Time's Up :For the Elizabeth New Jersey Police Department

After a dozen years of being told "I'm gonna blow your brains out tonight," a police officer's wife from Elizabeth, New Jersey has had enough. She has stood by and watched over the years as fellow officers did nothing to help her. Not once was a photo taken of an injury. Officers refused to take a report and arrest her officer husband after a violent rape. All in the name of the "brotherhood of the badge." The officers wife has been laughed at by responding officers, ignorned when she calls for help and at time's actually threatened "if you know whats good for you--you will just drop the charges."

Earlier today the officers wife filed for a divorce, "I refuse to live this way anymore,"she said to me. Her officer husband should have been served papers today and plans are in place for the officers wife to be out of the home. But that is not enough. Because fellow officers have aided the cowardly officer it may fuel him to create a situation where he feels invincible and is able to commit and get away with murder as we have seen in too many cases.

For this officers wife, up until now, she was being tortured in silence. Is there a chance she could be killed? My answer is yes.

I am doing everything in my power so that does not happen. There is a dangerous predator with a gun and a badge looking for his wife likely at this very moment and he must be stopped. For more on this breaking story go to "Murder in Progress: Elizabeth New Jersey"

(Susan Murphy Milano, is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction & Public Psychopathy Education for more information visit http://www.saferelationships.com/ and is the author of the new book "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and where ever books are sold. And she is the host of Time's Up on http://www.herewomentalk.com/ and she is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated show with Dr. Laurie Roth on http://www.therothshow.com/)

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.

Drew Peterson: Part 4 Profiling a Psychopath

When Stacy Cales began dating psychopath Drew Peterson, the teenager was easily swept off her feet. While they were dating Stacy received the news she was going to be a mother. Like the character Tarzan, Peterson beat on his chest shouting like an ape jumping through the forest of life , proud he had once again sired another child.
Within approximately a 30 year time frame he would show the world just how good his plumbing worked, fathering a total of 6 children.
Stacy Cales, now under the "dangerous love spell" did not to pay much attention to the drama in Peterson's life once he proposed marriage. She was too busy preparing for her own Cinderalla journey. Although not yet divorced from Kathleen Savio, Drew Peterson plowed through the dysfunctional forest in his old life to create a new palace for his future bride and unborn child. Stacy had no way to see the danger signs of being in a pathological love relationship with a psychopath. Peterson was clever and manipulative enough with Stacy to cover his scent of danger and replace it with things like a home, a nice car, clothes and jewelry. And remember she was a mere teenager, now under the spell of a psychopath.
In author Sandra Brown, M.A.; book "Women Who Love Psychopaths" she provides a checlist for Tarzan. (oops I meant Drew Peterson)
Psychopathy Charactertistics (defined)
glib and superficial charm
grandiose (exaggeratedly high) estimation of self
need for stimulation
pathological lying
cunning and manipulativeness
lack of guilt or remorse
shallow affect (superficial emotional responsiveness)
callousness and lack of empathy
sexual promiscuity
impulsivity
irresponsibility

This list applies to Drew Peterson, but it also applies to those currently involved with dangerous men as outlined in Sandra Brown, M.A., other book "How To Spot a Dangerous Man." So Peterson is an example and joins over 6 million others just like him who swing daily from the dysfunctional forest of behaviors that have already cost too, many unsuspecting women their lives.
For more information on relationships of invevitable harm visit www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com

[Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/  She is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold.  Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/ and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr. Laurie Roth  http://www.therothshow.com/) ]

Drew Peterson: The Classic Offender in Blue

Drew Peterson in my opinion, fits the profile of a classic and Dangerous Offender in Blue.

He is an attention seeker, both in public and private.

If his life seems unbelievable and exhausting, that is because he thrives on it.

The streets were his life and playground. He made it his business to learn and do his job better than most cops. He was a big fish in a small pond. It was all part of his plan.

He is a man who controls every aspect of his home life down to what brand of coffee is brought into his home.

He keeps close tabs on household spending.

He is a very giving person as long as you do as you are told, you are given the world.

The moment a woman in his life no longer provides "intimacy on demand", he begins to question their loyalty to the relationship. He stays out after shift and does not explain his whereabouts when questioned. When asked where he was or why he didn't come straight home, he responds with an all knowing cold stare. His way of punishing his woman for not being submissive enough.

When anyone in his life begins to make him unhappy by "complaining " about anything or perhaps changes they would like to see, he become's angry with them. Over time, loosing his patience and resorts to using threats and physical force.

As a dangerous "offender in blue abuser" they dread being abandoned by women. It is seen as weak and unforgiving.

Drew Peterson was likely to have known that Stacy had begun making plans to divorce him, since she had gone to the same attorney wife #3 Kathleen Savio sought in her divorce. And she disclosed her unhappiness and fears to family and a neighbor. Stacy secured a cell phone without Drew's knowledge. In the world of an "Offender in Blue", that is the worst thing anyone could do.

Stalking is also a characteristic of an "Offender in Blue", as well. From wife #2 Vicki Connely, the girlfriend, Kathleen and then Stacy. Four women that we know of, all making the exact same statements.

Offender's in Blue, either currently on the job or retired from the force, are masters at escaping detection. But, four women at different times in this Offender's life had nothing to gain in their attempts to leave this environment, other than be free from the abuse.

So while we are continuing to watch this man, who at one time held the public's trust we must remember, he is first and foremost, a classic, and dangerous offender of the worst kind.

Website and information regarding Stacy Peterson link: http://www.findstacypeterson.com/