Its A Matter of Throwing Away Good Money: Mediation vs. Divorce - You Be The Judge

We all agree there is a lot of turmoil when one or both parties are ready to end the marriage and move on. In today's "Time's Up" show we provided a classroom if you will on the pros and cons of mediation v divorce.

My guest Susan Filan, attorney, mediator and Senior Legal Analyst, MSNBC, providing important information from hiring a lawyer to leaving a relationship, both male and females.

Susan Filan does not mince words, “divorce is a financial transaction just like dissolving a business, partnership or corporation. It is mostly a matter of money. But because the partnership was once romantic, and based on the most intimate bond humans can form, its disruption wreaks havoc on human emotion.

But courts are not the place to seek redress for broken hearts, angry feelings, bruised egos, or a desire to punish your departing spouse. Below is the podcast from today's show. I suggest if you want hold onto the green in your wallets, you take the time to listen to the show

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"You will pay to get divorced- but how much and to whom is more in your hands than you may realize if you keep an open heart, a cool head, and allow logic and reason, not poison emotion, to prevail."

Moving Out Moving On: Divorce and Your Options

Moving Out, Moving On will not only save you thousands in dollars, it could very well save a life!

Through clear examination, simple forms and worksheets, Moving out, Moving on , logically takes the reader through all the necessary preparation and information gathering to effectively seek legal redress, protect one’s assets and credit, address considerations regarding children, define alternate living arrangements, and deal with the myriad of financial problems and concerns surrounding a divorce or break-up. Moving out, Moving on, also addresses in detail abusive relationships, domestic violence and stalking and how to safely confront these situations.

Moving out, Moving on , is more than a simple workbook, but a true plan to take control of one’s life and face the future head on. This is not just another “divorce book” written by a so called “expert.” Moving out, Moving on, is authored by a person who truly knows…Susan Murphy-Milano

Available at Amazon.com or we have the book available for sale in pdf format you can email a request to contact@imaginepublicity.com

If you are in a relationship that has a history of violence, simply mustering up the courage to confront the person and say it is over, without the proper tools, can cost you, your life!


The book "Time's Up A Guide on How To Survive and Abusive and Stalking Relationship" is the prescription that every person must obtain before they announce they are leaving. Below is an example from Chapter 4, one of many unique tools provided in the book. It is available on Amazon.com, or you can purchase via e-book or on a CD. If you have questions, the email address is: timesupforjustice@gmail.com

Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is a specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies and high risk cases and available for personal consultations through the Institute. And is with the team of Management Resources Limited of New York.

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Anthony Bruno aka “Crime Writer” Bad Boy of Crime Featured Guest on The Susan Murphy Milano Show

2-3pm ET

Author, Anthony Bruno

Bad Guys was the first in a series of novels (Bad Blood, Bad Luck, Bad Business, Bad Moon, and Bad Apple) about FBI agents Mike Tozzi and Cuthbert Gibbons, odd-couple partners whose prime targets are New York and New Jersey wiseguys. Basing his stories on actual Mafia figures and their criminal activities, Bruno pioneered the territory that has made The Sopranos the monster hit that it is.

After the series of fiction “Bad” books, Bruno turns his talents to thetrue crime tale of The Iceman: The True Story of a Cold-Blooded Killer. The Icemanis an in-depth profile of convicted murderer Richard Kuklinski, who claims to have killed over 100 people. Kuklinski was dubbed “the Iceman” when one of his victims was found in the woods, his heart frozen solid. Kuklinski had stored the man’s body in an ice-cream truck for two years before dumping it in order to disguise the time of death. In researching this book, Bruno corresponded with Kuklinski extensivelyand interviewed him in prison-locked in a room alone with the killer, no glass partition separating them, no guards in sight.

“A film version of The Iceman will begin shooting in 2011, starring James Franco, Benicio Del Toro, and Michael Shannon in the title role.”

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Live Thursday June 23, 2011

The Susan Murphy Milano Show: "Time's Up Show" 2-4 PM Eastern

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Thursday, April 14

2pm-3pm:

Sandra L. Brown, M.A.

Founder and CEO of The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education.

Sandra is on the Board of Directors of EVAW International, and her work in the area of pathology and pathological personality disorders is known globally.

Her books, CD’s, DVD’s, and other training materials have been used as curriculum in drug rehabs, women’s organizations and shelters, women’s jail and prison programs, school and college-based programs, inner city projects, and various psychology and sociology programs and distributed in almost every country of the world.

Sandra is the author of several books, including the bestsellers, "Women Who Love Psychopaths" and "How to Spot a Dangerous Man."

