The Dangers Of Court Orders Of Protection

Carefully, consider the dangers when having the abuser in your life served with a court order of protection. It may not be your safest option. A court order of protection can trigger greater violence for you and other family members. If you are in an busive relationship you cannot "just" rely on the legal system as a strategy in preventing life altering violence.

Explaination: A court order of protection issued by a judge and then served by your local police will not stop a bullet. You know this person better than anyone. Thinking about the dangers is crucial to your safety.

Will they become more violent?

Does this person have access to weapons?

Have you been told you will be killed? Or they will "never" let you go?

Are you able to defend yourself, against an attack?

I am not a supporter of a court order of protection when the lives of the victims and or family members are in danger.

You must have a solid safety plan. If you have children seeking the advice of an attorney is in your best interest. With or without financial resources you can get away without being harmed.

Resource link: https://feminist.org/911/crisis.html

I strongly recommend taking self defense classes links: http://www.impactpersonalsafety.com/

http://www.ywca.org

The abusive person has a "war plan" and so must you! Go to the library, pick up a copy of "Defending Our Lives", getting away from domestic violence & staying safe. Or you can order a copy on amazon.com. The book will at least provide you with an understanding of your legal rights and options. Or consider emailing me at contact@movingoutmovingon.com and I will provide direction in your situation.

(AP NEWS WIRE) TORRANCE, Calif. --
Police say a man fatally shot his 5-year-old son and mother-in-law before turning the gun on himself near Los Angeles.
The Monday night shootings came about eight hours after Torrance police had served the man with a restraining order taken out by his wife.
Officer Dave Crespin says the man returned to the home after being served, then shot his son, wife, mother-in-law and himself. His son died at the scene and the older woman died at a hospital. The wife was hospitalized with injuries.
Police have not released the names of the gunman or the victims.

"All But My Soul" Abuse Beyond Control

If you are a battered woman entangled in, or recovering from, divorce proceedings with an abuser, this book is a must read! Order it now at Amazon.com Or go to your local library. http://www.partners-in-prevention.org
http://www.preventabusiverelationships.com

It could save you-your life, your children, your job, savings and your home. ...And if you've experienced any of these losses, it WILL help you heal!

You wake up and find yourself reaching out for society’s aid to help you protect yourself and your children. And in many cases, they show up before you realize that you invited them.

Your emotions are mixed, your day-to-day reality clear and your future fuzzy. You want to believe your attorney is working for your "best interest," but this belief can't be supported by the proceedings, especially when his/her fees are funded by the marital estate which your controlling spouse controls.

The financial social politics are crystal clear, but you cling to the ideal of "social justice" and human decency, until you hear your counsel and the court throw a deaf ear to your child’s self-mutilating in the face of being forced to live with someone who abuses him (sometimes before and WITHOUT a custody trial).

And you may even find yourself desperately struggling to have contact with your children after they are denied access to you...for days, weeks, months and for some protective parents for years.

You recognize that life, as you once knew it, is vanishing ...your children, your home, your savings, your career and, for many domestic abuse survivors, your health.

Far too often, domestic abuse survivors go from the "frying pan" to the "fire" on their way out of an abusive relationship. And they wonder how this can happen. While it doesn’t always happen, it’s more common than most people realize.

If you are a living domestic abuse, either on the inside of the relationship or on your way out of it, being informed about systemic abuse is essential to your survival.

Victims of domestic abuse can avoid being mothers without custody by recognizing, and not falling prey to, systemic abuse before it spirals out of control.

"War On Crime Radio" Airs Sunday April 27, 2008

Join us at the War On Crime Radio Show, with your host, by Levi Page!
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Hosted by Levi Page
Week of 4/27--5/03

This week War On Crime's Blog Talk Radio Show plans to have Kathryn Casey, an award winning Journalist, and crime author, weigh in on the latest in on the FLDS polygamy child abuse case out of Eldorado Texas. Visit Kathryn's website-http://www.kathryncasey.com/

Susan Murphy-Milano, author, strategist, and advocate for battered women, will be discussing the Benito Casanova case. Did he murder his estranged wife, and flee to Mexico with their children? Susan also gives advice to women, on how to stay safe from abusive ex husbands.

Source: http://www.jurorthirteen.com/

Dan Abrams Interview With Drew Peterson Just More Sand From The Beach

The world watched again, as dribble rolled from Drew Peterson's lips. Dan Abrams missed the mark on this one. Abrams should have gone back to the interview with the social worker John Lamantia who had a fender bender with Stacy last year and asked Peterson how a complete , trained, licensed professional would make statement like "The relationship was physical and Stacy said they had a troubled marriage". http://video.nbc5.com/player/?id=184823 11/15/2007

What about asking questions regarding statements made by the neighbor on 11/10/2007http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,310405,00.htmlBOLINGBROOK, Ill. — A neighbor of an missing Illinois woman filed a police report against the woman's husband and recalled seeing the mother of two sitting at the end of her driveway in tears a week before she disappeared, she told FOX News. If Peterson so disliked the neighbor why have her baby sit the children during the critical time period when Stacy vanished?A week before Stacy vanished, she had Peterson's personal belongings packed up. Where was the question regarding those statements. This was also before Peterson went on the today show begging for a lawyer.

In the dateline interview on 12/21/2007 http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/22316689/page/2/
Questions, again were not asked from the responses and statements made during this interview.
Why didn't Abrams talk about the dinner. Or the cell phone exchange with Pam Bosco? How about the fact that Stacy wanted to rent an apartment from Pam?
No mention as well of the lawyer Stacy saw just a few days before she vanished. The same lawyer that Kathleen Savio used in her divorce.

Why didn't someone ask the question when the legal roaster chimed in towards the end of the first part of the interview http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/21134540/vp/24302957#24302957 and said " she wanted to divorce" . What did he mean by that? Why wasn't Peterson's lawyer asked to explain? Part 2 of the interview -http://www.msnbc.msn.com/...4540/vp/24302957#24302978

Don't misunderstand, I have great respect for Dan Abrams and MSNBC and this was one of the better interviews. It just missed the mark and did not zero in on important issues's in this case, outside the box. The element of surprise would have lead the interview in a different direction.

