Kelly Rothwell and the arrest of David Perry

Kelly Rothwell is Missing

Kelly Rothwell, 35, of Indian Rocks, Florida, has been missing since March 12, 2011. She was a cadet at the police academy scheduled to graduate and become a police officer in April. Earlier that day she met her best friend Donna Scharrett and then headed to her condo to end the abusive relationship with her boyfriend David Perry. No one ever saw or heard from her again.

As in most cases of intimate partner violence that results in homicide, the last person to have seen or had contact with Kelly, was David Perry. According to accounts he was controlling during their 3 1/2 year relationship. He monitored her activities, daily, either through her cell phone or stalking. And he, in my opinion, like most violent offenders was angry because Kelly was moving out and on with her life, minus David Perry.

Monica Caison, founder of the CUE Center for Missing Persons, a not for profit organization is currently in Florida making preparations to search for Kelly.

A short time ago police arrested David Perry whom has not cooperated with law enforcement since she went missing. And police have not yet named him as an official suspect in her disappearance. The fact that he is in jail perhaps on unrelated charges is indeed important as it pertains to Kelly Rothwell.

If Kelly Rothwell's determination to leave is not a wake up call to anyone ending their abusive and or stalking relationship without preparing the Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit and video before they announce it is over, think again!

Once you are threatened, hit, stalked, questioned in a controlling way, a second chance to save your life, is no longer an option.

“If you are reading this and find yourself in a similar situation, know that there are measures you must take before announcing the end of your relationship. These safety precautions can be found in the book, "Time's Up: A Guide on How to Leave an Abusive and Stalking Relationship" by Susan Murphy Milano. Don't take things into your own hands without expert guidance.” (Mothers Are Vanishing)

I cannot stress enough, if you are in a relationship that has a history of violence, simply mustering up the courage to confront the person and say it is over, without the proper tools, can cost you, your life!

One of the major reasons women stay in abusive relationships is fear. They are afraid of what will happen to them and their children if they leave. Sadly, their fears are often justified; statistics show that a woman is at the greatest risk for injury when sheannounces her plans or leaves an abusive relationship.

The book "Time's Up A Guide on How To Survive and Abusive and Stalking Relationship" is the prescription, if you will, that every person must obtain before they announce they are leaving. Below is an example from Chapter 4, one of many unique tools provided in the book. It is available onAmazon.com, or you can purchase via e-book or on a cd. If you have questions, the email address is: timesupforjustice@gmail.com


Evidentiary Abuse Affidavit by Susan Murphy Milano from the Book "Time's Up" from Courage Network onVimeo.

The Roth Show is a nationally syndicated talk show hosted by Dr. Laurie Roth, Ph.D., and stands on principles and leading the charge for the legions of Americans who are saying “Enough Already!”

Susan Murphy Milano is with the Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Pathology Education. She is an expert on intimate partner violence and homicide crimes. For more information visit http://www.saferelationshipsmagazine.com/ She is also in partnership with Pamela Chapman and iAscend Programs. http://pamelachapmanl.biz

Susan is the author of "Time's Up A Guide on How to Leave and Survive Abusive and Stalking Relationships," available for purchase at the Institute, Amazon.com and wherever books are sold. Susan is the host of The Susan Murphy Milano Show, "Time's Up!" on Here Women Talk http://www.herewomentalk.com/and is a regular contributor to the nationally syndicated The Roth Show with Dr Laurie Roth. Susan is a survivor- the daughter of a police officer family intimate partner homicide by her father who murdered her mother before committing suicide.