Scott County K9 Search & Rescue Deserve's the State of Tennessee's Support

The Scott County K9 search and rescue unit assists families of loved ones; and are often called in across the county to search on missing person's cases.  Families like Jacque Waller’s the mother of three was last seen on June 1, 2011.  They along with the CUE Center for Missing Person's headquartered in Wilmington, NC and law enforcement have organized massive searches combing Cape Girardeau, MO  for Jacque Waller since she was reported missing.  

Jacque Waller an employee at the time with Anthem Blue Cross Blue Shield had moved with her triplets out of harms way, or so she wanted to believe.  The day papers were signed at the divorce attorney's office Clay Waller told Jacque she needed to pick up their son from his temporary residence.  

That day Jacque was filled with a false sense of security that she was going to be safe and finally away from her violent, and abusive husband.  One June 1, 2011 with her car parked in the driveway, Jacque rang the doorbell. Clay Waller made good on years of threats, "You'll find yourself being carried out in a body bag if you ever leave me, and your children will be motherless."  Jacque similar to the thousands of others in violent, abusive relationships thought because she'd been away from Clay he could no longer harm her, especially in giving him a good financial settlement.  But like all repeat abusive and dangerous offenders, Waller was never going to let her be free.

Prevention is the key for victims of domestic violence, abuse and stalking.  The Scott County K9, a 501C (3) charitable organization would like to bring awareness to the community in hopes of preventing mothers, sisters and victims of domestic violence from being reported missing.  

They are sponsoring events to bring awareness education and a prescription for change in the area of Intimate Partner Violence.  Law enforcement, hospital staff, social workers and those who respond to victims reaching out for service's are encouraged to attend the events listed below.

I hope to see an outpouring from the community in attendance at the events while I am in town.  I'm volunteering my time to train, teach and speak.  It's a  win-win for everyone.  The Scott County K-9 Unit receives all monies collected for tickets and books sold, the community has the opportunity to learn what they can do to prevent their own loved one or co-worker from being a victim and learning the signs and hopefully prevent someone else from being killed or reported missing.  

Help me help your Community to remove the Silence from Behind Closed Doors.

SEMO Search dogs is a non-profit, 501(c)3 organization created by the Scott Co Search and Rescue K9 Unit to help ease the financial burden incurred by search teams and personnel in the Southeast Missouri area. They depend on your donations to search and provide hope for missing loved ones families. 

Schedule of Events:

Saturday, April 28, at 5pm

Buckner's Banquet Room

132 N. Main

Cape Girardeau, MO

Tickets $30 or $250 to sponsor a table for 8, Event is open to the public

For complete details:   FLYERS SEMO SEARCH

Monday, April 30, 7pm

Miner Baptist Church

Miner, MO

FREE and open to the public

For complete details: Miner Baptist Church Event

Tuesday, May 1, 8am

Boothill Counseling

Sikeston, MO

A private presentation and training for counselors and advocates.

Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases.

 A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals, victim advocates and the faith based community and author.. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing prevention and solutions within the community to the workplace. Host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show,"Time'sUp!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host onCrime Wire. Online contributions: Forbes : Crime, She Writes providing commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up! a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crime Susan is also the daughter of a Chicago Violent Crimes detective who murdered her mother before committing suicide.  

The Susan Murphy Milano Show "Time's Up!" Highlights the Amanda Jones Case-Thursday 3/8/2012 at 2pm ET

On August 14, 2005 in Hillsboro, Mo., Amanda Jones 26 and nine months pregnant informed her family after church she was meeting with her unborn baby’s father Bryan Westfall.   Turn the time clock back to nine months earlier when she’d meet Westfall at an event and then became pregnant by him.  Amanda was going to have the baby.  Bryan Westfall shows his hand early by insisting she terminate the pregnancy, “he’d pay for the abortion.”   Here is where “pattern of conduct” in this case is important prior to Amanda vanishing into thin air. It applies to thousands of unsolved and missing person’s homicide cases each year.

 

A controlling angry individual offers a solution to what they believe is not going to happen.  When a victim doesn’t take to the idea or the resolution by someone with whom they are involved, an individual may give their victim one more chance to change their mind before committing the perfect crime. 

Often they the offender arranges an isolated location to meet with their victim, so they can “talk.”  Mind you this isn’t a crime.  Days, weeks and months prior to the location, the offender has carefully selected the area where the two will meet.  Instructions are given to a victim to meet alone because they are going to talk about private matters. 

Bryan Westfall was the last known individual to be with Amanda Jones.  This doesn’t in anyway make him responsible for where she may have ultimately ended up that day.  But, then again, an offender never owns up to their ultimate actions.  They are skilled at playing the perfect game of catch me if you can!  

Today, on the show Time's Up we will be discussing the case with Monica Caison, founder of the CUE Center for Missing Person's and Amanda's mother Bertha Propst.   