Stacy Peterson has now been missing for one hundred and seventy-seven days. Friends and family have a web site. Please visit http://www.findstacypeterson.com/

Lisa Stebic:

This Sunday, on April 27, 2008, an event is planned in downtown Plainfield, Illinois to honor Lisa Stebic's memory and raise money for a local charity.

Lisa’s Walk for Guardian Angel Community Services will be held at 1 p.m. at the Village Green park, located at Chicago and DesPlaines streets in Plainfield. Walk-up registration will begin at noon.

Registration is $20 for an individual, $35 for a family.
The event is sponsored by the Plainfield Exchange Club and Lisa’s family. Proceeds from the event will benefit Guardian Angel Community Services in Joliet.

More than 200 people have already signed up for Lisa’s Walk, either as participants or volunteers, said family spokeswoman Melanie Greenberg.
The two-mile walk will follow a route from the park to the Plainfield Central High School parking lot and back.

Before the walk several speakers will address the group, including Rob Epley, Plainfield Exchange Club President, Plainfield Mayor Jim Waldorf, Greenberg and Lisa’s parents, Judy and Lawrence Ruttenberg. A dove release also is planned.

A benefit concert by Joe Cantafio will be held after the walk, about 2:30 p.m., at Front Street Cantina, 15120 N. DesPlaines St.

"It’s been an extremely difficult and painful year, and we want to remember Lisa by doing something positive and to give back to the community that has done so much for us and our family," Greenberg said.
For more information on the event please visit http://www.findlisastebic.com/.

Meanwhile, in court today was Stebic's Lawyer. The Judge denied the return of weapons, a truck, a blanket and other items. What I did not understand is the comment by the lawyer pertaining to a blanket sent to the crime lab. Why would anyone focus on a blanket?

Lisa has been missing since April 30, 2007. She too, vanished off the face of the earth. And as Gomer Pyle would say Surprise, Surprise, Golly Gee "am I the only suspect? Yes , Mr. Stebic, you are indeed, the prime suspect in the vanishing of your wife Lisa. Story of today's court appearance is here: http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/chi-ap-il-missingwoman,1,7600022.story

Who is Hiding Benito Casanova & the Kids?

Police say Benito may be driving a silver or gray 2002 Dodge Dakota with Illinois plates: 86196HB.

Benito could have also altered the children's looks. Maybe changing the girl into boys clothes or visa versa so they would not draw attention. Benito has few financial resoucres and could go to a relatives home until things calm down. Maybe they are hiding out in a community where little to no english is spoken. Who knows they still might be in the area. Please consider printing off this information and posting it in your community. Perhaps consider translating this information into Spanish.

An Amber Alert has been in effect since Friday, April 18th. It is difficult to miss three children and one man. They are hiding out someplace.

Maybe they were recently at your local fast food chain like McDonalds, Burger King or Wendy's. Or a friend , relative in your community suddenly has a few house guests. No one is going to get in trouble if they come forward. But, please if you or someone you know is hiding them, you need to contact the authorities, immediately. It is likely, the children were picked up from school and told they were going to visit relatives or take a brief vacation. They also have no idea their mother has been murdered.

According to America's Most Wanted Website- Possible Locations where Benito and the three

children could have gone:

Chicago, IL
Illinois
Kansas
Kentucky
Tennessee
Texas
Louisiana
Mexico
Mississippi
Missouri
Arkansas
Detectives have issued an AMBER alert for the Casanova children. They fear they could have been kidnapped by their father after their mother's murder and they say they could be headed to his native Mexico.

Legal System Receive's Failing Grade

Benito Casanova the biological father pictured below is sought in the abduction of three children; Oscar Casanova, 6; Karla Casanova, 7; and Fernando Casanova, 11.

Their mother, Sophia Garcia, was found dead in the 1700 block of North Harding Avenue about noon Monday with a plastic bag over her head. (Photo courtesy National Center for Missing & Exploited Children)

Benito Casanova-Wanted For Questioning

Police found Sophia Garcia dead in her apartment with a garbage bage tied over her face. She died from trauma to the head. No suprise, Sophia had an Order of Protection. As do a lot of these murder victims of late. All being slaughtered, for wanting out of their abusive relationships. You can go to court and seek a paper trail, but once you do, the victim must do everything in their power to move away as far as possible. Benito Casanova carefully thought and planned the crime. Including going over to the school on Friday like the "good parent" to pick up the children. He and the kids, no surpise, have not been seen since. Would A GPS tracking device have slowed the efforts of Benito and his plans? Yes. But he would have been a "good coward" until he met the obligations under the court order. Regardless, he would have followed through with his plans sooner or later. A lot of finger pointing will occur in the next couple of days as theDepartment of Human Services and the Children's school play the game of "we never received the call". The school was contacted when the two year order of protection was in place. But the school denies anyone ever contacted them. But, in fact the department of human services a city of Chicago agency made contact because they were providing services to the mother and kids. Must be a language barrier?

Benito also banked on the fact that Sophia had very little resouces to just pick up and go. She should have been directed to agencies such as Mujeres Latinas En Accion an agency in the community, dedicated to providing services to the Latino Community. They would have directed Sophia into a shelter. Assisted with legal services assisting in moving her far enough away, perhaps even out of the State and she would have been alive and I, would have no reason to write such a story.

Services for families in Illinois and across the country are being slashed in half. Agencies whose budgets are in crisis, holding in their palms, literally, thousands of women and children's lives, like placing a band aid on an infected area that never heals. Because the "system has tied" agencies hands.

What must happen is that everyone across the country, including those lovely politicians with whom we vote into office, sit at the table of reality. The mousetrap is broken. Now lets come to the table like grown-ups and fix it!

Link to the story-http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/local/chi-amber-alert-webapr22,0,2876911.story

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Be Strong, Be Wise and Never Be Ashamed!

