Tia Bloomer: Murdered in The Name of Love

It should go without saying that when a person is hit, grabbed by the neck, or punched the first time, you get the hell out and far away as possible.  We wouldn't allow a perfect stranger to do harm and cause injury, we'd immediately press charges.  Yet, young women of high school age are remaining in violent and abusive relationships, all in the name of love.

Love is what got a beautiful Tia Blommer, 19, and the mother of a small child, murdered by her on-again-off-again boyfriend Isaiah Tryon.  The young couple had a history of violence.  They'd met while she was still in high school and had a baby together.  From the start of the relationship it was violent.  In 2009, after an argument he shot at Tia in a hotel parking lot.  The boyfriend pleaded guilty to four counts of assault with a dangerous weapon and one count for possession with a firearm.  The judge convicted this dangerous individual to a 10-year deferred sentence.

Tia continued to see him, because she both loves and fears him, a common thread in violent relationships. The next reported incident, and I believe other incidents happened but police didn't make a full report and or Tia was too fearful of what Tyron would do, he fired a gun at Tia while she held their 2-month-old baby.  He was arrested and charged.  But, here is where prosecutors in Oklahoma failed to do their jobs; they didn't use their "automatic"go to jail card already on the table from the 2009 incident.  Tryon is on probation a deferred 10-year sentence, he should have immediately gone to prison. What were the prosecutors thinking?  They had a chance to revoke his probation and blew it.  Incidents of violence to Tia continued and so does deferred sentences for Tyron.

To a violent offender this type of a slap on the wrist by the criminal justice system is viewed by the criminal of intimate partner violence as a reward.  Translation for the offender, they will walk and not do any prison time.  For the victim, who see's no consequences to the violent person with whom she is involved, it's accepted practice, not taken as a serious crime.

On Friday, at a Oklahoma bus terminal as a dozen or so people were standing around, Tryon began beating and stabbing Tia.  By the time he was pulled off and cuffed, her injures were life-threatening and she died shortly after at the hospital.

Her mistake was calling Tryon telling him she was at the bus terminal, informing him the relationship was over, that she'd had enough.

Tia Bloomer like so many victims across the country do not have the support by their community nor the understanding that violence in a relationship will get you killed.

Society has yet to view intimate partner violence as a crime. Now another young child will grow up without their mother, making periodic visits to a cold cemetery where they will place flowers at Tia's resting place.

Tia Bloomer lost her life in the war known as intimate partner homicide.  

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Susan Murphy Milano is a staff member of the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education as a educator and specialist with intimate partner violence prevention strategies directing prevention for high risk situations and cases.

 A national trainer to law enforcement, training officers, prosecutors, judges, legislators, social service providers, healthcare professionals, victim advocates and the faith based community and author.. In partnership with Management Resources Ltd. of New York addressing prevention and solutions within the community to the workplace. Host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show,"Time'sUp!" . She is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated "The Roth Show" with Dr Laurie Roth and a co-host onCrime Wire. Online contributions: Forbes : Crime, She Writes providing commentary about the hottest topics on crime, justice, and law from a woman’s perspective, as well as Time's Up! a blog which searches for solutions (SOS) for victims of crime.