Later after the show, follow the blog and we will post the podcast and additional information on the intimate partner missing mother's case.

Listen Live at www.herewomentalk.com

Jones’s case remains unsolved.

Americas Most Wanted

CNN

Aug 29, 2008- Nationwide Missing Person Tour Comes to St. Louis

Nov 24, 2007- Missing Pregnant Woman’s Ex-Husband Dies

Aug 1, 2008-   Investigators Believe Amanda Jones Letter Not Viable

Aug 14, 2008- Police Still Hope to Find Amanda Jones Three Years Later

If you have any information concerning this case, please contact:
The Cue Center for Missing Persons at 1-910-232-1687

This year’s 8th annual conference, “In Support of the Journey” is slated for March 22-25 in Wilmington, NC and registration is available on the CUE Center website: CLICK HERE  for complete details on classes, speakers and registration.

Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases.

 A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals, victim advocates and the faith based community and author.. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing prevention and solutions within the community to the workplace. Host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show,"Time'sUp!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host onCrime Wire. Online contributions: Forbes : Crime, She Writes providing commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up! a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crime.

Jacque Waller and The Crime Within A Crime "Missing Mothers and Suspicious Deaths"

I watch the various news sites and social networks with hope that American's will "get the fact" when a mother vanishes, she didn't take off on her own. That when a mother "suddenly" goes missing or is discovered in a bathtub minus water, it was at the hands of the person with whom she was ending the relationship.

The crime that happens while still alive is in different stages for victims of intimate partner violence that leads to homicide. First, society is not all that supportive of women who stay in violent relationships. The questions always comes up" Why do you stay?" When society should really be asking why is that individual allowed to get away with acts that are criminal? They would not be able to beat a stranger. Or grab them by the hair and wipe the floor with them. Yet a person who is abusive seemingly gets away with the violence. The victim is fearful of calling the police or making a report. They feel that they can either "handle the abuse" or greater harm will come to they or their children merely by placing a phone call to law enforcement. There is no real consequences for someone who goes around terrorizing members of their family behind closed doors. The likely hood of getting arrested for drunk driving carries more weight within the criminal justice system and society. You see it is against the law to drink and drive. But it's not against the law to make someone vanish and tell the world she left on her own. Especially when you were the last person known to see them alive.

So the victim lives with the crimes committed against them, in silence, until she gains the strength and courage to leave. This is not easy for victims to accomplish as evidenced by case after case of missing mothers who are "suddenly" reported missing by family members other than their husbands. These mom's do everything in their power to give the abuser what he wants in exchange for their freedom. The abuser could care less they only want the person to pay for leaving. That can mean death.

Earlier today, on The Roth Show, with Dr. Laurie Roth, Ph.D, Monica Caison, founder of the CUE Center for Missing Persons, along with the parents of missing mother Jacque Waller; Ruby and Stan Rawson, discussed during a commercial break what may have happened in the last moments of their daughters life. Keep in mind that Jacque stood all of 5 2" inches tall and her estranged husband Clay Waller well over 6' foot in height. Clay Waller lies to his estranged wife telling her to come to the house and pick up their son. He is never in the home, but across state lines with a girlfriend in Illinois. How many seconds does Jacque have once she enters the front door before she is taken down by Waller?

Listen to The Roth Show here:

From personal experience an angry abusive partner wants to see and watch the last breathe leave the person with whom they have lost control. I would learn just how sick and twisted someone like this is when my own father audio tapped the entire murder of my own mother back in 1989, before he turned the gun on himself. Some abusers take their own lives while other play the game of "catch me if you can." In my opinion, that is exactly what Clay Waller has done.

A massive search is planned this weekend for Jacque Waller in Missouri. The Cue Center for missing person's is returning for a third week to find her, but they need the public's assistance. Teams of trained and certified cadaver dogs, horses and searchers will be combing various areas and they need the public's help with food, water and donations. If you would like to help please visit their website at www.ncmissingpersons.org.

If you have any information that could aide in finding Jacque Waller please call the confidential tip line at 910-232-1687. Or Law Enforcement with information or tips at 573-243-3151.

Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/

Susan is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/ and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr Laurie Roth. Susan is a survivor- the daughter of a police officer family intimate partner homicide by her father who murdered her mother before committing suicide.

Jacque Waller Case: Estranged Husband "Clay Waller" New Poster Boy in Intimate Partner Homicide?

Rarely do I post a photo of a "person of interest" [pictured above Clay Waller] but I am honoring the wishes of Stan Rawson, the father of missing daughter, sister and mother Jacque Waller.

"I'm gonna make him famous", says the missing daughter's father. Rightfully so, this clever, abusive coward, also a former police officer, turned rent a cop when he was dismissed by a police department, is not only an abuser of the worst kind, he believes he can get away with, in my opinion, murder.