"My mother and I made many silly mistakes that lead to her death and me missing my mother. We moved only a few miles away from him, we knew he had a weapon and chose to "hope for the best" and we also never told anyone (along with other things)!! The reason why I'm telling you all this is because I don't want any woman or man to feel - if I leave then I’ll end up dead so I might as well just stay!"

"Please be strong, be wise and never be ashamed!" ...Angela Skellas

I was recently moved by a story on http://www.behindthebluewall.blogspot.com/ This is a site for officers and their families who have lost their lives. The administrator of the site made an exception in posting the tragedy of Angela Skellas, a daughter who lost her mother Karen Skellas on October 30, 2006 at the hands of her estranged husband.

Angela Skellas's story is almost identical to mine. Two daughters, both of whom has lost their country. A place they can never return because it does not exist. We each lost our best friend, our mothers'. These women were our entire life, our world. And like the story humpty dumpty we were read as children, our lives could not be put back together, for they are forever
halted in that place and time, when our lives stopped, the minutes within the hour, of our mothers' passing . Like a knife through a heart. http://www.nytimes.com/2006/10/30/nyregion/30murder.html?ref=nyregion

A Mothers love, is beyond words. It is the whisper in the darkness that always feels like a warm bright light. When the light is stolen, we walk an endless road, forever holding a lantern, barely able to see, searching for the light , that never seems to shine, as the fire within, burned out, the day they were taken from us.

Like Angela's mother, I am reminded, how far away my mother did not move when she left my father. I insisted my mother move in with me, just a few short miles from the home I was raised. I should have known better. But like Angela and her Mom, I too, was clueless.

Maybe Angela Skellas and I will meet one day. Not as members of a tragic "club". But, as two women who shared the joy and beauty of a best friend any daughter could ask for, our mothers!

If you are in a domestic violence relationship, it's time to sit down and create a safety plan. Go to your local library and pick up a copy of the book Defending Our Lives" getting away from domestic violence & staying safe. Or you can order a copy at Amazon.com. As you are creating your road map to safety, make a call to the domestic violence hotline as ask for referal to services such as safe shelter, legal and counseling in your area. The number is
1-800-799-SAFE.

"Emergency Action Alert" Bill O'Reilly, Nancy Grace, Shepard Smith , Dan Abrams, Matt Drudge, John Walsh, Glenn Beck

Justice For Becca

Rebecca McEvoy was raped and sodomized by her Step father, Police Officer Bob Ingel. Rebecca lost her life in a fatal car accident on the way to testify for the 3rd time as to the rape, and sexual assault she suffered at his hands.

On Tuesday, April 22, 2008, in Mobile, Alabama, the defense attorneys for the accused, Bob Ingel are arguing the case against their client should be dismissed. The lawyers are using the "Crawford" case out of Ohio. This says “you have the constitutional right to cross examine your accuser” and because the girl is dead and cannot testify, there is a chance the Judge may throw out the case.

The Assistant District Attorney, Steven Giardini, believes the case law should not be applied in Becca McEvoy's case.

The eleven year old testified before the grand jury on two separate occasions. There are medical reports, severe enough to make any parent outraged.

A relative, allegedly, has, in their possession, a mattress containing a match of Becca McEvoy and Bob Ingel’s DNA, from the criminal, sexual attacks.

Reports have surfaced that Bob Ingel is now in Mississippi and living with small children. At this time we are unaware if there are special considerations attached to Bob Ingel’s bond of $35,000.00. Also, it’s reported that other children have been victimized, raped, and sodomized by this former officer.

If this story is not reported, the “Rebeccas” all across this country will be affected by this ruling.

In memory of a child who fought so hard to come forward and seek justice, we are asking that you give Rebecca McEvoy a voice and report on this story, before court on April 22, 2008.

Justice for Becca-Resource and video's
Story Link http://scaredmonkeys.com/2008/04/08/outrage-the-tragic-tale-of-becca-mcevoy-victimized-by-stepfather-bob-ingle-then-again-by-the-us-legal-system-part-1/

We are also asking for the public's help. By pasting the above story through the last sentence of the court date you have a voice with the media. Click as many links below and include the story, then email those in the media we have listed below.

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Blog Talk Radio's New Show: War On Crime

Blog Talk Radio, The Show Everyone is Talking About.....Come Join us 1n a lively debate on the most talked about cases in the news........


On Saturday April 19, 2008, at "The War On Crime Radio Show" will air at :

4PM Central Time/5 PM EDT We will take your calls at (347) 838-9781

Host Levi Page will be joined by special guest co-host Susan Murphy Milano, their guests include Dana Pretzer, in law enforcement and Host of the weekly National Crime & Justice Program, Sacred Monkey Radio; Former Prosecutor, Television and Radio Crime Personality Analyst Lisa Pinto, along with District Attorney of Clastsop County Oregon, Josh Marquis. And Niki Hunter from Jurorthirteen.com

Discussion topics will include the Rebecca McEnvoy case of the eleven year olf child who was a molestation victim, by her step father, former police officer Bob Ingel. Rebecca tragically died in a car accident just before her alledged molester was to stand trial. Justice will not be served if this man is set free. We will highlight the Channon Christian & Christopher Newsome murders. Five people stand accused for their brutal murders. The first trial has ended, with the next four scheduled to begin in the months ahead. We will discuss what the National Media has not in these brutal murders of innocent lives lost.

Other topics include the Jean Pierre Oriewicz, teen thriller, killer trial. And murder victim Mercedes McCauley tragic murder at the hands of a dangerous boyfriend.

To Listen to the broadcast go to http://www.blogtalkradio.com/True_Crime . You might want to refresh your page because the icom will not show up on the show starts.

Questions or comments for this weeks show, please send them to: levi3@bellsouth.net

Rosa Lisowski's Children Need Your Help!

Three weeks ago a, on March 24, 2008, a devoted , mother in SanDiego, CA, went missing.

