cell-phone-app-help-domestic-violence-victims-spea-ar-2692274/  (media Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit) 
  
  
  http://www.wgntv.com/news/coverstory/wgntv-evidentiary-abuse-affidavit-new-tool-gives-abused-women-a-voice-in-courtroom-20111109,0,2614298.story (Media on EAA)
  
  
  http://www.okcfox.com/newsroom/top_stories/videos/kokh_vid_4220.shtml (Media)
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If you have questions, the email address is: timesupforjustice@gmail.com

This book doesn't merely discuss when you should leave or why you should leave, it tells you HOW you should leave. The book has step-by-step instructions how to covertly make a plan, set-up a safe escape, deal with financial issues, and the paperwork. Susan even takes you line-by-line through the process, the forms, the legal issues...she takes you by the hand, and, believe me, when you are being terrorized and you are an basket case, you don't need vague ideas, you need specific instructions. TIME'S UP can save your life and your sanity. If you need to get out, get this book before you make a mistake that could be fatal. It is money well spent. 

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Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases.


A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals, victim advocates and the faith based community and author.. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing prevention and solutions within the community to the workplace. Host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show,"Time'sUp!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host onCrime Wire. Online contributions: Forbes : Crime, She Writesproviding commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up! a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crime