Intimate Partner Violence Ends with No Answers for the Family of Police Cadet Kelly Rothwell

Kelly Rothwell had planned to move in with friends in the Palm Harbor area. Friend said that Rothwell had described Perry’s behavior as very controlling and possessive, and that he had been reading her emails.

I had hoped that authorities would have made an arrest by now on the intimate partner homicide of Indian Rocks Beach, Florida police cadet, Kelly Rothwell.

This is what is known: 

• Kelly Rothewell went to her condo to end the relationship with her abusive and violent boyfriend former New York correctional officer Dave Perry;
• On March 12th neighbors from the unit below heard thumping and noise from her unit;
• Dave Perry took off in his car sometime later in the evening;
• Dave Perry flee's like a coward to Elmira, New York where he is currently in hiding;
• Dave Perry cooperates in true offender style by providing breadcrumbs of bullshit to law enforcement, via an attorney;
• Law enforcement in Florida or New York were unable to obtain photo's of scratches, marks and possible bites likely received on Perry from Kelly as she fought, fighting for her life;
• The son of Dave Perry's attempted to removed a cardboard box from the condo and police took the box;
• The police in New York obtained a search warrant for Perry's car which I will bet he likely has had the car all ready cleaned.

What went wrong in the case:

• Kelly Rothwell confronted her dangerous abuser;
• An unknown person drove Kelly Rothwell's personal car to a street location where police found the vehicle;
• Kelly Rothwell did not prepare the Evidentiary Abuse document and video as provided in the book Time's Up a tool that must be utilized by first responders and anyone before they announce to anyone the relationship is ending. This would have assured law enforcement an immediate arrest prior to her vanishing;
• Law enforcement have yet to give the family the contact information to the CUE Center for Missing Persons; (www.ncmissingpersons.org)
• The family has yet to register Kelly's case so a coordinated search an be conducted immediately;
• A second warrant was obtained by Pinellas County Sheriff's office for another search at the residence;
• A family member gathered some of Kelly's personal items;
• In this case as it in far too many of missing persons cases, especially involving a history of intimate partner violence time has passed and the window of opportunity to obtain critical evidence evaporates with each passing day.

Going Forward:

• Cue Center for Missing Persons's needs to be contacted by law enforcement;
• The condo should be closed off, no access, until the investigation is finished;
• Law enforcement should consider bagging into evidence personal items of Perry's such as razor, toothbrush and other items they can later be tested for DNA (because we know he will not be cooperating)
• Law enforcement should consider obtaining a warrant for Perry's phone and track if possible his activity and the same goes for his son's phone going back to March 12th. (they may have even switched phones that day)

If anyone has any information about this case they are asked to contact the Pinellas County Sheriff's Office Robbery / Homicide Unit at 727-582-6200.

I cannot stress enough, if you are in a relationship that has a history of violence, simply mustering up the courage to confront the person and say it is over, without the proper tools, can cost you, your 

life!

One of the major reasons women stay in abusive relationships is fear. They are afraid of what will happen to them and their children if they leave. Sadly, their fears are often justified; FACT a woman is at the greatest risk for injury when she announces her plans or leaves an abusive relationship

The book "Time's Up A Guide on How To Survive and Abusive and Stalking Relationship" is the prescription, if you will, that every person must obtain before they announce they are leaving. Below is an example from Chapter 4, one of many unique tools provided in the book. It is available onAmazon.com, or you can purchase via e-book or on a cd. If you have questions, the email address is: timesupforjustice@gmail.com

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.

Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is also in partnership with Pamela Chapman and iAscend Programs.http://pamelachapmanl.biz

Susan is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talkhttp://www.herewomentalk.com/ and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr Laurie Roth. Susan is a survivor- the daughter of a police officer family intimate partner homicide by her father who murdered her mother before committing suicide.

National Conference for Missing Persons: March 24th -- 27th

National conference for missing persons and all who work in the arena from advocating, volunteering, investigation, search and rescue and identification process of those who are lost. This event is open to all who support the mission of finding a resolution for families who have suffered a missing loved one.

National Conference for Missing Persons

NOTICE: (This conference is a registration ONLY Conference)

HOPE LIGHTS THE WAY

The 7th Annual National Round Table Conference
March 24th Thur 27th of 2011

Mailing Address (CUE) PO Box 12714 Wilmington, NC 28405

Ph: (910) 343-1131 or (910) 232-1687 Fax: (910) 399-6137

Holiday Inn Hotel Conference Center 5032 Market Street, Wilmington, NC Please share this information to anyone in this line of work and or a family of a missing person or homicide victim.