Her name is Rosa Lisowski. Do I believe she just took off? Absolutely not. Does she own a red bikini or did she have access to $25,000 in cash, nope! Does her husband, Henry Lisowski have access to a boat marina? Yes, he does. On March 24, 2008, could he have abducted Rosa, after she safely saw her six year old son to school? The answer is Yes.

In my opinion, Rosa Lisowski was taken against her will. She was then bound and gaged. Rosa likely was taken on a boat in the marina by Henry Lisowski and throw out far enough into the waters using weights or anchors so her body would not surface.

The couple was in the midst of a bitter battle that included custody, money and property. This coward wanted to maintain control of what he thought would get in the way of his future plans. That meant removing his wife Risa from the picture. Did he think about his children? No he could care less. He'd find a way to either say nothing or talk about how she took a vacation and "loved the attention of male company", probably in the same way Drew Peterson claims to know anything about where the woman of his children, Stacy Peterson, took off.

A fundraiser is planned for the children on Saturday April 19, 2008, at a Loma Portal car wash. If you live near the area, please stop by and have you car washed. Even if you just had it cleaned, stop in at support the children. It is the very least we can do for the kids . The address is 3373 Rosecrans Street, in SanDiego, CA.

Story link for Rosa Lisowski Be sure to go to the video -http://www.10news.com/news/15904232/detail.html

Source: http://www.10news.com/ Contributing Source: http://www.jurorthirteen.com/

Drew Peterson: Camp Marshmallow: Day # 168

Today, marks one hundred and sixty-eight days since the loving Mother and wife of former Bolingbrook seasoned Veteran crime fighter vanished.

On day, one hundred and sixty three, the country watched as Mr. Peterson and his legal marshmallow roaster made an appearance on Larry King. A well rehearsed and scripted show was no surprise. The public relations team did an excellent job with Mr. Peterson.
Coaching pre-scripted and rehearsed responses. Did you notice how Mr. Peterson spoke about Stacy in the present tense? As if she were just around the corner? Or how the public relations team coached Mr. Peterson to focus on negative comments. (by the way that is a classic offender by the text book response). Or, Mr. Peterson's other responses during most of the interview

are not unqiue to "serial offenders" in abusive relationships.

I suspect the legal roaster team thought long and hard when Mr. Peterson responded to a question about his current wife saying "Stacy loves male attention. She could be dancing someplace". Well, that shows compassion for the mother of ones children, doesn't it? And what does that really say about the character of Mr. Peterson?

And what about Larry King? Where were the important questions? Or did he too, agree for the love of ratings, to follow a script?

Questions no one seems to be asking as an example:

Mr. Peterson when is the last time you saw Stacy alive and what were you doing?

Mr. Peterson can you provide a time line for yourself on October 28, 29, 2008?

Mr. Peterson you stated that Stacy left with $25,000 in cash and a red bikini. How did Stacy leave? By a cab, Did someone pick her up? Did she call a limo service? Did she drive herself? If she drove herself she could not have gotten very far, her gas tank was nearly empty, wasn't it? The $25,000 was that in colored monopoly money from the board game or real cash? Was the money all in one hundred dollar bills?

Mr. Peterson what about her purse? Twenty-Five Thousand dollars does not all fit into a wallet, or does it? She didn't take her purse and credit cards, what do you make of that?

If you know she left with money and a bikini what time was that?

What were you doing at the time she took off? Where were the children?

Stacy did all the grocery shopping, didn't she run to the store prior to leaving for her "trip" to pick up baby diapers?

Why did you have the neighbor (who you indicate you do not like) suddenly want to watch the children? Where did you have to go in such a hurry? Didn't you also meet the stepbrother at around that time?

Why would a "troubled" person make up any kind of story about you?

Why did you ask Rick Mims to pick up Stacy's car at the airport?

Where were you went Cassandra made contact with you? Were you home? Out and about? What?

You met Thomas Morphey within twenty fours hours of Stacy vanishing, when did you call him the night before, that day. Was the meeting planned well before just to see one another?

Your so insistent that Stacy is with someone or now as you stated she could be dancing someplace, have you gone out and searched for her at various locations you think she might be?

This private investigator you hired, what exactly have you hired them for?

The investigator has had many months on this case, what have they turned up, so far?

Do they provide you with monthly reports of their progress? What have they said?

Mr. Peterson, the morning of the 28th of October, did you and Stacy have a fight or an argument? Weren't your children in the home at that time?

Mr. King and the producers failed to ask important questions. It would not have mattered if Mr. Peterson & company walked off the show.

The right thing would have been to seek the truth and that just did not happen.

That in and of itself is the tragedy!

Stacy is still missing. The website address is http://www.findstacypeterson.com

Link to today's story-
http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/local/chi-peterson-stepbrothersapr16,1,2497712.story

Former Officer's Family Calls "Murder" Accidential

Video http://www.ketknbc.com/home/ticker/17683684.html

Big John Kellis, a retired police officer from Smith County Texas did something really big. And I am not referring to his six foot seven frame.

The former Officer suffered from depression and according to family members, his health was failing him. The real crime is being excused by family members as accidental. You see "Big John" did not mean to murder his wife Gale, it just happened. The gun went off, by accident.

When family members cover up the truth, it does not help anyone.

John Kellis murdered Gales Kellis before taking his own life. The tragedy is two fold. One for the murder victim and the other for family members who through ignorance in wanting to protect a man they love, are unable to come to terms with the bloody truth.

He murdered his wife!