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3pm-4pm:

The Unsolved Case of
Sheena Morris

Sheena was found dead in her hotel room after a domestic dispute on January 1, 2009. Very little was done in terms of any investigation.

Joining us on the show will be Sheena's mother, Kelly Osborn and Private Investigator and Chief of the Crime Wire Investigative Bureau, Tom Shamshak. We will attempt to shed new light on Sheena's case. For more details, visit the family website: http://justice4sheena.com

Known as the “Jane Wayne of Justice,” Susan Murphy Milano always stands up as a voice for those who are silenced in a world of intimidation and violence within their homes and in courtrooms across the country.

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Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is also in partnership with Pamela Chapman and iAscend Programs. http://pamelachapmanl.biz

Susan is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talkhttp://www.herewomentalk.com/ and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr Laurie Roth. Susan is a survivor- the daughter of a police officer family intimate partner homicide by her father who murdered her mother before committing suicide.

The Roth Show with Susan Murphy Milano : Guest True Crime Author Dennis N. Griffin 7:00 PM Eastern Time

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Dennis N. Griffin

True Crime Author, Radio Host and former Police Officer, Dennis Griffin joins Dr. Laurie Roth and Susan Murphy Milano on the weekly crime segment. Dennis is well known for his books on the Mob in Las Vegas including The Battle for Las Vegas, the story of the Vegas reign of Chicago mob enforcer Tony Spilotro, CULLOTTA – The Life of a Chicago Criminal, Las Vegas Mobster, and Government Witness, and his latest book,Surviving the Mob, the story of former Gambino family member, Andrew DiDonato.

Dennis Griffin is a member of the Crime Wire Investigative Bureau and co-host of the popular weekly radio show, Crime Wire on BlogTalk Radio.

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The Roth Show is a nationally syndicated talk show hosted by Dr. Laurie Roth, Ph.D., and stands on principles and leading the charge for the legions of Americans who are saying “Enough Already!”

Tina Adovasio and Kelly Rothwell: Intimate Partner Violence Leads to Homicide

“If you are reading this and find yourself in a similar situation, know that there are measures you must take before announcing the end of your relationship. These safety precautions can be found in the book, "Time's Up: A Guide on How to Leave an Abusive and Stalking Relationship" by Susan Murphy Milano. Don't take things into your own hands without expert guidance.” (Mothers Are Vanishing)



This morning the body of Tina Adovasio, nurse and mother of 4, from Bronx, New York, was discovered in a wooded area. Tina was in an intimate partner violence relationship that tragically ended in homicide; her estranged husband, a former cop. He was stripped of his police powers back in 2000 due to domestic violence charges filed by his first wife. He has refused to cooperate with police. Police tried to get a sample of his DNA earlier, he refused. As of this post he has not be charged with her murder.

(Tina Adovasio)

Today, yet another tragedy; a former cop’s girlfriend from Indian Rocks Beach, Florida is nowhere to be found.

Kelly Rothwell, (pictured below), a police cadet, was last seen Saturday, March 12, 2011. Her live-in-boyfriend, David Perry, is a recently retired New York Correctional Officer. According to accounts, Perry had a very bad temper and was controlling and abusive with Kelly Rothwell.



Kelly was going back to the home she shared with Perry on Saturday to inform him it was over (this cost is what resulted in the taking of her life by this obsessed offender). She told him she was moving out and on with her life. That is the last time anyone has heard from her. Perry was the last person to see her alive. According to law enforcement, this coward fled to New York, he refuses to cooperate with authorities, playing the offender's game of "catch me if you can." In my expert opinion, he killed her as sure as I am writing this post! In my opinion, law enforcement must not waste precious time they need to consider the following:

• For the Sheriff's office in Indian Rocks Beach Florida, time is important if they are to obtain evidence that may already be lost. Her car has already been located and there is likely not much in the way of evidence, Perry is too smart for that.
• Law Enforcement need to obtain a warrant and have Perry's car impounded.
• If his plates are Florida, they will have an easier time, it depends on what residence he has on the drivers license. Kelly Rothwell's cell phone pings need to be captured immediately.
• A warrant needs to be issued immediately by a Florida Judge so law enforcement can gain access into the condo. They can also serve the condo association and gain immediate access. The trap to all the sinks (elbow) need removed to be tested to see if there is blood still there. The same goes for the showers and bath tubs in the unit.
• Garage shoots and dumpsters on the property need to be gone through, regardless of whether or not a pick-up has occurred, they might pick up traces of blood.
• A search team with dogs needs to be dispatched to the nearby landfill, immediately.
• Cameras on the property or from surrounding buildings need to be checked.
• Sun Pass toll activity on his car needs to be investigated because he went through tolls to get to New York.
• Gas stations and ATMs within the area of the condo with a description of his car is also a way to detect activity. He had to gas up someplace-check his and her credit card activity.
• Home depot and hardware store activity should be checked.
• DNA from his personal items: shaver/razor, toothbrush, hairbrushes, combs
• Get a warrant of her cell phone changes are he texts the hell out of her before she is killed