On Tuesday, Stan and Ruby Rawson, along with Monica Caison, founder of the CUE Center for Missing Persons, joined the Crime Wire team for the hour to discuss the case.

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In this case, the last person to see Jacque Waller alive is none other than her estranged husband, Clay Waller. After meeting with the divorce attorney, Jacque meets with Clay Waller only because she is told by him that their 5 year old son is with his dad. It turned out to be nothing more than a whopper of a lie. The son was not at Waller's home, matter of fact he was in another state with an individual (a string a many women) he was seeing.

"Cowardly killer," comes to mind when I think about the power and control of a man who promised the mother of his children, the woman whom he vowed to love, honor and cherish, permanently remove her from life because she refused to be a victim of his terrorizing and violent attacks.

The divorce was not about money. The divorce was not about child support payments. The divorce was not about splitting assets from the marriage. Jacque Waller wanted NOTHING but her freedom. Allegedly, he told her, "divorcing me will be your death sentence." According to Jacque's father she was going to pay him a sum of $50,000 once the divorce was final.

I am fully aware that a person is innocent until proven guilty in a court of law. This is not about trying Clay Waller in a court of public opinion. And yes, until she is found, the case is currently circumstantial,. by circumstances that Waller himself puts in motion. Jacque Waller enters the halls of loving mother, daughter, friend, sister, now intimate partner homicide casualty.

Clay Waller doesn't help in the search for Jacque over this past weekend. That's okay, the guilty never do. But, what Waller does is drive several times past the searchers, wave, honk his horn loudly, and give those who look in his direction, the finger.( And no he didn't have a spasm) Waller was taunting and flaunting the fact that he was driving around a free man, for the moment anyway. That will change the moment Jacque is found.

There is new evidence. Law enforcement is doing a hell of a job in preparing their case. It should be no surprise that Waller hires a criminal defense attorney with a rather unique and colorful history of abuse in relationships, himself. And just because his charges were dropped from a felony to a misdemeanor had little to do with the serious nature of the crimes, in my expert opinion, and more to do with keeping his law license.

It was an honor this evening to have Mr. Waller and his fan club listen to the live broadcast. Maybe we got through to one of the handful of women he's dating, or the person who has the information about Jacque Waller and where she can be found.

Bottom line, is that the Cue Center will return this weekend and resume searching for Jacque Waller. Anyone with information, is asked to contact either the Cue Center tipline at 910-232-1687. Or law enforcement at 573-243-3151. All information provided is confidential. This means if you know anything, what you provide cannot be traced back to you in anyway.

The sooner we find her, the sooner, another alleged killer will be removed from society so he cannot harm or kill anyone ever again.

Tomorrow at 7:00 PM Eastern Time, the Family of Jacque Waller will be on The Roth Show for the hour.

To listen to the rebroadcast ff the Crime Wire show turn up your volume and it will automatically play at www.crimewiresite.com

We also discussed preparing the Abuse video and document for those in violent relationships during show. The explanation and what you or a loved can can do is below.

The Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit

An “Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" and video has the additional psychological benefit of being forced to face reality and admit that the potential for the ultimate kind of violence exists…and that if it occurs the perpetrator will be held accountable.

The Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit: A Victim’s Voice(c)
Domestic violence or intimate partner victims now are able to provide information, in their own words, about the fears, dangers, experiences they have had at the hands of their abuser. The" Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit" or "EAA" records victim's stories, histories, and experiences which are preserved and stored on their behalf. These videos will provide answers to the many questions, allegations, and fears that arise when a person has disappeared, gone missing, or been found dead.

Recent cases, such as missing mother Susan Powell of Utah, Kelly Rothwell of Florida, and women likeStacyPeterson, where the victim’s police officer husband is the person of interest, is the classic example of the benefits of this type of evidence. If Stacy Peterson, or any woman found murdered or is missing, had done an Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit, ON TAPE, from following the information in the “Time’s Up" book on a flash drive, they would be able to describe:

- threats made against her life or wellbeing, including details of how the perpetrator would carry out the threat
- incidents of past abuse that the victim has endured
- admissions or comments made to her about other victims or people abused
- where evidence or weapons would or could be located
- possible alibis that the perpetrator would make up in his defense (including identification of people who could be co-defendant’s or co-suspects)
- portray visible injuries or marks

Just think if we incorporate an effective plan and have it available for every prosecutor, law enforcement, church, family law office and social service agency across the country, lives would be saved. And I wouldn't be writing about women similar to Kathy Brados, killed by a man hell bent on power and control.

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Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.

Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/

Susan is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talkhttp://www.herewomentalk.com/and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr Laurie Roth. Susan is a survivor- the daughter of a police officer family intimate partner homicide by her father who murdered her mother before committing suicide.