KETK.com news story:

Family reacts as tear gas and another device were thrown into the home where they say their brother, John Kellis, was barricaded.
"We got word this morning that he shot his wife...accidental...an he was barricaded in the house," said Margaret Grimes, one of Kellis' sister.
It was then three of Kellis' sister rushed to the scene hopeful at the time their brother would come come out alive.
"Johnny please come out...we love you...and nothing is as bad as dying....come out and we can talk," said Grimes.
According to Margaret grimes...one of Kellis' sister....her brother was having problems with his wife.
They had trouble...she had left...took the truck...and then we don't know what happened after that, said Grimes.
Grimes also tells us her brother had issues with depression, but never thought he would be capable of anything like this.
"Oh...it shocked us...I mean I just couldn't imagine him doing something like that...so I mean he was pushed to the limit, said Grimes.
It's also a scene shocking many living in this quiet community.
"We all know everybody out here...we kind of watch out for everybody," said a concerned neighbor.
"I was going to go to town for groceries..I won't go now until i see the red lights out," said another concerned neighbor.
In the meantime...Grimes and her two other sisters stood by hoping for the best before it was all over.
"I just lost my mother in law about three weeks ago...and i said...i don't want to have to bury my brother too.
We're told by his sisters...he was a former Jacksonville police officer.

"Defending Our Lives" Getting Out & Staying Safe!

Time does not heel when a loved one's body, has not been recovered. After over a year, friends
and family, along with investigators continue to search using high tech equipment for the body of forty-one year, LaFayette, 911 police dispatcher, Theresa Parker.

Like too many of these cases, Theresa was in the process of divorcing her Police Husband Sgt. Sam Parker. One day, in March of 207,she too, just vanished.

Sam Parker has been charged in her murder. Women married to or in a relationship with an abusive man, have few resources in which to arm themselves against these "cowards". Especially, those married to law enforcement, but it can and has been be accomplished. Often, the victims of these cowards are overpowered. The abuser has a game plan, she does not.

One book, that provides anyone in an abusive relationship, how to plan and safely get out is
"Defending Our Lives" getting away from domestic violence & staying safe . Go to your local
library or Amazon.com and order the book. Defending Our Lives is an important tool with a safety strategy plan for anyone involved in abusive relationships, including those married to someone in law enforcement.

The abuser has a plan, and so must you!

Sound Off Blog - http://www1.romenews-tribune.com/soundoff/blog/649/
New Story Link: http://www.wdef.com/comment/reply/17131

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Theresa Parker 911 Dispatcher and Cops Wife Still Missing "Without a Lead"It has been eight months now, a number of law agencies still continue searching for police officer wife and missing 911 dispatcher Theresa Parker. So far, there have been no arrests in the case and no sign of Theresa but her family refuses to give up hope. And now with the light...
Is Officer Drew Peterson A Scared Coward? (This is the lovely officer strutting his macho side) In Greek the name Andrew means masculine. Clearly, this coward does not have an ounce of manhood in his entire body. Otherwise, he would simply tell people where Stacy can be located. I am remined of a...
Where is 911 Missing Dispatcher Theresa Parker?Theresa Parker, missing 911 dispatcher and estranged wife of that piece of garbage, Sam Parker, has been gone without a trace from from Walker County for some five months and investigators either have very little to go on in the case or are deliberately being very...
Theresa Parker 911 Dispatcher/Cops Wife Still MissingThis case has been off the radar with the National Press. Theresa Parker's body has still not been found. Her husbands partner has been arrested again, in her disapearance. Mr. Parker a Police Officer continues to claim he knows nothing about where she could be. With so...
Volunteers Turn Out To Search For Police Officers Wife Theresa Parker Volunteers carefully navigate the dense brush Saturday. (Messenger photo/Matt Ledger) With information still being kept under a tight lid in the investigation of 911 dispatcher Theresa Parker, nearly 100 people turned out Saturday to help the continuation of a...
Cop Disagrees with Fate of Wife Photos: Sam Parker and Theresa Parker The husband of Georgia 911 dispatcher Theresa Parker, who has been missing for two months, says he had nothing to do with his wife's disappearance and thinks she ran off after having an affair. Seems a rather odd...
Georgia Sergeant Fired After Explosives FoundPolice said Friday they found explosives in the work locker of the husband of Theresa Parker, missing since March 21. Officials said that Sam Parker has been fired from his position as sergeant for the LaFayette police department because of the discovery. The explosives were found during...
Finally, Arrest in Made in 911 Dispatcher Case Theresa Parker A LaFayette police officer has been arrested in connection with the disappearance of 911 operator Theresa Parker. Officials say the Officer Harben 'Ben' Chaffin is being charged with making a false statement to GBI investigators. He has not been charged...
Search Continue's FOR Missing Officers Wife Theresa Parker Today, the ground search resumes for missing Walker County 911 dispatcher and the wife of a Police Officer, Theresa Parker. Officials are asking that volunteers familiar with south Walker County gather no later than 9am at Walker County Fire Station #15 at the...
Officer's Wife is MissingIf no one else will come forward and say it, I will. Therea Parker, 41, was a 911 Operator and she is also the wife of a police officer. In addtion, Theresa who has not been seen since 3/22/2007. She spoke with a family member everyday. There is a history of domestic....

War On Crime Radio Gives Rebecca Envoy a Voice

A victim of child molestation dies in a car accident before she can confront her molester in court. Will her molester face trial, or be let back out into society to prey on more children, because he cannot confront his accuser in court? The accused, is former police officer, Bill Ingle. He was

also the child's stepfather.

Tune in Sunday, April 13th at 5 PM Central / 5 PM EDT, for an exclusive interview with Aden McEvoy, the father of Rebecca McEvoy, seeking justice for his daughter.
Call in live at: (347) 838-9781

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A New Crime Category - "The Vanishing Voice Club"

Rosa Lisowski, 48, Mother of 4


Bethanie Dougherty 40 Years old
Mother of 3 Children

Heather Malloy, Age 32 Mother of 1
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Three women from different parts of the Country. Each has something in common. These missing wives and mothers have vanished. Membership to this particular club has grown in numbers, during the years.

Rosa Lisowski, from SanDiego vanished after walking her son to school on March 24, 2008. She and her huband were involved in a messy custody and divorce battle. The prime suspect her husband. Actually, Henry Lisowski is the only one who had reason to murder Rosa.