Go to the clerk office in New York and look to see his prior criminal history. He is a repeat offender as it relates to prior relationships. His pattern of conduct constant texts, stalking, monitoring of her on-line activity 30 days before he takes her life should be important in law enforcements investigation of this case.

I cannot stress enough, if you are in a relationship that has a history of violence, simply mustering up the courage to confront the person and say it is over, without the proper tools, can cost you, your life! Don't make the same mistake as Kelly Rothwell, look at the video below and prepare, before you confront someone that the relationship is over.

One of the major reasons women stay in abusive relationships is fear. They are afraid of what will happen to them and their children if they leave. Sadly, their fears are often justified; statistics show that a woman is at the greatest risk for injury when she announces her plans or leaves an abusive relationship.

The book "Time's Up A Guide on How To Survive and Abusive and Stalking Relationship" is the prescription, if you will, that every person must obtain before they announce they are leaving. Below is an example from Chapter 4, one of many unique tools provided in the book. It is available on Amazon.com, or you can purchase via e-book or on a cd. If you have questions, the email address is: timesupforjustice@gmail.com




Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.



Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visithttp://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is also in partnership with Pamela Chapman and iAscend Programs. http://pamelachapmanl.biz

Susan is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr Laurie Roth. Susan is a survivor- the daughter of a police officer family intimate partner homicide by her father who murdered her mother before committing suicide.

Tina Adovasio: Missing Mother of Intimate Partner Violence-Bronx New York

Edwin Coello, an ex NYPD officer, claims, "he doesn't know where she is." He is referring to his estranged wife, and mother of his 5 year old daughter, Tina Adovasio, who has been missing from Bronx, NY since Friday, March 11, 2011.

According to the NY Daily News, Edwin Coello has a long history of domestic violence charges, and was fired from the police force in 2000 for violence against his first wife. As usual, history in violent homes repeats itself, and his marriage to Tina Adovasio was no exception. Records show that Coello was charged several times with violence against her, and just last month Tina filed for divorce, obviously without a secure plan in place for her safety.

Tina Adovasio, a 40 year old nurse, is the mother of four children, who her own mother, Adrienne Susco, is quoted as saying, "He lied and told the cops she had run off before and left the kids," Susco said. "Never, ever would she leave her children." As in just about all other cases where a mother goes missing, a family member makes this statement.

Coello has been questioned by authorities, but denies any involvement with Tina's vanishing; he has retained a lawyer, spurring investigators to take out a search warrant for his car which he refused to allow them to search voluntarily.

Coello admits to having an argument with Tina the night she disappeared, but says that she stormed out of their apartment, leaving everything behind, including her children. The most incriminating piece of information has been a blurry tape of Coello dragging a large duffel bag from the home, reportedly "large enough to contain a body."

The ingredients are all there, once again, for the stew that many missing mothers find themselves in. A past history of domestic violence, so bad that they interfered with his job as a police officer, a wife that had had enough and boldly made plans to end the relationship, and the fact that he was the last person to see her, all adds up to a presumption of guilt. Although not yet charged, nor convicted, and ultimately presumed innocent, Edwin Coello joins the ranks of Scott Peterson, Mark Hacking, Drew Peterson, Shon Pernice, and recently convicted murderer, Doug Stewart, as another man who thinks his wife just "ran off."

Another family is devastated by the not knowing where their loved one is, along with four children who deserve to know what has happened to their mother. Of course, hope is always there that she is found alive, perhaps safely escaping the anger and wrath of a man who's repeatedly beaten and abused her.


Tina Adovasio is described as 5-foot-5 and 135 pounds with a slim build. She was last seen wearing a black jacket, blue jeans and Ugg boots.
Anyone with information is urged to call Crime Stoppers at 1 800 577 TIPS (8477). The public can also submit their tips by logging onto the Crime Stoppers website.

If you are reading this and find yourself in a similar situation, know that there are measures you must take before announcing the end of your relationship. These safety precautions can be found in the book, "Time's Up: A Guide on How to Leave an Abusive and Stalking Relationship" by Susan Murphy Milano. Don't take things into your own hands without expert guidance.

Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network on Vimeo.