To learn more about CUE Center for Missing Persons please visit us at our web site www.ncmissingpersons.org or email us at cuecenter@aol.com

TRAINING SESSIONS, CERTIFICATE CLASSES

Illuminations: In the Eyes of a Child, Allison West

Brief Program Description: The acclaimed artwork of a male victim of child sexual abuse provides the context for this multifaceted workshop and discussion. Through an intense and comprehensive exploration of the experience and aftermath of child victimization attending professionals will achieve new and enhanced understanding of victimization and their engagement with it. This will create the context for enhanced personal and professional skills. Non-professionals who attend this workshop be prepared for a significant level of intensity.

Police, Parents, Profilers: Investigate Criminal Profile, Pat Brown

Pat Brown is a nationally known criminal profiler, television commentator, author, and founder and CEO of The Sexual Homicide Exchange and The Pat Brown Criminal Profiling Agency. Pat has provided crime commentary and profiling and forensic analysis in over one thousand television and radio appearances in the United States and across the globe. She can be seen regularly on the cable television news programs, CNN, MSNBC and FOX, and is a frequent guest of the Today Show, the CBS Early Show, Larry King, Inside Edition, Nancy Grace, Issues with Jane Velez-Mitchell, Joy Behar, and America’s Most Wanted.

Intimate Partner Violence: ”My Loved One is Missing”, Susan Murphy Milano

Susan Murphy-Milano is a non-fiction author and violence expert and a defender of victim’s rights. In 1989, after the murder of her mother by her father, a Chicago violent crimes detective, she vowed to change the way intimate partner crimes and homicides are handled and investigated. She is host of the national radio show, ”Time’s Up!” which addresses real-life unsolved and missing person’s cases featuring family members searching for justice. Susan has appeared on numerous shows including Oprah, 20/20, American Justice, A & E, Sunday Today, E True Hollywood, A & E Biography, MSNBC, CBS, ABC, CNN. As a nationally recognized women’s advocate, Susan was instrumental in the passage of the Illinois Stalking Law and the Lautenberg Act.

Psychics & Missing Persons: Help or Hindrance?, Kelly Jolkowski and Robert Cooke

Robert Cooke and Kelly Jolkowski each have a missing child, have researched and have personal experience with persons making this claim. They’ll share their stories as well as accounts from other families who have worked with psychics.

GUEST SPEAKERS AND PRESENTATIONS

Deputy David C. Desso, Project Life Saver – New Hanover County Sheriff Office

Deputy David Desso has spent the past three years with the New Hanover County Sherrif’s Department. Prior to joining, he was with the UNC-Wilmington police department for a year, and was with the Somer, CT police department for thirty-three years. Deputy Desso enjoys working with Project Life Saver because it allows him to work at risk youth, and the elderly.

Jane Bradley, Author of “YOU Believers”

Jane Bradley’s latest novel, You Believers, is based on the true story of Peggy Carr who went missing in Wilmington, NC, and on the ensuing seven-month search for her led by Monica Caison and CUE. It is a cathartic story of casual evil and of how the worst things can be faced so that we might not only survive, but grow. Bradley is the author of two acclaimed story collections, one of which, Power Lines, was cited as a “Notable Book” by the New York Times Book Review. She’s also written a novella and a screenwriting text. She has won numerous awards for her work, including an NEA Individual Artists Fellowship and an Ohio Arts Council Fellowship. Originally from Chattanooga, she currently is a Professor of Creative Writing at the University of Toledo.

VICTIMS HOURS PRESENTATIONS

Janeane Shanahan “Missing”, Damien Sharp

Beth Profeta “Missing”, Mary Badaracco

Shelia Bradley-Smith “Missing”, Diamond & Tionda Bradley

National Candle Light Service – Honorees
March 26, 2011 @ Riverfront Park, Downtown Wilmington Waterfront – 7:30 pm, the public is welcome
Mistress of Ceremony – Frances Weller, Anchor WECT Channel 6 TV
Guest Speaker - Susan Murphy Milano “Moving Forward”
Reading of the Poem – Sheree Justus
Vocal Tribute - Mallory Malter
National Prayer – Pastor Angie Davis
Unveiling of the Wall
Service Dedication ~ In Loving Memory of

Megan Maxwell

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Conference fee: Includes all meals, materials and lodging. All conference 2011 attendees should arrive after 4:00 pm on Thursday night, March 24th and check in; the room will be listed under the main registrars name on this form.
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Shuttle Service: will be provided to all who fly into the Wilmington Airport only, once your flight information is submitted we will handle your pick up and departure through the hotel. Please do not contact the hotel to make your reservations or pick up arrangements, the CUE Center will handle it for you.

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National Candle Light Vigil Service
During the conference a national candle light service will be held to feature missing persons from across the nation and photos will be displayed on our wall that will be unveiled. If you have a missing loved one and will be attending please advise us as we will include him/her in the service. All conference attendees will be shuttled to the waterfront vigil service.