Bethanie Doughtery, New York. Taken from her home at three in the morning. Neighbors heard screams on April 2, 2008 and called police. She was apparently abducted from her home. Maybe police could check into current court records with Bethanie's estranged, husband? She has not been seen since. Story link: http://news10now.com/content/all_new...n/Default.aspx

Heather Malloy, Oregon, according to her husband, on March 8, 2008, they had a heated argument. She has not been scene since. Police need to get this case moving. A good place to begin is the court order of protection Heather took out against the oh so grief stricken Husband
And she has a 9 month old child. In my opinion, highly unlikely, that she just left. No credit cards have been used and she has not been scene since he made the police report. Story Link: http://www.kptv.com/news/15629512/detail.html

Others who are members :
Theresa Parker, Georgia- Police Officers Wife
Lisa Stebic, Illinois
Stacy Peterson, Illinois
Kathleen Savio, Illinois
Suzanne, Grattan, New Mexico

I write about these cases with passion. In hopes that those considering a divorce who live in a violent, toxic environment will have the courage to leave. And prepare their new life and journey with extreme caution.

It is painfully evident, society and the legal system do not respond to victim's of family violence. You must create a plan, get out for yourself, before something happens.

As I look at the calendar , I am reminded of someone very special to me who also became a member in the "vanishing voice club." Roberta Murphy, Illinois. A woman, who each time I write about another tragedy and offer my insight and direction to others, I do so not because she was murdered. But, because I survived. And since her death, have assisted thousands of women in safely leaving the violence and on to a new life.

If you are in a violent relationship, you need to begin making plans for a life without the threat of violence. Do you live in a rural community, isolated from others? Or maybe you are married to someone in law enforcement, consider contacting the National Coalition. They have a toll free number you can call twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. They will direct you to a safe place to stay, referrals for legal services, counseling for you and your children and help with a safety plan. The number is 1-800-799-SAFE.

You can also go to the library and pick up a copy of "Defending Our Lives" getting away from domestic violence & staying safe. The book explains everything you need to begin on your journey to a violent free life. You can contact me through my website at http://www.movingoutmovingon.com/

I almost forgot, Happy Birthday, Mom!!!!

Suzanne Grattan: Murdered By A Coward

Anytime, I read where a wife and mother has been murdered ninety-nine percent of the time,
it was the husband who commited the crime. A coward disguising themselves as a human being.

Suzanne Grattan's body was discovered in a duffel bag. Then her body was placed on the residential property, hidden inside a well.

George Grattan, 28, faces an open count of murder, kidnapping and tampering with evidence in the death of Suzanne Grattan, 29, an award-winning Deming High School journalism and English teacher. Her body was found on March 19 , George Grattan is now being held on $110,000 cash bail.

The coward's defense attorney argued the state's case was circumstantial and speculative, certainly not the stuff of probable cause. I disagree. In my opinion, the couple were having marital problems.

Suzanne Grattan sought legal advice. George Gratta was angry. He killed Suzanne and hid her body thinking it would never be discovered.

The majority of these murders are often a reaction by the alleged offender. Angry because the person has rejected them and wishes to leave the relationship and move on with their lives. Another motive is financial and custody of the children. They would rather murder someone than split up property and child custody. George Grattan is no different then any other abuser.

He fits the profile like rotten leftover's in the refrigerator.

Source: http://www.jurorthirteen.com/
http://www.demingheadlight.com/news/ci_8834313?source=emailhttp://www.abqjournal.com/abqnews/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=6702http://www.newswest9.com/Global/story.asp?S=8057063http://news.aol.com/story/_a/police-consider-death-of-deming-teacher/n20080321014209990007http://www.krqe.com/Global/story.asp?s=8045025

Relationship Violence is serious, dangerous and often deadly. You must have a plan of action in order to safely leave your abuser. Please consider contacting the National Domestic Violence Hotline. Services are free and confidential. You can call day or night and someone will answer the phone. The number is 1-800-799-SAFE. Or you can contact me at http://www.movingoutmovingon.com/ and I will provide resources and direction.

Mercedes McCauley : CSI Miami -Chicago Tragedy Unfolds

Last night in Chicago, a real life scene with a tragic outcome came right out of a the television show CSI Miami .

It began as a murder. Mercedes McCauley, just twenty-two years of age, existed a Chicago Church with another person. They were sitting in a car parked on the street. The shooter pulled up beside them and opened fire before fleeing the scene.

Mercedes was taken to the hospital in critical condition. An hour or so afterwards, police arrived at the hospital. The young woman's father over heard the officers talking about a man named Glenn Martinez. He asked what was going on. The police informed the father that the man had committed suicide over on Lake Shore Drive.

"That's the man who shot my daughter", he told police. Apparently, the two were involved in a relationship. Glenn Martinez who was a fan of CSI, matter of fact he never missed an episode.

After he shoots and kills Mercedes McCauley. He heads to the lake, shoots himself in the chest, then throws the murder weapon about fifteen feet into the lake. He was trying to make it look like someone shot him.

Had police not been at the hospital and the father not overheard the conversation, both cases would have gone unsolved. The gun was recoverd today by divers.

Mercedes McCauley did in fact have a criminal order of protection. She was scheduled to be in court on April 17, 20o8.

Real life tragically, does imitate those "entertainment" type shows that are so popular like CSI and others currently on the air.

But this is not entertainment. It is real life. Martinez used a gun. In my book, he was a coward and a murder. Taking away a father's daughter. Leaving her family to live with the aftermath of a war where the death toll numbers do not accurately tell the real story of its victim's.

No this was just not some random act. Or another "domestic violence" incident. It was a murder of the worst kind, one that society continues to ignore. Relationship murder victims have surpassed the number of those killed fighting for our Country.

The enemies of this war are armed and dangerous. They are the friendly neighbor. The person who gives you a ride when you are late for work. The officer who was just at your home investigating a crime. Or, the postman who delivered your mail just this morning.

The victims, we are less likely to remember. There are just far too many of them.

