tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3597448872621332882.post4151770760502253742..comments2024-02-03T23:20:14.853-05:00Comments on Susan Murphy Milano's Journal: Domestic Violence by Police Officers: "Zero Tolerance"Susan Murphy Milano's Journalhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13901643886497691281noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3597448872621332882.post-58959109319986323372010-04-24T08:34:27.184-04:002010-04-24T08:34:27.184-04:00I started off zero-tolerance, then started listeni...I started off zero-tolerance, then started listening to all the dv community's concerns about it making it harder for victims - but I've come full circle over the years. Clear boundaries would do wonders. Victim safety? Get ninja with it - because thousands of stories into this now - I don't see where a criminal remaining on the force has ever protected a victim. Badged cops with dv histories kill their intimate partners far too often to think that letting them keep their jobs is an answer. Finally knowing they can't game their way out of charges would be more effective.<br /><br />I will be amazed however in PA if Hlavac doesn't get his job back. This was their first try putting their foot down and this not-guilty ruling has really jerked the rug on them. Day one the mayor was saying Hlavac can't come back. Day two he was saying Hlavac can't come back unless the arbitrators send him back.Behind The Blue Wallhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04429113203939514642noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3597448872621332882.post-3918740303385419532010-04-23T13:04:47.978-04:002010-04-23T13:04:47.978-04:00I was raped by a NYPD Officer when I was 19 years ...I was raped by a NYPD Officer when I was 19 years old. He was in full uniform when I met him in a Brooklyn subway. At the time, I was a victim of domestic violence with visible bruises and thought when he approached me that he would help me with my situation. Instead he lured me to a house, forcefully removed my clothes and hung his gun which was in the holster, strategically on the bedpost as a threat for me to not fight him. I never reported this because I was a mental mess back then with the abuse at home and the rape. I had just had my son by C-Section, 6 months prior and wound up pregnant by this rapist, police officer. When I tried to tell my husband that I was raped and pregnant, he beat me up and accused me of flirting with the cop. I spoke about the rape for the first time in my book entitled "The Blood & Tears of Domestic Violence: A Survivor's Revelation" because now as a survivor and advocate, I refuse to be silent. The officer involved domestic violence is terrible in many lives and has to continue to be exposed, in order for it to be annihilated. Donna SavageAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15582369555744169973noreply@blogger.com