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HIGHLIGHTS OF THE 2010 NATIONAL CONFERENCE (BELOW)

Conference aims to provide training to help find missing people

Beth Bentley: Fact She is Missing!

Beth Bentley, 41 went missing on May 23^rd 2010. In my opinion, after viewing various documents and interviews this is a case of intimate partner homicide. Someone who knew Beth Bentley, in my opinion is responsible for her disappearance.

Earlier today Monica Caison, founder of the Cue Center for missing persons appeared on my show "Time's Up" along with Beth Bentley’s brother Ron Michelson to briefly discuss the case.

For months rumors have been circling since she vanished.

Fact: Beth Bentley is missing. She did not just pick up and leave to begin a new life. As in each of these cases a mother would never leave her children. And at the time of her vanishing she was allegedly pregnant.

Fact: When Beth Bentley did not return home, it was her son from a previous marriage contacted the police. Earlier reports indicated otherwise, but those reports are false. Each time her son called to follow-up he was allegedly dismissed by law enforcement and told “they were waiting for tips to come in.” When the son made posters and was going to hang them around the area and at the train station, again law enforcement allegedly said “don’t bother hanging posters it’s a waste of time.”

Fact: There has been no cell phone usage since May 23, 2010 or credit card activity.

Fact: A few months after Beth Bentley went missing, a “love interest” moved into the marital home with her children.

There is more twist and turns in this case then a tornado. In the weeks and months ahead they will be revealed.

Another disturbing fact is that on September 10, 2010, a special grand jury indicted McHenry County State's Attorney Louis Bianchi on conspiracy and official misconduct charges that accuse him of using county employees and equipment for political purposes. So that translates into the State’s Attorney’s office being turned upside down.

Given the players and the circumstances surrounding this case it may take a special prosecutor to move this case in a new direction.

Fact: The devil is in the details.

On the January 19, 2011, the Police from Woodstock said “their active investigation is over.”

This case is not over by a long shot. In my opinion, it has just begun.

On December 2, 2010, the CUE Center launched the "Miles For Beth Bentley" campaign. Please, if you are from the area help the Cue Center by posting this information in the community and on blogs, websites, churches and the community.

The link posters and other information is HERE.

And finally, Fact: Beth Bentley is missing and she deserves to be found!

There is a $5,000 reward being offered in this case. To report a confidential tip the number to call is 910-232-1687 (24 hour tip-line)

Miles for Beth Bentley Campaign

How is works…
You register at the site for “Miles for Beth Bentley” and navigate to the county you live in or are familiar with, search for any road way and adopt it. Once you adopt the road or street, you must register that information on the site. This effort will aid the search for Beth as it is imperative to locate information on her travels and or whereabouts. Each ADPOTED” road or street that is delivered posters door to door, will allow us to obtain knowledge on Beth and where might have been in her travels. This campaign is open to anyone who would like to help in this case.

Purpose:
The concept for this campaign is to garner the attention of the general public and media outlets in an effort to aid in awareness of a missing mother, Beth Bentley; and to help identify areas of interest to conduct future search efforts.

Objective:
To challenge citizens of the state of Illinois to participate in locating Beth Bentley who remains missing. We hope to eliminate roads, streets and highways in search of any clue or tip she may have left behind. Our ultimate goal to locate missing, Beth Bentley and afford her family a resolution.

Link to Mapquest to the routes that Beth may have traveled. In and around the area of the blue line is the possible directions of travel.

Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visithttp://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and SurviveAbusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talkhttp://www.herewomentalk.com/and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr. Laurie Rothhttp://www.therothshow.com/

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Thursday, January 27

2pm-3pm:

Diane Fanning

www.dianefanning.com

Diane Fanning is one of the premier True Crime authors, her latest book, Mommy's Little Girl, about the death of little Caylee Anthony. Diane also writes a fiction series featuring Lt. Lucinda Pierce, a homicide detective with an edge.

Fanning's books have been nominated for several awards, including the prized Edgar Award. One of Fanning's books, Through the Window, resulted in her testimony in court and setting a wrongly convicted person free.

3pm-4pm:

Monica Caison of CUE Center for Missing Persons and family members join us to discuss the missing persons cases of John Morris and missing mother, Melanie Metheny.
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John Morris has been missing from Dickinson, MD since July 30, 2007.

For information about him and updates go to:

www.findjohnmorris.com

Melanie Metheny, mother of 3 small children has been missing from Belle, WV since July 19, 2006. For information about her and updates go to:
www.melaniemethey.com

Known as the “Jane Wayne of Justice,” Susan Murphy Milano always stands up as a voice for those who are silenced in a world of intimidation and violence within their homes and in courtrooms across the country.

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Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visithttp://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and SurviveAbusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talkhttp://www.herewomentalk.com/and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr. Laurie Rothhttp://www.therothshow.com/