Here is the link to the story: http://www.nbc5.com/news/15812028/detail.html?dl=headlineclick&taf=chi

Honor Student & Aspiring Lawyer Could Have Used The Amber Alert

When an honor student, just fifteen years of age goes missing, is it too much to ask why in God's name someone did not issue an Amber alert for this teenager?

I understand that the Amber Alert system is mostly used for children thirteen years in age and younger, my question is why? Especially, if in the area the teen went missing ,there had been a rash of abductions and unsolved criminal activity in the area, as well.

Maybe, just maybe, it would have saved Brashai Griffin's life. According to friends and family, Brashai dreamed of becoming a lawyer.

The Amber Alert System given the unique challenges we face as a society on daily basis must consider raising the age requirment, especially when a parent contacts authorities in an area where a community regardless, of race, faces unknown predators just waiting for their next victim. Every minute, from the time the call is placed to authorities, is a minute erased from the clock of someon'e life.

Her body was discovered on Saturday. Police are asking for the public's help. Anyone with information is asked to call the Sauk Village Police Department at (708)-758-1331.

Here is the rest of the story: http://www.suntimes.com/news/metro/880084,CST-NWS-sauk06.article

A New Show on Blog Talk Radio: Special Guest Nancy Grace

Blog Talk Radio's Newest Member........................................

Sunday, April 6, 2008, at 4 PM Central Time / 5 PM Eastern Time - "The War on Crime" radio we will be discussing the Amy Giordano case and the fate of convicted cop killer Mumia Abu-Jamal.

Are the remains found in a suite case in Staten Island those of missing Deleware mom Amy Giordano? And will a convicted PA cop killer be spared the death penalty?

Come join us and be part of the discussion: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/True_Crime and at 4 PM Central / 5 PM Eastern SUNDAY and click on the "Click To Listen Icon." The icon will not show up until the show has started.

You might want to refresh the page at 4 PM CST / 5 PM ET
The show is an interactive call-in format and welcomes callers to the program at

(347) 838-9781

Special show guests include, Nancy Grace, The Nancy Grace Show, her show airs Monday -Sunday 8PM on CNN Headline News, will be our featured guest and take calls on the air, live

throughout the broadcast.

Stacy Dittrich, A 15-year, law enforcement veteran, deputy sheriff at the Richland County Sheriff's Office in Mansfield, Ohio. Stacy is also a former sex crimes detective, and crime author of "The Body Mafia" and "The Devil's Closet"

Along with Susan Murphy-Milano, Domestic Violence Advocate, Abuser Profiler Specialist and author of "Defending Our Lives" and" Moving Out Moving On".

Unable to join us during air time, please dowload the show anytime day or evening during the week to listen.

If you have questions or are interested in having a case featured on the show, maybe a loved one is missing or has been involved in a tragic crime, please email me at
contact@movingoutmovingon.com with the information and a working telephone number where you can be reached.

Alcohol and Protecting Those We Love

When alcohol affects your relationship, marriage and family, over time, very slowly, it begins to destroy everything around you. Yes, it is a disease. But, those who live with the disease are also affected by the sickness.

Continuing to believe broken promises, crying, threatening to leave if they don't stop drinking. Now your in a constant depression, filled with anxiety and guilt. Is that what you want out of life?

How? The word enable comes to mind. When you cover up for someone's behavior like calling the boss and making excuses when they can't make it out of bed and into the office. Or when they make a promise to your child to do something together and the next day have no memory of what was planned. So your left with telling your child something that isn't true because they won't understand.

Maybe you are constantly apologizing to others for their outbursts or inappropriate behaviors. Or, if you have a business and decisions are being made that have or will have an adverse affect on your finances.You worked long and hard to build a business, together. And somehow you believe , as you have always done in the past can fix things and make them better. More likely then not, they are a wonderful person, you know they love you so much, with every fiber of their being, they are your entire world, you can't live without them, your literally joined at the hip. Until you start to pay attention to little things in the beginning like passing out while eating dinner and you had to help them into bed. Or maybe they have been getting behind the wheel of a car and driving home when they were near or close enough to not be driving, period. You excuse the behavior, say nothing, fix them something to eat and off to be they go until the next morning when you act as though everything is fine. Because you are also in denial.

This begins a pattern, a habit, now out of control. The drinking has become so common that you continue to enable and go with the flow of the daily routine. This person who you love with all you heart, may be to the point where their system has no down time from the alcohol. The bottom line. they are in a constant state of having alcohol in their system, around the clock twenty-four hours a day. Their disease is now affecting you and your health, not to mention your marriage. What do you do? Do you remain silent? Talk to a friend or family member? Talk to the person with the problem and insist they go get help or you will leave?

The responsibility of a person who chooses to drink belongs to that individual. Be it a man or a woman. They own it! They live it, they breathe it, they even bathe in it. And with all their might, in a very subtle, manipulative way that make you own their disease and take responsibility for their drinking and actions. You need a plan. I have provided a link that I believe will assist you. Please take a moment and visit the site: http://www.al-anon.org/

Colleen Dwyer Will Be Greatly Missed

In Colorado a couple weeks ago, Colleen Dwyer was gunned down in her home. Her two kids both under the age of six, were in the home when their father murdered Colleen.

The man who took her life, husband, Russ. If you take a look at the memorial lawn sign you see his name boldly printed out on the handmade sign with personal remarks like a badge of honor. With hand written words "You are loved Russ," "you will be missed Russ", You were a great man, Russ". Pleezze...... How shameful to all who participated in that sign!

Paying tribute to a murderer is all it really says to me. In this neighborhood where a woman was gunned down like a wild animal neighbors and friends are making excuses for what Russ Dwyer did.

People who knew this "Coward" attribute his behavior and actions to serving in the military, as if that was the reason for murder. When are people going to understand that being in the military or any job for that matter, has no bearing on who they are or why they pull a trigger and kill those in their lives.

Any person man or woman who intentionally takes another life does so with careful thought and planning. They are angry and frustrated at the loss of control.

Colleen was also directed to the Domestic Violence Enhanced Response Team. Which by the way without serious hands on training and true understanding can often be no more than lip service to a deadly situation victims face. And because of the nature of the threat, the most Russ Dwyer who have been charged with is a misdemeanor. Placing a band-aid on a volcano like injury is ineffective in my opinion. A growing epidemic for which I would gladly lend my war battle experience in redeveloping.

Of all the comments regarding this murder-suicide the only one that I feel sums up this tragedy is written on a comment site by Colleen McLuckie, Chicago she wrote:

"I am saddened by the fact that our legal system so pathetically failed to serve and to protect Mrs. Dwyer, and disgusted by the show of solidity made to a man who had a history of domestic violence. That his service to his country is now being used to explain away his crimes is a slap in the face of every American war veteran, male and female, who has returned home from serving his/her duty and continued to live a productive and honorable life without, as one neighbor stated, believing it to be "okay to take it out on their wives". No man who shoots a mother point-blank within shouting distance of her children, then, in the ultimate act of cowardice, turns the weapon upon himself, should ever be classified as "a very great man".

To read more here's the story link:http://www.kxrm.com/news/news_story.aspx?id=111659

I understand when I place resources, many people who visit the blog comment and say "what's the point". If services and assistance can help just one person, that is all that matters. Victim services are available twenty-four hours a day seven days a week. They provide direction to housing, legal and counseling in a safe environment. Please if you or someone you know is in this type of situation, contact 1-800-799-SAFE or visit them online at http://www.ncadv.org/

Or if you prefer, you can contact me directly at http://www.movingoutmovingon.com/

Drew Peterson: A Slow News Week For The Team

As the days and hours pass in the disappearance of Stacy Peterson, the family continues
to search for her.

It appears that the legal roaster on the Drew Peterson team, who also has a domestic violence history in his own home life, has too, much time on his hands of late.

Now, the "legal roaster" is pointing fingers accusing Roy Taylor, Sharon Bychowski's son and leader of the volunteer search effort of "drawing a salary" from the funds that were raised for the subsidized searches for Stacy Peterson. http://www.wbbm780.com/Drew-Peterson-Gets-Computers-Back/1930500

I would ask the lawyer what has he received in good old American dollars as a consultant thus far for his services to Mr. Peterson? Who uses courthouse steps as a background setting to defend someone who has yet to be charged.

It is no one's business what Mr. Taylor or anyone else is doing or for that matter receiving as it pertains to finding Stacy. And, in my opinion, if you had an ounce of compassion for this woman and mother, you would be doing everything in your power to support those looking for her .

It has been my experience through my many years involved in domestic violence cases that those who protect an "offender is because they are on familiar territory themselves. And abusers tend to group together and defend on another.

I think the Jerry Springer show antics have no business in life and death issues. And any lawyer who has that much time on their hands needs to gather better material. It's give other attorney's a bad reputation.

Meanwhile, Yes Stacy Peterson is still missing. I prefer the word vanished. Those searching for her could use your help. Please head on over to http://www.findstacypeterson.com/

Cindy Bishcof: Implementing Changes For Tracking Abusers'

This morning while most of us are preparing to get the kids off to school and head to work ourselves, one man, Michael Bischof is making a difference in Springfield , Illinois.

Just 26 short days ago, Michael's sister, Cindy Bischof was gunned down just outside her place of employment. Oh yes, she had all the legal remedies afforded to her under the current Illinois law, but it was not enough. An order of protection, cannot and does not stop bullets. Nor is a piece of paper, without additional teeth, going to do much either in any domestic violence or stalking related case. The forty-three real old executive, lost her life.

But, today is the begining of a new direction as Michael Bischof with his angel Cindy beside him, in spirit , embark on a legal path to change the direction in violations of orders of protection granted by all Illinois courts.

Synopsis As Introduced for the new legialtion:

Amends the Department of State Police Law of the Civil Administrative Code of Illinois, the State Finance Act, the Criminal Code of 1961, the Unified Code of Corrections, the Code of Criminal Procedure of 1963, and the Illinois Domestic Violence Act, and provides that the Act may be referred to as the Cindy Bischof Law. Provides that the Department of State Police shall develop a protocol to coordinate actions of the courts and law enforcement agencies to implement the domestic violence surveillance program created by the amendatory Act. Creates the Domestic Violence Surveillance Fund in the State treasury. Provides that the offense of violation of an order of protection includes the respondent's failure to attend and complete partner abuse intervention programs. Provides that in addition to any other penalties, the court may, after consultation with the petitioner, order the respondent to carry or wear a global positioning system device. Provides that in domestic violence cases, the court shall order the respondent to attend and complete partner abuse intervention programs. Adds to every penalty imposed upon a plea of guilty or finding of guilty resulting in a judgment of conviction of a violation of an order of protection an additional fine in an amount not less than $200 to be set at the discretion of the court which shall be deposited into the Domestic Violence Surveillance Fund. Makes other changes. Here is the link on the new bill:
http://www.ilga.gov/legislation/billstatus.asp?DocNum=6325&GAID=9&GA=95&DocTypeID=HB&LegID=38427&SessionID=51

To learn more about the Bischof family and what they are doing to change views, issues and effcective advocacy regarding domestic violence & stalking, please visist: http://www.cindysmemorial.org/

If you are a victim or a relative of someone who is in a violent relationship, please get help by contrcating the the National Domestic Violence Hotline number at 1-800-799-SAFE. Services provided are free and confidential directing those in need to shelter, legal and counseling services. They answer the phones twenty-four hours a day sevene days a week.

Additional Resources:

Family Rescue800-360-6619http://www.familyrescueinc.org/
Chicago Abused Women Coalition773-278-4566http://www.cawc.org/
Illinois Coalition Against Domestic Violence877-863-6338http://www.ilcadv.org/
Susan Murphy Milano's Journal
http://www.movingoutmovingon.com/
WINGS (Women In Need Growing Stronger)847-348-3001http://www.wingsprogram.com/
National Coalition Against Domestic Violence1-800-799-SAFE (7233)http://www.ncadv.org/